What is your father like?

[AkanbiParticipant 2120]

Strict. A typical head of the household.

Hardworking- Worked hard enough as a civil servant to make it to upper middle class.

Disciplined. Made sure we had everything we NEEDED while growing up.

Tough love is all he knows. Made sure he disciplined & punished my brothers and I accordingly when we f~~~ed up.

He taught me financial discipline. Speaks only when necessary.

We don’t really converse much & I don’t think either of us gives a f~~~.

Made sure I got a good education (after making sure I applied for the exact course he wanted me to). Barely congratulated me when I brought home my college certificate.

Has a couple of young mistresses on the side.

Simple man. Well organised.

My brother make you no follow sheeple o. Look them and Go Your Way.

[Chase PesosParticipant 2136]

Old school Jamaican guy born in 1945. I’m 29 and I have a world view like his so I never quite fit in.

He’s only 5’5 but is a tough guy. Lost his leg to bone cancer when he was 14, went blind and now has Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s as well as a history of seizures and strokes.

He never complains and his perspective made me very resilient. He never really had the female talk with me but I know my egg donor turned him in to a red pill as he does not object that I want no entangling relationships or children in this sick world. My mother left us when I was 3 and was/is heavy into drugs. All the things he gave her, she sold for rock–even the mans furniture!

He is a hard working dude. He came to this country with nothing but a visa and a phone number and built a better life for himself than many others living here for years. He sacrificed everything to give me a chance so I look out for him like a Rottweiler during his tough, latter days now.

Chase a check, never chase a chick...

[HammerheadParticipant 362]

Dead. I wrote about it here last November. Sorry to cross-post, but reading the stories from some of you who had/have good fathers, made it all come back to me. I truly envy you.

Just found out that my father died early last year (2015)

“A female friend (with benefits) recently gave me a gift subscription to one of those websites where you trace your family history. This morning, I finally put in my name and those of my parents. A notice popped up immediately, so I followed the link to what turned out to be an obituary for my father.

We had not spoken since I joined the Marine Corps in the early 1980’s (for what turned into a twenty-year career). I had a marriage and two children during that time, and he never bothered to acknowledge their existence. My divorce was finalized at the end of 2015, so it was a momentous year…but little did I realize how much so.

I really don’t know how I feel. I regret that he was such a cold, indifferent person who never told me that he loved me or was proud of me. He chose to never experience the joy of spending time with his only grandchildren.

I mourn the absence of a father who was never on my side, and made me never trust others, never helped me learn how to make friends, how to be a man, but rather to stay alone. I was lucky that my mother cared so deeply for me and supported me, and that my maternal grandfather helped me survive the mental indifference and cruelty of my father. My grandfather stepped in and helped me understand how to be a man…and that saved my life.

Sorry, I know this doesn’t seem like much of a MGTOW topic, but I just had to vent some of this, to try to process it.

My father had a chance to matter to his bloodline, but he never made any effort, and at last I can let that tiny flame of hope in me that he would realize his mistake and make some effort, if only on his deathbed, die. We can never know what could have been, and that saddens me. He doesn’t deserve any tears from me, but they fall, unwelcome, nonetheless. And I feel like a foolish man in my upper 50’s, trapped into feeling something that doesn’t matter anyway.

Never underestimate the impact that you can have on a young man, if only through a few kind words and an understanding smile. We men matter. Take care of each other…there is only one lifetime, and it is all too brief.”

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