I gave her a second chance and got what I deserved. Nice guys NEVER win.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

FinallyAwake wrote:

One day I find out that she’s been having an affair for a month with a co-worker. He’s married and has 2 kids. My entire world COLLAPSED around me. I have never been in so much f~~~ing pain in my entire life. To know that the love of your life for the better part of a decade did the WORST thing a person can do to another person is just utterly soul shattering. I wouldn’t wish that feeling on my worst enemy.

Been there myself. You have my deepest sympathies. It’s a great feeling to put yourself in position where nobody can do that to you. It’s like you know you are armored. Don’t be fooled by those who tell ‘You will die alone’ or ‘you are incomplete without a woman’. It’s a lie. Do what you need to. Get over or through your pain. Then set yourself up for your own success, and not be affected by her failures.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Remember there is a married guy out there with two kids messing with your ex who is about to lose his family, have his kids hate him, be divorced raped, pay child support and possible alimony, have his GF dump him because the DV broke his wallet….. AND IT’S NOT YOU.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Welcome brother and sorry for your loss…I know how gut wrenching that feeling is. The air gets sucked out of your body and you just struggle to breathe and make sense of why…
Its not your fault brother. Know that SHE made the decision. She decided to cheat on you and move on. She no longer has feelings for you. Dont listen to what she says, look at what she did…

Its going to be a tough time for you…Hang in there and survive. Lose contact with her and start moving on…Start improving yourself physically and get off social media…You need to do this so you have a routine and something to be proud of when the loneliness and selective memory hits late…You are strong brother…You are not alone…We have been there before you and we not only survived, we thrived…Just keep you wits with you and post here when the emotions become unbearable…

Keep taking the red pill from youtube videos and post here…Try sandman or turdflingingmonkey…I really hope we can do more to ease your pain…Reading your story reminds a lot of us here of the similar ordeal we have gone through and we know it is truly devastating….Know we are here with you brother during this difficult time…Rant and seek wisdom in these space. Here, we are free to be MEN…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[NeroParticipant 1466]

Ranger One wrote:

Other than your mother, women love you for what you can do for them, not for you being you.

Even this is HIGHLY debatable.

[BadgerParticipant 2277]

Welcome, Finally Awake.

I suggest you read the following chapters in Anthony de Mello’s book titled : Awareness.

Our Illusions About Others p. 17
Clinging to Illusions p. 52
http://arvindguptatoys.com/arvindgupta/tonyawareness.pdf

Illusions are false beliefs about reality.

If you have not already done so, I also suggest you read The Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar. Read the reviews on Amazon.com.

[BadgerParticipant 2277]

Here is an online line to The Manipulated Man.

http://commons.wikimannia.org/images/Esther-Vilar_The-Manipulated-Man.pdf

[AstroParticipant 2045]

I can relate. In 2012, I heard my wife having long conversations with “her friend” and then caught my wife taking pictures of her snatch and having phone sex. She said it wasn’t really adultery and that went over like a lead balloon. It was tough keeping it together but we stayed together. In late 2016, I suspected she was having another affair and was correct. That Christmas, she openly boasted to her family about her “New boyfriend” and showed pictures to them. I kicked her out on the 26th and had three days of living hell. The only thing that stopped me from driving over a cliff was my dachshund. Then I discovered MGTOW and they helped me to survive 2017.

You are correct, Nice guys finish last but that is how I was raised. “Nice Guys” discover they can never win in relations~~~s because the are no more “Nice Gals”. I still try to be nice but think I can only do that as a MGTOW monk. As for the homeless woman I seen two days ago crying for help in freezing temperatures, I closed the door and ignored her. I knew some simps would save the damsel in distress and they showed up within minutes. Had it been a man, they would have doused him with cold water. THAT is the world we live in…

[MonkParticipant 16988]

Nero wrote:

Ranger One wrote:

Other than your mother, women love you for what you can do for them, not for you being you.

Even this is HIGHLY debatable.

Goddammed right. When I was a child, my mother viewed me as an inconvenience. I got in the way of her social climbing.

When that didn’t go where she thought it was going, she saw the older me as a vehicle for those self same ambitions.

When that didn’t happen either, she really hated me.

Red-pilled from a very early age.

[Vajra VarahaParticipant 1284]

Took me a long time to get over the respect others privacy rule I was taught. Every woman Ive ever been with snooped thru my phone and personal items. I finally got over it and started returning the favor. Let’s just say it was an education in itself. Once you are in relationship with a woman, the honesty ceases. It’s all cloak and dagger s~~~. Chameleon and trickery. Sorry bout your luck my friend, welcome home and never forget!

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