What’s going in girls mind during No contact period ?

[Razor92Participant 41]

Hey,
This is my first post over here. So, I and my girlfriend had a little rough patch couple of days ago. I sensed that she has still feelings for her ex (we are together for three and a half months, whereas she was with her ex for 3 years mostly long distance relationship) because she was worried that he’s returning back to our country for vacations. So, to make her think clear I told her that we’ll have to wait long if we want to get married because it will take time to finish my studies and go after better opportunities. She said that I should leave her because I am wasting my time with her. If we are meant to be, we will be together. I pleaded her that I’ll stay if she’s comfortable with waiting for me for 10 minutes but she said just go. So, I left.

She blocked me that night on whatsapp but saw she unblocked me when I woke up in the morning. Later that day, she again added me to her contact and updated the status “Et tu, Brutus? “. I didn’t respond that time but later in the evening I sent her a quote picture which says “A little space, time and distance can often just what a relationship needs to bloom at its best.” She read it at that very moment but didn’t respond.

Yesterday, it had been 7 days of no contact from me. Yesterday I talked to her because she called me and asked about me. I thought she realized her mistake but I was wrong. I was talking to her in a light mood then asked about what happened with your ex and she said that I denied his proposal and I don’t want anyone. Go away and I left with bye reply.

My question is what is going on in her mind right now and how long should I continue NC period? 14 days, 21 days or 30 days?

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

boy did you come to the wrong place.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[Razor92Participant 41]

@uchibenkei

Inexperienced in dating and relationship. Its my first time I got in this dating s~~~. Want to take red pill and leave this blue pill.

[narwhalParticipant]

You are asking the wrong question. You are assuming you should continue to play games with her, and you shouldn’t. It’s quite simple. If you want to spend time with her, tell her so and what conditions need to be met in order for that to happen. If she doesn’t want that, then walk away….actually do it, not just a threat.

And just to be clear, the games she’s playing about telling you to go away, stay, blocking you, unblocking you…it’s all manipulation. This isn’t a temporary thing, it won’t go away, especially since you’re showing her that you’re willing to put up with it and participate in her games.

If this were me, I wouldn’t bother with any of this mess. I have no interest in drama.

Ok. Then do it.

[Razor92Participant 41]

Thanks @narwhal

Brief and concise reply.
How can I develop the type of mentality of “my way or highway”?

[hellraiderParticipant 2837]

For the rest OF ETERNITY.

[narwhalParticipant]

Read the material on this website, evaluate to see if it makes sense, and then absorb what you find to be true.

There are also books out there about boundaries. One is actually called “Boundaries”. It has a Christian bent to it, so if that’s not your thing, find something else.

The reality is that we area all conditioned to behave and believe a certain way, when the truth is actually quite different. For example, you mentioned getting married…do you really know what it means to be married? What’s in it for you, and what’s in it for you? Once that contract is signed, she has the right to treat you like s~~~, go sleep around with other guys, blame it on you, then divorce you taking have of everything plus a big chunk of your future income if you have kids…and the world will love her for it while it despises you. Is that what you want from your life?

Ok. Then do it.

[Razor92Participant 41]

@narwhal

Woah, never thought it would turn so nasty in the end. I was thinking more a movie type of scenario. Thanks, your point made me think and realize that it was in my own benefit I left her .

[HitmanParticipant]

Leave the drama queen. She’s already shown you her true colors. .she’s a bitch. Kick her to the curb.

[chirParticipant]

To the OP:

You are in the middle of a “s~~~ test”. She has been considering returning to her ex for a while already before she told you. Her telling you was to see what you do and if you are worth her time. You see she does not consider you worth her time. If she had there would have been no confession of an Ex waiting in the wings. She would have ignored him and moved on with you. Here is what you do to get out of the s~~~ test.

Dump her.

Email her and say its better this way, Good bye and Good luck with your Ex. Make no mention of love or any other emotion.
No pleading. Nothing. Block her on whatsapp and any other social media you used. Now is your time to finish your studies completely focused and spend your effort on bettering yourself.
With a degree and finding a good job prospect the women will find you.

Remember. Every waking moment with a woman is a s~~~ test.

What is a s~~~ test?
Do these pants make me look fat?
(wrong answer even if true) Yes.
(average answer) No.
(what they want to hear) They would look better on the floor so I can f~~~ you senseless.

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

[RoyDalParticipant]

uchibenkei wrote:

My question is what is going on in her mind right now and how long should I continue NC period? 14 days, 21 days or 30 days?

IT’S A TRAP!!

Razor92 wrote:

How can I develop the type of mentality of “my way or highway”?

See the world as it really is, and not as you wish it was or what makes you feel good. Manifest reality.

chir wrote:

You are in the middle of a “s~~~ test”. She has been considering returning to her ex for a while already before she told you.

Yep!

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[narwhalParticipant]

Razor92 wrote:

@narwhal

Woah, never thought it would turn so nasty in the end. I was thinking more a movie type of scenario. Thanks, your point made me think and realize that it was in my own benefit I left her .

That’s the most important thing men often forget to do in a relationship…think. They are so caught up in the movie scenario, when they’ve been told relationships are about that fail to look at what’s actually in front of them.

Good luck in backing out of this. Chances are, she will not let you go easily, and it will be rather emotional. Do not forget to think.

Ok. Then do it.

[Razor92Participant 41]

Thank you everyone! especially @narwhal @chir @roydal @hitman. Guiding me on this issue because I was a having a gut feeling that something was wrong before breaking up but I don’t know what it was. But you guys opened my eyes and made me see the reality… Wish I discovered this website much earlier.

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Walking away is one of the hardest things when your younger and getting some great ‘tang. I get it. Hell, I’m having trouble walking away from a genuinely nice girl in my fourties.

But take these guys advice – however painful it is to completely walk away, I swear to you your saving yourself way more pain in the long run.

The only reason I haven’t walked away from my “nice girl” is because she’s content with a FWB situation and has NEVER pulled any bulls~~~ – like at all. Really.

The minute she ever did – that would be it, and she knows this.

Any girl that would even mention an ex, really for pretty much any reason, is f~~~ing with you and has ZERO concern for your person or wellbeing. I really mean that. Having dealt with many nearly identical situations to the one you described back in my blue pill days, I can tell you this is the truth.

WALK THE F~~~ AWAY.

NOW!

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Razor:

She told you that you should leave her. Try this one time and I promise it will change your life. Your response to hearing that should be something along the lines of “Hey, thanks! I appreciate your honesty. Goodbye.” And then NEVER talk to her again.

If you HAVE to talk to her, just limit it to “breaking up was your idea, and now that I’ve thought about it I completely agree with you.”

The gentlemen above were right, this is a s~~~ test. And you can’t win a s~~~ test. If you stick around she won’t respect you. If you tell her to f~~~ off she’ll want you back, but she doesn’t deserve you because you don’t deserve to be s~~~ tested. At this point the only way to win is to not play.

I wish I could take credit for this one but I didn’t think of it.

One chance. Per chick. Per lifetime.

She just used up her chance.

Order the good wine

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

what’s going on in girls mind at any given time – is howling of the wind. her behavior will depend on wind speed and direction at that time. everything flies in through one ear and goes out the other

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Razor92 wrote:

My question is what is going on in her mind right now and how long should I continue NC period? 14 days, 21 days or 30 days?

Forever. Let this one go. I don’t know how old you are but you seem a bit too young to be in a serious relationship, plus this really isn’t the place for advice on how to attach yourself more firmly to a woman.

For what it’s worth, you probably already got the best part of this relationship you’re ever going to get. Romance is like an ice cream sundae… it looks great at the beginning with the whipped cream and cherry and all that and the first few mouthfulls can be tasty and exciting, but after just a few moments, it turns into a liquidy mess and you’re basically spooning up tepid milk soup.

So when do you get out of a relationship? As soon as you can see the exit signs. And honestly, you should go in looking for them from the start.

[Razor92Participant 41]

Frankly, now I want to f~~~ her one last time and be gone from her life forever

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Razor92 wrote:

Frankly, now I want to f~~~ her one last time and be gone from her life forever

I wouldn’t even do that. That will lead to other things etc etc. Go find yourself some strange, you don’t need her, and she most definitely doesn’t deserve you.

Rip the bandage off fast and just be done. Take Taxguy’s advice. Any chick that brings an ex into the mix under any circumstances needs the boot, and right now.

I’m very familiar with the mindset, and you don’t want to go where “one more f~~~” leads.

It may not seem like it now, but you will feel WAY better about yourself, and have way more self respect, if you cut her off completely, starting right now.

We can lead you to water, but you have to want to drink it, and then do it. The alternative is drinking her kool-aid, and any chick that would pull that s~~~ is poison.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[MGTOWmonkey aka No More Fucks To GiveParticipant 6635]

Dude your in the middle of a classic s~~~ test s~~~ storm,put on your gear and exit to the left! Dealing with genuinely good people is not suppose to be hard…..this is hard….she’s no good. Women are a depreciating asset always remember that,for every day that goes by with her wasting your time she inches closer to “the wall”,ya’ll are at a crossroad,your going up,while she passes you going down. I know it can be tough but practicing walking away from women can be a major advantage to you as a man so start practicing.

Never lose sight of what brought you here.

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