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I have been easing into the life style over time and lived a sort of a purple pill existence most of my life. I’ve never held a relationship for longer than 2 years. Each one furthering my realization of female nature, but deep down I held on to hope of finding “The One” – lol. But it was one event of watching what happened to a friend and coworker that woke me up to reality.
This guy was the kindest person I’ve ever known, would give you the shirt off his back and then some if you need help, and it’s that trait of his that his ex-girlfriend took advantage of. It’s the single mother nightmare fellow MGTOW have been warning men about for years. Five kids (that I know about) with different fathers and living off the system. My friend dated her in New York, but when he moved to Florida she packed up her kids and followed him across the country. With no money to go back to New York and knowing his nature his first mistake was allowing her to stay with him. Not long after there was an Oops pregnancy, number 6 and now a reason to stay. Of course the woman clunked up and then became too sick to work, so the poor guy had to help support 6 kids and a sick girlfriend. And true to form he tried his best to shoulder this load without asking for help himself. That was till one of her kids grew tired of “Not Dad” bossing them around.
So one of the female children told an adult relative that she was “molested” (eye roll) thinking it will force him out of the home (that he alone was paying for, some logic huh). You all can guess what happened next, he was arrested and lost his apartment, his car, his job, everything. Of course there was no proof of any foul play and he was released two counties away 2 months later with nothing to his name. On top of that, one of those dirtbag relatives that called the police also informed the local media. So this great man that worked himself to the bone for a leech and her ungrateful kids was now homeless and can’t work in the county anymore because of his face being broadcasted on the local news as an “alleged pedophile”. But with the state being the state, they didn’t believe that the mother didn’t know of any molestation of her kids (can’t really know what didn’t happen). So the state took all the children from her, last I know they are in foster care. Judge for yourself guys, a 2 bedroom apartment with the kids sleeping 2-3 per room and the girlfriend always home, and NO ONE can confirm that the guy was even alone with the “victim” yet alone molest her.
I wish I knew where he went to; being how he doesn’t like accepting charity he would likely have rejected some forms of help. But I would have given anything to help him in this time of need. But this terrible experience he went through taught me the most valuable life lesson I believe I’ll ever receive and pushed me completely into MGTOW (though at the time I didn’t know what it was). I’ve come across MGTOW formally from a Barbarossa video I came across early 2014 and was amazed how I’ve been living the life what is now 5 years later.
Please allow my friends story to serve you as it does me. Don’t date nor get involved with single mothers. It just might be you their out of control kids accuse of something if you do. Thank you for reading and take care of yourselves.
Hi Guys!
I live in Germany and am now 35 and getting divorced with one custody dispute pending for my small daughter. I will try make things as short as possible.
After the usual way through university with girlfriends and casual encounters every now and then I started to long for “something more meaningful” since I was raised by a traditional mother (of Greek origin) who instilled strong family values in me (which is good for the time and place she came from but not for today’s world).
So I started to actively look for a woman that I could imagine building a future with, based on equal contributions and mutual respect. Writing these lines with the knowledge I have today it feels hard for me not to laugh about myself.
So I met a woman on campus who had been working her way through university as well, was financially independent and seemed to have “drive” and energy and hence I thought: wow, that is the one. And truly, I must admit that back than you would have never guessed that the story would take such a bad turn, but turning out badly it did.
The first year we moved in together and apart from minor disputes all seemed to work out quite well. After a year of living together we registered our marriage and from then on things started to go downhill. At first very slow, then faster and faster the longer the marriage lasted. To cut a long story short: I was a captive of a “misandry treadmill”, being confronted with ever higher demands as she opted more and more out of work until she stopped working at some point (“I cannot take the stress, I need a break”) while I busted my ass 50 or 60 hours a week out there (not counting the daily commute) to make ends meet despite my high salary (worked as an HR consultant).
Later my ex-wife told me that she having troubles to reintegrate into the workforce because nobody would take her application seriously (“I feel discrimanted” “everybody thinks that I am getting pregnant tomorrow and will go on maternity leave” etc etc etc). Which meant that I had to work more and more and even accept riskier and less secure jobs for a higher income to be able to provide a decent livingstandard (for her, I had none).
All in all the marriage was like a vicious cycle of emotional abuse, demands, (empty) promises of betterment and times of relative peace (I underline the word relative). But thinking, that it was the only right and adult thing to do I kept on and on and on.
After she failed at launching her own business (with my massive help and contacts – which were then burned after her failure) we thought that we might as well have children right now (I thought that at least I am getting something back for all this bothering). So we had a child together which was born in July 2013. During that time I had lost my (unsecure) job due to personal differences with my manager (and because I felt burned out), but I was at home and took care of our baby daughter. My exwife felt bad after the birth and so I did everything alone apart from breastfeeding (best time of my life). I must say that during the pregnancy my ex became totally nuts. She became continuously offensive and aggresive and at times violent (first against things then against me). I did not do anything (what should I do? hit a pregnant woman?). I sucked it up, there was no help anyway (no shelters for men in Germany, not even a hotline). When she felt bad after birth she lacked the strength to continue her abuse and things seemed to calmed down, at least I hoped so. While my lawsuit against my former employer (for severance) was still pending I told her after two months that I need one or two days off from childcare to prepare my case. During this time my baby-daughter got bad diarrhea (for those who do not know, diarrhea is extremely dangerous for small infants, they can die from it after one to two days). The next day I resumed my childcare duty (the best thing a man can do) and found out during my daily check that my daughter already had signs of dehydration. I asked my ex for how long this diarrhea has been around and she just shrugged and asked me if it was so bad. I insisted that we go to see a doctor and it turned out that my daughter lost 10% of her weight already! We had to rush to the hospital and immediately get her on an infusion.
The following week was a big drama, my daughter was in a critical stage and eventually survived without any damage (the good news). During this stay my ex freaked out completely and started hurl all sorts of insults at me ( I do not even know why, if it was anybody’s fault it was hers since she did report the diarrhea to me when she took care of my child). When I came home to check the mail I saw that our account had been plundered and later I politely but sincerly confronted her with this. She became violent again and when her provocations did not result in me snapping and hitting back, she suddenly pressed the alarm button for the nurse. When the nurse came in she told the nurse that I had been “aggressive” and that this “harms the child” . The nurse, another woman, immediately turned on me and told me to leave now if I want to avoid getting arrested by the police. What choice did I have? I tried to tell that it was in fact the other way around, but a woman’s word is gold in this society ( and women know it).
During this time where I was effectively banned from the hospital I only returned three times (always with a witness) just to see my child. I also contacted the child protective service and asked them, no begged them, for help but they did not lift a finger. They told me to go to the courts. WTF…I need help back then and immedeately! Of course what happened was that I was not informed that my daughter was fully recovered and ready for release and my ex took her and went to a women’s shelter. I had to look for her via the police who told me that I must not search neither wife nor daughter or I will be arrested. We both went to the court and while I brought the testimonies of the witnesses that had come with me to the hospital (in total 4 testimonies backing my version) my ex only had her version and no other source confirming it (not even the hospital – because I did nothing). But for the courts she had expressed the right buzz words. I was according to her version “aggressive” and “needed help”. There was not even a description of what I had supposedly done wrong, nor were any charges pressed (there was not even enough substance for false charges). I went through 8 months without seeing the daughter that I had been with 24/7 for 2 months since her birth. The court ignored everything I said and only after more than half a year did I get supervised visitation (2 hours a week). In court the judge (another woman) asked me: what do you as a man want with the child? WTF…I was baffled…so this is the equality under the law we get to “enjoy”. I started to do research, connect with men in similar situations, tried to learn from other experiences, went over statistics of marriage and divorce (and I asked myself why I haven’t done so before making the decision to get married). During the 8 months of torture I fell into a real deep depression. Everytime I saw a pram or a playing ground I broke out in tears, everytime I saw anything that reminded me of my child I broke out in tears and at one night I seriously considered to go to the next train station and just make it end. On top of this the courts granted the exwife to get the house, which meant that I was about to become homeless. So there I was: stripped of job, home and child.
During my research in forums and other places on the internet I stumbled across the term “red pill”. I googled it and ended up with MGTOW on youtube. Besides my family and friends, who know me and know my story and support me, it was indeed MGTOW insights that helped me to recover and to understand what happened. The youtube channels of Barbarossa, Stardusk, Speznas and the likes gave me understanding about what had happened and how my ex could have been so cruel and backstabbing. Until then I was chasing my tail, asking myself what I might have done wrong, but I could not find anything. Then I understood. I was only good as long as I earned double the average income and had no demands. When I lost my job my value declined sharply and once I confronted my wife with her fraud and money theft she took every measure to get rid of me. Nothing special, just normal hypergamy. I could have been anybody else to her. Later I found out that this all had been carefully planned. The money ended up with her mother (whom I also had helped).
Things started to turn for better quite recently. I am about to maybe get a decently paid job with 30 hours per week so I can take care of my daughter. Also the women who organized the supervised visitation have stated in their report that not just I did very well and reconnected with my child almost immediately and seamlessly after such a long time of separation but that my ex displayed aggresive tone and behavior and that she is properly bringing the child up and fails to set normal and healthy boundaries. Maybe, I am saying this with care, but maybe I might luck out after having lost more than a year of my life ( or rather 8 including the marriage) and get custody of my child. I plan to raise it alone. The mother will be granted generous visitation and there will even be an open door policy so she can come and see her. But with the first sign of manipulation or abuse I will take her to the courts. My guess is that once I get custody and the child does not come anymore with benefits my ex’s interest in it will drop anyway as it did with me. And I would not be angry about it and rather embrace it after all she did. We two are better off without her honestly.
I will never remarry and cannot even imagine living with a woman together again. The only women I want in my life and my home are my daughter and my old mother who was always there for me. Maybe also my sister, but that’s about it. I do not need another woman. Love I get from my blood. Everytime my daughter sees me she explodes with joy and jumps on me and stays for almost all the entire two hours on my arm. Together we learn and discover so many things: how to open doors, how to climb, how open and close things etc. What else do I need?
If I want love I have my daughter. Motherly affection and a good meal comes from my mother (I also cook myself very well). Gossiping about people I can with my sister. Living in Germany means that the occasional blowjob is just 20 minutes away and costs less than 3 c~~~tails (no pun intended). I have many friends and even my father (my parents were divorced as well) back in my life, so once I get my daughter home and a new part-time job to raise her with the help of my family and daycare all will be well.
I learned one thing: you can cry, you can p~~~ your pants and scream for help, but you will never give up no matter how much it hurts. I also learned about how women see men and that the juice is not worth the squeeze. With my income I could have easily paid for surrogacy and an au-pair to help me. In case I will stabilize financially again it is the only way that I will conceive children. I do not need a “mother” around. I can do it all by myself and have proven it.
Topic: Is this thing on?
Referred here via mention in a barbarossa vid, and I must say this site is slick. I feel like I should be wearing a smoking jacket.
My gyniculum vitae: MGTOW is the first label that seems to fit my romantic outlook/lifestyle. I suppose I’ve been this way my entire adult life: pushing forty, serial monogamist. A bit overeducated and a tad underemployed. I have made some enjoyable connections with women but I have never begun a relationship where I wasn’t aware of an expiration date stamped on it for one reason or another. I’ve been fortunate in avoiding significant trauma, so far, possibly because I’m somewhat resistant to the kind of borderline behavior I see many guys victimized by; I spot it early and keep boundaries. Not always, though, and I’ve experienced my share of abuse and being on the bad end of hypergamy. I’ve only co-habitated once, briefly when I was much younger.
I recently was introduced to the men’s movement(s) when I noticed that men’s rights had become a thing while I wasn’t paying attention, which vindicated that one month 15 years ago when I annoyed my friends after reading The Myth of Male Power. I wasn’t quite sure what to make of the movement as represented by AVFM, and still am not, but when I found barbar/spetsnaz/RBK et al, it resonated.
Also hi.
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Topic: Ravishing Rick Rude intro
Hey guys, I was mentioned here by Barbarossaa. People in the manosphere know me as Ravishing Rick Rude because im a Youtuber who discusses MGTOW issues and has a little fun by making pro wrestling references since I’m in character as Rick Rude in some of the vids. I’m glad to be here and really appreciate the fact that this site was made. Thanks to all for having me here.
Hey Everyone!
It’s been difficult to keep a tight lip on this, but finally connected with MGHOW youtube Barbarossa last week – after enjoying his stellar contributions for probably 3+ years. We created a new intro / logo splash animation for his channel. He came up with a concept and we had some fun with it. He loved it right off the bat and we were happy to be able to give something back to him.
We thought it was very sporting of him to give credit, and he was ENORMOUSLY grateful and gracious in his communications with us. He released it today and gave props to us in his video. And because of that, we can show it to you now in context of his first video using it in HD:
It has a soundtrack too. If you want to check out the preview demo, you can see it here.
Click the poster image on this page to preview the 17-second splash intro »
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