Reality is much better than Illusion.

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Spleefer wrote:

5 years ago everything in my life was revealed to me as an illusion. Wife moved out and served me papers. Her reason was she never loved me. Ya okay.Years of marriage and building a family gone in a half hour conversation. The deal she gave me was good, so I didn’t fight it. I signed the papers and we were officially divorced by April.
I don’t need to go into detail the loss I felt. Most here understand the heartache and the rage. In reality, it was the best thing she could have done for me. She put me out of my misery. Time gives a man perspective, she actually set me free. No more illusions, now I can realize I wasn’t the problem.
In the illusion, I was always thinking if I do this then she will be happy. Years of this living. Hoop after hoop after hoop. Constantly having to improve my behavior to make her happy, so my life would be tolerable. I walked on eggshells in my own home FOR YEARS. To the public she was a sweet Christian woman. Reality was she never once prayed for me.
Reality was she got her kids from me, got her degree from me, got thousands from my account. Reality was she most definitely never loved me, ever.
Reality can be a lot to handle. I am alone. There is nobody to back me up. I am a couple of major events away from being homeless. We all are. In the past, this reality would push me to seek comfort and security from a woman. But that was the past illusion, now being monk for well over a year, I have learned that I am very capable of handling life on my own. Years of living paycheck to paycheck, now I have plenty in the savings. Strange how that worked out.
The more time goes by without physical contact of females, the more NFG I acquire. I look at the reality instead of the illusion now. The approval of women is no longer needed or wanted. One thing that has change recently is that women don’t bother me as much now. The dumb s~~~ they do now is just a bug on the windshield. Before, it would take me a half a day to recover from something a woman said/did to p~~~ me off. Now, I just laugh or I don’t even hear them.
It’s just about a daily occurrence where I get reminded on how great my life is now. I am truly free. I’m free from the bondage of a lousy wife. I’m free from having to make excuses for someone else’s behavior. I’m free from making excuses for my OWN behavior. If my life is not what I want it to be, I have nobody to blame but myself. I come home to peace and the love of my dog. Fellas, there is great joy in those very simple ideals. Embrace the solitude don’t fight against it. Those of us who are free in this manner should rejoice! The illusion still tempts me on a regular basis, but the longer I resist the easier it is to live in REALITY! I get reality checks from this website and for that I am grateful, much respect for those who contribute to the forum. Reality can be a shock sometimes, but at least we are not living in an illusion.
Spleefer

So don’t spare us the details! What kinda dog do you have???

[Dark KenshiParticipant 2132]

Freedom is an expensive perk, my fellow brothers.

And it has to be gained through pain, sweat, tears and a s~~~ load of blood.
Sometimes, for the wolf to break free from the trap, he has to chew his own leg. And all of you somehow did it, and now you are here to tell us how stronger you are, after you almost drowned in the ocean of gynocentrism. Thank the gods you all are here, and able to share with us thiese bits of pure MGTOW wisdom.

Your stories are the greatest display that no matter how s~~~ty your life post-relations~~~ can be, in the long run, you are way better alone than with cupcake. You will heal, if you embrace the lone wolf life.

Another powerful red pill to be swallowed, by the lurkers in here. And I vote this thread for the Top Gun section.

"Young was I once, I walked alone, and bewildered seemed in the way; then I found me another and rich I thought me, for man is the joy of man." Odin, Hàvamàl, stanza 47.

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Monk wrote:

Hermit wrote:

I hate to admit she did something positive for me, but it’s true. I really hate to admit that maybe because of that, the decades of misery may have been worth it. LOL

She did not do anything positive for you.
It was an investment for her.

Can’t argue with that, but nevertheless, it worked out good for me.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Swimcat wrote:

Interesting how all you guys stated that in the long run you were better off divorced, both emotionally and financially. I’ve always thought that women come out ahead in the short run, men come out ahead in the long run. This confirms that. In my work I see so many women that have been divorced for years and get to retirement dead busted broke.

Very important point. Personal opinion, but I think that’s because women in general don’t think about the same long-term goals that men do. One of the biggest ones is your financial future. For a guy, he realizes that his financial future is up to him. So he does his best to save money his entire life. When I got married I had a 401K, a defined contribution plan at work, and an IRA rollover from previous jobs. She had nothing. When we got divorced, I had been putting money away the entire time. She had nothing. Except that she got her portion of what I had saved.

Then she gets 5 years of alimony payments. Doesn’t think about putting a little of that aside for when it stops. Now she has less than a year of support left and nothing to show for it. But when she left she thought her SMV would land her another provider. THAT’S their retirement plan, their vagina. But she hasn’t found a new retirement plan yet.

Me? Well, I sacrificed some short-term fun to get my divorce debts paid off. Now I max out my 401K contribution, got a few raises, got a few other perks at work and I’m doing better than ever.

Women are better off after the divorce because they have the hive, because they can always go get laid at will to make themselves feel better, and because they have “free money” coming in. Men will sacrifice in the short-term to advance their long-term goals. And then when the alimony payment stops, they are in great financial shape.

Order the good wine

[iMickey503Participant 12468]

I not a fan of threads like this. They are needed. They are necessary, but each time I hear about other men’s experiences, I often can’t seem to comprehend why it was an illusion in the first place.

I actually had to look up the word Illusion. For the life of me, I could not describe it or define it to myself in words. So,:

An illusion is a distortion of the senses, which can reveal how the human brain normally organizes and interprets sensory stimulation. Though illusions distort our perception of reality, they are generally shared by most people.[1]

See, this is where I either have some kind of roadblock, or I really am unable to comprehend reality as most people view it since my mind does not seem to be able to cope with the truth. Sure, I know it. I have seen it and experienced it. I read about it, & even see it in action.

That is where everything falls apart. I almost feel like a poser sometimes. I know the truth, but my mind still does not want to accept it. It’s not easy to admit this, but I don’t think I will ever be able to come to terms with Red Pill Knowledge. Its not the same as knowing that if you turn on a light switch, and there is no electricity, there is no light. That sounds simple to reproduce. It makes sense. I know that’s how it works and have verifiable results being able to repeat this process and I feel that it is not an illusion.

The relationship between reality, and illusion seems easy to distinguish on first glance. Unless I have some screws loose, there has to be something more going on here. Some may explain this away as Hormones. If that was true, then that would mean that hormones are able to mask reality in a sense to how we experience it. That can’t be the case overall with all the things we witness and have suffered, but we still at some point just jump right back on to the plantation. Or never seem to give up on the perfect Unicron being out there. Despite what clear facts are out there stating the very obvious about women.

Now let me try to make this clear so that all of us can understand why I bring this up.

This photo here is an example of an illusion that for some reason does in fact seem to be perpetuated by our minds. Even going as far as fooling the human optic system. (I am not sure if women see this the same way, but I would think they would as well.)

IMG CREDIT: Butisit

The photo above shows something coined as “Checker shadow illusion”

See, this is where I had to question my perception of what I am experiencing. Case in point. Take a look at these two images. They are actually the same with the distinguishing factor being that one shows that most images are the same. Take a look:
Original Images By: Edward H. Adelson, vectorized by Pbroks13. – Own work, CC BY-SA 4.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=75000950

Even after singling it out with a mask, the shades still look different to me.

From wiki:
The image depicts a checkerboard with light and dark squares, partly shadowed by another object. The optical illusion is that the area labeled A appears to be a darker color than the area labeled B. However, within the context of the two-dimensional image, they are of identical brightness, i.e., they would be printed with identical mixtures of ink, or displayed on a screen with pixels of identical colour-shade

Here is a video showcasing this human Psychophysics phenomenon above in real time:

This video goes over what I think is some of the most interesting parts of human perception and how they can be changed or interpreted.

So WHY all the Information above and content?

I think there is some real credible evidence that what we see about women or attraction to the opposite sex may just be a form of clever Psychophysics. (A more elaborate illusion if you will) This theory of mine does have some merit as on the surface, all of us grow attached to things over time. It is indeed a male trait. (sorry for the Marie Claire Link, but the original study was funded by Match.com)

Quora has a GREAT thread on this with some pretty heavy hitters explaining this and link to the posts confirm that these men that are in the thread are not just hacks.

This book is actually pretty Red Pill in my opinion. And it does seem to go over some of the things in a way that almost goes under the radar.

You can read more about the book, and the author here

The point of this post and the evidence to my hypothesis is that I wonder if the hormones actually play a real number on us, or maybe there is more to it then that? If it is indeed hormones just like TFM talks about, then it means that most of our troubles could be avoided if we happen to come up with an antidote that works before the Red Pill lessons are learned by experience. One of the worst way to learn them as many of us would agree.

So instead on focusing on war, or some kind of Violent ending to our existence, maybe there is a way forego all of this and then finally have some kind of real awakening to Men all over.

It also makes me wonder if during this time with a relationship with a woman, if in fact our own biology works against us in long term relationships? This could also be explained with the release of some kind of Pheromones that indeed encourage women to be as they are.

I AM NOT SAYING THAT WOMEN DO NOT HAVE AGENCY. THAT IS FULL OUT BULLS~~~.

What I am trying to say is that the strong force that allows us to be keep putting up with this kind of treatment, and why some men never seem to be able to experience the same as others regardless if the substitution is exactly the same, may be in fact due to some kind of vulnerability to the content I mentioned above.

In fact, being a cuck may just be a Medical condition. Think about that? It would be one of the most groundbreaking research studies if that was true.

There has been some work done on something similar. It might just change the world? Or make it so that the rest of us understand why things truly are the way they are. Anything that could explain why we put up with the crap we did would sure be reassuring.

It would also break that strong hold that the state/government/gynocentric society has when it prays on a man’s Affection, Love and care of things he values against him that for the most part might not even have any value at all.

Sdlared story almost makes sense when you really think about the lengths of the Blue Pill programing that a man is willing to go through just for the sake of attachment. In fact, being Blue Pill may just happen to be a classifiable disease or medical condition if we claidity it as the others disorders we have today.

I hope that this does make sense for the rest of you who may not understand why you still feel there is hope, or some of you that can’t seem to look past your mind and see what is really there.

My other question might just be, how much of our “programing” is in fact given to us from the Media and the environment to ensure that we keep the “Milk Money” running for everyone else. Seems a credible motive or reason to keep the current system going as long as possible.

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3799]

Taxguy said:

A six figure salary, makes meals for the kids, does homework with them, plays with them, cleans up inside and outside the house. That’s supposed to be the perfect guy, right? Nope.

Hey, even I would marry him, muhahahaha.

This is a great thread, thanks to everyone for their stories. I’m definitely glad I didn’t have to live through something like this. Your present life must taste a lot sweeter than mine since you’ve been in that situation. Anyway, I’m not making much sense right now.

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SpiderHerder wrote:

Taxguy said:

A six figure salary, makes meals for the kids, does homework with them, plays with them, cleans up inside and outside the house. That’s supposed to be the perfect guy, right? Nope.

Hey, even I would marry him, muhahahaha.
This is a great thread, thanks to everyone for their stories. I’m definitely glad I didn’t have to live through something like this. Your present life must taste a lot sweeter than mine since you’ve been in that situation. Anyway, I’m not making much sense right now.

You’re making perfect sense. I had no idea that I had it made when I was young and lived alone before I got married. Now I look back and wonder why I was so ignorant. Why did I have to go through that s~~~ of married life to realize I was better off living alone? I wasn’t very happy living alone before marriage. Now I wish I could go back and enjoy what I had when I had it and was still young and healthy.

So yeah, you’re right. Life is really sweet now after going through that s~~~ and I can really appreciate what I had before and what I have now.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

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