New relationship with GF and she gets in a car accident. Could you dump her?

[OneLaneOnlyPlsParticipant 1747]

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

Thank you guys. I couldn’t get this kind of honest advice from my social circles.

I’m going to initiate (via text) the opportunity to discuss things and if it’s refused or ignored I’m going to end it (via text.)

Sadly, I’m not being offered any other way.

CJ

Bruh….

She ain’t your problem.
You owe her zero.

Do you really want to stick your hand in the oven, for a burnt fish-finger?

Caman….

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

Guys care more about in-person closure then women do. I talk from experience. She couldn’t care less. And yes, it’s a real possibility that there’s some sucker-orbiter in the deal somewhere (A women’s iPhone knows more about where her desires are than anyone in the world).

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[GargamelSpectator 29101]

WPL wrote:

Her car was demolished, but it protected her impressively well. She sustained minor abrasions and burns from the airbag, plus some bruising and soreness. Right after the wreck, her attitude toward me changed. Anything I did for her wasn’t enough… “you don’t care enough about me” sort of comments. In retrospect, I understand that her attitude was just a way for the hamster to justify cheating.

And you were probably the loveful and caring “fool” that bought her this protective type of car in the first place. Maybe we (ALL MEN) should stop buying out of work parasitic (and thus aggressive) women expensive SUV housewife tanks.

In 1992, I almost got folded over by such a creature. If was my inner prejudice unconsciously seeing that woman with in that big Nissan Patrol approaching that intersection. I stopped, driven by a holy force, even though I had the right of way.

My friend was with me and later stared at me with empty eyes, wondering who told me to stop an save or lives.

That c~~~ would have hit me right in the left door. But my car was just as stable and I would have made some turn and throw her car over… Stepping on the gas in a side impact scenario can “distribute the impact forces” over the entire sidewall and avoid deep intrusion. And throw the other car over if you have a “big enough” motor…

That’s why you won’t see me drive anything less than “top range” car models preferably used by crash- and stock car racers…

This real world “repuation” is worth more than any manipulated and “paid for” crash test.

C~~~s driving big cars, playing with smartphones should lose their licence at once. Not just the 80 Euros fined by the German police…

At least one year of walking would have the positive side effect of making them less fat-assed…

In July of 2018, this honey pot forum was sold out to an unidentified NPC sock puppet and troll organization. Most independent thinkers and writers migrated to other MGTOW forums as a result of the never-ending infighting and deliberate trouble starting caused by members who were given "carte blanche" by the admin to do whatever they want. Before my departure, I only left a few thousand cat pics here to comfort and ridicule the feminist owners who now run this place. Their background agenda is to make MGTOW look like a club of losers the public eye. And during the course of 2019, they actually managed to destroy almost all other MGTOW venues as well. Here is the truth about "theindependentman.org" aka "TIM" which was created as an extended workbench to further divide the community. When you register, they install a spyware Zombie cookie on your browser that does all kinds of things the user does not know of: http://www.filedropper.com/essay-on-the-removal-of-malware-cookies-used-by-tim

[IRuleMeParticipant]

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

Hey Bushido,

Thanks. I’m not all rainbows and unicorns. I’m 40 and divorced. I’ve been around (and f****).

I’d be happy to hit pause and consider getting together later. (But probably not)

My thinking is give it another day or two, if she doesn’t reach out then to text asking if we can talk. If no response in say 24-36 hrs I think a breakup text is justified.

I’ve never broken up via text. I’d prefer to end things like a man, somewhat honorably. (Although thanks to MGTOW (Human, Sandman, Coitier (sp?) that word is losing meaning in this context.)

Thoughts?

Why would you get back together with someone you already have tumultuous, rocky relationship in the past, with? That’s self abuse bro. It’s never going to ever end well, and when it’s all over, you’re going to end up seeing what a gigantic waste of time it was. Cut your losses and move on. Once you guys get by the accident stage, you’re going to be right back to the point in the relationship you were in before which was already failing. Don’t be a slave. Walk away.

[anonymousyamParticipant 4605]

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

My GF of ~7 months, got in a car accident a couple weeks ago. She’s in a wheel chair and will be for a few months but will make a full recovery. I was very involved in her care at the hospital, and we’d planned for onwards.

Let the nurses who get payed to care for her care for her and let your girlfriend pay for hers bills. If it was your child, or parent or even brother i get it but she has no attachment to you blood wise. You should not be working free labor to a woman who will be in a wheelchair for months without benefit. Is she gonna suck your dick or f~~~ your prick for it? will the value she bring compensate you for the work you put in?

Consider it your second job and the point of a job at the end of the day is getting paid. You put the hours into the company and the company gives you compensation for those hours and your labor. Will you be compensated for hours spent caring for her?

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

I visited her last night to bring her a bunch of food and things she’ll need. I tried to set up a future date to reconnect. I can’t get any alone time with her. She’s non commital all of a sudden. When I saw her I kissed her, I can tell she was avoiding it, and it was like kissing a stranger.

She is looking to get rid of your ass and does not have the b~~~~ to tell you.

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

Adding: At 40, I see women as a waste of time with little return on investment.

You know the f~~~ing answer just take it.

Just an east coast asshole who likes to curse, If you get offended by words like fuck, cunt, shit, piss, bitch or any racial slurs then you just scroll down.

[GrumpyParticipant]

Physical distance and emotional distance are two different things that have the same effect.
She already put the emotional distance in place, you need to make it physical distance now.
Just turn around and walk away to a better life.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[WanderingMGTOWParticipant 288]

I always like it when people come back and update on their questions or situations so I will do the same.

Thanks for the advice and support. Its been helpful. I don’t have many “enlightened” men to talk to about these things in real life.

I was right in my assumptions, despite having full “text-evidence” showing otherwise in her phone.
There are several good reasons why we could have ended, I just wish the one selected was true.
I think at the heart of the mater, she chose this avenue because it allows her to villan-ize me while removing any accountability for the relationship breakdown from herself.

Oh well. Good riddance. The relationsh1t has been formally ended. She’s now blocked everywhere and NC is in full effect.

Any sadness I feel is mitigated by a overwhelming sense of freedom and relief.

I’ll be changing my focus to self improvement and fulfillment, which is where it should have been after my divorce.

TiredOfWmnSh1t.

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

I gave a lot of effort and time to her care but she thought not enough as I’d needed a day off for other commitments (after a week) and is now sort of ghosting me (though very communicative with others.)

She should be grateful that you spent A WHOLE WEEK caring for her. Many other guys would have split right away. And yet, she’s ungrateful and punishing you for taking ONE DAY to attend to other commitments? Selfish selfish selfish = “I don’t care what he may need to do in his life, all that matters is MY NEEDS and I MUST BE HIS ONLY PRIORITY” = GTFO Dump her ASAP!!!

[Left siteParticipant 451]

This is my honest opinion and it may seem harsh but dump that girl. Clearly the relationship appear to be going up hill but what about after the recovery? You will be back where she started. She is most likely just using you for companionship to avoid being alone. It would be hard for her to find someone to comfort her in a wheel chair so yes i believe its a sham until she is recovered.

[ABParticipant 762]

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

I’d rather not be in limbo and would like to end it.

You answered your question yourself, right there.

No-one's yet explained to me exactly what's so great // About slaving fifty years away on something that you hate // About meekly shuffling down the path of mediocrity // Well if that's your road then take it, but it's not the road for me.

[Author]

Posts