URGENT! I'm in really bad shape

[Anonymous 12]

Point Of No Return wrote:

… ridding ourselves of their s~~~.

That, Brother.
THAT.
You will get there.

what i do in such panic moments is a “limited head in sand” approach.
Put the letter away, and let the fear and anger subside by getting some fresh air.

Only attend to the problem when the mind is clear. No yellin on the fone “but i have nothing, you monster!” or any such thing.

[OldBillParticipant]

Point Of No Return wrote:

Thanks for the comments, every bit helps.

Keep posting here, brother.

Not to keep us updated but so that you can scream, vent, rage, and otherwise rid yourself of the bile she’s poured over you.

Keep posting here. Not for us, but for you.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

If this is not a demand from the court in a divorce settlement then it is a civil matter. (In the US) I been sued for tons of money and I gave them all the finger and said good luck. They issued mechanics leans against me and bill collectors harassed me, but it was not a criminal offense. So I just kept giving them the finger for years and finally I filed a bankruptcy and it all stopped.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

I lost the battle today. I have to rely on logic and my gut feeling. And so, my lawyer explained to me what the problem is. I had to sign away the 8 grand or go through trouble and have a judge force me to. In my jurisdiction, when money is gifted to one spouse from a family member during the marriage AND with the written proof that the gift is to be used toward the purchase of the family residence, then it does NOT become part of the patrimonial assets. My lawyer mentioned the particular name for this but I was too taken aback and now I can’t remember the name. The only condition is that if after the house is sold and the proceeds are distributed (agent fees, notary fees, etc) and I get my share, I cannot be held responsible for a negative amount. So say, after all is said and done and the vultures are paid their dues, say I’m left with 6 grand, then I have to fork over the entire amount to the ex but I do not owe here 2 grand on top of it. But there’s something else that was handled today that made me break for real. My sons, I’m not in a position to afford the fight, and I had to come to the realisation that the ex will get them and I will be order to pay child support every month. And worse, is that my ex and her Chad don’t treat my boys right but again I don’t have enough proof to press charges, but don’t have enough money to cause trouble for my ex in court. So I join the ranks of all you dads out there that have lost your kids in a custody dispute and have to pay child support. It hurt me to no end to be faced with this realisation. This was the sixth and unfortunately the final agreement or ‘consentment’ as they call it here in my jurisdiction. My lawyer assured me that if what my kids tell me is what they want (which is to follow my instructions and never get on a vehicle of any kind to go anywhere, especially not a plane etc.)… my lawyer assured me that they had a right to refuse to board with my ex and could appeal to the authorities. My youngest can’t retain a lawyer but my older son can. And they would consider both brothers together. I have had to make it very clear that my instructions not to board a vehicle are extremely close to my heart and they understand. They will not leave. I will not allow her to run off with my kids with Chad. I am lucky to have kids of an age that can obey my instructions, and also because they want to! I can’t imagine for the dad’s that have younger kids that can’t resist being taken away. I was in the lawyer’s office for an hour and a half. I’ve had a good rapport with my lawyer, as I have mentioned, and we discussed the reality of the situation and I have had to accept that my strength to maintain a semblance of sanity in my kids life will come from my being there for them. It hurts me a lot. Today I am done. I have lost my grip on my kids legally, but at least not in terms of their faithfulness. Dads out there, please, rely on your connection with your kids if that’s all the court has left you with. It hurts and will continue to hurt. There are unpredictable, and I am simply very sad that it had to end this way. I sent an email to my ex … and this even though the consentment says I will communicate with her. My lawyer said I can really restrict it to the kids if I want and even then, there’s not much my ex can do if I don’t communicate with her. I wanted her to know that five times she has committed high treason. To me this means against me, my sons, and the family we represented. I sent her an email with these words only. “DO NOT CONTACT ME” … Some of you might say I gave her something. What I think I did was tell her that I will not even play the niceties game. No more nothing, no anything unless my sons request I authorise it. But I asked my sons about this and we both agreed, he and I don’t want to have to ask her “permission” for anything… So we stick to our visitation hours and keep our dignity. When I’m in public, I try to remind my self of the tools that newcomers to MGTOW learn about, like ghosting and stealth etc. but sometimes I just feel an urge to let some bitch in the bus in front of me showing all her feminist colors and quietly doing crap on her iPhone, let her know that she is the enemy. I will tell things out loud in a higher tone of voice than usual… I will say things like “…[subject matter] and that’s what it means to be a man!”. It never fails… them weeminz go into twitching mode. When you show them that the next generation is in tune with if not yet taking the red pills daily…that’s when they realise they are done for. The hive will drop, drop one by one, dead to the ground like the dried up husks of insects lives they are, worth nothing more to the cold winter winds that have dulled their senses, numbed their idiot brains, and brought all kinetic energy in their system to a grinding halt. #ICETHEMOUT

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

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