No fire in my belly

[theman007Participant 32]

I am not sure where to really post this. I had introduced myself awhile ago on this forum. I have been a life long MGTOW. I am in my mid 30’s, single, never married with no kids. I have a decent job in Alberta, thankfully. I work in the oil and gas business and have so far survived layoffs.

For some reason, I have lost motivation to do anything. I am not sure what the reason is, nothing seems fun. It feels like every new relationship is give / take almost impossible to make nice/new genuine friends with men or women(forget them- all of them over grown selfish children)

I have almost no passion in life and don’t know what the reason is. I go to the gym regularly, but it feels like a chore. Nothing is exciting. I don’t know about others here, the right way to put it is I feel dead from the inside.

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

I feel ya buddy.

[AutoliteParticipant]

theman007 wrote:

For some reason, I have lost motivation to do anything. I am not sure what the reason is, nothing seems fun.

It’s normal to feel like that and it’s probably temporary. That feeling will come and go. When it comes, I just focus on getting work done until it goes away. I think sometimes a road trip helps…

[theman007Participant 32]

autolite – It is not a temporary feeling. It has been like this for years, I feel a little better after a vacation but the excitement soon dies down a few days later. I think my job, living in a rural area, extremely cold weather, lack of good friends, together is taking toll on me.

Just don’t know what to do. The logical answer would be to relocate to a large metropolitan area with a ton of jobs, but my skill set isn’t really in huge demand.

[TheDudeParticipant 724]

Autolite wrote:

theman007 wrote:

For some reason, I have lost motivation to do anything. I am not sure what the reason is, nothing seems fun.

It’s normal to feel like that and it’s probably temporary. That feeling will come and go. When it comes, I just focus on getting work done until it goes away. I think sometimes a road trip helps…

No one here knows your situation better than you. All I can say is that I’ve been there myself and it’s always passed.

How long has it been going on?

[Joey AlfioParticipant]

Such a feeling just means you’re uncertain of the future and your place in it. What are your goals in the years and decades to come? How long do you plan on working and if you feel like going to the gym has become a pain in the ass then perhaps it’s best you take some time off and focus on new hobbies or learn something new to keep yourself occupied. You have to keep your mind active as well or it will start to mess with you as it’s doing now.

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[AutoliteParticipant]

theman007 wrote:

I think my job, living in a rural area, extremely cold weather, lack of good friends, together is taking toll on me.

Yes Alberta can be cold and the winters are long. I get that. As far as friends go, maybe you’re expecting too much. I’ve only ever had a few “good” friends in my whole life. And I think that’s about average for everyone.

Maybe consider lowering your expectations a little. I’m not being trite here. It’s what I do and it works for me. Try and appreciate that you’ve got a good paying job because many people don’t.

I find that the older you get the more you appreciate the simple things. Now, I’m just thankful that I’m not starving, freezing or in constant pain…

[Anonymous 13]

It sounds like you need some good hobbies, something you really enjoy.

One of mine is classic Fords and car restoration.

I can’t wait to get another garage and get stuck back in.

In the meantime I’ve got other things I like to do. Photography, reading, walking.

It seems like you just need to find that something.

Take care Bro.

[TheDudeParticipant 724]

Just seen your new post above mine. Years is a long time to be in a funk.

[Anonymous 1]

Best thing is to continue to try new things. If possible get a dog. That animal will love you and give you more attention than you can handle.

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

You are not doing what you love. Same as me. But unlike me, you are not trapped in a marriage until the kids are 18 and so you have all the time and spare money for yourself. Use that time and money to learn/study your true passion. Then relocate to a place that has the weather you like and a demand for your newly acquired skills. You will then feel happy and it will give you a glow that will attract like minded people and you will thus make new friends also.
I wish I could do that. I would start today. I can’t start yet.
But you can.
F~~~ chores. Think about what you would like to be, as unlikely as it would seem, and then go do it. Because you can.
Work your butt off and put money on the side.
Quit the gym and use the money for online courses, or books or training or whatever will get you the skills you need to be able to do what you love to do.
Then, use the money you saved to maintain yourself in a new place/country until you get a job/income.
Do it, because you CAN.

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[Anonymous 42]

Anonymous wrote:

Best thing is to continue to try new things. If possible get a dog. That animal will love you and give you more attention than you can handle.

Good advice, I had fish and used to marvel at them being warm and comfortable while it was snowing outside, until the power went out while I was away, all but one died, I named him Milo and gave him a much smaller tank, sounds like you’re feeling like Milo.

[TheDudeParticipant 724]

To be honest, the modern world is such a hostile unloving place for men, I’m surprised more of us don’t jump off bridges.

Just goes to show how resilient we really are.

[MACHOParticipant]

theman007 wrote:

I am not sure where to really post this

theman007 wrote:

For some reason, I have lost motivation to do anything. I am not sure what the reason is, nothing seems fun. It feels like every new relationship is give / take almost impossible to make nice/new genuine friends with men or women

Did you try The Litter Box?

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[AutoliteParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

If possible get a dog. That animal will love you and give you more attention than you can handle.

Oh yes! That’s an excellent suggestion. A dog will take up as much of your time as you’re willing to afford also.

I would like to recommend a Malamute. They’re wonderful companions and you don’t have to train them how to kill cats…

[MACHOParticipant]

Autolite wrote:

I would like to recommend a Malamute. They’re wonderful companions and you don’t have to train them how to kill cats

Good one Autolite! 👍

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Let me add my two cents. We live in a society that has no spark, no drive, no impetus, except hedonistic self pleasure. This is enough to placate the sheeple.

But men need more. We need a challenge, we need to overcome obstacles. Without that there is a feeling of purposelessness.

[theman007Participant 32]

MG-Tower – You hit the nail right on the head. I had a very hard life, I left home at age 15. My parents were abusive, so I couldn’t take it. Some how, I pieced my life together. I have a good education, and a job but that’s about it.

You are right – Quite a few of my close friends are dead and they died in their 20’s. They didn’t lose life naturally, they worked at convenient stores or small business and were shot dead while being robbed. One committed suicide because of family/career demands. He jumped right in front of a train. He had an old mother who had a severe car accident to support, a divorced sister with small children who had no where to go, his 4 year old son died of cancer and his wife blamed his son’s death on him. His wife is superstitious, and thinks that the man is cursed by god as all his immediate family were flirting with death or have terrible luck.

I almost got stabbed once by some fool in Louisiana who thought I was a terrorist for some reason. Dodged being shot at a convenient store. I had two serious break ups, not one that let to marriage but they were long term relationship. Just a series of s~~~ting chain events happening.

I quite honestly, don’t even know if any job is worth the effort for me to put into. Just lost on what to do……I don’t know if this is middle age crisis.

[AutoliteParticipant]

theman007 wrote:

I had two serious break ups, not one that let to marriage but they were long term relationship.

You haven’t actually lost anything there. You’ll figure that out the more you read the stories here.

theman007 wrote:

I quite honestly, don’t even know if any job is worth the effort for me to put into. Just lost on what to do…

Read and consider the suggestions in this thread. They are all good. Pets, hobbies or doing something that you love. That’s all you need to do at the moment…

[Anonymous 42]

TheDude wrote:

o be honest, the modern world is such a hostile unloving place for men, I’m surprised more of us don’t jump off bridges.

We do jump off bridges, also antennas, buildings, cliffs, in ever increasing numbers!

They’re called BASE jumpers, they’re mostly MEN enjoying their life to the fullest, same in the sport of skiing, mostly MGTOW if you ask me.

The blue pill indoctrinated idiot is the one most likely to go jumping and land at terminal viscosity! All the others are having fun and landing safely!

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