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  • #877065
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    Santiago
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    Quick status update. Still working on weight loss, and pulling clothes out of the closet that hadn’t fit in years.
    I’m feeling a lot better physically, but the marriage still feels dead. So… no big change in plans.
    I’m down to 314 now, from 351 a couple months ago.

    #877075
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    Gravel Pit
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    Keep going. I ride a bike 17 miles everyday. This allows me to eat whatever I want but my weight loss has stopped. Diet is where the most important strides are made. When I went full Ketoginic for a about 6 weeks, coupled with the bike riding, I lost 25lbs eays. The following 6 weeks I ate whatever (allowed a bunch of carbs back into my diet) and I was not able to lose anymore weight and the bike riding merely just keeps me from gaining it back.

    I went from 230lbs to 205lbs. I want to keep losing weight but it requires stop eating so many carbs which sucks because I love chips, bread, ice cream, candy etc….. all of it is pure carbs.

    If you can stick to a diet of just these items, you will lose mad weight:

    Drink only water, tea, coffee or sparkling mineral water like Lecroix… no sugar whatsoever. No sugar substitutes either.

    Eat: Eggs, Salad, vegetables that go in salad like Onions, Jalapino, Carrots, Olives, etc…
    MEAT..pepporoni, beef, beef jerkly, hotdogs, chicken, bacon, pork… all meat is fine
    Nuts: postachio, almonds, pecans etc….
    raisins are okay in a salad but that is definitely a carb

    anyway good luck, whatever youre doing! Go Your Own Way man

    #877391
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    Santiago
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    Thanks. I’m all good on my method, and thanks for the encouragement!

    Those were good days, when I lived on the bike. Could eat a whole pizza and my body didn’t care. I was a lean, fast, eating machine.
    šŸ˜€

    #878894
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    Santiago
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    I’m weighing in on Sundays, and yesterday I was at 307.4
    This is down from 348.8 exactly two months ago.

    Still in contact with the new company, and will be going for my DOT physical later this week.

    A few things I’ve noticed, even though I still have about 100 lbs or so to lose:

    I’m on another trip to NM to visit family, and my HHR is no longer torture to drive. I’ve apparently lost enough posterior padding to give myself a little headroom, and there’s space between me and the steering wheel now.
    This also bodes well for the potential of comfort in a smaller, simpler camper in the future… even a teardrop.

    Also, I feel a lot better these days, and will keep it up. Doing more eating with family here, but my activity level in this walking-friendly town is a lot better than where I’m currently living.

    #878906
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    Gravel Pit
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    Good job. You are turning the wagons around and doing things YOUR WAY. Keep it up.

    More POWER to you. You have found what’s manageable for you and you’re getting results! F~~~ yes!

    Enjoy the LAnd of Enchantment! New Mexico is a gorgeous place. I would GLADLY live there if I could make a comfortable living. The scenery is heaven! The Climate is superb.

    #886775
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    Santiago
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    Sorry it’s been awhile.

    That drive away gig didn’t work out for a couple reasons, but I’m getting ready to start a 4 month I.T. project that’ll keep me busy for a while.

    I’m down to 287.6 as of this morning, so past the 60 lbs lost mark since I “officially” started.

    #886786
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    Hermit
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    Sorry it’s been awhile.
    That drive away gig didn’t work out for a couple reasons, but I’m getting ready to start a 4 month I.T. project that’ll keep me busy for a while.
    I’m down to 287.6 as of this morning, so past the 60 lbs lost mark since I ā€œofficiallyā€ started.

    Excellent work on the weight loss. I’m happy for you that you’ve been able to keep working on it and not giving up. Motivates me to try harder.

    The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

    #886929
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    Gravel Pit
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    Keep on, keeping on Santiago. GOING YOUR OWN WAY… Kicking ass and taking names.

    I went out for a 3 mile run this morning. Hated every second of it. Didnt want to do it, was in pain the whole time, walked the last half mile. But it was worth it!

    I dont suggest you run because you will get shinsplints. I got shinsplints when I was only weighing 220lbs.

    I had a blessing occur to me. I got the bicycle and rode it so much that I lost 20 pounds. And because I had lost that weight, I was able to start jogging a little bit without shinsplints. I was so happy.

    Dont get me wrong, running still sucks and I hate it. But I have also made progress. Keep doing what you’re doing bro!

    #892893
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    Santiago
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    Update: I’m down to 272.6 lbs this morning.

    As the wife is out of town, and not here to keep the kid occupied, I’m a bit limited in what I can do on the active side of things. It’s amazing how much I willingly pulled the blinders tight and let myself into morbid obesity, not doing what I loved because my family wasn’t interested in coming along. Like a sad blob “father figure”, I took that as a sign that my desired activity was somehow unworthy if it wasn’t on a honey-do list.
    In retrospect, it appears that frequent sex is a way for a woman to mask the anchor she’s tying to your neck, and by the time a fella realizes the problem, it’s too late. Then the fun stuff tapers off and you’re no more than a beast of burden.

    As I might have mentioned before, my losing weight and getting back into shape is probably worrying her more than she’ll let on.

    I can’t leave right now, and if she shapes up I may stick around, but I’m doing what I’m doing for myself. If you don’t have it to give, having given it all away, you become nothing more than another burden for someone else. Gotta earn it before you can give it.

    Escape options are still pretty similar. Find a cheap camper to pull behind my Suburban, sell both vehicles and buy a motorcycle and a tent, or go by bicycle. We’ll see.
    If she can’t take me living for myself, then it is what it is.

    #892894
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    Gravel Pit
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    I keep destroying all my workouts by eating too many carbs and globs of Recess chocolate. This week I decided, I keep Putting Out hard on the track and bicycle but I will no longer permit myself to RUIN those heavy efforts by eating whole packages of MEGA stuff OREos. WTF right? Why would I do that to myself after making so much progress?

    Good to hear you man. How heavy is she? Is she also hefty? Because if she is, you’re right, she is worried you’ll jump ship. Unless you’re money bags for her, then she may also be worried. Enjoy the time while she is gone.

    #892898
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    SpiderHerder
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    That is awesome, Santiago.

    If she doesn’t want you to be content or to be healthy, then she doesn’t love you. The love story has probably been over for a long time, if there was ever one. Sorry.

    I moved away from my old life on bicycle too: Got rid of everything I didn’t need, shipped everything else to someone I trusted then went on a bike trip. It was quite the experience.

    I’d get back on my bikes too… but I hate going outside now with all the stupid people staring at me like I’m a little green dude who just arrived here from another planet.

    Best of luck, man.

    #892909
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    Santiago
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    She is a bit chunky, but not as sloppy fat as I’d gotten. I’m pretty sure part of it is a developed laziness, in which she doesn’t really want to put in the effort to keep herself up when she’d already snagged a fella.

    Love story, insofar as intimacy and romance, has been pretty much dead for a few years now. I’m here mostly out of a sense of responsibility for our daughter.

    That might not be the best thing, but I figure I’ll do my best to get my own life back on track on the side, and I’ll be in better shape to jump ship at any point in the future. It wasn’t happening 5 months ago. I didn’t have the physical ability to hardly do the most mundane unskilled job.

    I’m doing much better now. šŸ™‚

    #892942
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    Anonymous
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    Over the last week, I’ve started exercising (got Doc’s blessing, too), and tracking everything I eat. I’m eating a lot less, and after nearly a week, not feeling a need to binge, so I’ve probably found a decent balance of reduced consumption and meeting my daily needs.
    It seems like, every time I talk about it, she starts seething and slams a wall between us. Is she really so dead set on my having a heart attack by 50?

    This sent a chill down my spine. She wants you dead.

    Divorce her and take her to the cleaners. Keep us updated.

    #893007
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    Santiago
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    I don’t think she really wants me dead, based on my read of her. I just think that I’m not enough like her Dad, and while she’s not going to actively do anything to bring on my demise, she was apparently satisfied with the idea of letting me choke out my own heart.

    Soo… yeah, not a good outlook for the longer term. I like her Dad, but I’ll never be him and don’t want to be.
    Getting myself up to where I can physically and financially go bye-bye. The latter isn’t a huge deal, as I can live very cheaply.
    I don’t need much. In fact, I still have to start paring down all the crap I’ve accumulated in the last decade or so.

    #893012
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    Monk
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    Your physical improvement program should run in parallel with other preparations, like stashing cash away. It will reach a point where she may strike first, so you need to be ready.

    #893173
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    Santiago
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    That’s what I’m working on right now. In the process of paying down credit accounts, then will be squirreling away cash.
    I hope to have a few thou set aside anyway, before the end of my current project.
    Then, if I sell smart, I have a few grand in stuff I can sell, too.

    #893175
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    Ranger One
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    I weighed 212 while 6’2″, so I could lose a few, I’m aiming to get down around 175. I’m about even 200 now. The Asian gf I broke up with in 2017, made a fuss about me losing weight so we could go to the beach… apparently she wanted “eye-candy”. LOL. I was hardly FAT, fat.

    So that s~~~ can cut both ways.

    All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

    #898950
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    Santiago
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    Update: I’m at 259.6 lbs this morning.

    I’ve been hiking mostly, but am really chomping the bit to get back on the bike.

    …though I’ve been slow to get started. Nothin’ to it but to get on and pedal.

    #899045
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    Gravel Pit
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    dont let anyone shake you out of your Hiking routine. When you feel the urge to go hoof it and break a sweat/wear out the legs — then go! Fuc.k anyone and everyone who doesnt like it. YOU are changing your life and developing a healthy habit, they can go to hell.

    #903940
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    Vajra Varaha
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    MEAT..pepporoni, beef, beef jerkly, hotdogs, chicken, bacon, pork… all meat is fine

    Only got one addition to this:

    Eat grass fed beef only. Pure grass fed, NOT grain finished. Grass fed beef has more Omega 3 than salmon. Grain fed switches it to pro inflammatory and much much less good for your health. It’s grain fed that leads to coronary disease.

    You know, let the cow eat what’s its suppose to, just like us. Not that processed s~~~ we’ve been raised on. Grass fed is making a come back.

    Now if we could just get the other cows to realize how great traditional living was…..LOL

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