Breakup after 17 years not married

[Anonymous 12]

first post first sentence.

…aaaand facepalm.

Sorry to hear that, man.
Stay as long as you can edit:have to, while preparing for the inevitable day you come “home” and find changed locks.
Be prepared to turn on your heels and walk away. from the person, from the memories, from the place.
Because that is what you will have to do.

such news ruins my day.
Be or become the King of your own little world.

The way you type drags me down even more.
Would not mind calling in to work to take a day off, and spending the time helping a brother get the f~~~ out of that mess, packing s~~~ and hauling everything away while she aint home.

Aww. Man. s~~~.

[PuniShredderParticipant 2268]

Anonymous wrote:

you guys are right, she purposly leaves her journal out, I read some, she almost got married in vegas then stopped at last second

She’s got no f~~~ing respect for your brother. Empty the entire house out sell everything of value leave her with the shell move to a different state change your phone number erase all social media profiles and start over.

Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.

[Anonymous 0]

We talked, I dont have to move for time being…I am tring to figure out what/where to go…I think I am being punished for something…She is making out like a bandit with me also at her work, she filed a complaint about a year ago and now literally they give her NO Work, she goes in and does nothing and makes 90k a yr. goes in around 10am and leaves at 2:30. or works from home and does Nothing…except may troll on tinder

[Anonymous 12]

She is making out like a bandit with me also at her work

oh she has you by the b~~~~, yea?

[Anonymous 0]

Anonymous wrote:

She is making out like a bandit with me also at her work

oh she has you by the b~~~~, yea?

I am not sure what that means

[Anonymous 12]

If she is making out like a bandit with you, i picture her sitting on your lap giving you hot kisses and suchlike?
Or am i mistaken here…?

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

Anonymous wrote:

I am soul searching, not sure i wanna stay in Fl, me living in a crappy apartment driving by the house since its by my work…I really would like her back byt she seems to have changed. she is upstairs im downstairs,financially its my best deal for now, she wont call cops

She hasn’t actually changed. She was always like that and simply hid her true nature from you. Its like the frog and the scorpion; eventually the scorpion will sting the frog, because that is its nature.

Her true nature: a c~~~ and a whore.

You A) should move all of your s~~~ out before she changes the locks or calls domestic violence on you, B) contact a lawyer about recovering any money you put into the house, and never look back. C) Don’t let yourself be alone with her–you don’t want to end up in a “he said, she said” situation.

And lastly, D) get a series of tests for STDs… you have no idea what she may have given you.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[Dirtydog73Participant 232]

Anonymous wrote:

I made the mistake of having her be my whole world. We moved to a new city and I dont have any friends here, Everywhere I go reminds me of going there with her. I am a mess right now, and I am sure she doesn’t care

Hey mate , welcome to freedom.
Similar story to you , 23 years , never married ,In Australia.
I hear everything and can tell you … get out now.The sooner you do the sooner you will start to focus on you and what it means to be you …and a man.I made the mistake of putting all of my happiness into someone else ,in the end it got me nowhere.
They can and will be cruel , unforgiving ,dangerous and crazy.
I am 9 months in to separation , moved states , new job , son living with me , rented the house to help pay for it after physically packing her s~~~ up and turfing her stuff out .Change the locks , pack up and get out asap, live cheaply and moving forward.Look at the options of selling , or both of you move out and rent it until it sells.there are always options .
i still have bouts of remorse ,unhappiness, but they are getting less and less each time as I learn to master my own brain and emotions.
Being here ,reading , talking has been a big help .
Im 44 , starting again with a lot of debt , and a lot of anger .Using it positively from now on.

Fed, Fucked, Appreciated. The three simple things men want, but women will never grasp.

[Dirtydog73Participant 232]

PuniShredder wrote:

Rexmundi wrote:

you guys are right, she purposly leaves her journal out, I read some, she almost got married in vegas then stopped at last second

She’s got no f~~~ing respect for your brother. Empty the entire house out sell everything of value leave her with the shell move to a different state change your phone number erase all social media profiles and start over.

Social media deletion…yes

Fed, Fucked, Appreciated. The three simple things men want, but women will never grasp.

[Anonymous 0]

I still love her, I cant help it…Its not all her fault, I got a new job and was stressed out, I didn’t give her enough attention… she was there in hards times for me and I cant forget that…I cant go back in time but I would have done things differently, I

[PuniShredderParticipant 2268]

Anonymous wrote:

I still love her, I cant help it…Its not all her fault, I got a new job and was stressed out, I didn’t give her enough attention… she was there in hards times for me and I cant forget that…I cant go back in time but I would have done things differently, I

Jesus f~~~ing Christ dude. You have not digested the red pill yet. Need to go watch turd flinging monkey Sandman bar bar and many other red pill videos now on f~~~ing YouTube.

Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.

[Anonymous 13]

Anonymous wrote:

I still love her, I cant help it…Its not all her fault, I got a new job and was stressed out, I didn’t give her enough attention… she was there in hards times for me and I cant forget that…I cant go back in time but I would have done things differently, I

Taking the red pill fully means you realise that no matter what you did differently or how long for, no matter what you did was still going to fail.

You’re fighting a rigged game, marriage does not work for ANYONE and neither do relationships.

Believe this.

Once you do and realise you could change NOTHING then you will find a kind of peace.

There was nothing you had to do, other than walk the f~~~ AWAY.

And yeah, I know it hurts.

[Anonymous 1]

Honestly – I wish I could crawl down the interwebs and slap some sense into you.

You are not listening.

Get .. the .. f~~~ .. out.

You will not find any peace until you leave. Are you enjoying the misery now? Good. It will get worse the more you hang around.

Spirit has it right – it doesn’t matter what you did or didn’t do. This is her doing, not yours.

What is done is done. Move on with your life.

If I come back again see more ‘woe is me’ — I’ll begin thinking it smells like fish around here.

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Alright I just read the entire thread so far and you got some excellent advice from our fellow brothers here but I would like to add a few things to help you out because your emotions are clouding your judgment and logical reasoning.

Seventeen years is a long time that you invested into a woman who you thought loved you the same way you love her. No matter what you said to her in the past, or if you did things differently the outcome you are faced with today would have been the same. I want that to sink into your head for a moment if you have to reread that sentence please do so.

Do not blame yourself for what she is doing right now she has poisoned your thoughts and made herself look the victim when in fact YOU are the victim and she is the one who is betraying you.

Women love to dish out the “you never spend enough time with me” or “you don’t give me enough attention” and another one “you are lazy you never do anything nice for me” shaming language to make it look like you are at fault. Notice it is always about her and what you can do for her at the moment and when you comply and do the stuff she wants she forgets it and does the same thing over and over. It is called Briffault’s Law click on the link and learn it well this is what your ex is doing to you right now.

You have been conditioned to put her on a pedestal and worship her vagina and she purposely took away all of your friends to better control you and your resources for her benefit. Once you gave her the house and invested everything you could into the relationship that was it for her. She got everything she thinks she could get out of you and now she is using hypergamy to monkey branch to a better guy that is not you. Here is a video to better explain it.

You have to understand women do not think like us when it comes to love. They have a on and off switch that they can turn off and once that switch turns off she no longer loves you it is as simple as that. Do not delude yourself into thinking she still has feelings for you or loves you she decided it is over and that is it you are done. The sooner you realize this the better it will be for your long term health.

You on the other hand have always loved her throughout your relationship. Men are built this way to love and not turn it off unless you are a psychopath or sociopath you will not be able to turn this emotion off. You are in the grieving stage right now and you cannot trust your judgment because you are letting your emotions think for you and this is very bad. Our brothers here from all walks of life and experiences have gone through the same thing you are going through right now and we are all telling you how this is going to end for you.

Please listen to us and do the right thing for you it is time to think clearly and grab as much stuff as you can sell when she is gone and move out as soon as possible. The longer you prolong this the worse situation you will be in. The person who you think you love is no longer the same person she was.

Women love in the present so when she says “I love you” what she really is saying is “I love you right now at this moment”. Down the road hypergamy helps change her mind and the next victim is some other guy she perceives as better than you and she will tell him “I love you now at this moment”. Her love can be bought and sold to the highest bidder do you understand now?

Nothing you did in the past for her matters it is only “right now at this moment” that matters. For this reason you did nothing wrong, and anything she did for you in the past does not matter any longer because she already gave up on you.

If you take anything from this you remember one chance, per person, per lifetime. She is and always was an AWALT (all women are like that) she just hid it from you for so long women are good at doing that and you knew deep down all along she was like this. But because you put her on a pedestal where she was worshipped you didn’t want to see what she was doing to you all those years.

Every single older man on here at one time or another have done the exact same thing we were all blue pill men who jumped through hoops and put women on pedestals to get sex and social status by being with a woman. Now it is time for you to live your own life on your own terms just sit back and read and learn from us and in a few months things will get better. But for now start hunting for a new place and see a lawyer about getting your money back and of course once you do move out empty that house and sell everything in it.

Hope this helps you we are all rooting for you to succeed and make your life great again.

[Anonymous 0]

well, she is moving in with a biker type guy in az…making the journey…I am moving into parent condo at 52 to start over…ugh

[AutoliteParticipant]

Reading all this s~~~ I kinda feel that maybe I don’t have the right to be here. I mean I’ve figured out what women are all about but the longest continuous relations~~~ that I’ve ever had was like about four years. I was involved with one psycho for about seven years but that was an on-n-off kinda deal and it was never at any time serious.

Other than that it was only one to two years at best. Can I maybe get to keep an ‘honorary’ MGTOW membership???

[AutoliteParticipant]

Rhino wrote:

Women love to dish out the “you never spend enough time with me” or “you don’t give me enough attention” and another one “you are lazy you never do anything nice for me” shaming language to make it look like you are at fault. Notice it is always about her and what you can do for her at the moment and when you comply and do the stuff she wants she forgets it and does the same thing over and over. It is called Briffault’s Law click on the link and learn it well this is what your ex is doing to you right now.

I was completely blind-sided in a very nasty break-up many years ago. She decided that she wanted to start f~~~ing her boss. I was in shock as it came as a total surprise.

I asked her what was it that I was doing wrong. She rattled off couple of things that she wasn’t satisfied with. I countered with a list of things that I had been doing, literally busting my butt, to keep what I thought was a successful relations~~~ working.

She replied that it was all “a little too little and a little too late”! I think I would have been able to handle it much better had it not been the very first time that I heard her say that she wasn’t happy.

The lesson being that women have no soul or conscience. Guys in general would do well to acknowledge, appreciate and understand this simple fact..

[AutoliteParticipant]

Rhino wrote:

You have to understand women do not think like us when it comes to love. They have a on and off switch that they can turn off and once that switch turns off she no longer loves you it is as simple as that. Do not delude yourself into thinking she still has feelings for you or loves you she decided it is over and that is it you are done. The sooner you realize this the better it will be for your long term health.

Men and women are totally different regarding things like emotional attachment, love and loyalty. I think it’s a ‘cruelty of nature thing’ more than anything else…

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Anonymous wrote:

well, she is moving in with a biker type guy in az…making the journey…I am moving into parent condo at 52 to start over…ugh

You dodged a major bullet make sure you find out from a lawyer if you have any grounds to get some money back from her before she sells the house and leaves. It will take a lot of time before you heal read what I wrote above to better help you understand why she did what she did.

Autolite wrote:

Men and women are totally different regarding things like emotional attachment, love and loyalty. I think it’s a ‘cruelty of nature thing’ more than anything else…

Yes in some regards it is natural for women to act the way they do because that is how they learned to survive each generation. That is one of the reasons why I don’t hate women they are the way they are and we will never be able to change them.

[CatsPawParticipant 423]

As many have said, from this point on, it will only get better.
Will it take time? Yep.
Will it be hard? Yep.
Will there be bad days? Yep.

But your new life, the one where no one bounds you by anything, where you get to choose exactly what you will do from this point on, where the only place you cant go or people to meet are the ones you dont want to, is here.

You might think to yourself, Is that what i really want? Will I be happy with this change?

Well, go out there and find out. We will be here when you are back, interested in what you have to say.

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