Breakup after 17 years not married

[black_knightParticipant 2602]

Anonymous wrote:

Our sex life was struggling because I was under alot of stress, she took it as a insult.

See? The whole situation is all about her needs. What about you? Where’s her compassion for you?

Oh that’s right, there isn’t any. So now is the time for you to begin giving it to you.

Go over your entire thread, but read it as if it’s your brother or best mate posting. What would you say to him? What would your opinion of her be?

[Anonymous 0]

Well, I sit here staying with relatives, had to leave job too stressful and too many memories. I dont know if i made right decision, but I made it. Its really hard.

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

Yes, it is hard. you will have to find yourself again to move forward.

Get a vasectomy.

[Anonymous 0]

Right now finding it hard to get motivated, I don’t know what to do or where to go

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

Anonymous wrote:

Right now finding it hard to get motivated, I don’t know what to do or where to go

What are your PASSIONS? You must have some? Golfing? Reading? Fishing? I’m sure there are a lot you have.

Just take it ONE DAY AT A TIME. Its ok that you are where you are. Its okay that you made decisions you did. It wasn’t healthy where you were and you took action FOR YOU.

Sometimes when I have trouble getting motivated I just do WHAT I LOVE (gym, golfing, etc) or just VOLUNTEER somewhere (homeless shelter, vet hospital, etc). That will get you thinking about other stuff!

[Anonymous 0]

Thanks surferdude12…this site is a blessing.

[WolfParticipant 890]

Anonymous wrote:

No common law in Fl.

That point is somewhat moot, as most jurisdictions don’t have a division of property in common law relationships. Stuff is split in a lot of common law relationships because they jointly owned (i.e. house in both their names) the stuff – not because they were common law. For most jurisdictions, common law is not the same as marriage.

As others have pointed out, you need to speak with a lawyer. Most will offer a free 30 min consult. If you can prove that you significantly contributed to the purchase of the house, then you may be able to recover your investment from her. This would be done in civil court – not family court.

[Anonymous 13]

Anonymous wrote:

Right now finding it hard to get motivated, I don’t know what to do or where to go

I’m thinking about you man….

The problem is, like most who were married or in a LTR, that you were conditioned and programmed over many years.

You thought what you were doing and investing in the ‘relationship’ was the right thing and an honourable thing to do.

Then you find out, it all counted for nothing, all that investement, time, energy, life and what for?

That’s gonna smart man, real bad.

Once you get past this stage though, and you will, slowly but surely life gets better. A bit at a time.

Until one day, you wake up and that pit has gone from your stomach, and you feel some kind of sense of well being again.

Then, you get stronger, much stronger.

Then you stop giving a f~~~ about THEM.

You become this impenetrable self contained ‘being’ and enter a state of bliss.

Trust me man, it gets a whole lot better…

I’ve been there….

[Anonymous 0]

You guys are great, I got what I could from house…I still can’t believe she is moving in/marring a guy across country somewhere in Az desert, I guess he is divorced.
I need to get out of this funk, low vibrational state. My sister said I should talk to a therapist. Anyone done this? Is it worth it? I left my job so I need to be frugal.

[SolidParticipant 7520]

Stay strong brother ! Welcome home !

[Anonymous 13]

Anonymous wrote:

You guys are great, I got what I could from house…I still can’t believe she is moving in/marring a guy across country somewhere in Az desert, I guess he is divorced.
I need to get out of this funk, low vibrational state. My sister said I should talk to a therapist. Anyone done this? Is it worth it? I left my job so I need to be frugal.

I wouldn’t bother with therapy, why pay someone money to talk to them about something they likely have no clue about or how it feels. You’ll just get scripted therapy.

Best therapy is to keep coming here. We KNOW how you feel and we’ve got back up from it. Oh and it’s FREE.
Pretty good huh!

Seriously man, she’s on a hiding to nowhere.

I don’t care if it’s 5 months or 5 years, that relationship is doomed.

Count. On. It.

[PuniShredderParticipant 2268]

Anonymous wrote:

Right now finding it hard to get motivated, I don’t know what to do or where to go

Man.. I don’t know how else to say this. You sound like a real big f~~~ing pussy. Sorry. You need some sense of slapped into you. You need to get around some other men. Here’s my prescription.

Get to the doctor immediately have your testosterone tested I’m almost positive it has to be low. Get on a testosterone replacement regime immediately. Get to the gym immediately every day and start pumping iron. Start with the StrongLifts 5 x 5 program. Report back here in three months.

Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.

[Anonymous 0]

Kinda harsh Sherddage, I had it checked recently, it was 890 total…I worked out everyday, now I have no gym, I guess push ups and stuff, there is a pool here. I know your trying to help my friend.

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

Shredd, take it easy on this guy. Hes going through a s~~~ storm right now in life and asking for a little help and guidance. Let’s not scare off guys, let’s help them get to MGTOW. I know I need a bit of guidance right now.

Get a vasectomy.

[PuniShredderParticipant 2268]

Oldschool wrote:

Shredd, take it easy on this guy. Hes going through a s~~~ storm right now in life and asking for a little help and guidance. Let’s not scare off guys, let’s help them get to MGTOW. I know I need a bit of guidance right now.

I’m like a Marine Corps Gunny, I know! That’s my method brothers! Lots of excercise, a bottle of single malt and some strange pussy cures all!!

To the OP..Things WILL get better!! Walk away and start fresh. Unencumbered by all of the dogma of the past. Good she is moving far away. Her entire life will be blowing up but I suggest you don’t even stop to watch from afar. Move forward at blazing speed. Women are POISON! Find some red pill men friends and concentrate on you. Good luck, Carpe Diem and Semper Fi (even though I was Army)

Shred

Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.

[Northern SoulParticipant 186]

Welcome Rexmundi.

I went through a similar experience as you but was married with kids. Trust me when I say you will be fine. At your stage it is hard if not impossible to see a way through so don’t stress. Set yourself a goal (but not time limited) to work towards – you will find a way.

It takes time to get back on your feet – be patient. I was homeless for 2 years but now have my own place which I never thought was achievable.

Throw yourself into your work/job – this will keep you motivated.

My final bit of advice is don’t let negative thoughts or self doubt take over your mind. It is so easy to draw wrong conclusions and beat yourself up over things that have happened. The mind has a great habit of doing this on a regular basis.

Just look forward and find the quickest, easiest and cheapest solution to your problems. Keep a positive mentality and keep the faith that things will get better. Move on you must. I am speaking from experience.

[Anonymous 0]

Thanks, Shredd and Northern Soul, thing is I have to find a job on top of all this. I do feel like a wuss Shredd, I wish I had some bros to hang out with, to help with this.

[PuniShredderParticipant 2268]

If I were there I’d hang with ya!! Keep moving forward..Women are just temporary. So is pain.

Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Keep posting Rexmundi brother, let the pain out..watch youtube mgtow videos to remember all the s~~~ you have to go through. You are still in the denial phase..Its alright…Cry it out until you get tired of crying…Read online on the steps to moving on because you will need it…Reclaim your manhood brother…Its not going to be easy after 17 years of training but you will get there…Soon you will be in red pill rage…
PS..take a picture or video of yourself and watch it like you are watching a friend going through a divorce..What are you going to advice to that guy?…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[Anonymous 0]

I may have made a bad decision leaving my job, but it was way too stressful and too many memories would haunt me staying in that area, this area in fl sucks for work, she is still in process of moving I am staying w/family around a hour away, bored out of my mind…she is still making things hard, she wants to keep water bill in my name till she moves to avoid paying fees, same with cable. she said she will pay when final bill comes. I know you will say just cut it off, but supposedly she will split profit on house and items she is still selling

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