The worst lie a woman ever told me is one that molded my interaction with women up until recently. It left me in a state of low self esteem and a bag load of insecurities.
Basically, I had been dating this chick on and off. I guess at the time you could say I was in love. After about 4 years of being on and off she finally sent me a message saying she wanted to get ‘closure’. She ended up blowing me in my car 4 hours later. After we were done she told me she wanted to go all the way next time. Side note, I was still a virgin.
At the tender age of 18, and still a virgin, the girl I was in love with was finally going to give me what I had been fantasizing about for the longest time.
It was planned out perfectly. Her parents were gone for the long weekend and I told my parents I was going to stay over a friend’s house. I get to her house and her best friend and her boyfriend are there. The guy was a little bit older and was able to buy us some alcohol to break whatever ice needed to be broken. I felt like I was in a dream, but at the same time I had the weirdest feeling that something was off.
After a couple of drinks and a movie, it was finally time. Each couple went into a room. My girl ends up going to the restroom and staying there for a while. I was beginning to feel some doubt, but, once again, I was surprised. She came out in the sexiest lingerie I had ever seen in my adolescent life. At this point, all I wanted to do was ravage her, but, more importantly, lose my virginity to the girl I had loved.
Kissing. Foreplay. More kissing. More foreplay. It was finally time. She was completely naked and my boxers finally came off. I am about to slide it in when she says the magic words, “Wait, I feel that we’re moving too fast and we need to take it slow. I really care about you…..”
Instead of forcing the issue I decide to stop and ask exactly what she meant by that. I was so confused because this wasn’t a girl I had just met. We literally dated on and off since about 13-14 and we were both now 18. Not to mention, she had already been around the block and clearly wasn’t a virgin when I reconnected with her. I know this for a fact because she ‘confessed’ it to me like if I was holding it against her or something. That clearly wasn’t the case but she went ahead and began to ball her eyes out anyway. It got pretty awkward and I was very upset and disappointed. I wasn’t just disappointed in her, but I was also very disappointed in myself for falling for the same trap again.
I left that night. I left my first love naked and vulnerable out of principle. I was done with this back and forth game and I would be damned to make that mistake again.
You’re probably wondering, where does the lie come into play?
The next morning I get a text message from her saying, “If you would’ve stayed it would’ve happened.”
Sorry babe, but, judging from our track record, it was never going to happen.
I’m happy to say I don’t regret leaving that night because it has made me a stronger and better man in the long run. Don’t fall into a cyclical trap with a girl because you’ll become obsessed with potential and fantasy. Instead, be logical and face the reality that some girls aren’t for you, and that there is always someone more compatible.
Ogre 10 months, 3 weeks ago.
