When I got divorced, my main goal was to achieve a financial amputation from someone who would not work, would not manage money I gave her responsibly, and refused to go to school, or otherwise make any effort to contribute to the financing of the life she wanted. I set up a corporation for her with a her own corporate retirement account. After the divorce, she blew that money taking her kid from previous marriage to an amusement park. I had tried over and over again to explain tax law, retirement savings, investing, compounding interest etc etc to her. All it ever did was p~~~ her off, and she didn’t hold back in letting me know it. The day the divorce was final, I had one month’s rent and a truck. She had cost me over 100k in the 2 years we were married.
Fast forward 15 years: I am set to retire anytime. I haven’t answered her calls in over 10 years, but she hasn’t stopped calling. Recently, as people around her that are her age start to talk about retirement plans and leaving or cutting back on their careers for health reasons, it’s started to dawn on her that she has zero savings, zero property and zero assets. She’s made plenty over the years, but has blown through all of it it like a drunk toddler. She’s getting scared now. She wont admit it, but I can hear it in her voice.
No coincidence that her messages have suddenly become less threatening and more friendly lately. A couple weeks ago, she even apologized for something she did during our marriage. That is a giant shift in behavior. It has NEVER occurred before. The only problem is that she apologized for something she didn’t actually do (at least not to me). Maybe she’s confusing me with someone else she screwed over. Or maybe she’s just making crap up hoping I’ll bite. But that is the hallmark sign that she will say ANYTHING to get back on the payroll.
Before we were married, she knew exactly what she needed to say to get on that payroll, and she said it. All of it, every last word of it was lies. In a recent message, she mentioned how sad it was that she was on friendly terms with all her other ex boyfriends/husband, except for me. That may be true, but the reality is that none of them earn as much as me, and none were ever as generous with it as I was. Any interest she has in being my friend is based on money, exactly the way her interest in marrying me was.
She’s going to continue to get the wall of silence. But I suspect she will eventually show up at my door, in the middle of the night, with some terrible, tragic sob story for me to rescue her from. At that point, she will get a closed door, a police response, and a restraining order.
I will sooner see her homeless and hungry under a bridge before I give her another damned nickel.
Wow, like holy s~~~. I did not know your ex was such a walking disaster; mine was close minus a kid. I thought I was alone in falling for such a blatant song and dance.
I too married a walking Barbie doll (only with red hair and DD – I have a thing for red heads). Like yourself, 2 years and done. The laws are a little different where I live, but I got out with about $2k in bugger off money plus my legal expenses; less than 8k total. I had a paid for house at the time; but we did not live in it which saved me.
You can never be friends with an ex. Period. The second I knew it was done I promised her that I’d literally bankrupt us both and give it all to the lawyers; happily. I was camp outside my lawyers the next morning. I filed first. If there was a kid, I’d have gone for 100% custody. These gold diggers are after easy money; if they know there will be a huge fight most will settle for pennies on the dollar.
My ex claimed that “I treated her so well that she felt bad about herself” during our marriage. Well during the divorce, she got treated the way she always dreamed of. In fact, I later heard 3rd hand that she was getting the vagina tingles when my lawyer was circling the proverbial wagons.
When dealing with a women, I learned, you are statistically likely to get the best results for a given situation when you start off hostile in all legal proceeding. But, as in all thing, your mileage will vary.
Like yourself, I’m toying with retirement; but I’m late 30s. I figure 50, God willing, I will retire from practice.
I live a frugal life and enjoy my time off. Women are exclusively for dalliances, when travelling under an assumed name. My ex is 40. I have the best revenge; as the wall does its work I get to bang women almost half her age.
- Marriage is described as an institution. You would have to be crazy to be commited to it. -"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not people or things" Albert Einstein
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