Top 3 relationS~~~S regrets

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

A good way of becoming wise is learning from the mistake of others…
What are your top 3 relations~~~s regrets? Feel free to list less than 3 or more than 3.
Cheers

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[RoyDalParticipant]

All the
1. time
2. money
3. energy
I put into dating.

If I had hired a high class escort once a month it would have cost about the same and I would have gotten laid more often but with a lot less hassle.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Anonymous 0]

Never had a girlfriend. I had women I had sex with or close females friends but never a true girlfriend. Actually I never been on a date, with to the movies with a girl, cuddle, or anything a regular relationship is like.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

my only regret would be……. years ago, my first gf, i would daydream about spending my life with her and what the future would look like together. I was using my imagination in the most retarded way possible. i guess hormones were running high. this was also before i discovered MGTOW

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

-time
-energy
-money
-trying to please someone who doesn’t even know what they want
-not valuing my own time or attention
-trying to compromise and do the “right thing” because that’s what you’re supposed to do, but only gets me in trouble

Never going to get into a serious relationship again

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[StargazerParticipant 12505]

RoyDal wrote:

All the
1. time
2. money
3. energy
I put into dating.

If I had hired a high class escort once a month it would have cost about the same and I would have gotten laid more often but with a lot less hassle.

Ditto this. By choosing to actively disqualify females rather than trying to show them my qualifications, I could have saved a s~~~ ton of the above. And then hookers.

[QuietlyquietlyParticipant 728]

1. Thinking I could please someone else.
2. Thinking they should please me.
3. Amending my behaviour to pursue either of the above.

Really, that encapsulates the entire of my behaviour in any relationship I have ever had. The moment when I woke up and said, “I CAN’T please anyone, so I’ll stop trying, and start doing what I want” was the best moment. All the unhealthy relationships I had, that were based on need and unrealistic expectation, simply dropped away. Several people got annoyed with me because I just stopped playing their games.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Generally I didn’t suffer as some men did so I didn’t experience massive losses….. and no woman took from me anything that I didn’t willingly GIVE her. In that regard I don’t have too many regrets, and generally believe I always played it well. but I should mention this one:

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Not dumping her/them when I should have because I approached it “for better or for worse.” F~~~ worse. I hereby change it to “For better or GET OUT”. That should have been my policy from the start. If you’re not enjoyable too be around , get the F~~~ out of my life. I actually knew it in my gut, but ignored it.

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For the “effort”……. It isn’t entirely wasted. I truly believe that. She WILL remember you. Treating women “too well” is a mistake we make and I could kick myself for it too…… but it has come back two-fold in the form of THEIR regret. So it doesn’t really belong on MY list of regrets.

I would recommend all men re-evaluate their “regrets” and REALLY asks themselves…. “do I really regret this? Or will SHE”. You may find you have less to beat yourself up for. I don’t regret doing something good or extra kind for someone else – even if they didn’t appreciate it. It’s how I live with myself. But I have always known, THEY will regret it later.

I could easily regret driving an hour to meet one…. only to be informed she was cheating when I got there. I knew it already. I also regret driving her best friend to the airport another hour – on the same day – when I should maybe have told her to f~~~ off and walk. And then driving another hour home. It was 5PM by the time this day was over, and I threw a perfectly good Sunday in the trash – when I shouldn’t have. I was a cheating bitch’s driver for a day.

My regret of letting her think it was “unconditional love” actually turned out to be a MAJOR plus. Because she really believed I would always be there — no matter what. So the next day, I took it away, went hardcore no contact, disappeared off the face of the Earth, and it damn near finished her off.

To this day, she still regrets it and that was 11 years ago.
Not my problem.

That’s one example where I might be too quick to regret something…. but I don’t regret a f~~~ing thing about it.
She will. Probably until she’s dead.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Elric GreenstoneParticipant 1637]

Pretty much what everyone else is saying, but since this is sort of a poll. . .

1. Time
2. Money
3. Psychic Damage

and, I suppose, the opportunity costs (things not chosen to instead spend time in relationships).

"You can either love women, or understand women. You can't do both. Because once you understand women, you realize that there is really nothing to love."

[LeoYourKingParticipant 225]

1: Putting her goals before my life goals.
2:Put her before my family and friends.
3:Trying to fix her life when she didn’t try.
4:Think that she was different to everyone else.
I agree with you (Keymaster). In my case, I can’t be mean to someone I care about. I know they will never have someone who really care about them not matter what. They decided to walk out of my life and I keep it in that way. Now, I am aware of the nature of women and I am just a different person. I became the hunter not the prey. They just become trophies for me to show to my friends. I am happy by myself fking the world and conquering my goals.

[Total LeeParticipant 1573]

LeoYourKing wrote:

1: Putting her goals before my life goals.
2:Put her before my family and friends.
3:Trying to fix her life when she didn’t try.
4:Think that she was different to everyone else.

Gold. I’ve also been expected to put her first and her happiness before my own.

[Anonymous 18]

1. Trust
2. Benefit of doubt (over riding gut feeling)
3. Insanity aka love-stricken selflessness only to be served a good life lesson. I, me, mine ALWAYS first. Before her, before anyone not blood related.

Wounds heal, may be leave a scar or two; but lessons are eternal…..Like wet cement.

Women mistake assuming it stays wet for her to tramp on and leave an impression time and again.

I am all set for a facepalm for her. No doubt she will come around after a few dissatisfied customers. Consider it my cemented brick on her wall.

[MemberParticipant 323]

1) Regret not listening to my instincts in each and every relationship. The little voices in your head are usually right.
2) Same as above
3) Same as above.

[dobieParticipant 100]

1.) Regret my gut from day one telling me something
2.) I regret not screwing over my ex fiance
3.) I regret not burning her clothes and telling her what a cheating lying user and slut she is
4.) Being so dumb as to not see what a cold callous c~~~ she was from day one
5.) I regret not banging her friends

[REINKAΩSParticipant 25]

Great topic. My biggest regret in general is not realizing sooner that I am not, and never have been, the “relationship” type.

All the time and money and mental energy wasted on things that women manipulated me in to thinking I wanted in the first place. To be honest the only reason I got in to this delusion in the first place was because of hormone trickery.

Never.
Again.

I know better now. I no longer allow myself to make decisions based on hormones, and I will never get sucked in to another relations~~~. If only I had realized this sooner.

[TheroniusParticipant 975]

All the bulls~~~
Her friends I didn’t f~~~ (bitches always try to f~~~ their friends boyfriends)
Ever letting any woman convince me that I wasn’t too good for them.

"I am is reportedly the shortest sentence in the English language. Could it be that I do is the longest sentence?" - George Carlin

[hollowtipsParticipant 681]

Time: Most of my friend have finished university, have had multiple relationships when I’ve only had one serious one. One of my friends is spending the year oversea’s in europe I’m disgustingly jealous of him. My older brother is a musical entrepreneur making over 40k a year and I’m so far behind him in the field. I don’t actually make any money to tell the truth. It’s been almost 4 years in this relationship and my life has had 0 progression.

Energy: I literally have no inspiration to do anything, I’ve written a whole album of music but don’t have the strength to go and record the songs. I have to drag myself to school, work. the gym, I keep wanting to rest and she insists on us going out and that I don’t “treat her well” despite myself cooking 75% of the meals, 100% of the laundry and dishes, working while going to school and paying for her gym membership. (I know you’re asking what the f~~~ am I even doing with this girl) To tell the truth we signed a 1 year lease extremely regrettably and I am just counting down the months until I can f~~~ing run for it.

Money: I’m 22 and have been working since I was 14. If I saved a grand every year of my life I would have 8 grand saved minimum, I was actually on track and a 4 grand 3 years ago before I started dating. Now I’m broke as f~~~ and got guilted into halfheartedly going to school.

I would give absolutely anything to have a time machine to go back in time and never date. I’m grateful that I’m still young and have time.

[AscendedParticipant 698]

I only have one regret: I didn’t recognized my self worth. I relied on the others to confirm it for me when I was still going to High School. That was starting from my age of 12 continuing until I got 19 years old, I bathed in depressions.
Basically I listened to the wrong people (they are related!) and thought I was nothing more on this planet but yet another survivable useless trash.
Talking about raising.
It went on and on until I have had enough and turned my back on the locals. Waves of red pills flushed upon me.
If I only had known to just shut up, turn my back much earlier and preserve myself, I wouldn’t be as badly damaged as I am now.
This resulted the same way how guys regret their losses, when they involved themselves in relationships: I never had any money to begin with, my energy was always depleted because I didn’t sleep enough and well and my time was literally WASTED by waiting until graduation. I mean what else could I do?

So there we have, 21 years old, never dated anybody but how come, that I wasted all this in that order: Time, energy, money ? Because of dependence and living conditions in my family. Well, I couldn’t possibly waste any money if I didn’t got any.

That’s all, only one mandatory thing to regret: That I didn’t know earlier how right I really was.

In addition I witnessed as I was growing up in my family. That was nowhere close to adequate. I watched them fighting, screaming and basically stressing the whole area, drama factory and 3 ring circus shows. I was fed up and tired of it all before I even got to the thoughts of getting in a relationship in the first place. I took their behavior as an example of getting married. I woke up being shaken and tossed around with force. I do not want any of this ever again.

I escaped out there as soon as I could. I did not recognize life after I first experienced a day – week – month of complete silence, calmness, tranquility, harmony and solitude.
This freedom is pricey so I will acquire it and never trade it for anything. I concluded for myself: Either I live free in liberty and independence or I shall die, fighting in a war. I don’t consider alternate choices.

I learned from the mistake of others and myself.

"We are free to follow our own path. There are those who will take that freedom from us, and too many of you gladly give it. But it is our ability to choose – whatever you think is true – that makes us human. There is no book or teacher to give you the answers, to show you the path. Choose your own way! Do not follow me, or anyone else."

[MalfunctionNeedInputParticipant 257]

Wow…I agree with the majority here: Time, Money, and Energy.

It was all for nothing, good memories I suppose at times followed by sadness when thought about, great waste of time. And I have a child I’ll be paying with for 18 more years and she’s raising her…great f~~~ing life.

Best part is she’s set for life now, she actually likes work (accountant) and I paid for her education (out of my pocket)! Everything fell into place nicely for her! She’s a user of men yet she claims to be strong and empowered. To some extent she is but she also uses men any chance she gets to achieve more. Can’t do that s~~~ on her own…

The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity. --Einstein

[TheWalkerParticipant 58]

Regret is a negative emotion. Better to think about ‘what have I learned’. I can’t change the past but what I can do is learn from it and do things better today. And for every day that follows.

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