What’s going in girls mind during No contact period ?

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

It sounds like a woman trying to understand why a man would ghost her rather than begging to get back into her good graces and pussy.

Phrases like “no contact period” and “post breakup period” are, at worst, PUA bulls~~~ (How long are you guys gonna wait before you call your babies? Eleven days!) and at worst, something you’d read in Cosmopolitan.

I am most definitely calling bulls~~~ on this thread.

[VarunParticipant 2981]

Razor92 wrote:

My question is what is going on in her mind right now and how long should I continue NC period? 14 days, 21 days or 30 days?

It is impossible for us to say whats going on in her mind unless one of us have telepathic powers. This question shouldn’t be your concern.

I had the exact same problem you did… though there weren’t any exes involved. My no contact period was about 2 months..after which I lost my patience and contacted her. Earlier, she was telling me “you should leave”. Now she told me “I don’t want a a relationship (because I found someone better?)” Later I found out she did find a new boyfriend in college. (I never went to college, sounds fishy doesnt it?). Even tough I never wanted to beieve she couldn’t be this sweet little angel, I couldn’t escape the truth. I chose to go my own way. You can chose to either look for a new girl, or go your own way. We won’t force you to give up on them We never force people. We just show you the truth behind everything women-related. It is your choice whether you want to live in reality, or continue living in the dream.

I promise you one thing…once you break the NC period, its NOT good news on the other side.

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Varun wrote:

I promise you one thing…once you break the NC period, its NOT good news on the other side.

100% agreed. I’ve learnt this one the hard way and got the merits badges (took me a few times) to prove it.

But one thing is certain when I have never ever contacted them again and they suddenly come back like a sweet little pussy cat, they forget when I remember the complete asshole they’ve been, there is nothing more magical more powerful,than to look into her eyes as she looks back all doe’ee and ready for the kiss and you say “I’m just not attracted to you anymore, in fact you are below the standard I date now.” And just walk away. Best moment ever.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Stargazer wrote:

It sounds like a woman trying to understand why a man would ghost her rather than begging to get back into her good graces and pussy.

Phrases like “no contact period” and “post breakup period” are, at worst, PUA bulls~~~ (How long are you guys gonna wait before you call your babies? Eleven days!) and at worst, something you’d read in Cosmopolitan.

I am most definitely calling bulls~~~ on this thread.

I will say this, if this guy is indeed from Pakistan and English is his second language his grammar and structure are pretty bloody good. I should know, I’m anglosaxon and I have worked in India and Pakistan.

I’m calling bulls~~~ on this thread.

[Razor92Participant 41]

One thing I notice about her in our initial chats that she was an attention seeker and wants to be prominent in her group. I thought it was normal. She told me that random guys gives her weird stares and strangers sent her messages on FB which she didn’t reply. I was fine with that.

After breakup I realized I was just another guy for her although we go on a day trip together and couple of days celebrated her birthday on which she said to me that I owe my life to you ,but very next day she again discusses about her ex with me and I realized that this is the thing which my gut is telling is wrong about that girl.

I was so blindly in love (or lust) with her that I oversee those manipulative techniques and just a rebound guy for her.

Right now I am on my winter vacations so I don’t have my friends over here and classes which will keep me busy and put her out of my mind. She sure will see me in the university but my attitude would be like she is totally nonexistent and I am having a great time with my friends.

DeepInThought wrote:

If you are indeed from Pakistan and of the Muslim faith and she is as well, sounds like she is lining herself up for an honour killing because no Pakistani family would tolerate a female acting like this. Or I am calling bulls~~~ on this thread now.

This is the thing which I smelled fishy. How can one’s parent allow her daughter to have a boyfriend for three years? Parents try to get their daughter married as soon as they found a groom for her. Heck, we don’t tell our parents that we are dating a girl for such a long period and we introduce them to our parents as friends because elders of our society frown upon boyfriend and girlfriend concept. Two of my best friends were of the view that she is a big liar and taking advantage of you. There is no such thing as an ex and even if there is, why is she telling you about him?

P.S. we both live in urban areas and our family are educated. Even there is arrange marriage but girl’s and boy’s choice is considered very much.

the road wrote:

If I was still blue pill and in deep with a woman, I would be full of hesitation to just up and leave without a fight. The reason why is because I know that I would have been emotionally attached still. Not something that I like to admit but I’m being honest.

There is an Arabic Proverb i.e. Ask the experienced rather than the learned. You guys are in your 40s and 50s. You had been a blue pill and being in my place where I am right now. Instead of giving me fake hopes that she would come back after No contact and we would start a new relationship like our relationship websites, you are showing me harsh reality of girls, the relationship future with that girl and how to save myself and live my own life. I respect your opinion and you are respected MGTOW but I am reading all the replies and most of them are of the idea that it will turn out ugly in the end so I should dump her now, find some other girl and focus on me.

No doubt I am emotionally attached to her and we were both addicted to each other (she told me too) but if I don’t take this step now, what will happen? She will again try to contact me and if I cave in, we will again be dating then after a month or couple. She again start showing her true colors and I would be the one devastated in the end and it will surely affect my semester and god forbidden I might flunk that one. Secondly that girl is not a marriage type as narwhal said

narwhal wrote:

you mentioned getting married…do you really know what it means to be married? What’s in it for you, and what’s in it for you? Once that contract is signed, she has the right to treat you like s~~~, go sleep around with other guys, blame it on you, then divorce you taking have of everything plus a big chunk of your future income if you have kids…and the world will love her for it while it despises you.

[Razor92Participant 41]

Stargazer wrote:

It sounds like a woman trying to understand why a man would ghost her rather than begging to get back into her good graces and pussy.

Phrases like “no contact period” and “post breakup period” are, at worst, PUA bulls~~~ (How long are you guys gonna wait before you call your babies? Eleven days!) and at worst, something you’d read in Cosmopolitan.

I am most definitely calling bulls~~~ on this thread.

As Plautus said, “No man is wise enough by himself.” You must be in your 30s or 40s and that is almost double of my age. You have been in my place once or several times, learned the lesson and become MGTOW. I am in early 20s and this is my first relationship in which I got serious otherwise I keep girls at arm’s length. Whenever girl starts showing mood swings I left her with some excuse because I have already so much problems in my life that I don’t have time to handle hers. I never said “I love you” to any girl before the last one. I know my charms I can make a girl fix a date with me within a week but I feel that’s wrong to give someone fake hope and build a relationship on a lie

I found MGTOW recently and it showed me how to deal with girls and be a man!

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Okay seriously now, this is the most absurd post I’ve ever read. This needs to go in the Kitty Litter and @razor92 per your quote “ask the experienced rather than the learned.” Well from one experienced campaigner who’s been in the trenches of life let me give you a succinct quote “don’t bulls~~~ a bulls~~~ter.”

I’m done with this post it’s absolute rubbish, you aren’t Pakistani and you are just a troll talking s~~~ now.

[Razor92Participant 41]

I am telling you the truth. This is really a f~~~ed up scenario in which I seriously don’t know what to do before talking to you guys. I have never been this much in relationships. That’s why my best-friends were of the view she is a liar and using me for her own advantage. Neither can I bring that girl here so you can probe her about the story nor I can make my friend come here to testify for me but this is the reality.

[narwhalParticipant]

Hey Razor, I do agree with the 100% no contact ever as everyone else is preaching, but understand how that can be very difficult to accept when you have all those emotions running around. Here is a slightly different way of looking at that.

You’ve identified quite a few characteristics that make her an unacceptable person to date. Things that you don’t like. Those things must change before you could date her again. She almost must come to the conclusion that this changes on her own, you can’t tell her, or else it will not be genuine. She must clearly demonstrate that she’s changed, and that takes time. How many months (years?) must she demonstrate this changed behavior before you can be sure it’s real?

Write all this down and re-read (or keep it in your head if you can) it whenever you’re tempted to compromise and start pursuing her again.

I did this with my ex-wife and originally found it to be 2 1/2 years before my ex could possible be someone I could have a relationship with. You can’t wait that long doing nothing, so you get on with your life. It’s been around 6 years now, and although I still find my wife attractive, she has not changed her ways much and I have no real interest, has remarried, and that 2 1/2 years has grown to about 7 years minimum. She isn’t going to change anyway, she has no reason too. Even if she gets a divorce, it’s easier to find some other guy who will accept her crap then try and change for me…especially since she probably doesn’t even realize what needs to change and might not want to change if she did.

Basically, when all that adds up, you end up with exactly what the other guys are telling you. No contact (or minimal) for forever. Eventually, you may find you have no emotional attachment and you can be friendly around her without any fear of falling in her traps, but that’s along ways away, and shouldn’t really be a goal to begin with.

I apply the similar criteria to anyone else I meet, before I get emotionally attached. I would love to get emotionally attached and in some one, but that doesn’t change reality, it doesn’t change the math. It is what it is, end of story.

So yea, you’re still emotionally attached and that sucks. The only way to get past that is by using your head to keep in touch with reality…and time.

Ok. Then do it.

[NerevarParticipant 8040]

DeepInThought wrote:

Varun wrote:

I promise you one thing…once you break the NC period, its NOT good news on the other side.

100% agreed. I’ve learnt this one the hard way and got the merits badges (took me a few times) to prove it.

But one thing is certain when I have never ever contacted them again and they suddenly come back like a sweet little pussy cat, they forget when I remember the complete asshole they’ve been, there is nothing more magical more powerful,than to look into her eyes as she looks back all doe’ee and ready for the kiss and you say “I’m just not attracted to you anymore, in fact you are below the standard I date now.” And just walk away. Best moment ever.

Damn. I heard the mic drop after your last sentence. Awesome reply, man!

"One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

[VarunParticipant 2981]

Razor92 wrote:

I am telling you the truth. This is really a f~~~ed up scenario in which I seriously don’t know what to do before talking to you guys. I have never been this much in relationships. That’s why my best-friends were of the view she is a liar and using me for her own advantage. Neither can I bring that girl here so you can probe her about the story nor I can make my friend come here to testify for me but this is the reality.

I know what’s going through. Even though you wanted to leave her, you can’t. Its called Attachment Disorder. 3 years is a long time; so no wonder you are attached to her.

If I were you, I would seek professional help. It is best you talk to a mentor or someone close to you (someone elderly and educated). That is the best way.

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

[experiencedParticipant]

Sarcasm for communicastrated:
Whatever you do, don’t contact your phone company and pay a little extra to have her incoming calls and texts PRE blocked and! dropped.
That would make sense.
Prolong your agony by not blocking them, this way you keep rejuvenating all those neurons that remember the her that doesn’t exist in reality(copyright Brainpilot).
You don’t want to get past this, you don’t want to move on, you don’t want to get over her do you?
Roll around in the quagmire and while you’re at it remember, “self pity is a luxury to be indulged in and treasured”.
Both men and women young and old will respect you for squandering your thoughts and time and generally being distracted by her in everything else you do.
I look forward to seeing your posts days, weeks, months, years, decades from now, with no improvement in sight.
Also GREAT IDEA TO LISTEN TO EVERYTHING SHE SAYS.
IT’S ALL THE TRUTH.
SHE IS SAYING IT FOR YOUR WELL BEING.
Also tigers don’t change their stripes so let her mental problems drag you down lower than you can imagine or hope to ever recover from.

THERE! All the above was sarcasm to get through to you!
You know what you have to do so……………….DO IT!
S~~~ and get off the pot!
I hope this helps you.

And by the way if she comes back in ANY given amount of time, you don’t even talk to her. I don’t give a damn if she looks like Morgan Fairchild in her prime and has supposedly become Mother Theresa in her mentality. TIGERS DON’T CHANGE THEIR STRIPES, SHE HAD HER CHANCE AND SHE…………SHE! BLEW IT, NOT YOU.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Razor92Participant 41]

Thank you everyone for advising me on this issue. Finally I blocked her on FB, whatsapp and deleted her number. Last week was a tough one for me. But I start focusig on me and goals, doing things which I used to do when I was single. I realized that I have low self esteem so I started working on it. Started planning to achieve my life goals. I wish I dont see her in college and be happy among my friends. Thank you and you wont be seeing me here for the time being till I dont have any feelings even if I see her 🙂 deleted our memories too

[mgtow_85Participant 752]

How long you should continue the No Contact period?

How about…FOREVER????

Give this bitch the old c~~~-punt, stop letting her live in your head rent-free, and move the f~~~ on with your life. It’s what every MGTOW would recommend.

If you are unable to let her go because your dick still gets hard at the thought of her and you can’t control your pheromones, then this is definitely the wrong site for you.

[Ricardo (Shadow)Participant 12]

DUDE your asking a simple fuki g question it’s not a fuking s~~~ test she forcing you to marry her dude she doesn’t want to continue to comit to you without knowing she has you by the b~~~~ so fir security reasons she wants you to commit to marriage

[Razor92Participant 41]

I left her a long time ago ignoring all type of manipulative s~~~s she could use on me. She gave this much experience and exposure that I found 2 other girls and know how to control such type of bitches and when to walk out from such toxic relationships.

[Anonymous 1]

Razor92 wrote:

I found 2 other girls and know how to control such type of bitches

Why do you want to control any bitch?

I’d be a lion tamer if I didn’t know one of these creatures could turn around and rip my head off at will.

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

What goes through a woman’s mind? It goes like this.

Guy: I love you
C~~~: You love me (not I love you, or love you too)

Guy: can I have your number, we can get together?
C~~~: He wants me (not, yeah sure, or like him back)

So she’s probably thinking about, other men who wants her.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[Razor92Participant 41]

Not I dont need to control them but how to deal with them. If she tries to dominate me I f~~~ing show her my attitude and she remains cool with me. I dont take a s~~~ from girls now. Its her decision to stay or leave and choice of fidelity depends upon her.

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

MGTOWmonkey aka No More Fucks To Give wrote:

Dude your in the middle of a classic s~~~ test s~~~ storm,put on your gear and exit to the left! Dealing with genuinely good people is not suppose to be hard…..this is hard….she’s no good.

Well said.

Razor92 wrote:

She said that I should leave her because I am wasting my time with her.

That’s excellent advice.

Not I dont need to control them but how to deal with them. If she tries to dominate me I f~~~ing show her my attitude and she remains cool with me. I dont take a s~~~ from girls now. Its her decision to stay or leave and choice of fidelity depends upon her.

Why would you even want to be in a relationship with someone who’d try to dominate you?

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

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