Should Have Listened to My Gut

[MagpulParticipant 59]

Hey everyone. I’m 30, no kids, never married, and recently single. I joined this site back in December of 2016, a month later I met this girl right after I said I was taking a long break from dating or was done with it entirely. She was beautiful and from the beginning our personalities matched so well, we could talk for hours. I now know what they mean when they say the prettiest ones are usually the craziest.

First time ever seeing her she stayed with me at my house. Second night we had sex. Third night she told she loved me. That’s not even what originally sat my alarm bells off, but I was reeled into her by her looks and how she talked to me.

Second night she told me pretty much her life story. She’s 24. Her mom left her when she was a child and came back into her life again when she was a teenager and then left again. Her dad is paralyzed from the chest down due to a drunk driving accident. She had anorexia in high school, and was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and went on an SSRI for it that she has been on ever since. She was married at 19 and divorced at 20, and has lived with 3 guys that she broke it off with. And she is a heavy drinker, she could go toe to toe with me.

After hearing all of this, I specifically remember going to the bathroom and looking at the mirror and shaking my head for what I was about to get myself into.

I got into a relationship with this girl after the 4th day of hanging out with her. After the first month we talked about her living situation as she was living in the guest bedroom of a friends house ever since she broke up with her previous ex which was back in September. She moved in with me and I became the 4th guy she has lived with since she was 19. Things were great at first. I genuinely did like spending time with this girl, she made me feel good, and she had a great ass and the sex was great as well. I helped her with things, went out of my way to spend time with her and go to the places she would want to go to with her and her friends. I gave her tons of attention (which never seemed to be enough) and massages all the time. We talked marriage, rings, where to hold the wedding venue, she talked to my mom about a wedding and e-mailed places inquiring on pricing. More red flags I ignored because, well, pretty female. She use to say things about her never loving anyone as much as she does me, how I was her favorite person in the world and how instead of her friends and her dad she would go to me when she had issues. Turned out to be all bulls~~~.

I started noticing things about her. She became short tempered and little things would start to set her off. Things like me giving her crap for not being able to get things straight when she hangs them. Or when I wouldn’t answer the phone with “hey baby”, or say “I love you” at the end of the call. It’s like she would completely change and go into this weird mode where all of a sudden I was like an employee of hers that she was scolding, or a mother getting onto a child. She also seemed to have no interest in my personal history or the things that I liked doing. We went out to Colorado which is where I lived for 12 years and grew up and not once did she ask me anything personal about it while we were there. She didn’t even comment on the weather or how pretty it was, just glued to her phone the entire time. When my brother and his wife asked her about herself, she answered it like an interview question, like she had rehearsed it 10 times in front of a mirror.

Anyways, we got into it one night 2 weeks ago after she called me a f~~~~~ in front of her friends (she said she was joking, but a girl does not call a man that) and then when I caught her talking about her ex to one of her guy friends at a bar. She had a place to stay that night if I didn’t stay, so I got fed up with all the s~~~ and I left. She chose to stay at the bar and get drunk with her friends (her friends that never visited her when she lived here by the way) and then proceeds to post a video on snapchat singing “Another love crash and burns”. The next day she breaks up with me. She runs to her dad and her friends and I’m sure lays into me about how I’m this terrible guy. I didn’t take it too well, but I’m doing better now. I had my finances adjusted to her staying, so I have to redo all of that and may have to move out of my place as she did not give me this months rent. She got all of her stuff out of my garage yesterday and you can’t even tell she was ever here when coming into my house. I thought this girl genuinely loved me, but I was blinded by her looks, her affection, and her words which I thought nobody could ever go back on saying so easily. All of this happened within 3 and a half months.

So I’m back after having been through a short trench of what women are capable of. I should have listened to my gut.

[Anonymous 42]

Should Have Listened to My Gut

I love the titles you guys come up with! Only men running around in a mine field can come up with these GREAT TITLES!

Still Feeling Raw is the other thread title, same thing, dude WASTING TIME AND EFFORT ON WOMEN!

Keep doing the same thing over and over expecting different results from>>>>>“WOMEN?”.

That my friend is the BEST definition of INSANITY!

They’re not gonna get better, I guarantee they’ll only get WORSE! It’s TERMINAL!

[MACHOParticipant]

AWALT Magpul!

Hang in there.

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[MagpulParticipant 59]

Thanks guys. Taking it day by day, I won’t like I was not handling it very good for the first week. This week has been better, I finally feel like I’m seeing light again.

She texted me yesterday saying that the day was a disaster and the truck overheated and she was only able to get one load in her car. I didn’t respond. She texts back 20 minutes later saying nevermind, got everything. I didn’t respond and I have no intention of ever talking to her again. She was just trying to bait me.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Magpul wrote:

I got into a relationship with this girl after the 4th day of hanging out with her

NO “RELATIONSHIP” for at least 9-12 months. Forget writing it down. Carve it into a stone , and then etch it into a baseball bat and bonk yourself on the head with it. When you’re done, keep it in the corner by the door, and before you go out next time, hit yourself with it again.

Magpul wrote:

She also seemed to have no interest in my personal

This is how you know it doesn’t matter who the guy is, as long as she’s “in a relationship”. She will be in a relatioship with a guy who’s last name she doesn’t even know.

I once dated a woman 5 or 6 times in 4 weeks. She says “I guess this means we’re in a relationship now”. I was floored and it was super-creepy. She didn’t know anything about me, and never asked!

I actually asked her “how can you want to be a in a relationship with someone who’s full name you don’t even know? What’s my middle name? How many languages do I speak? How many sibs do I have? Do I play any musical instruments? What are they? ….. “

4 days and you’re in a relationship with her, you say?
that is a sign NOT to get into a relationship with her.

( your manstincts knew this already )

Magpul wrote:

I was like an employee of hers that she was scolding

Auditioning to be a wife, perhaps?

• No relationship for at least 12 months.
• No living together before at least 2 years.
• No proposal before at least 3 years.
• No “wife” for at least 4 years.
• No kids for at least 5/6 years.

Now it doesn’t matter if she takes a marital tone. You’ll dump her before you make a huge mistake. And she’ll reveal herself before then anyway.

Forget a “relationship”. She hasn’t known you long enough to even take that TONE with you. A perfect opportunity to establish new boundaries:

“Usually women wait until they’re MARRIED before lecturing like that. So if you don’t mind, I’ll ask you to adopt a less marital tone with me. Because I’m not your husband. I don’t HAVE to listen to you.”.

Magpul wrote:

When my brother and his wife asked her about herself, she answered it like an interview question, like she had rehearsed it 10 times in front of a mirror.

They apply makeup with absolute precision in the same way.

Magpul wrote:

she called me a f~~~~~ in front of her friends

I would ask her right in front of her friends “Is that supposed to be a hurtful insult? Do you hate gay people or something? What the f~~~ is the matter with you?”

In front of her friends.

“In front her friends” is where you can do the most damage. Women use social manipulation as a weapon. Be better at it than they are – and win. There’s nothing to it.

Magpul wrote:

The next day she breaks up with me.

Excellent. Every woman who breaks it off is doing the man a favor. I’m not even saying that to be funny.

Magpul wrote:

All of this happened within 3 and a half months.

That’s why NO “RELATIONSHIP” for at least 9-12 months. They get impatient and can’t keep the “good girl” act up that long.

“No relationship” means “no messy break up (or break up drama) is possible. It puts you in the position of being able to refuse to be suckered into it.

Magpul wrote:

Should Have Listened to My Gut

Your manstincts won’t let you down. We often do things that are AGAINST them – because every facet of “society” tell us to – but we shouldn’t.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

Magpul wrote:

She was beautiful and from the beginning our personalities matched so well, we could talk for hours.

What’s too good to be true, usually is.

Magpul wrote:

She moved in with me and I became the 4th guy she has lived with since she was 19.

Wondering how many she had sex with.

Magpul wrote:

She use to say things about her never loving anyone as much as she does me, how I was her favorite person in the world and how instead of her friends and her dad she would go to me when she had issues. Turned out to be all bulls~~~.

I started noticing things about her. She became short tempered and little things would start to set her off.

Wondering if you’re dating my ex?

Magpul wrote:

The next day she breaks up with me.

That’s the best thing that happened to you in this relationship. They usually don’t give up so easily.

Thanks for the story.

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

Magpul wrote:

I’m 30, no kids, never married, and recently single

Congratulations! You made it out unscathed.

Welcome home brother, make yourself comfortable.

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

Thank you for sharing. It could really happen to anyone. Obviously this isn’t a PUA site, but I’d strongly recommend getting advice from the men on this site on a regular basis because they’ll keep you on the straight and narrow if you take the time to hear their words.

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

MarketWatcher wrote:

Congratulations! You made it out unscathed.

He’s got another 10 years.

28-32 is a real danger zone for a man , and 30 is smack in the middle of it. Where women will try to lock him down using any unimaginable tactic without limits. He’s in the mine field right now, probably for another 5-8 years at least.

• They will try and make him feel like a “loser” if he doesn’t marry – and TOO FAST.
• They will accidentally “OOPS!” forget to take the pill.
• Threats and ultimatums i.e “propose by Christmas or it’s over”.
• They will shame, manipulate, accuse….

and all because they know their own SMV is about to crater – while his is about to skyrocket.

They tend to back off men 40+ because they know a +40 man is MUCH harder to manipulate. He’s been around the block a few hundred times.

MarketWatcher wrote:

make yourself comfortable.

But not TOO comfortable. The s~~~ tests will be flying at him like never before. They only just got started. I would say you can “get comfortable” at 45. Thats’ when he can stop bullets by holding up his hand.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 1]

I didn’t have your experience because I trusted my guts, welcome bro!

[SOLI2DEParticipant 746]

This is my story right here. Realizing that we have to stay away from CRAZY. Wish you much strength as you heal and move on. NEVER AGAIN

“Do not give your strength to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings.” -Proverbs 31:3-

[Anonymous 18]

If you want to make sure that she never comes back write her a very heartfelt letter that a mangijna would write.

Use phrases like she is the air you breathe, and without her your life ceases to have any meaning.

You want to give an impression that you are an utter spineless cuck.

This is to ensure that she will never come back to you. And if she does she has exhausted all her other options.

[Pedal, run, rowParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

If you want to make sure that she never comes back write her a very heartfelt letter that a mangijna would write.

Bwahaha! Sad, but true.

[The Batman 2020Participant 2112]

xlrsnbrg wrote:

Wondering if you’re dating my ex?

30 here too, and I have the same question! AWALT!

Your 20's are for learning, your 30's are for earning.

[jimbob15217Participant 491]

Say a prayer thanking God. You got off cheap.

[Anonymous 12]

I made it through the description of that Chick – and red the main story expecting a much worse outcome.

Gee Man, stop thinking with your Dick!

[AutoliteParticipant]

Magpul wrote:

Turned out to be all bulls~~~.

This pretty much sums up all relations~~~s. Only the details change…

[AntipathyParticipant 4901]

Magpul wrote:

Anyways, we got into it one night 2 weeks ago after she called me a f~~~~~ in front of her friends (she said she was joking, but a girl does not call a man that)

Unless she’s talking to Milo Yiannopoulos.

But on a more serious note, Magpul buddy welcome back. It’s stunning how even after we’ve been exposed to the red pill MGTOW knowledge, we can be drawn into the flame like a moth. It goes to show how strong, and how powerful our own biological desires, accompanied by psychological desires can be. When i look back at the few girls i was obsessed with in my late teens and early 20’s, i asked myself, if they were 305 pounds, would i have gotten hooked by them ?

When physical beauty, is accompanied by a psychological connection, and human touch etc, it can be overwhelmingly powerful, but it’s always important to remember where it all leads to, because in the very depths of our minds, we’re well aware of it.

[Anonymous 0]

I like that name. I have a few of their products.

You got off easy. Cheap lesson learned.

[Anonymous 3]

Magpul wrote:

Things were great at first.

This is the typical thing that happens. I can say it from experience. The bad part, that it does not stay great for a lifetime, and in at leat a few months you are thinking more and more on breaking up.

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