Brothers need help…talk sense to me…

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

narwhal wrote:

I would think an annulment would go smoother than divorce, particularly with no kids involved. Get this process started fast.

Those that said it feels like someone close you died are 100% correct. That’s probably the way you should treat your ex. Seriously, to me, my wife no longer exists, my ex is not the same person to me. It’s the only way I could forget and move on. And since she’s just another person, she get’s nothing special from me. I don’t direct any emotion towards her.

That does not it doesn’t hurt or that I don’t remember some moments fondly, just that my ex doesn’t get to see any of that.

One of the things that really helped me was becoming reacquainted with who I was before her. I hadn’t realized how much I missed…me. It was the little things. Making meals I used to make. No longer looking at furniture and decorations I didn’t like. Watching tv, reading a book. Spending money where I wanted to spend it. It brought me much joy, to just be me again.

Thank you brother Narwhal…I forgive easily, but when I have reached my limit I dont budge…I become stubborn as I can be as an ex found out…Pushed me too much and I may be down for a count but I soon get over it and be indifferent to the person who did this to me…Thank you for sharing your post life recovery…I am looking forward to the time when I too can rediscover myself for who I was before the marriage…Im starting to remember that I was content and I saw the world as my oyster before this c~~~ and my MIL trapped me and milked me for everything that I got…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[Anonymous 1]

When I found out the XW was banging someone else. My knees were shaking my whole body felt cold.i couldn’t even drive I was shaking so bad. I was lost lucky my friend at the time came got me out of there. I hope to be there for him when his old lady sends him to the cleaners. I see it coming.

My advice is to focus on yourself. Good food and exercise is going to be key for you going forward. Don’t fall into the pitfalls of another women or drugs or alcohol. You are not alone.

Just realized I share something with may 7th. That’s the day I got divorced lol

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Get off facef~~~ and social media.

Just deleted fakebook on my phone…Good riddance…Thank you for reminding me brother…It was hell seeing her going out and enjoying herself…The road to recovery is beginning…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

MGTOW_Mike wrote:

The way I overcame my dilemma was:

1.) Seeing reality for what it truly is (admitting to myself that I was believing in an illusion that women are angels and that society/media has fed me a lie)
2.) Focusing on my passion in Electronics Engineering (as you can tell by my avatar)

Realising that women are not so angel like, enabled me to let go of holding onto false dreams/hopes. I use to believe in the illusion that being nice/loyal/hard working, will get me somewhere in terms of relationships…..this is NOT HOW REALITY WORKS…..reality is dark and the truth hurts….only when we can see this truth, we can heal and become very strong minded.

I myself do not care about being in a relationship…I don’t care how dark this world is……I care more about learning about the nature of this reality, just like a scientist doing research and conducting investigations…..a true scientist appreciates what they discover and accept it for what it is….

Thank you for the advice MGTOW Mike…My eyes are still adjusting to the red pill lens and the illusion is slowly being shattered…It is painful to watch the illusion which was all a lie…I have to live in this truth and reality now…Only me that matters, only I can decide for myself…I will be looking for stuffs to do with my hands and create or fix something…There is something soothing with creating or making stuff work again…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

When I found out the XW was banging someone else. My knees were shaking my whole body felt cold.i couldn’t even drive I was shaking so bad. I was lost lucky my friend at the time came got me out of there. I hope to be there for him when his old lady sends him to the cleaners. I see it coming.

My advice is to focus on yourself. Good food and exercise is going to be key for you going forward. Don’t fall into the pitfalls of another women or drugs or alcohol. You are not alone.

Thank you for the lesson and advice brother…Confirming that XW was sleeping with another really made me weak and nauseous…I let myself go during the marriage with all the stress eating and junk foods…XW was opposed to the idea of me going to the gym because she is jealous…This is after the fact that doctors told me to exercise because I suffered a mild stroke which my wife never even accompanied me to the ER even when I begged her because she was “tired”…I realize now…that should have been a red flag and I should have left…She wont be there for me when I get sick..So much for her wedding vows to count…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

MGTOW_Mike wrote:

I also use to work in the mining industry brother…..I use to work in a hard rock underground mine doing my time as an engineer. I use to do 2 weeks on and 1 week off, 12 hrs per day. It was bloody hard. I was on the jumbo and long-hole drill rigs as a nipper. What machines were you on?

I was in the coal industry…did the rounds from safety, to planning, management and blasting…Being an engineer, I worked systematically and produced results…Too bad c~~~ hates my job but she completely adores the perks I get from the job, company car, provided house, driver…Crazy XW…really awalt as i see now…they want the power but not the responsibility…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

NerdTunneler wrote:

I was in the coal industry…did the rounds from safety, to planning, management and blasting…Being an engineer, I worked systematically and produced results…Too bad c~~~ hates my job but she completely adores the perks I get from the job, company car, provided house, driver…Crazy XW…really awalt as i see now…they want the power but not the responsibility…

I also got a provided house, which was a big privilege, considering that rent is so damn high these days. You are right, women want all the benefits without the responsibilities. Working underground for long hours, as you know, starts to f~~~ with your mind…day in and day out with very little sleep…I am not surprised why the miners sleep during their lunch/crib break.

I had to quit the mining industry due to my lungs being f~~~ed.

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[JVBParticipant]

Sorry for your pain brother. Remember this pain and never allow yourself to be in a position that may cause it again.

Peace is > piece.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

Let me clarify what might be a misunderstanding. When I say nothing, I mean after the death of your marriage. Your relationship is over.

You must first realize it is over. Then take steps to bury it. Ie, initiate divorce.

Without children, your marriage can be buried. Brothers with children must choose to bury or continue for the children, etc.

Divorce her and nothing. You can’t speak with the dead.

When my ex-wife attempted to contact me it didn’t work because I refused to engage with the dead.

You are dead to me GUIDO!

Peace brothers

[Back in BlackParticipant 1732]

Been there dude. It definitely sucks. I now realize women are not worth me. They are like a dangerous animal. Don’t hate but understand and avoid them at all costs.

The pain will pass. Keep posting. Find other supportive men if you can in your personal life. Work out. Seek therapy if needed. Get out in nature.

DONT GET INVOLVED IN ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP.

"Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted—in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.” Quote from Arthur Shopenhauer, 17th century philosopher

[Back in BlackParticipant 1732]

Man in the mountain,

It only takes one bitch, one good and stupid bitch to turn a good man into an asshole, once the transformation is done that man will never comeback to being good.

I have to disagree with your point above. A man who has been destroyed by women is STILL a good man. Just because he doesn’t go back to the plantation as a f~~~ing slave doesnt make him an asshole. He’s just a man no longer in the matrix.

"Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted—in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.” Quote from Arthur Shopenhauer, 17th century philosopher

[AutoliteParticipant]

NerdTunneler wrote:

Confirming that XW was sleeping with another really made me weak and nauseous…

I have a serious question for all the married guys here who’ve had wives who f~~~ed around.

What made you think that it wouldn’t happen to you?

Was it your own opinion of yourself or was it something about your wife that gave you the (false) impression that she would never do something like that?

I think answers to this are important for other guys considering marriage. If we can examine where you went wrong with your thinking, maybe it might spare some other poor schmuck the same pain and heartbreak that you’ve experienced or are currently experiencing…

[AutoliteParticipant]

NerdTunneler wrote:

I was in the coal industry…did the rounds from safety, to planning, management and blasting…

I used to work with explosives a bit. Have you ever maybe considered doing blasting as a recreational hobby? I understand that it can be very stress relieving… 😀

[Anonymous 43]

autolite, my c~~~ used to accuse me of f~~~ing anything with an ovipositor, I assumed out of a fierce sense of fidelity. today I am open to the idea that she f~~~ed anything with a doinkus. lots of late nights, out with the girls, bulls~~~ like that. I have no proof, but if it is true, so be it.

I honestly thought she was going to take up with one of the gaggle of divorced women she walked marathons with. nope, surprise, a guy she knew from high school and found on f~~~book.

Chad moved in 3 days after I was removed from my home.

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

Nerd, I feel for you. How did you find out for sure she was cheating on you? You think you are at the bottom and can only go up but be prepared for it to get even worse emotionaly when your brain/mind starts playing with you. At this point you really need to find a family member or close friend who you can talk to and will understand where your comming from, the ups/downs, self contradictions, doubts, good days bad days, emotions whatever. You are now like a drug addict locked in rehab, reasoning with yourself will be a bit hard cause you will change thoughts like the wind, its ok but find somebody who you can talk to. I was tired of people telling me time heals, so sick of hearing that, but you know what? It does, time does help. Old school…

Get a vasectomy.

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

JVB wrote:

Sorry for your pain brother. Remember this pain and never allow yourself to be in a position that may cause it again.

Thank you JVB…This is a testament to my pain so that I will remember it…Never to be fooled again…

Back in Black wrote:

The pain will pass. Keep posting. Find other supportive men if you can in your personal life. Work out. Seek therapy if needed. Get out in nature.

Thank you Back in Black…Im still weak and struggling from the emotional roller coaster but I will not be beaten…Im planning on a month long trip away from my place to forget the memories that are here and to find myself again…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Autolite wrote:

Was it your own opinion of yourself or was it something about your wife that gave you the (false) impression that she would never do something like that?

Spot on..It was both an opinion of myself as dictated by society as a good man and the illusion of a wife who gave the impression of innocence but was in reality slowly pulling the noose that led me in this situation…To trust in her words that she is NAWALT was my mistake…She is a woman and her words count for nothing..SHe says one thing but does the other…Craziness…

I had fun during blasting when I was working….For now, Im doing other hobbies as explosives are illegal in civilian hands…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

autolite, my c~~~ used to accuse me of f~~~ing anything with an ovipositor, I assumed out of a fierce sense of fidelity. today I am open to the idea that she f~~~ed anything with a doinkus. lots of late nights, out with the girls, bulls~~~ like that. I have no proof, but if it is true, so be it.

I honestly thought she was going to take up with one of the gaggle of divorced women she walked marathons with. nope, surprise, a guy she knew from high school and found on f~~~book.

Chad moved in 3 days after I was removed from my home.

Same here May 7…My c~~~ of a wife was ultra jealous and manipulative type…So much so that I dread talking to a sales lady in the mall because she would see it as flirting..Even looking in front of the church and a woman is seated in front, I was reprimanded and thrown tantrums…Its like I should keep my eyes to the ground always..F~~~ing life…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Oldschool wrote:

Nerd, I feel for you. How did you find out for sure she was cheating on you? You think you are at the bottom and can only go up but be prepared for it to get even worse emotionaly when your brain/mind starts playing with you. At this point you really need to find a family member or close friend who you can talk to and will understand where your comming from, the ups/downs, self contradictions, doubts, good days bad days, emotions whatever. You are now like a drug addict locked in rehab, reasoning with yourself will be a bit hard cause you will change thoughts like the wind, its ok but find somebody who you can talk to. I was tired of people telling me time heals, so sick of hearing that, but you know what? It does, time does help. Old school…

Thank you for the support OldSchool…Certain pieces of the puzzle clicked into place when I learned a critical piece of new information that confirmed she was cheating…I had my doubts before but trusted her when she said it was just a friend and I was admonished for thinking that way…The f~~~, to see her messages with the guy before having a kiss face and saying I miss you should have been enough….But no, I was a blue pill idiot back then who trusted her when she said it was just friendly banter…Talk about double standards when I cant even talk to a sales lady when buying something because she sees it as flirting…F~~~ing c~~~…
With the red pill on my system, I think I am recovering nicely…She left so I had been preparing myself a few months now and taking the red pills…The confirmation of what I was thinking just didnt prepare me for the pain that truth and seeing everything, all the lies and manipulation click into place just overwhelmed my system to the core…But with the help of you my Brothers, I am recovering…slowly but surely…I am recovering…Thank you..

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[AutoliteParticipant]

NerdTunneler wrote:

I had fun during blasting when I was working….For now, Im doing other hobbies as explosives are illegal in civilian hands…

I used to work with the guys who did EOD (Explosive Ordnance Disposal). The job was to destroy partially spent or time expired military munitions and ordnance.

Actually that’s what we told everybody anyways. Really we were just a bunch of guys who just got a kick out of going around and blowing s~~~ up…

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