Let's Share Some Red flags

[Aroused By Her AnguishParticipant 343]

When she goes to a “business meeting” at a hotel with her boss at 7pm, even though the office doesn’t have a night shift, it’s a red flag.

If she begs you to let her attend a party with her friends, but she refuses to let you go with her, it’s a red flag.

If she accuses you of cheating even though you didn’t cheat, it’s a red flag.  She’s just trying to justify her cheating, even though she’s trying to hide it from you.

If she chooses to go to night clubs with her female friends instead of spending the night with you, it’s a rad flag.

If she runs to pick up her cell phone when she receives a message just to make sure you won’t be able to pick it up, it’s a red flag.

If she loses her sex drive, it’s a red flag.  She’s getting sex from someone else.

If she randomly brings up some guy in a sentence like, “What do you think of ___?”, it’s a red flag.  She’s either interested in leaving you for him, or she’s already having sex with him.

If you’re having an internet conversation with her and she replies to everything with one-word sentences, it’s a red flag.

If she brings up that idea of specifically getting married to you within the first month of dating her, it’s a red flag.

If she accuses some man of raping (or trying to rape) her and she wants you to immediately take revenge on him, it’s a red flag.  There was no rape or rape attempt.  She’s just testing you to see what your reaction would be.

ALL of these things have happened to me, and they were all done by one girl!

[EversionParticipant 3]

Mentions past abuse of any kind on a first date.

Talks about ex-boyfriends on a first date.

Tells you her life story on a first date.

Flakes on you more than once when you have set plans to meet.

Has a messy apartment.

Still has ex’s as”friends”. Likes the company of men more than woman.

Pinches, pokes, or slaps you in painful way’s. Makes baby talk remarks at you, if you protest that you do not like it.

Suddenly disappears without explanation during text conversations. Picks up the conversation the next day as if it’s no big deal.

Never wants to talk on the phone, it’s “always” just text/e-mail.

Goes to the gym, even though she knew you had a date planned, and is now “too tired” to visit you.

 

 

 

 

 

[BDParticipant 1146]

Hmmm, that horrible entitlement slore song that was posted made me think some more,

The music she listens to

The books she reads, have a look, I once dated a chick that read “He’s just not that into you”, guess what? After listening to her mindless banter after reading that book, I definitely was not that into her any more.

Her hobbies or job, I once dated this brain dead girl who was in on one of those pyramid schemes,  selling supplement BS, it was like a cult and I had to pull the ripcord.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

BD wrote:

Her hobbies or job, I once dated this brain dead girl who was in on one of those pyramid schemes, selling supplement BS, it was like a cult and I had to pull the ripcord.

I once had a male coworker who was into one of those pyramid schemes.  It was all the guy talked about.  He was so annoying because of that I couldn’t even stand to look at him…he’d literally spend like 2 hours a day trying to recruit me to sell the s~~~ he was trying to sell, and acting like you were dumb when you told him you had no interest in getting involved in it.  It seriously was like a cult…I couldn’t even imaging dating someone who acted like that guy acted, she’d get the boot fast!

[Anonymous 12]

* She used to say “I love you” but has now downgraded it to “I’m fond of you” and there is no explanation given as to why.

* She becomes defensive over innocent questions. I once was dating a massage therapist who told me that she was about to do an online course in some massage technique. That seemed interesting (odd) to me, so I asked how does one do a massage course online, she became a little upset and said it is via webcam. Again it sounded weird, so I asked how does that work? She became really angry and didn’t talk to me for 3 days lol. When we spoke about it she told me she was upset because it felt like I was suspecting her of something. I actually wasn’t to begin with but I sure was after her responses!

* When they start fights over nothing. See above.

* A woman likes to remain friends with ALL of her exes.

* She expects the man in her life to be a Feminist!

* She makes you believe that certain sex acts and fetishes are not just ok but totally welcome but later on starts to change what is ok and what isn’t.

* High partner count and also being obsessed with sex to the point of studying it and becoming qualified in it. I know that sounds like an odd thing to say but these types of women think their pussies have magical powers and they also see sex as nothing different to taking a walk in a park. Keep them for fun if you like but don’t get serious about them.

* Communication has dropped off, if you used to make some sort of contact once a day, every 2nd day etc and now you are finding that it has become every 3rd day, then 4th etc.

* She has cats.

 

 

 

 

 

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4352]

Saying I will always be there for you

Catching them in a lie because lies are like c~~~roaches  for every one you hear there are 20 more and they will be breeding if you don’t dump her.

Disliking any of your friends or family.

Nostalgia about a past relationship.

Being a single mother. Bad idea guys.

Drug or alcohol abuse

Any  history of mental health issues.

Any hint about her being the boss in the relationship.

Her not having a job.

Playing damsel in distress.

Having been sexually assaulted in the past.

Claiming to have been a victim again and again.

I think the vast majority of women are f~~~ed up one way or another as far as marrying them or ltr

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[Dcue95Participant 78]

My two cents:

 

Red Flag: When she’s overly forward with you

Major Red Flag: When she’s very forceful about you doing something

Red Flag: When she doesn’t show up to a prior commitment

Red Flag: Acting like a flake

Red Flag: She goes to church in revealing clothing (If she even goes to church)

Major Red Flag: She uses the words “rape” and “culture” in the same sentence (Or in fact, just parrots anything feminists say)

<b>Red Flag:</b> She frequently goes clubbing

Major Red Flag: She’s a feminist

Major Red Flag: Her major is, was, or will be, Gender Studies

Red Flag: She only talks to you when she wants something

That’s about as much as I can come up with from my own experience

[FitzBonesParticipant 304]

– A chick who will only have sex in one position, you can bet your ass that bitch is repressed with some serious issues in her past

– I tend to ask about her parents, what they were like etc. Anytime she speaks of either of em with disrespect or some stories sound ‘off’ I’m outta there

– Anyone who acts ‘cute’ is seriously under-developed and will bring drama and get nasty

– If she has made any decisions in her life on the basis of what someone told her. Once her friends dont like ya, she’ll take ya for everything you have

"If you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds' worth of distance run,"

[ignisParticipant 11]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

In my experience, the giveaway signs that she is sleeping with someone else are as follows :

1)Always making excuses not to have sex

2)She says “I love you, I am just not in love with you”.

3)Joining a gym, losing weight, buying lots of new clothes.

4)Mobile phone is locked and never out of her sight.

5)Makes comments about needing space.

6)Constantly receiving messages on her phone.

7)Wanting to be out all the time with friends, probably friends you have never heard mentioned before…..

8)Constantly on Facebook posting selfies.

9)loses total interest in doing any everyday, mundane chores such as cooking and cleaning etc.

 

You describe my ex like you have met her.

[Anonymous 18]

Some direct quotes with translation

I will keep my legs closed (to others) so long you wanna marry me. But I will open those legs to them once you owe me, sign below 🙂

My friend is single because she never learned how to flirt. Flirting = entrapment

Single mom Single mom

All her ex’s were abusers/assholes/psychos You are next son

Can’t find the nice guy syndroms Seems like you can be that beta bitch, sign below 🙂

Her friends are sluts Her friends tell others their friend is a hoe

Condoms? Nay Run unless you don’t mind … you know… it’s not always supposed to itch

She is 2-3+ in looks compared to you She has baggage you don’t know about, or you have what she wants

Either too overzealous or over protective when it comes to sharing knowledge of her past relationships Best way to not get caught is not lie – but for women its never a lie because they believe them = overzealous types; she is likely too young to master the art of crafty deception = over protective

You are the only/first guy I have ever done/would consider doing this with Haha haha

 

 

[peterfaParticipant 833]

She talks about serial killers obsessively. When you ask her, “Why do you like psychopaths so much,” she says, “Because they excite me.”

True story.

[peterfaParticipant 833]

[Zuberi TauParticipant 10606]

Red flag 1. Yeast Infection

Red flag 2. Overweight

Red flag 3. Credit Card debt

Red flag 4. Single mother

Red flag 5. Ubiquitous tattoos

Red flag 6. Bipolar Disorder

Red flag 7. Clinically depressed

Red flag 8. Alcoholic

Red flag 9. No car

Red flag 10. Doesn’t think before she talks.

[MantelarParticipant 77]

Interesting how so many of you point out rape and/or molestation as a red flag.

Related story – dated a girl who was molested by her grandfather.  He was dead by then, but I did attend a Christmas Party at her grandmother’s house.  Saw some pictures of him on the wall.  Bourbon and a cigar.

Toward the end of the relationship, she p~~~ed me off real bad.  I had her over and smoked several cigars and was drinking makers mark.  The reaction was amazing and still don’t understand it.  I was expecting to get a rise out of her – get her mad…maybe start the break-up fight.  Instead, she was mesmerized by it.  Ended up sitting in my lap, with this sort of thousand yard stare, even with the smoke sort of hovering around her.  Then SHE put the moves on me.  It was like having sex with a totally different person.

Anyway, I broke up with her a couple weeks later.  She had her good qualities.  Very clean and organized.  Good cook.  Minuses were 60k in college debt, and the beginnings of gut I knew from looking at her mother was going to go shamu in a few years.  Her cat hated me.  I could tell that bothered her a lot.  Smart cat.

[Lazarus DreamingParticipant 26]

Mantelar wrote:

Interesting how so many of you point out rape and/or molestation as a red flag. Related story – dated a girl who was molested by her grandfather. He was dead by then, but I did attend a Christmas Party at her grandmother’s house. Saw some pictures of him on the wall. Bourbon and a cigar. Toward the end of the relationship, she p~~~ed me off real bad. I had her over and smoked several cigars and was drinking makers mark. The reaction was amazing and still don’t understand it. I was expecting to get a rise out of her – get her mad…maybe start the break-up fight. Instead, she was mesmerized by it. Ended up sitting in my lap, with this sort of thousand yard stare, even with the smoke sort of hovering around her. Then SHE put the moves on me. It was like having sex with a totally different person.

Holy crap…that is the saddest and creepiest thing I have read to date here on MGTOW but I know its true.. My last girlfriend had been molested by her grandfather and she was one of the most repressed and rigid women that I had ever dated…possibly some of the worst sex I ever had in my life and she was a grown woman.

My Red Flags with her?

1. My grandfather molested me
2. I broke off the engagement and walked away from my best freind and the love of my life when I was 21 because he was black.  My family hates black people…so I left him.  Saw him about 10 years after…he was all fat and looked like s~~~…he told me how he never got over me leaving him…
3. I got pregnant in my 30’s and I had an abortion because the guy lied to me.

I remember thinking after this relationship…if she is willing to walk away from the love of her life and abort her child to shirk responsibility then I never had a chance.  That kind of Bats~~~ crazy is as dangerous as the day is long.

 

 

[BestlifeornothingParticipant 24]

A major red flag for me is a female that has never accomplished anything on her own.  Most of the time, they’ll lie to you by omission and if you pay close attention, you’ll figure out someone else did the heavy lifting.  And you’ll be doing the heavy lifting if you don’t watch out.

[WhySoSeriouslyParticipant 14]

Sky-O wrote:

When in the early stages of a relationship, she puts you through an idealization phase. She doesn’t know how to bond in a healthy way: So she creates a new version of you, based on her subjective appraisal. She f~~~s like a porn star but claims to have only been with three guys before you. (And two of those times, she was ‘raped’ Maintains contact with alot of guys that are ‘just friends’ Has an empty almost blank expression and her eyes seem to suggest that she lacks a soul. That is because after years of lying, manipulating, taking c~~~ and using men: she does lack a soul.

This was my ex wife, a borderline hottie

[tigertankParticipant 10]

-She has no ambition.She’s got a job she hates, but would not do anyithing to improve her situation.

-She shows more apreciation for any street dog or cat than for you.

-No interests in pleasing you visually. I had this broad in her early 30s that would use underwear that only my granny would use.

-She refuses to show any kind of affection towards you in public, or even when hanging out with mutual friends.

 

[DarthWParticipant 70]

tigertank wrote:

She shows more apreciation for any street dog or cat than for you.

Oops!  I guess that’s my red flag cause I appreciate any street dog or cat way more than any woman.

I gotta agree with the “no ambition” and “damsel in distress” red flags.  I think they kinda go hand in hand, and a LOT of women have this attitude.  They want to coast through life when their on their own, and then when they find a guy and his wallet they’ll really, really get lazy.

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

I agree if women were repeatedly molested in some way, specifically when they were very young – major red flag.  It stays with them forever, and they are like grenade with the pin half pulled.

Sovereignty above all else.

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