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Vajra Varaha 3 months ago.
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That whole situation sounds like a land-mine. And on the path you’re going, it sounds like you’re going to end up just like a double amputee.. you’re not going to have a leg to stand on.
Don’t sign ANYTHING. Seek legal council. If you’re lucky, you can funnel all that money you have into your business (as in it’s own entity, and should be protected as such).If she want’s to be a stay at home mom, fine, that’s a personal choice. I just wouldn’t be expected to foot the entire bill for that.
My thing is this: If you have in you the capacity and aspire for greatness, or even perceived decency, but fail to go out and get it.. what is the point of staying at home? What exactly purpose are you serving, and what the hell are you teaching my child about progress in the face of adversity?
All philosophy aside, do seek legal council. Begin a quiet preparation for exit (just in case) and under no circumstances do you put pen to paper agreeing to anything until you’ve been given the go ahead by said council.
Funny, isn't it? How women thrive on a mans time, attention and resources, while simultaneously telling him he isn't enough...
Thanks for all the good replyes, that was exactly what i thought.
I’m just tired of listening to that if i leave then it means that i chose money over the family and i have nothing to answer to that, because i cant exaplain to her that i want freedom of choice over constant being under her control.
Hello Timsen. VERY Good post.
Take a moment and –>> read your post again.
See if you can spot the red flags yourself.You ask for a “reality check” but you’re already there.
Listen to your manstincts.I have framed them below to help you out.. . . .
we had a huge fight
Like this?
What a nightmare.
QUOTE: “Countless knock-down, drag-out fights…… six fired attorneys…. I came close to killing that man . . . but I prevailed.”
…and the wedding hasn’t even happened yet.
Sick. A “fight” is not the way to get what she wants, either.A man proposes with a grand, theatrical & romantic gesture, kneels down with a ring, a romantic evening and unforgettable declaration of his promise to her. A woman proposes with FIGHTS?
She have very few dreams, its just getting married, have 2 children and have a house which she was straight up about from the beginning, and i was ok with all of that since i was a blue pill (after i found mgtow i started to question marriage).
Marriage is a woman’s dreams realized….
AND A MAN’S DREAMS GONE.Family is the most important thing for her
No. It isn’t. Because she is already thinking about what she’s gonna get in the divorce.
She tells me quite alot that money doesnt mean anything to her.
Then she lied.
That started a huge fight again
Another clue.
, she feels that since she is home and taking care of the child and house than she deserve half of what company made while we were together in case of divorce.
There is no “house” for her to take care of unless you buy it. Right?
“Family is the most important thing to me”
“Family is the most important thing to me”
“Family is the most important thing to me”“I deserve half of everything when I decide family is not the most important thing anymore.”
Nice.
She keeps telling me that i have to accept her choice of being family person and she didnt feel that i accept it since i want a prenup.
You see it NOW?
I just need a reality check, am i insane to require a prenup
Insane? No.
The only risks reasonable people are willing to take are CALCULATED risks. One weighs the costs and benefits of those risks. As it is, a marriage contract FAILS a cost/benefit analysis for men.
This is not personal or a moral issue like she pretends.
It’s a LEGAL issue.Don’t let her blame “you” for thinking this way.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.Thanks for all the good replyes, that was exactly what i thought.
I’m just tired of listening to that if i leave then it means that i chose money over the family and i have nothing to answer to that, because i cant exaplain to her that i want freedom of choice over constant being under her control.
family? what family? your family? you think you have one? you just pay for it.
she wants to have her hands on everything, becouse she is already planing the cleaning.
Run or die, you choose?
To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.
I’m not gonna rehash what’s already been said. Just that you have EVERYTHING TO LOSE and NOTHING to gain!
Dont F*CKING DO IT!
#ICETHEMOUT!!! #MANOUT!!! #HIDEYOURWEALTH #VAGINAISWORTHLESS
Your girlfriend has more red flags than China.
Too right! But I’m not too worried about Timsen. He can already feel it.
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Prince Harry. Now that’s a doomed man.
“You look amazing… I’m so lucky”.
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No, man. SHE’s “so lucky”. And even when he said it, she didn’t even reciprocate. She just giggled. She should have corrected him “That’s sweet. But I’M so lucky.” Instead , she says nothing, looks down as if to say “Tee-hee. I must really know how to suck.”
How the f~~~ can you be a royal Prince – not even realize you’re the prize – and think “I’m so lucky” when it’s the other way around. That’s a blind man.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.I’m not gonna rehash what’s already been said. Just that you have EVERYTHING TO LOSE and NOTHING to gain!
Dont F*CKING DO IT!
Well i do have something to gain, and it is to be around my daughter every day instead of one weekend every 14 days.
I dont get why she thinks that because she is home taking care of the house and baby, then she should have a say about how much money i take out of the company…
She already work part time, to be fair she does all the things around the house and take care of of our daughter, but why in hell does she feel so entitled…
Now we propably going to have a fight again in very near future, where she keeps nagging me about that i don’t set her responsibilitys around the house on same level on earning god damn money.And now she also wants us to share each others personal bank accounts so that there are transparency in the economy.
How the f~~~ can you be a royal Prince – not even realize you’re the prize
Damn. Well said KM.
Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUTWell i do have something to gain, and it is to be around my daughter every day instead of one weekend every 14 days.
Well if “family is the most important thing” to her….
then why would she ever prevent her daughter from seeing her father?“Family is the most important thing to her”…
to use as leverage against the man.Now we propably going to have a fight again in very near future, where she keeps nagging me about that i don’t set her responsibilitys around the house on same level on earning god damn money.
Trgically, MOST people don’t negotiate before they sign a marriage contract – but it’s important to be VERY clear on what you EXPECT… and what you are prepared to DO.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.
Anonymous42because i cant exaplain to her that i
wantNEED freedom of choice over constant being under her control.^^^^Fixed.
As for “being under”; here’s one of my quotes about that “position”.
he wont listen, he will do it anyway.
his only option is to break up, is s~~~ fails he will blame it on mgtow…
do as you wish dude, but you are done for.
To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.
he wont listen, he will do it anyway.
his only option is to break up, is s~~~ fails he will blame it on mgtow…
do as you wish dude, but you are done for.
Right now i am at split roads, i can choose to go and get married and have a 50% chance of getting divorce raped HARD, because if im staring out right now at 150-200k a year and im 29, in 5 years this number will probably grow since i have some good plans to set in action regarding the company. But if i choose that road then all the things that i learned for the past 2-3 years from mgtow was a “waste of my time”, and i will concede as still being a blue piller.
I can take a new and scary road, of beign alone, have my daughter visit me only 1 weekend every 14 days and being lost with all that additional time i will get. If i think about it, i cant figure out where to focus. I know i still have a company to run and things will speed up, but what do you guys spend your valuable time on?
Im just afraid that im going to spend on playing games or do some other unproductive stuff (no pun intended, i respect other people’s choices). Im just afraid of getting lazy i guess.
As your company grows, so does your risk of losing it or much of it in a divorce. LISTEN to these guys! They have been down that road and they are not BSing you. If you can’t learn from other peoples mistakes in this area, then you deserve the beating you most probably will be getting.
Always vote on yourself. Parental alienation is a thing that is going to happen–the bitch is already making moves to do this. She’s planning her exit strategy. She already sees you as an adversary to hobble.
Walk away. It’s the only play you have. You’ll lose out on time with your kid, but that’s *probably* going to happen anyway. High confidence. And since you live in Europe, the courts are going to f~~~ you even harder on custody than you would be in the states.
Walk away. Your kid will find you in 18 years. Hell, when she’s 10 or 11, she’ll be in a position where the courts might listen to her in terms of where she wants to be, and if you have the horsepower for it, you might be able to flip the custody arrangement.
Your money and earning potential, your business, they’re just tangible manifestations of your freedom and intelligence. Don’t tie those to some whore who is just looking for any chance to destroy you.
Oh, and she’s a whore. She’s the one who made this about money (pretending it’s about family while only focusing on the money). That makes her a whore.
Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805
Anonymous42Tim, over 150 years ago all this bulls~~~ started.
Back then children were the tangible property of the man by law, so was his property. The children were given the “sir name” showing who’s child it was.
That system worked for eons, now you’re in a position where the children are hers by judicial default, a theft within itself.
Then there’s the property, more often than not a man is the primary resource for property by his ability to produce being stronger by nature.
She owns the children by judicial default and the same judicial system will pluck you apart in her favor until there’s very little left.
Thanks to the endless transformations in western marriage law you and all men in this molested culture have your b~~~~ in a bear trap with her little finger tied to the trigger!
I’m sorry to be the one telling you this but that’s the way it is! B~~~~ in a Bear trap is no position to be in!
Because I give a damn and realize how crucial it is to get it into your head, here comes the sarcasm, man to man, “Go ahead you dumbass. Be played as the jackass by her.”
What the f~~~ man, you already know what you need to do! Do it. She’s already prompted warning flag after warning flag.
She knows how to push your buttons and her actions display an eager willingness to do so.
More sarcasm:”but she will surely change for the better, if only you would behave”."It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."
Right now i am at split roads, i can choose to go and get married and have a 50% chance of getting divorce raped HARD …
Most marriages fail.
The odds against you are much higher than 50:50. Even if it was only that, the flip of a coin is hardly a good basis on which to decide the rest of your life.
How the f~~~ can you be a royal Prince – not even realize you’re the prize – and think “I’m so lucky” when it’s the other way around. That’s a blind man.
Inbreeding. His IQ is no bigger than his boot size.
Anonymous43do not marry this woman. do. not.
those children they are not yours. they never will be. you may be allowed to visit if you are lucky.
Don’t marry , on one hand not interested in money then wants half..
Creep away but by bit , supporting the child and her …
If you marry she will do time equity , I call it.. then rape you and your business…
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