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“It’s better to be alone than to be with people that make you feel alone.”
I found this video and it’s pretty true for me perhaps it may help you.
Men have this void in themselves without women.And most of us are extremely scared of it that’s why we fill the hole with women.Ask yourself how does the thought look in your mind
is it “i want to be with a woman”
or is it “I don’t want to be alone”
if I do not have a woman in my life. Someone who loves me and cares about me.
A woman will never love you and she will never care about you.I know this sounds harsh as f~~~ but this is what i think.
The same reason which keep me away from woman even in terms of casual sex is the main that make me proud of myself and make me strong enough to get over all the bad thoughts that eventually comes from my personal circumstances: The pride…
You should be pride of yourself for be a man who need to fight against the world now that you know how is it for real… There is no help in woman’s arms, maybe fun, but that’s all…and the price is too high to play withfor too much time because, like that game with a ball with a timer and water…you can play but don’t hold it for so long because the water is acid here…that can destroy you forever, like a huge amount of other who no one can point…
The thing is, you should keep your chin high and promise yourself… i won’t fail for this. Because i’m a man i have to suffer this path but also because i am a man… i will prevail…i will conquer my own happiness seeing me grown as a person who be proud of it…with the help or the company of no one…
Look at the sky and scream: is that all you can do to break me?…it won’t happen… and smile… you are alive…you are a man…the tools for survive are in your hardware since you born… you are a survivor…and you will be triumphant…
And another advice that helps me so much… don’t be awake too late…depression is stronger at night because our brain suppose to rest here and may play dirty trick minds with you…
Be strong
Anonymous42Men have this void in themselves without women.And most of us are extremely scared of it that’s why we fill the hole with women.Ask yourself how does the thought look in your mind is it “i want to be with a woman” or is it “I don’t want to be alone”
@franky, my void was filled with ashes as my heart was burned to a cinder, now and forever it’s filled with reinforced MGTOW mancrete.
#1“i want to be with a woman” – I’d rather be with a cactus! one with really long sharp barbs! the kind that will slowly work their way through your heart! AND KILL YOU!
#2 “I don’t want to be alone” – I “need” to be alone! A female’s company is only temporary no matter how much they promise otherwise. There’s to many other “pretty horses” on the c~~~ carousal she hasn’t ridden YET.
Perfect timing for this thread. I was feeling a void in my life in the past few weeks/months and I realized that it was the embrace of a woman. Not going to lie, I miss that. Not just that, but I also have a hard time finding male friends in real life too. Like most members here, I have a rare INTJ personality type, which makes finding companions (male or female) more difficult than 98% of the population. Reading some of the responses here though, I am reminded of why women are just not a possibility. It was all a fairy tale from day one, true love does NOT exist. I kind of miss the “love” and “excitement” of being around a woman who you share feelings with, but being reminded that it is temporary is all I needed to snap out of it.
It still doesn’t fix my problem of male companionship. I don’t really have any friends, I have acquaintances that I text every now and then, but nobody I could call a true friend. I had some of those in the past, at least that’s what I thought, but you would be shocked if you knew how badly I’ve been scorned by them. I could sense their jealousy, their anger, etc. but never felt they would betray me. Boy was I wrong. Some men are worse than women, but I guess you can’t really blame them for being conditioned by the feminist society that we live in.
It has me thinking if we are TRULY alone in this world. Females just use men for their own agenda, and men can be just as spiteful as females. So who or what is a real/true friend? Lately I even wonder if my dog loves me or if he just licks me/wags his tail because he thinks I’ll give him a treat for behaving nicely. I’ve definitely been feeling the loneliness lately but I guess its better to be lonely than to have fake or temporary companionship. Or is it? I don’t even know anymore. I think it would be cool if we could PM each other on this site to maybe try and make some friends in real life.
Like Key Master said earlier, We really don’t have anyone in our corner. Life for a man is like being in a boxing match against the terrifying champ with nobody in your corner to lift you back up when you get hit.
Thank you for all the replies, gentlemen. It shows that people really do care. Well, men anyway.
I think I need to face the harsh reality that has been brought up in this post time and time again. That a woman will not GIVE a man love. She will only TAKE from him what will benefit her.
It is a tough pill to swallow.
The funny thing is, I have been doing so well for a long time now. Realizing the truth about women. But I had a relapse yesterday. Well, I am still in relapse mode right now. I guess I am just having a hard time facing reality.
You are so right……..men are not allowed to show vulnerability. Well that ain’t fair is it? I think that is what bothers me most. We have to be the rock 24-7. Well, we are only human and I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect us to be the rock all the time. But it seems that in reality we have to be.
I think I have been out of the game for so long that I forgot what it is like to be with a woman. I really want to try dating again. Maybe that will be the wakeup call I need. But like I said earlier…..it is so much harder now than it was when the internet first came out to meet women. Back then it was so easy. Now, it’s so very difficult. So very difficult to 1. get a woman’s attention 2. get her interest 3. maintain her interest. Why? Probably because the internet is so saturated these days. A man has to send out hundreds of emails to women on the online dating sites before he gets even one response. And then what? He has to get her interest and maintain her interest. Seems like an awfully difficult thing to do these days. So yeah, I want to date, but it will be so difficult for me, just as it is for ANY guy these days.
Maybe if I start dating I will wake up to the realities that it might not be all that worth worrying about dating women.
Women are parasites. Each and every last one of them.
Thank you for all the replies, gentlemen. It shows that people really do care. Well, men anyway. I think I need to face the harsh reality that has been brought up in this post time and time again. That a woman will not GIVE a man love. She will only TAKE from him what will benefit her.
The normal version of love, as in society, and reflected in the romantic/sexual way, is love is high regards for someone, because you think they are full of virtue you like. It is NOT about helping them, but esteeming them highly. This is the normal dating type of love. It would best not be in parents, but even now, with self-esteem teaching, it is all about valuing your children because of how special snowflakes they are, and a parent’s ability to live the life they wanted through their children. Children is a reflection of one’s ego, and when a child doesn’t go the way the parent wants, they parent sees themselves as a failure. Don’t expect to get the kind of love you seek out of romance. You only get kind words if you end up showing a ton of virtue that women can use as resources.
Women will LOVE you for who you are, because it is special and unique and stands out. They don’t GIVE love to you out of you being in need. Normally people don’t do this. You can only find this in maybe a brotherhood, a religious setting, or from parents. The world? Nope.
In my case, I have a motivation to see things be better wherever, and get meaning out of having even little victories by myself and others who can find value in what I say. Think of it as purpose driven charity. I think it is good to try to find others who get that to you, and want you to succeed. That is a rare thing in the world.
Do hang in there.
By the way, dating sites are loaded with tons of fake profiles that want you to keep buying lottery tickets. They do that. Expect the worst there.
"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.
IMHO, I think it is fairly normal and healthy to want to connect with the opposite sex. As a matter of fact, that is one purpose of us being here on planet Earth, biologically speaking.
Unfortunately, western laws have made committing to a female an extremely risky game of chance. On average, the male has everything to lose, assuming he has accumulated some assets and earns a decent wage. To a poor man, there is minimal risk of loss.
The real issue is marriage or putting yourself in a cohabiting relationship where you increase the risk of financial loss.
The Internet is the worst place to try and meet women, the competition is fierce. How are you meant to possibly appear different or “special” when thousands of men are spamming a single female ?
Realistically, you need to actually get of the couch, out of the house and meet people. More specifically actually approach women in real life (oh, the fear of rejection). There are some great books and information on dating and meeting women etc. It does take a certain knowledge, time and effort and considerable “failure” to get better with women. If you think they (women) should just accept you, for who you are…then you’re in for some serious long term pain. They call it “the game” for a good reason 😉
In general terms, if you want to get better at something, you need to get information on it, apply that information and the real important one – is to change who you are.
Most of us here are more than aware of female tendencies and the bulls~~~ they whip onto men. Therefore, we are informed, armed and are aware of their silly games…we just walk away when they carry on. Very easy to do this when you are a bachelor, not so easy, when you are living with a hormonal nut case 😉
I hope, I don’t sound like I’m preaching here, or I’m some kind of expert but if you want to have something in your life…you’ve got to study it and as a person, you have to change! I sincerely want to help, but cutting yourself completely off from women in the fear of a little emotional pain, is just a little too extreme and very unhealthy.
You’re in absolute control of your destiny, freedom and choices. If a women wont stay with you because you wont marry or live with her, wont have kids or financially support her…then that’s fine. Go out and find another one….there’s millions of them.
Go out and hit on every woman you see…get rejected, accept the reality of high failure rates…but, you’ll learn something along the way, develop and improve new skills and get better with women in general.
I don’t consider a MGTOW a reclusive, misogynistic freak, living behind closed doors. I see him as the eternal bachelor, living life as big as it gets, a James Bond, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Batman, Wolverine or George Clooney (before he married up 🙁 ) kind of guy!
Man up and don’t marry 😉
When I feel alone – I go to backpage.com and look through the ads.
And then I do cost-benefit analysis
And then I decide it’s not worth itIf you’re lonely – get roommates, but make sure they’re able to pay their rent ))
Feeling lonely for a grown man – is like demanding to have a night light in your room.
You’re all grown up now, so you should be able to get over the idea of sleeping in complete darknessproud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome
Also whenever i’m depressed i like to watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9D05ej8u-gU&list=LLLBmQ_tbqL1qo8rc–YO5wQ&index=3 Life is a wonderful mystery. Enjoy it
This was a great video, thanks clint england!
Maybe if I start dating I will wake up to the realities that it might not be all that worth worrying about dating women.
I think you are on the right path brother, after all of the work it takes to get a date, then you get to see how much per hour she will try to extract from you for the pleasure of her being in your presence, it’s disrespectful to yourself to have to pay someone to spend time with you. As Rocky would say “You’re better than that!”
DoinMyOwnThing40, thank you for starting this thread, and for having the courage to reach out. The brothers have shared an amazing amount of knowledge here and I hope this has helped you.
Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.
When I feel alone – I go to backpage.com and look through the ads. And then I do cost-benefit analysis And then I decide it’s not worth it If you’re lonely – get roommates, but make sure they’re able to pay their rent )) Feeling lonely for a grown man – is like demanding to have a night light in your room. You’re all grown up now, so you should be able to get over the idea of sleeping in complete darkness
The dating or adult services section of backpage? One fun activity to do with ads there and on Craigslist in Chrome is to right click on an image and have it search the internet for matching images, to see where else they were used, in order to see how fake the entire thing is.
"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.
Doing My Own Thing,
I love this thread. Do you know why I love it, and why it is so popular? It is because you are saying what everyone in the room is thinking. You are the ONLY one with b~~~~ enough to be transparent. Having strength is requisite for expressing weakness. The vast majority of the population are too indoctrinated to comprehend this.
There is one thing I can say with certainty: EVERYONE in the room identifies with your sentiment. That is exemplified by the number of replies to this thread.
There is ZERO shame for you desiring a woman, and desiring to be desired. These are HUMAN properties. Also, my “read” on you tells me you have a lot going for you. Case in point: most “men” are incapable of possesing AND expressing the introspection and vulnerability as you did in this thread. I am the same as you. Im an open book, and have no qualms about sharing my existential struggle. My point is: women eat this s~~~ up. They are so accustomed to lying themselves, that they can sniff a lying attitude out a mile away. And most “men” are mangina douche bags, because they dont understand how to relate to women without lying, because of the inflated expectations of the male in society. So when someone like yourself comes out, is brutally blunt and honest, it stands out.
Bottom line: your upfront, non bull s~~~ attitude, will work WONDERS on women, IF you want some form of a relationship. I believe your well equipped to land a chick if you want to. The question is if its worth the hassle. Sometimes landing a one night stand at a bar, with even a subprime girl can do wonders for your attitude.
The feelings you have are common to ALL man, irrespective of how terrible we know women to be.
Resident cynic.
My soul is sealed, my heart has healed, under my ever pressing foot lies the essence of women… DIRT.
You, sir, have written a phrase that will be my mantra. I bow to you.
Anonymous42That a woman will not GIVE a man love. She will only TAKE from him what will benefit her.
Dude! I was going to start a thread titled: “The butter cup, butter up, being played by a woman” my experience early this morning at Dunkin Doughnuts may help you grapple the illusion of loneliness, anyway I went in to purchase a lb. of coffee, the girl that served me tried to butter me with toxic clouds of I’m a NAWALT, simply by being real kind (extra friendly) and bubbly, she even called me hon, (short for Honey), She has done this before to me, I’m not stupid, I know when a girl is fishing and how they can really lay on the charm, I’m 20 years her senior. Normally in my old unmodified life (years ago) I would have aggressively called her bluff until I had exposed her game and dropped her like a rock, or persevered until the bed springs were squeaking, and the back board thumping.
I follow a protocol of thinking when I’m in these “now” uncomfortable situations. First off she’s looking for more orbiters, a free ride, wants sex, or is looking to get pregnant for personal security and prosperity via the state and its gracious laws that empower women to enslave a man, with the penalty of imprisonment for not conforming to this social paradigm, a social compact to utterly plunder and destroy a man.
By the tattoos and her persona I could see straight through her game; she figures here’s a guy that seems polite and confident, looks like he could pull me from this place and to a better life (a prince) ((work horse)).
I stepped into my time machine and saw the future, I was horrified! Who knows how batty she is by her 5th grade tattoos, and just how many c~~~s did she swallowed in her life’s travels? She’s obviously an expert in manipulation by offering comfort and companionship by calling me hon with big eyes and puppy dog head tilt, her body language was in play and was saying lets be friends.
She is absolutely a grenade posing as a flower. They always do that! They fish for any heart flesh they can snag (it’s our achilles heel). By the introduction of attention, special treatment, and comforting a man, they start spinning their web of deceit and manipulation. In no time at all she could have a guy stumbling over his own dick to serve her ever increasing and demanding will.
If she could read my mind during her man fishing expedition, I’d have a slap mark on my face for scorning her promiscuity, and exposing her true intentions. It’s never about “you”, it’s a symphony of manipulation to control you for her own ends.
Our social environment with all it’s molestations under feminism, and the laws that followed, have abandoned the common man’s needs and relegated him to a lower status as a work horse, done so either directly, or indirectly through established tyrannical law.
LONELY? Ask all the men in prison from the deeds a woman if their lonely?
Dude, use dudeism and take it easy, make green tea, get beers or whatever, or even better – make your own project, or your own vodka, become a mad scientist/chemist.
pop in good music, jack off or watch a movie and make nice dinner, and it goes way. Get out to Nature more often etc.
I mean find what you like to do and do it. Stay positive and relax, do something etc.
I don’t have many true “friends till the end” and sometimes get depressingly lonely. You are not “alone” in that. It happens yes, make it go trough you and I hope you find serenity in life. Life still is worth having, even with all the bumps, bad days make good days shine brighter.
If you consider dating, I especially liked Batouttahell’s
Dating for 7 years, ultimatum was kids and marriage or a break-up.
Is a good read Batouttahell’s Dating 7 years until ultimatum !@Tower I was reading and a line popped in my mind “Im here for the coffee, you can leave the monkey.”
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Oh and we both got 336 likes, you see, not only we feel like s~~~ at the same time, but we get the same support numbers hehe.
This few days I was depressed as f~~~, and angry even.
Both days are cold and raining, I didn’t take a walk to the lake I usually do. I went to sleep early yesterday and felt like s~~~.
I don’t drink alone or often at all, so I was sober and bored to hell, I spent some money today just because, and well here I am. Rocking in 🙂
Just now got a nice cup of tea, went in to the forums, music in my Pioneers and I feel better now.
I really do hope you will press on dude and have if not a good day, then a relaxing/busy evening depending on your liking.
Im a virgin at an age of 27, and the harder years for me, when I felt like s~~~, were 20-25 years.
We are programmed to feel loneliness, to search for a mate and make a family. I understood many things since I was 12 years old and more with years.
I burned out on life at the age of 18, I felt uninterested in everything. Then My father died and it struck me really bad. I was depressed and made bad decisions, long story short Im still here.
PS. you know, while typing this I felt a sudden urge to play Paintball. I haven’t for 4 years now. Damn. This weekend will be perfect.
Inspire yourself and try things out man, If you feel like it.
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Anonymous0[…] So yeah, I want to date, but it will be so difficult for me, just as it is for ANY guy these days. Maybe if I start dating I will wake up to the realities that it might not be all that worth worrying about dating women.
Other posters have mentioned Meetup as a good place to socialize with both men and women. Choose a big group based around some fun activity, and get to know people in a setting where you already have something in common with them.
Another suggestion:
I do a lot of dancing. Hence my username. It’s an activity that puts 20 or 30 women in my arms per night for 5 minutes each. Also, you can tell a lot about the women by the way they dance with you. Some dance as though they’re on a stage and you’re just there to admire them; others work to mirror you and work with you as a team. It’s a nice way to filter out the narcissists early on and focus on the ones who are genuinely trying to relate to you as a partner.
It takes a little investment of time to learn a dance or two. But every mid-sized town or larger has a Swing dancing club or Country and Western dancing circuit. Often they’ll offer group classes for cheap. Some types of dancing attract younger folks, some types attract older folks; so you can find something right for your age. If there’s a society or club of dancers, then you can take your time and get to know the same women over weeks and months. And of course with the dancing there’s a level of fun and intimacy that you can’t get from other activities. And it makes you put your best foot forward (groom yourself a little bit, show some manners).
It’s not for everyone, of course. But it takes a fairly grueling activity (random dating) and turns it into fun. Go out dancing a couple nights a week, and you’ll feel like you’re a member of a party circuit. Also, once you get good at dancing, looks are less important. You’ll get some respect for your dancing skills above and beyond your looks and small talk skills.
You generally won’t find dancing clubs on Meetup. Better to do a web search for your town or city.
Anyway, it’s just one more suggestion among many.
A greet suggestion btw, I still didn’t find a wish for it (and I was offered it personally before by a girl i knew, first class was for free), but it can be fun, learning and becoming better etc. good activity to be honest.
[…] dancing.
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I’m about your age. I’m married with a daughter in elementary school. My relationship with my wife has become progressively worse since the beginning. I put her through college in her early thirties. My parents have supported us generously by providing their time and money. My wife bitches and complains about my parents and myself frequently. She demonstrates no gratitude towards my parents and I, takes everything for granted and always expects more. The wedding, the birth of our daughter, and her graduating and getting a well-paid job after her graduation come to mind as singular events, after which things got worse. I expect to be kicked to the curb shortly afterwards if I lose my job. Her three main deadly sins, as it were, are wrath, pride, and envy. Prior to our marriage, she hid them well. I also initially took her for a saver rather than a spender because, before we met, she had saved up a really nice sum from her own hard-earned money for a down payment for a home. Now her saving tendencies are much weaker, and she’s always coming up with new ways of spending cash as she’s looking forward to my parents dying and getting her hands on the inheritance. Instead of exercising and losing some of the fat she always complains about, she sits at the computer doing online shopping.
Should our marriage end in divorce or my becoming a widower, I am determined never to remarry or even enter into a serious relationship. My sex drive has lost much of its intensity after the beginning of the fifth decade of my life. I doubt I would be in any shape to fall in love again for a long time if my wife and I got divorced. I suspect – and hope – I have lost the ability. Back in my 20s when I was single, I had freedom but was unable to truly appreciate it because I lacked adequate first-hand experience in how much of a drain a relationship can be. A bad relationship is much, much worse than being alone. And my marriage is much better than those of some of my divorced friends had with their insane wives. Even at best, relationships are a trade-off after the euphoric phase in the beginning. But that’s something your pair-bonding instincts don’t know or care about because they weren’t formed by an intelligent consideration of your best interests. Their only function is to get you into a relationship to replicate your DNA and keep its carriers alive in co-operation with their mother as long as it is necessary.
I love my daughter more than anything. I would hate to become alienated from her. But I can already see how my wife, who has no qualms whatsoever about screaming the most hateful things she can come up with at me in front of our child, is increasingly exposed to a harmful example of how a husband and a father can be treated in a family. I live under a jurisdiction where alimony is practically unheard-of and the division of marital property is in the vast majority of cases a simple 50/5o split. My main economic concern is the possibility of my wife using our daughter as an instrument of blackmail to get more money in addition to court-ordered child support and whatever reasonable voluntary contributions by myself. For these reasons, I plan to soldier on as many years as I can when our daughter is still a minor. When she is older and more independent, she’s probably going to be harder to use as a tool against me, should my potentially then ex-wife decide to do so.
I know you know about the perils of marriage and common law marriage. But you should also know that if you start a relationship with a woman in order to rescue you from your emotional wasteland, it will be extremely hard to break up with her even if you clearly see the red flags.
Here is a video I found, that is something to think about:
"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.
Great video Richard, the first few minutes were slow but he had a lot of great advice, thank you for the share,
I’ve already shared this today but for some reason this Spetsnaz video really hit home for me,
Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.
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