New relationship with GF and she gets in a car accident. Could you dump her?

[WanderingMGTOWParticipant 288]

I need some advice from guys who get it. (MGTOW, How women really are, etc.)

I have a long detailed version of this that I can post but I’m trying hard for a short version.

My GF of ~7 months, got in a car accident a couple weeks ago. She’s in a wheel chair and will be for a few months but will make a full recovery. I was very involved in her care at the hospital, and we’d planned for onwards.

The month pre-accident had been kind of rocky. We’d uncovered some possibly significant incompatibilities. I found out (after accident) that she’d been considering ending it. (I had been too, I felt held back from my side business, career, fitness and travel.)

I gave a lot of effort and time to her care but she thought not enough as I’d needed a day off for other commitments (after a week) and is now sort of ghosting me (though very communicative with others.)

She’s staying with a friend who’s house is wheel-chair compatible. (Mine was offered but isn’t great). She’s a 45+ min drive away now.

I visited her last night to bring her a bunch of food and things she’ll need. I tried to set up a future date to reconnect. I can’t get any alone time with her. She’s non commital all of a sudden. When I saw her I kissed her, I can tell she was avoiding it, and it was like kissing a stranger.

It’s been a few weeks now and her behavior is a 360. I think, based on this treatment, I’d rather not be in limbo and would like to end it. I’d consider getting back together later but (again) based on current treatment she isn’t worth the effort.

I dumped her at the 4 month point, harshly because I didn’t like how she treated me and we re-united after a month.

My Dad reminds me that we’re only dating, not married. It’s still feels s~~~ty to end it but I want to.

Since she won’t engage with me, seems like a good justification for a text ending? (In person would be preferred but I can’t force her)

Adding: At 40, I see women as a waste of time with little return on investment.
I’m in no hurry to date again, planning to go MGTOW if/when I become single (Thats another post tho.)

What would you do?

[HitmanParticipant]

make a proper intro.

[WanderingMGTOWParticipant 288]

In the intro forum or here?

[BushidoParticipant 637]

Brother, I’d say tell it to her straight. You don’t feel like she’s relationship-material at the moment. It’s one of those things that sucks b~~~~ but from what I read it’s already been falling apart already.

My inner empath says to offer assistance if you are literally the only other help available other than whatever network she has now. At the same time, don’t f~~~ yourself over just trying to help out.

My MGTOW says she has a friend with the amenities she needs and she’s already got a support network.

I’ve seen my share of brothers here get dumped following a tragic accident and it’s brutal; it’s one of those events that seriously makes-or-breaks any bonafide relationship. It would certainly vilify you if you left in such a vulnerable time.

Look brother, just because things begin to change now doesn’t mean all of a sudden the relationship is all hunky dory. She’s had a traumatic event that will throw her off for a while which is probably why she feels needy and more dependent on you. Milk it or toss it, that’s your call – but remember one thing:

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

The month pre-accident had been kind of rocky. We’d uncovered some possibly significant incompatibilities. I found out (after accident) that she’d been considering ending it. (I had been too, I felt held back from my side business, career, fitness and travel.)

If you have doubts, sever it before it becomes an emotional decision. The facts and recent past have not changed.

Best of luck brother.

Logic guides your actions, emotion guides your morals. Only you may decide how you use them.

[HitmanParticipant]

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

In the intro forum or here?

intro forum section.

[Anonymous 43]

end it now before you get sucked into a s~~~ vortex…pay my hospital bills, take mr to therapy, buy me a new car.

[WanderingMGTOWParticipant 288]

Hey Bushido,

Thanks. I’m not all rainbows and unicorns. I’m 40 and divorced. I’ve been around (and f****).

I’d be happy to hit pause and consider getting together later. (But probably not)

My thinking is give it another day or two, if she doesn’t reach out then to text asking if we can talk. If no response in say 24-36 hrs I think a breakup text is justified.

I’ve never broken up via text. I’d prefer to end things like a man, somewhat honorably. (Although thanks to MGTOW (Human, Sandman, Coitier (sp?) that word is losing meaning in this context.)

Thoughts?

[HitmanParticipant]

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

Thoughts?

intro.

[WanderingMGTOWParticipant 288]

Intro posted.

[joetechParticipant]

I had the opportunity to end it with wife number 1 after our son was born premature. Not exactly the same situation as you, but the similarity is there. She’s been hurt and you don’t want to kick her when she’s down. If it wasn’t working before, what makes you think it will be better later? She’s reeling you in with sympathy for her circumstance. Once that’s accomplished and the emotional bond has been established, you’ll turn into her doormat. How did she get into this accident anyway? Does she drive like s~~~? My advice is to dump her. Bad is bad, no matter how much sympathy she elicits from her current circumstance. She sounds like a needful thing and I think she’s using this accident to get her claws deeper into you. I should have sent my first wife home after our son died. I didn’t and my daughter and I both paid the price. Run, Luke! Run!

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[HitmanParticipant]

dump her like a bag of trash.
you are way better off on your own.
she will play up all her suffering,
like for an academy award.
..and all your effort will be forgotten,
or actually used against you.

[jimbob15217Participant 491]

Put the ball on her side. Tell her she’s putting out a s~~~ty vibe and you’d like to give her a chance to explain what it’s about. If she engages you civilly and sensibly try to talk it out. If she goes all bitch mode and puts you in the wrong, simply end the conversation and tell her she won’t be hearing from you any more. She’s told you what you need to know. For god’s sake, after just a few months don’t make it complicated. It’s a voluntary relationship, not a commitment. She’s not a wife or a family member. So, don’t treat her like one.

[Anonymous 42]

I got to the part about her ghosting you and friendly talkative to others after you WASTED a f~~~ing WEEK of your life in her narcissistic s~~~ show car crash! She’d smoke you like sockeye salmon if it were the other way around.

I’d be laying some rubber if I were you! When the smoke clears you’ll find her reeling in another sucker,YOU SUCKER! DUMP. THAT. BITCH!

Narsism is an incurable mental illness!

DUMP THAT BITCH is not…

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Would she dump you if you lost your job?

There you go.

Now would she tell you the TRUTH?

And there you go again.

Or would she say:
• “it’s not you it’s me”.
• “I’m at a place where I really need to focus on my career”.
• “I just don’t think I have anything to give at the moment”
• “I think of you more like a brother.”
• “I just want us to be friends.”
• “I need time, I need space.”
• “I think I need to take a break and find myself.”
• “I think I need to be alone for a while.”
• “I’m sure you will find someone who will really appreciate you.”
• “You’re too good to be alone. I’m just not ready for a relationship right now.”

Pick one.

One of the most beautiful bonuses of the red-pill/Manosphere/MGTOW is how you can always feel good about holding yourself to your own standards and not look to others for social cues. However, when you don’t know quite how to handle a situation, flip the sexes and the solution presents itself.

Hold yourself to YOUR OWN standards.
Hold women to THEIR OWN standards.

You’re all set.

Hitman wrote:

make a proper intro.

Hitman wrote:

intro forum section.

Hitman wrote:

intro.

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

Intro posted.

Hitman wrote:

dump her like a bag of trash.

That was . . . . hilarious.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[WanderingMGTOWParticipant 288]

Thank you guys. I couldn’t get this kind of honest advice from my social circles.

I’m going to initiate (via text) the opportunity to discuss things and if it’s refused or ignored I’m going to end it (via text.)

Sadly, I’m not being offered any other way.

CJ

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

If it were you in the accident and in the wheelchair instead of her, she would have already dumped you. I guarantee it.

[HitmanParticipant]

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

I’m going to initiate (via text) the opportunity to discuss things and if it’s refused or ignored I’m going to end it (via text.)

what’s to talk about?
toss out the ballast so you can fly !!!
stop caring about someone who would cut off your dick and throw it down a garbage disposal unit..

Keymaster wrote:

That was . . . . hilarious.

glad it was appreciated !!!
i try..

[AttonParticipant]

What would you do?

Disconnect by default.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Anonymous 54]

Take her to a very steep hill.

[Anonymous 42]

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

I’m going to initiate (via text) the opportunity to discuss things and if it’s refused or ignored I’m going to end it (via text.)

Sadly, I’m not being offered any other way.

I wouldn’t bother texting that piece of s~~~! What are you thinking? Walk away without saying a word, just toss the monkey wrench over your shoulder into the machinery and walk away from all the sparks, noise, and flames!

The chick is poison! There’s no safe way to handle it, just drop it and walk away!

Your brothers are trying to tell you something you apparently can’t or refuse to see. Give her just one more chance and have another go around with an emotional terrorist? Why?

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