I gave her a second chance and got what I deserved. Nice guys NEVER win.

[GnosticParticipant 2491]

FinallyAwake wrote:

MATRIX wrote:

ALL those LTR’s and marriages are going to FAIL.

That’s all marriages and relationships do these days is FAIL.

Those guys, if not already lonely, will be.

The last years of my marriage were the most lonely, f~~~ed up and miserable years of my whole goddam life.

NEVER F~~~ING AGAIN.

I’m now alone and F~~~ it’s ABSOLUTE BLISS.

Thanks for the reply! Glad you’re out and have found some relief and bliss!

But how can we make a relationship not fail? For example, I want to have a family with children and a mother there to raise those children with me. Is that just completely impossible now? If the failure rate for marriage is 50%-60%, that still leaves a big chunk of marriages relationships and marriages that do actually last. I know that this is a MGTOW forum and I don’t mean to be controversial, but is there just no hope whatsoever?

The 50% marriage failure is a lie. If you are white it is likely to have a 90% failure.

How do they lie?
The marriage rate is 6.8 per 1000 and divorce rate is 3.4 per 1000 people. So it seems 50% failure.
However they do not count that 40% of marriage is remarriage.

The rate of divorce + remarriage is 3.4 + 2.72 = 6.12 while the marriage rate is 6.8.
6.12 / 6.8 = 90%

However it should be less then 90% because some of the divorce are second marriage
(2.04 + 2.72)/6.8= 70%

Given that some people died before getting their second, third divorce and stuff like that it is higher then 70% so the median is 80%

For white the remarriage rate is 60% thus pushing the median to 90%

The CDC confirms Marriage is Dead

There is no magic in MGTOW, just recognition of the truth and logical decision how to avoid dangers. The red pill is but the truth, it is no magical potion. Do not think in this modern world men have no longer have natural enemies, men are prey to women and government.

[Fr JackParticipant 926]

So sorry to hear this FA, our stories are similar, except I was married to my stbx whore for 32 years. At the moment nothing will be making sense, but give it time, and it still wont make any f~~~en sense, so dont get yourself down trying to figure out what went wrong. All the responsibility is hers, you did nothing to deserve what she did, and there was nothing you could have done better for her not to have done it. Do not, I repeat do not, allow her or any of her flying monkeys to try and put any guilt on you, this is 100% down to her.
Take care of yourself, be kind to yourself, and be assured things will start turning round for the better.

[PuniShredderParticipant 2268]

All Women Are Whores. My mantra since I was 12. Treat them accordingly. Welcome to Red Pill brother!! Now go have a great NFG life in spite of the cheating whore!!

Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.

[FinallyAwakeParticipant 72]

Thanks for the support and replies everyone. I still haven’t heard from her since she left yesterday. Part of me wants to hear her out and talk to her, but I know there’s no such thing as closure. It’s hard letting go of someone you loved for years cold turkey. The “Love” I have for her is like an addiction and I’m withdrawing, even thought I know it’s bad for me. I will not reach out to her in any way.

[Maximus AureliusParticipant 351]

^^^^ Don’t worry you won’t have to….

Before long she will contact YOU!
Wondering how you are if you’re ok or some other BS.
You may become her backup plan to the clown she was seeing.

Also, Even though its a down grade for her to go for a guy like that. ….IT wasn’t about you,

It says more about how she sees herself than anything it could say of you..

Meditating on the Wisdom & Truths of Man, Isn't just a Philosophy, but a Calling......Be willing to be Called a Man!

[FinallyAwakeParticipant 72]

Maximus Aurelius wrote:

It says more about how she sees herself than anything it could say of you..

I’ve heard that a lot, but I’m still not very clear about it. I’m a very pragmatic person, and I always look to break down and rationalize everything. I understand that this is a lesson learned, but to truly learn the lesson, I want to understand everything. I know that the general consensus is that women are bats–t crazy and don’t need a reason to do stupid s–t, but I want to know the logic behind the craziness. I basically think of it as a formula with defined variables such as: financial support, looks, power, possessions, etc. I just don’t know how to formulate what just happened.

The most logical scenario is: treats me right + financial stability + we’re already together = don’t cheat, appreciate what you have and live happily ever after.

What she chose: already married with kids + worse job + no power + worse looking + is nice to me = cheat on my 7 year relationship and ruin everyone’s lives.

It just does not compute. It’s like trying to smell the color of the number 9.

[MaddladParticipant 765]

Thats because there is no logic in womens behaviour. There is no point trying to apply it to them as they do not work that way. Best to get on with your life and enjoy it for you. Do what you want, and be happy. 🙂

[CoolbreezeParticipant 442]

Sorry to hear FA! Time will heal. I think a lot of the sting comes from deriving self worth from the relationship. Not to say you’re wrong for doing so but it’s really an antiquated idea that sounds romantic yet serves no purpose when you’re not even on the same team with these hags.

[TicParticipant 4329]

FinallyAwake wrote:

I just keep running through the questions in my head about why? how?

it’s pretty normal for you to do that, but, here’s a question to think about?

If a zebra gets taken by a pack of lions, do the why and how really matter? Isn’t that just part of nature.

The nature of women is ugly. Time after time, experiences kept telling me that, but, I didn’t see the pattern, didn’t want to see the pattern. The brain washing is so deeply ingrained by cultural and genetic forces that it takes a sentinel event and outside resources like this website, to snap one out of the matrix.

You’ll recover from this. A year from now, the rage will be replaced with bliss. It’ll come. Just stick to reality, and not the falsehood that propagates our world.

God bless peace and freedom.

[OldBillParticipant]

FinallyAwake wrote:

It just does not compute. It’s like trying to smell the color of the number 9.

You’re expecting rational thought from an irrational person.

You’re expecting rational thought from a person who is rewarded by the courts, our culture, and general society to be irrational.

Expecting the rational from the irrational not like “trying” to smell the number 9. Instead, it’s like repeatedly insisting that the number 9 should have a smell when you damn know well it doesn’t.

There is no formula. There is no logic. There is no theory. There are only the facts.

Learn to accept them.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[MeisterParticipant 2093]

Thanks for sharing.

Brutal truth:
It reads like the diary of a wimpy chump.

This is not the first time she cheated on you – it’s just the first time you caught her.

The fact that you paid for her means that she was a glorified whore.

No kids, no marriage, no false accusations.
You got lucky this time.

If you are smart, you’ll mgtow now.

Monk

[CrowbarParticipant 192]

Hi, FA, and welcome. I was in a somewhat similar situation with my first GF in my late 20’s over twenty years ago – she was a cute little blond doctor who was divorced (no kids). We were together six months, and I thought that I was the king having a petite cutie with me. She ended up dumping me over Labor Day weekend via phone, and it took me a year to even be able to drive by her apartment complex.

For s~~~s and giggles, several years later I looked her up. Found out that two months after dumping me, she got married to some guy and had a kid, then divorced him and got remarried for a third time and had three more kids. Needless to say, it all worked out for a while (of course I ruined it by getting married, but that’s another story).

[ShruggerParticipant 10]

Read the whole thread and I’m very curious about an update.

Hopefully, you feel better about the whole thing now and have found a new and bright future path for yourself.

If you want a stable and life long partner find a woman trapped to a wheelchair who will be 100 % dependent on you for everything. That way she will most likely not be able to branch anywhere and your utility to her will always be high.

[Jim01Participant 6678]

don’t take it personally – she is a child in adult’s skin, as are all women. As others have said – she is entitled by our system and gets a free pass for everything she does, regardless of her actions

plus don’t worry about your friends being in LTRs – I have recently had an old friend contacting me about old times when we used to go out and have some of the best times. I suspect he is missing those days now that he is the pet of his wife who (I know) orders him around like a dog

It is like the Facebook stuff – it is a fake life where their relationships are perfect. They probably hold that together for when they are around you but once they get home, she starts bitching at him for leaving the cushion a cm too far to the left on the sofa. Or he didn’t put a small piece of rubbish in the bin…then he gets put in the “doghouse” until he grovels

I do wonder if she cheated on you before – you say it was all bliss so I suspect she was f~~~ing other men for a long time before you caught her at it (you said you paid for everything so it sounds like you were her provider)

[SpaceManFinParticipant 48]

Èvery woman is a teenager pretending to be an adult. In some vanishingly rare cases the woman can actually wield a chainsaw and a shovel better than the average man can. No worries, you’ll probably never meet those. Even if she’s as close to a man as you’ll ever meet, she’ll still be carrying all of the usual female traits. Lying, deception, manipulation and gaslighting are part of the norm. Those are the qualities her side of our species learned while fighting to survive. No point being angry about them for getting p~~~ed is a waste of energy. Understand that she has her imperatives, in which she expects her chosen man will always be the “strongest-f~~~off-I’ll kill anyone who threatens my family” type of fellow she knows she can secure.

Giving a cheating woman a second chance is submitting to the wills of our weaker side as a species. Her instincts will guide her to use the opportunity to her benefit. Translating this to modern day norms, she f~~~ed you over as a person and that should never be forgotten. It can be forgiven and the two people can continue as friends, not as partners in life, sex and evolutionary continuation. Our two sexes can co-exist, but long-term success depends on the balance of power being maintained. Think of the Cold War and MAD (Mutually-Assured-Destruction) as guidelines for relationships. All’s fair in love and war is as true today as it was when the guy who came up with the saying figured it out ages ago.

[KaidoParticipant 2395]

I am sorry this happened to you mate… The saying goes a shoulder to cry on eventually becomes a dick to ride on. Women will never get over their primal instinct like us men will. They will be forever animals enslaved in their minds.

All I can is welcome to the Red Pill rage. I hope you find peace later on as I did.

What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.

[SwimcatParticipant 3589]

You dodged a bullet. Just don’t walk back into it again.

[Ronin11Participant 208]

That man is less successful than me, and worse looking. There is no “trade up” reasoning behind it. If he were at least rich or something, this would make more sense.

A rookie mistake assuming that women make sense. Nothing matters to her except how she feels. On paper she knew being with you was the best for her, but this other man made her feel something. Don’t beat yourself up over this. Women are programed to feel so they will gravitate towards a man who makes her feel. Forget the fact that she has a better man. This is why you can’t trust them. At any given time if you don’t treat her the way she thinks you ought to, she will go out, and find what she thinks she deserves. Forget who she hurts, forget about money, forget about everything, but her all so precious feelings.

This has little if anything to do with you and everything to do with her.

She really made me happy and motivated to be a better man.

She gave you an illusion, and honestly did she make you a better man or did you decide to be better.

I understand how you feel you miss her. Let me assure you it does get better with time. About your coupled up friends. You just won the lottery. you get to do what you want without a woman telling you what to do. None of your male friends have that.

There are no good women only degrees of bad.

[PuniShredderParticipant 2268]

Update?

Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.

[PrincekieParticipant 1042]

I’d like an update too!

BTW I’ve been in the ops position. Found out ex was cheating, split up with her, then she came crawling back when things went wrong. Rinse and repeat…

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