Breakup after 17 years not married

[MeshakParticipant 280]

I can’t speak for Spirit, but most of us learned this by going through the same s~~~ you are. Different t~~~ on a different day. Don’t even think about dating someone now. Take time to heal. If you jump into a relationship now being f~~~ed up, the relationship will be f~~~ed up.

In time, hopefully you will see the value of living the MGTOW lifestyle. Now you’re hurting and need to heal. You are starting over. I divorced after 35 years. That was 5 years ago. Basically the same s~~~, but it was not contencious. We divided everything down the middle. I can say that I’m happier that I’ve ever been.

Meshak

[Force of Nature 225Participant 93]

Welcome brother.

Sorry about the news but I’m glad you found this site. I have found this site too after having a c~~~ live with me.

You are in good company here.

[Anonymous 0]

seems like she gets all the luck

[Anonymous 0]

I’t not getting better, I regret leaving my job in the area of where we lived, its been a month I am staying in a isolated area a hour away w/family. Debating on asking for old job back and going back to that area, I doubt they will take me back, even if they did it’s going back to the memories. I feel stuck

[Anonymous 0]

Thanks guys, I just get lonely here, I just re-read all the post and hope I can figure out what to do, my life got turned upside down

[cj023Participant 723]

Step 1.. sell everything you can, even the damn dog!
Step 2.. get in your car and drive
. Head West haven’t you heard? California is full of wiskey women and gold. I like the West side of the country, I’m sure you would too! It’s time to actually BE free… 50? From what I’ve read you’re not crippled yet… but tick tock!

[cj023Participant 723]

But.. when I’m done with the las vegas/so cal lifestyle it’s either Oregon or Alaska for me…. seriously man THINGS don’t make you happy EXPERIENCES do!

[Anonymous 0]

thanks cj023, how to you do that with nothing lined up? place to stay, job etc?

[Anonymous 0]

My plan is to move in with brother in midwest, bigger city at least I can start there

[Anonymous 0]

cj023 wrote:

Head West haven’t you heard? California is full of wiskey women and gold. I like the West side of the country, I’m sure you would too! It’s time to actually BE free… 50? From what I’ve read you’re not crippled yet… but tick tock!

I always want to move out west, she went to Arizona desert,but she has a guy waiting w/house…How is this done? No joblined up and no place to live? live in my car? …tooo old 4 that

[Anonymous 0]

Can anyone tell me how they did it? Moved to another city/state without job or place to stay yet? I know it has been done, just wondering if anyone had a story of doing do succesfully

[Anonymous 0]

Man guys, this doesn’t get any easier, I thought I could live up here with my bro in Indiana, I am welcome here, but its not the answer, the room in the basement is too depressing, and I dont like the city, I am really feeling lost

[Anonymous 0]

Plan B then Plan C or D…keep your head up

[AstroParticipant 2045]

I’m 53 and almost starting over. I found out my wife of a 17 year relationship had been having an ongoing affair for a Christmas present. I now hate Christmas. I still don’t know if I am over Red Pill rage but since Christmas, I am starting to adjust. I am so poor I can’t afford to pay attention and I mean that in a literal sense but I am starting to see the positive sides. It isn’t so bad grabbing a beer from the fridge without the nagging to the side. Utility bills have dropped the lowest I have seen since the 1990’s, this helps when one is taking a financial hit. I can do what I want and be as weird as I want and I don’t have to answer to anyone but a Dachshund and a sex doll. I have made new friends here, people who I can relate to. This website has kept me going.

[AstroParticipant 2045]

NerdTunneler wrote:

Stop beating up yourself Rexmundi……She has decided and you cant force her on her decision..She decided to dump you for another c~~~, it is her decision and not your fault…She can decide to work with you in marriage but she chose otherwise..You have to accept that fact or you will be trapped in your mind…I am in a similar situation now but you cannot lose hope brother…It is her choice, and her immaturity..Let her be accountable for her actions…
Read other posts here and learn how to cope, to be thankful for what little you have…It is not the end, only the beginning of your freedom…

Damn Nerd, someone told me the same thing in February but it’s the truth. There is no need to grovel to an unfaithful c~~~ that refuses to give one a chance, it will only destroy the pride remaining. I know that in the end, Karma is a motherf~~~er.

[TBL225Participant 168]

This is one of the most heart breaking threads I’ve read on here. Definitely seek legal counsel. Definitely take everyone’s advice. AWALT. Things can only get better. You’re not alone, brother. These men will guide you, support you, and show you the way. Let the red pill begin to take effect!

[Anonymous 0]

I don’t have a legal recourse, the house is in her name…I made the mistake of looking at her facebook, even seen pics of new dude, lookslike he has been divorced, has 3 kids… I got a buddy in Ft Lauderdale, I might give that a shot, said we could split 2 bedroom apt, big downgrade in living conditions, he manages a pizzeria and drinks alot of beer. I’d have to find a job, real quick…
My brother is a Dr. he said I needed to take anti-depressants for a while. He could see the anxiety on my face, when I was there,said it was hard to watch,he wrote a script for Citalopram and Xanax. I feel more relaxed but still need to figure things out.

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

Nothing wrong with drinking beer, I do it all the time.

Get a vasectomy.

[Anonymous 0]

Oldschool wrote:

Nothing wrong with drinking beer, I do it all the time.

I know, but I am looking to get my shot together not party so much.

[MadBikerParticipant 169]

Hi Rexmundi. Welcome to the fold brother.

Most of us here have been through in one way or another what you are going through. After the bitch I was married to made me leave on threat of being reported by her to the police for a fabricated assualt allegation, I stayed near the family home for 16 years for my kids sake till they left university. Earlier this year I moved to a different country and started over.

When ever you move anywhere new you need 3 things.

A source of income. Something to do. Someoen to talk to.

The first two can be found in a job. The third is more difficult but I coached football as a hobby and here in my new country they pay me for it so I am lucky in that respect as I get all three from football coaching.

With regard to your relatioship with the woman, it’s like spilling a pint of milk. There is a f~~~ing mess on the floor and you cannot put it back into the bottle. All you can do is try to clean it up and get covered in spilled milk that will turn very smelly and very nasty very quickly, or let her do that while you walk out the door. Your choice.

With regard to medication. The horomone cortisol is produced in the body from cholesterol and is vital to healthy bodily functioning. However, it is well documented that with chronic stress and elevated cortisol levels increase the risk of depression, mental illness, and lower life expectancy.(read up on this s~~~!) Regular moderate excercise supresses the poduction of cortisol. The medication prescribed to you does not appear to reduce cortisol level, it merely turns down its volume (masks the effects). Flush the f~~~ing stuff down the toilet and start looking after your physical health, your mental health depends on it.

Good luck Brother.

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