I struck up a chat with a woman over a drink once. Chance meeting. When it was time to go, she said “aren’t you going to ask me for my number?”.
“Aren’t you going to ask me for my number.”
“No, actually. When I want your number….. I will TELL you that I want it.”
Now she looks at me like I’m arrogant. But she’s too arrogant to just give it and say “please call me” when she wants. Instead she wants a man to ask — to fuel her already over-inflated ego, and put her in the position of being able to say no. Even when she wants to go out with you, she STILL wants to be the one to say “yes” or reject you.
“I was wondering if you would ask me to the prom.”
“Aren’t you going to ask me to dance?.”
“Aren’t you going to offer to buy me a drink?”
“I wonder when he’s going to propose.”
The entire concept of “asking women” actually makes me sick.
FIRST RULE OF SALES: “If you give someone the chance to say NO….. they usually WILL”.
So only a f~~~ing retard ASKS women out.
• Is it OK if I call you some time?
• Can I buy you dinner some time?
• Can I maybe get your number?
• Will you marry me?
Doing it that way is a virtue guarantee you just INCREASED your chances of hearing no (even though that’s what she says she wants) because it triggers in her head that you require her permission and it flicks a switch in her hindbrain that says “what do I want this guy for? I can do MUCH better than him”. Asking her for permission is how a woman gets her jollies. She wants to be able to tell herself – and her “friends” — “This guy asked me out”. That’s the only reason a woman wants you to ask her. To inflate her perceived value.
Even a “PUA” will tell you to “approach women”……. “approach women”……. “approach women”……. “approach women”…..”approach approach approach!!!”. Dude, you approach the edge of a cliff. You approach an alligator pit. You don’t “approach” a woman. She’s just a woman. Not a dentist’s chair.
Approaching women and “asking them out” is the dumbest thing a PUA ever invented. You can just look at her until she notices and then motion her over with a wave of your finger. BOOM! No “approaching” required. Now women are approaching YOU. Why don’t they ever teach that in PUA school?
“Come over here” and “put your number in my phone” is far more effective – and works better – than asking her.
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NEVER, NEVER, NEVER *ASK” a woman out. TELL her she should go out with you. TELL her you’re going out and she should join. TELL her to give you her number. And the YOU decide if you want to go out with her, YOU do. She does not. You don’t need to ask a woman’s permission – for anything . Ever.
…. especially to buy her a drink, or pay attention to her. That’s not HER decision anyway!. It’s yours.
Sound advice.
The point is that you can not start it off by making a move that will send her the message that you are the one seeking her. Asking her out to a restaurant, a movie, etc… is doing just that.
Elric Greenstone 4 years, 3 months ago.
