Wanna hear a story? Single mommy, and years of hell

[PhoenixRisingParticipant 8]

Well well my friends; where to start?
First
I had to create a new account because some things I posted on a previous was being used as bait and switch by a single mommy bitch.

Lets begin.

Im a product of a f~~~ed single mommy who abandoned me when when I was a kid, creating a serious co-dependent issue.

And nice guy syndrome.

My father passed away when I was 3 so, I never really had a strong male role model.
Fast forward, my mom and sis died, but at the same time I ended up meeting a little peach of pearl with 2 kids from 2 different dads at the age of 19.
She was a “Escort” when I first met her, but not being raised by a man, I didnt know what that meant, and thought a original innocent type of thing.

She also did about every drug known.

I came to understand the reason I took it on was because I wanted to redeem myself for my mom and sis…subliminally..because normally I wouldn’t of went through this s~~~.

So…..first few years I busted ass, really went to the limit.
Ended up across country for a few months for some family construction work and came back to find that none of the bills had been paid, and that she owed her dealer money…..WTF?!
I was about 22.
YES I know…..keep shaking your head

This had been the typical s~~~ you would expect from a little peach of a c~~~ single mommy.
Completely desolated through out the years.
LAST for anything…made me really miss a previous relationship I had where although she was nuts….she still kinda showed in a way I wasnt just the bottom.

Believe gents…..NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVERRRRRRRRR GIVE YOURSELF TO A SINGLE MOMMY!
They are f~~~ing parasites!
Succubus doesnt have anything compared to a f~~~ing single mommy!

So, I took a fairly good job for an asshole that would ride me like a slave and treat people like s~~~.but the pay was ok….
I took it all cause I was “trained” that was what I was what I was supposed to do…by my single mommy.

SO after I help her leave drugs, and her sucking dick for money…she start up some college….and all the while she builds..I fall…farther and farther..
My teeth rotting..”and still” and I kept giving to her and her kids.

couple years later her daughter runs her mouth more with the grandparents about how I “beat the boy” and it created a HUGE f~~~ing strife.

ILLUMINATION

Seriously…few years ago I felt a light just shine on me the truth.

and it all hit me!

I started to disassociate myself for a few years…and her being a cold hearted c~~~……for the entire time…really shown to me…and I begun to see that…what the hell was I doing?

so for the last ..4 years or so…I kinda limbo’d out of comparability.
And I should of been saving cash.

I started a business with Amazon…was doing pretty good and she quit her f~~~ing job and decided to “focus” just on her f~~~ed up s~~~ and spend all my money…..which made it impossible to save on the DL.

fast forward through a few years of typical bulls~~~.
She tried the “hold sex” thing..and I laughed..cause we hadnt had sex in so long to begin with..an I was practicing sexual retention stuff..she actually thought it was gonna control me! hahha

Then came the divorce threats

First couple of months it really messed me up.

not cause I cared about her, but because of my abandonment issues.

And after about the 5th time….I started to see she was using it as a manipulation tool…F~~~ that

so for about 1.5 years…..I had been psych. preparing myself..and come to the F~~~ YOU C~~~ type mentality.

Well..long story short..I ended up finding another gorgeous younger woman who had a lot in common with me..so I kinda went for it..cause I knew years ago that…hey..me and this chick I married should have never even met.

And..Why the hell not go for it, cause the “wife” was nothing but a f~~~ing using self centered using c~~~…..F~~~ing single white American mommys. Jesus H Christ!

So its been a a few months and..Ive been through homelessness. no money…my family dead.. NOTHING LEFT! so no one to really help……And this F~~~ING C~~~ CONTROLLING EVERYTHING!

Im going to destroy her when the time is right!

But..as of right now..Im sleeping on the floor of my used to be living room…..culminating my revenge.

This woman had the grandiosity to say SHE RESENTED ME!

HAHAHHAHA..

Im thinking of starting a blog and youtube channel dedicated to this stuff to help other dudes.and possibly make some cash..I would like to makee a s~~~ ton of money off all my stories of complete bulls~~~…So I could throw it in this bitches face.

Im generally a Godly..”good person..
But Ive had enough…this bitch is going down in the end..
And Im rising!

There is so much that had happened that it wouldve made this way to long..but Im sure you get the gist of it.

Help me come up with ways to crush her afterwards…final courtwork goes trough mid February. Ill hopefully be out before then….

[Anonymous 43]

when planning revenge, first buy 2 coffins.

I spent three years plotting, planning practicing revenge on my ex c~~~.

After playing out more than 30 plans in my head, I realized three things.

1. I couldn’t do her harm without the kids figuring it out someday. How do I look my kids in the eye if I did something horrible to their mother.

2. I am the primary suspect if anything ever happens to her. Cops will be all over me in a matter of minutes.

3. Forensic evidence, video cameras and witnesses will be found and used against me. And so I have an endless string of receipts and a journal of my daily activities since 2009. This journal has saved me several times.

And so, I wish my ex c~~~ a long and happy life, f~~~ing her Chad, poisoning my kids and collecting my $650 a month. I am 1000 miles away living my life as drama free as possible, without lawyers, courts and handcuffs.

Please amigo, do not waste time planning some bulls~~~ against her. Walk away and rebuild your life. That is the best revenge. Get some serious distance between you and this special snowflake.

This site is not a help you figure out how to get revenge. We share experiences and offer suggestions to improve life.

Forgive this woman and the things that she did to you, and move on.

Life will take care of this c~~~. Work on improving your life. Rise above the s~~~. Perhaps that is how we can help you.

[ShineParticipant 1696]

Sounds like a long hard road. I’d just be thankful to see then end of it.

"Society is to blame" Denton

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Greetings PR,

The Introductions part of the forums is an opportunity for you to establish your Bonifides with the MGTOW community.

So far, your Introduction is botched and needs repair.

What you have written above makes you appear like an unstable weak minded fool who is contemplating murder. Some of the things you wrote put you at risk for being ejected from this web site.

But, you can fix this by providing more information about your “MGTOW Road” in the reply box below and by considering the following suggestions.

Learn about Woman’s Nature and come to understand that every woman has it.

Learn why chasing Unicorns is dumb, dangerous, and a waste of time.

Learn what it means to be a MGTOW.

MGTOWs are truly free men. Some of the lucky ones were born that way and have been MGTOW all of their life. They are great men who have magnificent lives.

Many of us are former slaves who have scars. Our lives have been diminished as a result of living in Blue Pill Hell. But, our time living as free men is the best that we have ever had.

Read and listen to everything provided in the MGTOW Archives and allow the content to expand your mind.

PhoenixRising wrote:

…….Im going to destroy her when the time is right!……..

That’s f~~~ed up on many levels.

This web site is attacked every day by the Gynocracy. The Hive does not want its slave’s commiserating about freedom and writing about what life was like on the Plantation.

Your statements above goes beyond that and provides Our Great Enemy with ammunition to shut us down.

PhoenixRising wrote:

……..this bitch is going down in the end…

You are still too focused on getting even with her instead of working towards your life as a free man.

Giving a woman kindness or punishment are two sides of the same coin. You are giving her your attention.

Stop paying attention to her!

Go your Own Way!

PhoenixRising wrote:

…….Help me come up with ways to crush her afterwards…

“Fool, when you jump out of the frying pan, make sure the jump is high/ far enough to avoid the flames below.”

In other words, a clean break and living the good life of a free man is the best revenge.

PhoenixRising wrote:

……..I ended up finding another gorgeous younger woman who had a lot in common with me..so I kinda went for it..cause I knew years ago that…hey..me ……………..
And..Why the hell not go for it………..

Because you will never be a free man as long as you are still chasing pussy, in a relations~~~, and giving up your precious time to women.
Also, you are describing a Unicorn.

And Unicorns don’t exist!

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[BubParticipant 1411]

” the best revenge is living well”

She will always be a scheming whore….
You can’t change that, ever….

We know you are hurt right now, you’re angry, it’s not fair…
Focus on you. Improve yourself and improve your life.

Your “revenge” comes when your living the high life and she sees it and wants you back. The you get to laugh and walk away from her…” frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn”.

Just rolling down the road

[PhoenixRisingParticipant 8]

I wasnt meaning anything physical!

Im a fairly peaceful person and wouldnt want to do anything like that.

I was just venting out how Id like to see her to taste some Karma.
But you guys are totally right, the more I waste of my mental, physical, and emotional state on her..the more she gains from me.

Was just kind of a introduction/ vent, whatever.

Divorce is final mid Feb.
So, for a guy who has nothing really…where should I start?
I have a brother left, but he blabs everything we talk about to his wife..which only complicates things more.

I have a pretty low paying job, no real savings.
But, at least its something

[BlakeGuyParticipant 287]

Help me come up with ways to crush her afterwards…final courtwork goes trough mid February. Ill hopefully be out before then….

All the above are saying the same thing, I am just another voice. It is normal to walk around life with a lot of anger, think most people here have had it. You tell yourself all these terrible things that happened and work your way up to a frenzy.

What you have to do, is clearly tell yourself that your strategy is to simply completely avoid her. Sure you might cross paths somewhere, but just avoid her. That will eat her soul, but much more important than that, it will protect your soul. You will probably have years of ever declining anger. But if you let yourself remain angry, then it might be a life time.

Slowly envision your life as you want it. Yes anger will appear. When it does, tell yourself it is not permitted. Accept it is normal and don’t beat yourself up. But shut it down. Think about your favorite football team or movies or bikes or whatever gets you excited.

Expressing any sort of anger to her means only one thing. She wins. The only way you win is no anger. You selected the right name, read a lot about what rising phoenix is. You might be very alone today, but if you just move past this entire thing, and start to build a life in your own positive vision. You will have a life in 5 years.

Plus, I suggested you do not, do not at all, enter into any relationships with females other than friends. When your anger is 90 percent gone, then reconsider. But you are miles away from dealing with your abandonment issues. You really are miles away.

This site is like free therapy. You can read and read and learn and learn and eventually you can grasp the nature of things, and then that will help position your anger somewhere. It is not about you, it is just the nature of the beast.

Let the good times roll

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, Phoenix
All great advice you have heard from the guys!

MGTOW IS ABOUT REBUILDING YOU

We do not hate. We do not seek revenge. We re-build like men.

My take on the matter:
You are at the lowest point in your life. A job you hate. A scheming, manipulative woman, involved in a divorce, feeling used and taken advantage of.
But through all of this you still seek the “special” one. Women seem to be able to see that and exploit your good nature. You can’t be a nice guy for women today.
My thoughts:
Put about 1000 miles of highway between you and “little cupcake”. After all, what have you got to lose? You have nothing left now but the opportunity to rebuild your life the way YOU want. Why not do it in a place of YOUR choosing. New job, new life, warm climate. In time, new car, new house, eyes wide open and best of all!
YOU DON’T HAVE TO SHARE IT WITH A MANIPULATIVE BITCH

No woman, no cry – Bob Marley

Again welcome home!
We are here for, brother

[Anonymous 0]

PhoenixRising wrote:

I wasnt meaning anything physical!

Im a fairly peaceful person and wouldnt want to do anything like that.

I was just venting out how Id like to see her to taste some Karma.
But you guys are totally right, the more I waste of my mental, physical, and emotional state on her..the more she gains from me.

Was just kind of a introduction/ vent, whatever.

Sounds good.

PhoenixRising wrote:

Divorce is final mid Feb.
So, for a guy who has nothing really…where should I start?

Depends on how deep you want to go in re-tooling your life. Here are some suggestions. (For more info on the contents of any of the following books, check them out at the websites for Amazon or Borders or whatever.)

1) A good starting point is “Life Code,” by Dr. Phil McGraw (yes, *that* Dr. Phil). It’s a self-help book on spotting narcissists, users, and abusers. Once you know how to identify and deal with backstabbers and trouble-makers in your life, it will bring you a lot of self-confidence and peace. It also has some good tips on how to act around people, project yourself more confidently, that sort of thing. Good all-around self-help book, if you’re looking for some basic coping-with-life info.

Given your history of getting sucked in and abused by your ex, I would put this book as a must-read book in your case. 🙂

2) Also, you’re going through a divorce with a woman who has put you through the grinder. If you need some back-up help, I found the following book very good: “Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone With Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder” by Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD and Randi Kreger.

A spouse with BPD or NPD is the nightmare scenario, because they’re combative and uncooperative every step of the way. So the book really walks you through every step of a difficult divorce, giving you lots of detail on how to handle things when the spouse is uncooperative or downright hostile.

Moving on to more general topics:

3) If you’re basically satisfied with your life but want to get out of a rut, then read “Awaken the Giant Within,” by Tony Robbins. Robbins is basically a life coach, one of the best in the business. He talks about how to re-define and re-invent yourself into a more effective, productive person.

4) If you want to re-invent your life on a bigger scale, then I recommend “Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life” by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans. It’s a best-seller currently on the market. It’s based on a class taught at Stanford University in California for college kids trying to figure out what to do with their lives. But it can be used at any phase in life. I’ve been reading it, and it’s quite inventive in its approach.

Taking it to the next level:

5) If you’re feeling adrift and unsure of what you should even strive for in life, then read the following post: /forums/topic/lostbut-still-found/#post-369845

It talks about how to figure out your purpose/mission/goal in life.

6) Also, if you want some guidance on how to deal with women from a Red Pill perspective in the future, try reading up on PUA (it’s kind of a subset of MGTOW). These days, PUA isn’t just about scoring with as many women as possible. It’s about supplementing Red Pill knowledge (MGTOW) with Red Pill tools (PUA) for handling women and relationships, and it can be used on an occasional or even casual basis (friendships, etc.). See the following thread for more on this subject: /forums/topic/glad-ive-found-you-guys/#post-374942

If you can’t turn the temptations off, at least you can make sure they don’t trap you.

Anyway, best of luck with your divorce and all that follows!

[Pedal, run, rowParticipant]

Sounds like you got nothing to keep you there near her. Get out of there. Get away from her. Remember the s~~~ she did to you, so you don’t ever go back, but work on getting her out of your head. She owns you right now, seriously.

Rebuild your life to your making. It sucks, and it won’t be easy, but start focusing on that instead of her.

Smell the air, and understand that the fact you have nothing right now, is exactly why you can now be free. One of the biggest impediments to my freedom was being burdened down with dealing with the house, all the STUFF we had bought etc. I was literally enslaved by material possession. Golden shackles are still shackles.

Get out. Move on.

[007 (Reborn)Participant 1672]

Revenge will end up destroying you.

Walk away.

Pursuing Happiness and Freedom.

[PhoenixRisingParticipant 8]

Thanks a lot fellas for the advice, Im gonna get a few books and get to reading.

Looking into starting Akaido to insert some peaceful practice into my life.

Merry Christmas everyone

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

PhoenixRising wrote:

Help me come up with ways to crush her afterwards

I got a better idea. Let’s come up with ways to heal you so you can have your own life, and enjoy the short amount of time you get to spend here on Earth.
Let her go!!

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[GrumpyParticipant]

FrostByte wrote:

I got a better idea. Let’s come up with ways to heal you so you can have your own life, and enjoy the short amount of time you get to spend here on Earth.
Let her go!!

This is the REAL reason for coming here.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[iMickey503Participant 12468]

Dude. let me start by saying I am sorry. I know you are angry.

And that is where this bar stool ends.

You are hurt bro. Going to take years to get off that. I know man. It sucks to know that the kids you raised are no longer even going to give a s~~~ about you. I understand that.

And I know you want to get back at her. The best way is to move on.

However, and this is just MY input. If she contributed or ANOTHER MAN has contributed to abuse and by that I mean like REAL ABUSE. Sexual. Physical, Drugs to your kids, trying to abuse them by drowning them… I think you get the picture.

Then you got 3 choices.

1. Move on. Let it be. Let someone else deal with it.

2. Fight back with legal, and that means spend your own time and money to make it right.. And realize it may never lead to anything.

3. Find them scum bastards, Be like A movie hero, f~~~ them up, don’t get in trouble doing it, and feel better and get yourself a jet car.. Or HOVER BOARD! Maybe a cape…

HOVERBOARD!

You may see what I am getting at here. Unless it is REALLY going to Benefit you. THen take the option that does more.

Some people are going to scoff at this. But do what you can LIVE with, and not what you can deal with it.

Louis rossman said it best.

He was in bad shape, and look how well his life has become. You have to invest in you bro.

if you got kids, then. its another story. Again, Do what YOU need to do. We can only offer advice on how to make you life better that has worked for us.

Otherwise. Dude your are on your own to make your life better. No one can do it for you. I hope you have found what you needed, and know what you want.

I’m just worried. You went to another woman. BE careful.

But since this is MGTOW. The truth?

Oh another woman.. See you here in a few years again. 🙂 Best of luck. (Yes I’m PARTLY joking. But I wish you well.

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

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