Breakup after 17 years not married

[GnosticParticipant 2491]

Autolite wrote:

Reading all this s~~~ I kinda feel that maybe I don’t have the right to be here. I mean I’ve figured out what women are all about but the longest continuous relations~~~ that I’ve ever had was like about four years. I was involved with one psycho for about seven years but that was an on-n-off kinda deal and it was never at any time serious.

Other than that it was only one to two years at best. Can I maybe get to keep an ‘honorary’ MGTOW membership???

Don’t worry, if anything they will kick me out first if they want to come at you.

I am a virgin monk who had never been in a relations~~~. I only went for a date once under peer pressure and regretted it during the date and ghost her after that.

I have girls interested in me that are even half open about it. But in my youth I think my future is more important then chasing women. So no relations~~~.

1-2 years ago I think I am quite established, I think it is time to find a unicorn, settle down and get married. I then see the red pill for the first time as in divorce statistic mention by someone in the gamergate forum and eventually found my way here.

My life is so good that many gentlemen here would kill to have my life. So they will kick me out before you.

There is no magic in MGTOW, just recognition of the truth and logical decision how to avoid dangers. The red pill is but the truth, it is no magical potion. Do not think in this modern world men have no longer have natural enemies, men are prey to women and government.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Gnostic wrote:

I then see the red pill for the first time as in divorce statistic mention by someone in the gamergate forum and eventually found my way here.

I just feel bad for the guys who lost so much in time, effort and money before taking the RP going MGTOW. Whereas guys like you and I figured it out without enduring too much hardship, comparatively.

Speaking for myself, I do not see myself as particularly brilliant or any smarter or more perceptive than the average guy. So I have to wonder how it is that some guys clue in to things like MGTOW so much sooner than others. What’s the difference???

[SOLI2DEParticipant 746]

Each of us is as different as a grain of sand on a beach. Yet we are on the beach together, in fact we are the beach. I feel for the OP as well. I’m only a little bit over a month out of what I thought was a relations~~~ and still feel raw and emotional at times.It’s going to take some times to get finances right and each day I must continue to take the red pill and recondition myself. This s~~~ is not easy but it is absolutely necessary. Try not to beat yourself up.Heal and build. Design yourself and execute.

“Do not give your strength to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings.” -Proverbs 31:3-

[Anonymous 0]

Well i got about 20k in cash left 52 years old…wheres a good place to start over?

[GnosticParticipant 2491]

Anonymous wrote:

Well i got about 20k in cash left 52 years old…wheres a good place to start over?

You are doing great at your job, and you have no alimony and child support payment. So you don’t have much money problems.

Then anywhere you can afford while factoring in distance from the c~~~, distance to your job and saving to rebuild your retirement is good enough.

You probably need to cut down your cost and go minimalist. And then you will find you can save a lot more without the c~~~ to please. Why need big houses, big car, luxury holiday, fancy trinket, the 30th bowl, 40th shoes when you don’t need to please a woman. Many brothers here save more without their slave master even though they get divorce raped. And you are in a better position then them.

There is no magic in MGTOW, just recognition of the truth and logical decision how to avoid dangers. The red pill is but the truth, it is no magical potion. Do not think in this modern world men have no longer have natural enemies, men are prey to women and government.

[GnosticParticipant 2491]

Autolite wrote:

Gnostic wrote:

I then see the red pill for the first time as in divorce statistic mention by someone in the gamergate forum and eventually found my way here.

I just feel bad for the guys who lost so much in time, effort and money before taking the RP going MGTOW. Whereas guys like you and I figured it out without enduring too much hardship, comparatively.

Speaking for myself, I do not see myself as particularly brilliant or any smarter or more perceptive than the average guy. So I have to wonder how it is that some guys clue in to things like MGTOW so much sooner than others. What’s the difference???

I can only speak for myself, I think it is the ability to separate desires / emotion from logic.

You inspire me to make an introduction on how I came to the red pill easily.

There is no magic in MGTOW, just recognition of the truth and logical decision how to avoid dangers. The red pill is but the truth, it is no magical potion. Do not think in this modern world men have no longer have natural enemies, men are prey to women and government.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Well i got about 20k in cash left 52 years old…wheres a good place to start over?

If and when you get an answer to that question, please feel free to share it.

Living here in Canada, I did an on-line search for “Best places to live for a senior on a pension”. The search yielded the top locations in the country considering things like services for retirees, available housing, cost of living and public transport.

Maybe decide what your priority wants and needs are and do a search like that for yourself…

[AutoliteParticipant]

Gnostic wrote:

I can only speak for myself, I think it is the ability to separate desires / emotion from logic.

Yes, I can agree with that. But I believe that ego is also a factor too.

Suppose you tell a guy that shoving his face into a deep fat fryer is a bad thing and that he shouldn’t really do it. But then the guy’s own ego tells him that his own judgement is better than yours so he goes ahead and he does it anyway.

Of course, once doing so, he realizes that you were right but his ego won’t permit him to openly admit that. He’ll continue dipping his face into the deep fat fryer because doing that is apparently less painful than acknowledging that he was wrong.

Ego, like desire, is very powerful and can override rationality or logic. I think that for many Blue Pillers it might be their own egos telling them that they just couldn’t possibly be wrong despite all the evidence that they indeed are…

[Anonymous 0]

So she is taking profit from the house and moving from FL to Arizona…to live with and or marry a guy she met 6 months ago. she said it wasn’t suppose to happen.

[Anonymous 13]

Anonymous wrote:

So she is taking profit from the house and moving from FL to Arizona…to live with and or marry a guy she met 6 months ago. she said it wasn’t suppose to happen.

Be absolutely assured that this ‘new life’ ‘relationship/marriage’ will FAIL.

As usual, too much too soon.

WHEN that happens make sure you are completely disconnected from her in every way. That she has no means to come back at you with/for anything.

Then just enjoy the fallout.

[Anonymous 0]

I think its pretty fast myself…I’m not a biker type, this guy is, I wish I never looked at her facebook, these 6 months have been hell, I am moving in with parents in a retirement community till I figure my life out…gotta get new job, start over at 52

I had to get a address from old address book, she had her name in there with my last name, saying I love you always will….I gotta get rid of this stuff.

[Anonymous 0]

SpritRR. so you dont think it will last, with this guy? she is moving across country for him.

I have left my job, it got way too stressful, I am moving into parents extra room she is selling house…I have to start over

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

Anonymous wrote:

SpritRR. so you dont think it will last, with this guy? she is moving across country for him.

I have left my job, it got way too stressful, I am moving into parents extra room she is selling house…I have to start over

It won’t last. I agree with SpiritRR. It’s an adventure only. But she can’t see that. Refer to Autolite’s comments and what he said about the ego. Her ego is in the way of her logic big time. Statistically I’d guess that such a relationship as she is getting into is highly unlikely to last. For all we know the guy is really good at sucking her in, and fooling her, and maybe once he takes his fill then he’ll leave with the till. It’s happened before. I recently saw the difference in my ex’s face compared to a couple of months ago. You can see it when they have the ‘I’ve been dumped’ look on their face. Man, did I ever enjoy seeing her like that.

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[Anonymous 13]

Anonymous wrote:

SpritRR. so you dont think it will last, with this guy? she is moving across country for him.

I have left my job, it got way too stressful, I am moving into parents extra room she is selling house…I have to start over

Hi Rex,

It won’t last. The best relationships don’t last anyway but she’s marrying/moving in after just SIX months.

Man, it’s so doomed.

The quicker you rush them the quicker they end.

A genuine happy relationship should consist of a minimum of two years or more of dating and being around one another before ANY milestones like moving and marriage.

She’s an idiot. TOTALLY Clueless.

SO, it doesn’t matter if she’s travelling to another galaxy to be with him.

They’re doomed.

All you have to do is look after you the best you can, nature will take care of them.

[Anonymous 13]

Also, she was cheating and being disloyal behind your back.

Her new relationship is based on lies, subterfuge, and cheating.

What a great foundation.

She did it to you, she’ll do it to him.

Doomed.

Just don’t EVER let her monkey branch back to you one day.

[Anonymous 0]

Thanks SpiritRR , you have been right all along, I tried to work it out. Im sure she will work it out with this guy, she told me she is going to give him the respect he deserves. Plus, living in his house, she can be really sweet when she wants to be. Also knowing its a extra kick in the nuts for me. Our sex life was struggling because I was under alot of stress, she took it as a insult.

Im not sure what satisfaction I would get if it doesn’t work out, probly a little, I doubt she would come back to me.

[TrapperParticipant 2912]

Anonymous wrote:

I think its pretty fast myself…I’m not a biker type, this guy is, I wish I never looked at her facebook, these 6 months have been hell, I am moving in with parents in a retirement community till I figure my life out…gotta get new job, start over at 52

I had to get a address from old address book, she had her name in there with my last name, saying I love you always will….I gotta get rid of this stuff.

First, trash Facebook.

I feel for you. When I was still looking at the world through blue lenses I was just as bad. This whole situation reminds me of it.

You can’t make a woman happy. No matter what you do!

I loved my ex more than I can describe. She was my world. Proudly!

I purchased our dream property, It actually had a mother in law house with it. My ex wouldn’t need to work if she didn’t WANT TO. It has its own privacy and waterfront. Garden shed…. the list goes on.

Before we were set to move there became slight attitude changes, mood swings, irrational actions. Understand we weren’t married either. I loved her to the f~~~ing core, but didn’t marry her.

Then she had a ladies night. Phone was to low on battery life to call. When I called her on the bulls~~~ she blew up on me. Then pulled the marriage ultimatum saying she needs to KNOW SOON if we’re ever going to get married. Then finally marry me or leave.

I packed and left.

Six months later. Boyfriend. To our mutually shared friends… I’m to blame.

You can give a girl the world. They’ll want the moon next.

As far as getting over it. Time. Stop trying, it’ll eat you like cancer. I still have bad days. let it pass, let it fade.

I also have MUCH BETTER days! Things are much clearer. Overall health has improved. My drive to build a new life makes me feel 15 years younger. Much younger women hit on me, CONSTANTLY!

This is not the end for you! You decide your future now. You decide your path!

MGTOW is like an atlas to me. A million different paths to go down, only I choose the path for me! Your story is a tough one, don’t rush the healing process, don’t let it derail your life. One day it’ll have faded back to irrelevancy.

[Anonymous 0]

feeling really down right now, got the rest of my stuff. very emotional day.

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

Anonymous wrote:

feeling really down right now, got the rest of my stuff. very emotional day.

I’ve been there brother, everybody told me “time heals all” I didn’t believe them when I was in the s~~~ storm but I will tell you time does help, hang in there.

Get a vasectomy.

[Anonymous 0]

Thank you, I wish I had listened and got out long ago. I left my job too as it was getting was too stressful, and didn’t want to be in area with so many memories. My confidence is shot

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