I am Losing It. I am Not Doing Well.

[WolveParticipant 191]

Wandering MGHOW wrote:

Perfect timing for this thread. I was feeling a void in my life in the past few weeks/months and I realized that it was the embrace of a woman. Not going to lie, I miss that. Not just that, but I also have a hard time finding male friends in real life too. Like most members here, I have a rare INTJ personality type, which makes finding companions (male or female) more difficult than 98% of the population. Reading some of the responses here though, I am reminded of why women are just not a possibility. It was all a fairy tale from day one, true love does NOT exist. I kind of miss the “love” and “excitement” of being around a woman who you share feelings with, but being reminded that it is temporary is all I needed to snap out of it. It still doesn’t fix my problem of male companionship. I don’t really have any friends, I have acquaintances that I text every now and then, but nobody I could call a true friend. I had some of those in the past, at least that’s what I thought, but you would be shocked if you knew how badly I’ve been scorned by them. I could sense their jealousy, their anger, etc. but never felt they would betray me. Boy was I wrong. Some men are worse than women, but I guess you can’t really blame them for being conditioned by the feminist society that we live in. It has me thinking if we are TRULY alone in this world. Females just use men for their own agenda, and men can be just as spiteful as females. So who or what is a real/true friend? Lately I even wonder if my dog loves me or if he just licks me/wags his tail because he thinks I’ll give him a treat for behaving nicely. I’ve definitely been feeling the loneliness lately but I guess its better to be lonely than to have fake or temporary companionship. Or is it? I don’t even know anymore. I think it would be cool if we could PM each other on this site to maybe try and make some friends in real life. Like Key Master said earlier, We really don’t have anyone in our corner. Life for a man is like being in a boxing match against the terrifying champ with nobody in your corner to lift you back up when you get hit.

There are true friends in life I know it because I have a few, I have went through heaven and hell with them but if someone is really your friend you don’t have to be in doubt just go through the hard times and see who is left those are your real friends. or a short trick of saying something that is against the norm in your culture you know strange and see who over the next few days tries to get to you (in a negative way) and who tries to help you or accepts you as you are.
But above all, YOUR DOG LOVES YOU NO MATTER WHAT! Even if you don’t give him or her food for a day they won’t stop wagging their tail they will just be sad that they didn’t get food this is why you see they love you and not just the food (don’t take their food away though dogs feel sad when you do they can starve) there are people out there that will stick with you through thick and thin.
I hope this helps I just wish you the best with your problems.

[avillaxParticipant 280]

I’ve been dealing with the same problem myself but then I understand something:

Idealization : We believe we’re going to find a ‘different’ woman who will give us sex, love and make us happy. Based on my experience this is not possible, it is a unicorn, even married couples don’t have sex, I heard from a psychologist that the worst kind of loneliness is the loneliness you get by being in a relationship that has turned loveless and tedious, you have to deal with that person’s demons and not receiving sex nor love anymore, that’s absolute loneliness.

So when I’m feeling this way I understand that my objective is to try to be happy with myself and myself only.

I think maybe that’s the problem of being too intelligent, perhaps is a problem of opening my eyes and being aware:

 

When I was a kid I wanted to get married – it never happened

When I was a teenager and before my 30’s I wanted to live with a partner without marrying – it never happened

Then I wanted a live in partner to practice white tantric sex to achieve enlightenment – it never happened

So every purpose related to a relationship is lost for me now, I don’t want marriage, I don’t want kids, so the point of having a woman is pointless because I even know that I can’t expect women to give me sex or love when I needed, only Palmela can in that sense, that’s just the way of the world, in the end, I know this is not my first existence on this earth, I have been around in other lives, married in other lives, had children in other lives. I have a higher purpose now, if it is too much to handle, invest your time on learning to meditate.

[AFTParticipant 2722]

avillax wrote:

the problem of being too intelligent, perhaps is a problem of opening my eyes and being aware

I agree 100%, IGNORANCE TRULY IS BLISS.

Sometimes I feel f~~~ my logic and pragmatism, but they’re what keep me safe, one thing to follow a feel good fuzzy emotional feeling, another to keep myself safe and well.

Endurance is far more important than happiness, good things come and go but you’re ability to endure through the tough times and be CONTENT, has been the key, for me anyway.

When the war cemeteries are half full of the corpses of dead conscripted women, only then will women have earned the right to speak of equality. Sidecar “A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do.” - Bob Dylan

[Anonymous 0]

Wandering MGHOW wrote:

Perfect timing for this thread. I was feeling a void in my life in the past few weeks/months and I realized that it was the embrace of a woman. Not going to lie, I miss that. Not just that, but I also have a hard time finding male friends in real life too. Like most members here, I have a rare INTJ personality type, which makes finding companions (male or female) more difficult than 98% of the population. Reading some of the responses here though, I am reminded of why women are just not a possibility. It was all a fairy tale from day one, true love does NOT exist. I kind of miss the “love” and “excitement” of being around a woman who you share feelings with, but being reminded that it is temporary is all I needed to snap out of it. It still doesn’t fix my problem of male companionship. I don’t really have any friends, I have acquaintances that I text every now and then, but nobody I could call a true friend. I had some of those in the past, at least that’s what I thought, but you would be shocked if you knew how badly I’ve been scorned by them. I could sense their jealousy, their anger, etc. but never felt they would betray me. Boy was I wrong. Some men are worse than women, but I guess you can’t really blame them for being conditioned by the feminist society that we live in. It has me thinking if we are TRULY alone in this world. Females just use men for their own agenda, and men can be just as spiteful as females. So who or what is a real/true friend? Lately I even wonder if my dog loves me or if he just licks me/wags his tail because he thinks I’ll give him a treat for behaving nicely. I’ve definitely been feeling the loneliness lately but I guess its better to be lonely than to have fake or temporary companionship. Or is it? I don’t even know anymore. I think it would be cool if we could PM each other on this site to maybe try and make some friends in real life. Like Key Master said earlier, We really don’t have anyone in our corner. Life for a man is like being in a boxing match against the terrifying champ with nobody in your corner to lift you back up when you get hit.

@Boxing4life: Nice post. And thanks to @wolve for bringing it forward.

I think it’s possible to have a social network. Not necessarily the same thing as friends or lovers. But you can have people around you.

Find an activity you like, and join an organization for it: Church, rod and gun club, sports league, book club, hiking group, wine-tasting group, Mensa, a dance club, whatever you want. Join lots of groups. A club for watching vintage sci-fi movies, a zumba class. Anything you want.

Then attend the group’s events. At each event, try to get one piece of info from each participant: their name, what they do for a living, if they have other family in the area, why they like that activity, etc. Take notes on what they say, study the notes before the next event, and then ask another question of them when you see them at the next event. And whenever someone gives you a piece of info about themselves, give them that same piece of info about yourself.

Pretty soon, you have a library of info about a bunch of other people, and they have a lot of info about you. Easy to greet people and shoot the breeze with them as you do the activities. They’re not friends; they’re acquaintances. But across the years you spend a lot of time with those same people doing things you like with them, and you get to know a lot about them. You help them with their stuff, and they help you with yours. Just keep sharing info and asking questions. Eventually some turn into friends.

The main thing is this: Don’t try to put too much on them. No one person can be everything for you. No single person can be the perfect friend, the perfect lover, the perfect companion. People turn sour when you put too many expectations on them. Instead, spread your attentions and expectations over the group as a whole, and then some people can be confidantes whereas others can be good drinking buddies, whereas others can be good for intellectual conversations, etc. Just take them as they come, and enjoy them for what they offer.

Make the entire group your friend or your lover. Just attend the events, enjoy the activity, let people cycle in and out of your life, and value people for what they offer instead of trying to lean hard on this or that individual for support. Everyone’s in the same boat–everyone’s lonely. Keep the burden on them light, don’t attach yourself to them too closely (by marrying one of them, for example), and hopefully they shouldn’t have reason to turn on you and take a bite out of you.

It works best if you keep it light, keep it fun, keep it friendly, and spread your attentions over the group as a whole over a long period of time. Rather than trying to lean hard on one individual for support and entertainment every time you see them.

Your mileage may vary, of course. But that’s how I do it.

[IGMOW (I Go My Own Way)Participant 2572]

Here is a video by Raging Golden Eagle I think that is of value:

"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.

[Jackson1888Participant 111]

Its amazing but women do not do a damn thing but drain from you. Sure you might want to have kids to pass on your legacy so to speak…but then again, if that means a women has to be in the picture (meaning you get to look forward to walking in on your ex wife sucking a 12″ black dick), I think I’ll pass…

[IGMOW (I Go My Own Way)Participant 2572]

Jackson1888 wrote:

Its amazing but women do not do a damn thing but drain from you. Sure you might want to have kids to pass on your legacy so to speak…but then again, if that means a women has to be in the picture (meaning you get to look forward to walking in on your ex wife sucking a 12″ black dick), I think I’ll pass…

It is interesting people presume passing on genetic code is leaving some sort of legacy.  What it is, is part of some genetic code of a future human, blended with that of a woman, and out pops a child that could be excellent or awful.  One can decide to try to pass on customs also, but that is no guarantee of legacy.

Want to do a legacy?  Get a lot of money and do a foundation.  Write some words that people find of value.  Design or invent something people used.  There are tons more way to have a legacy than be normal and pass on genetic code.

Ok, if one gets lucky to do a decent family, and having good kids, that can count.  But I see WAY too much people doing this thinking that alone is a legacy.  For me, to do that alone is to pass the buck on real greatness and a meaningful legacy.

"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.

[Anonymous 9]

Bro I’ve been there.  But not anymore, and at 31 with no kids, and the freedom to f~~~ a chick and leave without a care in the world is a feeling that’s priceless.

I don’t give a f~~~ about her feelings, but I’ll play along for a week or so. Never more than 2 months.

Once you cross the 2 month barrier then you may find yourself in a relationship of sorts.

Not me.

No time soon in this lifetime, and I will not let a bitch tell me what I can and can’t do with my precious time.

I hope you get out of your funk soon, because there’s not a women alive powerful enough for me to hand my freedom over to.

 

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