Breakup after 17 years not married

[Anonymous 0]

Bestlifeornothing wrote:

Ok, I read this entire thread.

My advice: Cut your losses and move on. Treat your ex as if she died and is no longer living. As for what to do and what your next move is, just get up and DO SOMETHING.

It really sounds like you are unable to let go. Life hands you lemons. That’s the unfortunate reality. Move on and do something.

And once again, treat her as if she is no longer on Earth. If you have to do a mock funeral in your mind and formally do the grieving process, do that and move on.

Move on, move on, move on. There is no turning back.

You know better, now do better

Thank you for this! I am going to make is my screen saver, great advice, I am carrying a torch for no reason

[Anonymous 13]

The person you were with for a while was not who you thought she was.

You’re grieving for someone that never actually existed.

Because the person you thought she was would never do this to you, hence she wasn’t real, only in your head.

It’s ok to be sad for a time about the perceived loss in your head, but you must treat it like you woke from a dream with no way back.

Move on best way you can, cut all contact and ties.

Get out for walks, drives, think about stuff you might like to do that you never considered while with her.

And yes, it does suck.

But man, c’mon, YOU are so much better than this.

[Anonymous 0]

It does suck, I am trying to move on, I kept in touch with her to get something out of the house, It is really hard to get motivated again, put so much into something and it goes to s~~~.This area just has memories, 17 years of them.

[OldBillParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

I kept in touch with her to get something out of the house…

Seeing as you were only shacking up with the whore, albeit for seventeen years, you’ve no real claims and thus no real chance of getting anything out of the house’s equity. It’s a case of no marriage license, no formal divorce, no f~~~ing chance at getting any money.

And she’s not going to give you something out of the goodness of her heart for old times sake either. You f~~~ed up, you trusted her.

It’s long past time for you to drop this particular fantasy and move on, if only so you can completely remove her from your life all the faster.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Anonymous 0]

OldBill wrote:

Seeing as you were only shacking up with the whore, albeit for seventeen years, you’ve no real claims and thus no real chance of getting anything out of the house’s equity. It’s a case of no marriage license, no formal divorce, no f~~~ing chance at getting any money.

And she’s not going to give you something out of the goodness of her heart for old times sake either. You f~~~ed up, you trusted her.

It’s long past time for you to drop this particular fantasy and move on, if only so you can completely remove her from your life all the faster.

I did get something out of it, she sent it to me yesterday, it was half of what I wanted but a lawyer would have cost me that…

I played the fool, for sure

[Anonymous 0]

Thanks all you guys, you all have been right about everything, it was amazing she sent me a check, it brought up emotions, what else i hate since I am in Fl is everyone asking how “we” are doing, I just don’t feel like telling them what happened…Don’t look at facebook, it’s so tempting. F~~~ing holidays are gonna suck

[OldBillParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

it was half of what I wanted

Then you’re ahead of the game. Pocket your winnings and walk away.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Anonymous 0]

OldBill wrote:

Then you’re ahead of the game. Pocket your winnings and walk away.

Yup, you guys have been right all along, alot of veterans, I want to be happy again

[Anonymous 0]

So i guess this crap happens quite often

[Anonymous 0]

I will never trust a woman again, I learned a lot from this website…This whole thing was like getting hit by a car at 100mph with no seatbelts…I have to start all over, this time alone

[Anonymous 0]

Ugh, came across a bunch of old picture of her, f~~~ing hurt…I don’t want to destroy, I have to remember it was all a lie.
Tell me I am a iddy-it, I know

[Anonymous 12]

Rex, for the moment these pictures can tear you apart, stop you dead in your tracks of progress, kill any energy.
Keep them, as a reminder of days past, but keep them. In a box, to be viewed again in a year when life without her has gotten better.
When you can stand on your own feet, possibly on your own ground, then is the time to look at the past.
The lessons you learned are on the forefront of your mind anyway, present every day, so looking at pics… not a good idea.

Waste no time. Catch up, brother.
Big hug.

[Anonymous 0]

I know g-mow, s~~~ gave me a anxiety attack, I hate to feel this way, she really f~~~ed my head up.

[Anonymous 12]

You are pulling yourself out of a swamp.
Forwards, my friend, Adelante!

It is okay, 17 years are not easily shrugged off. 17 years, that is the Timespan from baby to legal adult.
the Timespan it took you from your first breath to your first time behind the wheel of a car.

Just… holy s~~~, mate.
not easy.

but can be done.
Because Yes you can. There is a s~~~ton of Road ahead of you.
One step at a time, one little bit of progress every day.
Do yourself good, each and every day.
Effort for results.

Keep it up.
She is the Past.
You are the future.

[No CountryParticipant 759]

Hits close to home man. I never moved in with her, but I was dating this woman with intentions to move in after the house was complete. I did major renovation and funded some of it. Hell even my father helped me during the process. Before completion she kicked me to the curb and 2 months later some other guy was living there. Women are evil and cold blooded. They do not care about you at all.

[Anonymous 0]

I know that bro, f~~~ing all bulls~~~ lies, cold blooded for sure. Can really f~~~ you up…soul sucking

[Anonymous 0]

I SUCK…I made the mistake of looking at her facebook, she posted all these old pics of my dog and her, she was so beautiful back then…I went to Home Depot today, I havent been there in a while, I was there daily with her getting stuff for the house, it is like she is still with me…why do I still carry feelings for her? she is out west now in chad’s house, she got so much stuff i forgot

[Anonymous 12]

Are those feelings for her? As a person?
Or are those memories of a fake life you lived.
Home depot kind of places are cool – i go there more and more often, to get what is needed in order to fix up my own shiiiet

[Anonymous 0]

Anonymous wrote:

Are those feelings for her? As a person?
Or are those memories of a fake life you lived.
Home depot kind of places are cool – i go there more and more often, to get what is needed in order to fix up my own shiiiet

I don’t know my friend, I guess her…It kills me to think 17 years were fake.

[Anonymous 0]

Sho look good though,she was standing on his harley

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