neighbor sent my wife a friend request?

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

I personally think Facebook is the biggest threat to marriages going.  We all know how insecure and vain women are and this is giving them the tool they need to get as much attention and validation as they like.  Plus, all of her friends are constantly posting about the amazing lifes they are living (obviously all made up) which makes her feel insecure, and like she is missing out.

So it plants the seed in her head that her life is boring and she deserves so much more.  She is getting attention from lots of guys so obviously that proves how hot she is and how she can clearly do better than you.  By this point she will be flirting with guys online and would have switched off to you and be planning her new and exciting life.  In the end, it is a self fulfilling proficy.

As if marriage wasn’t doomed as it is, smartphones, Facebook and dating apps have killed it stone dead.

As soon as she decides she is unhappy (read bored, women cannot tell the difference between boredom and unhappiness.  Don’t forget most women on anti depressants are not actually depressed they are just bored) she can find the next guy without even having to leave the sofa.

 

 

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

I personally think Facebook is the biggest threat to marriages going.

And you would be right about that. Facebook actually has a new feature — for women ONLY (at least it was at first) — called “ask me”.

It’s one of choices they can select for “relationship status” and was new about 18 months ago. Under “relationship status” she leaves it up in the air for the purpose of deciding whether or not she is available – depending on who asks. It’s f~~~ing sick. An old boyfriend would look her married ass up and reach out to her after all these years. She sets her status to “ask me” … to leave her options as open as possible.

Letting your wife have a facebook account is like giving her license to be a cheating slag whenever she feels like it.

Nobody needs to know. How convenient.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 5]

Anonymous wrote:

She will never tell you the truth..don’t ever believe a woman’s puppy dog eyes..EVER.

It wasn’t till I was in my late 30’s that I realized this.
WHENEVER you get puppy dog eyes or tone of voice,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,they’re lying!

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

she can find the next guy without even having to leave the sofa.

They don’t even have to wash, get dressed or do their hair.
If only manginas could see the actual woman they’re messaging,,,, The horror, The horror.

[ComingInHotParticipant 160]

I can only give you a small sample size, I am not proud, but every women that found me on FB that was married ended up having sex with me, they all pursued me.

You’re wife came to you and told you… Thats a good thing.

I believe without being able to ask you loads of questions to come to the proper conclusion because it would take way too long.  You’re wife as of right now is good to go, just watch the dude, I mean did his wife add your wife to her FB?  I really think he is trying to get with your wife by himself or maybe they are swingers and he is reaching out, although swingers usually send the wife as the emissary.

****Do not let your suspicions ruin your marriage if it is not ruined already, just keep an eye on that guy, I dont trust him, to many red flags… If you fight with your wife over this you may send her into his arms, then two marriages are f~~~ed.  She sounds okay as of now.  Just watch him and keep doing what your doing do not change your routine.****’

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

If you want to nip it passively aggressively, send a FB message to his wife saying… ” hey … sent my wife a friend request and I figured I do the same, have a great day.”

[Soul ManParticipant 1856]

Why don’t you go over, knock on the door, ask to speak to his wife, and ask her if she knows why he sent a friend request to your wife only.  Watch the category 10 s~~~ storm from your living room window.  Of course, there’s a good chance his wife is f~~~ing around on him and he’s just trying to find a convenient score next door.  If his wife acts like she doesn’t care then that’s a big red flag buddy!

P.S.  Fakebook is a useless piece of s~~~ with which no reasonable sane person should be involved.  It is nothing but trouble…maybe not now but mark my words…it will be.

HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...

[slowjoParticipant 15]

Thanks for all the comments. Right now I’m just taking it all in and biding my time. Here is a little background info. The neighbors have three kids, two of which are around the same age as our two. HIS wife is a stay at home mom who watches a few other kids in the morning and afternoon till they get on and off the school bus. What she does in between that time I do not know. He has his own one man construction business. I depends on the weather and if he has work whether or not he is home. My wife is a preschool teacher at the church we belong to. She works three days a week. I work 40+ hrs a week at the same job for the past 26 years.

 

What makes me mad is that I have to drive past his house every time I pull out of our street. This past Sunday as we were coming home from church he was working at the end of his driveway. He would not even look our way as we passed.

 

Last week when my wife took the kids roller skating someone spilled a drink on the table which spilled onto her cell phone and it quite working. Of course she just had to go and get another one the next day. Well I already had plans with her dad that day and she wanted me to break them to go with her to get a new phone, the account is in my name. I told her no I am not going with her and I already had plans so she went without me. So I just found out that her phone is not register as of yet. All I have to do is add it to my account and I can check the usage.

[Anonymous 42]

slowjo wrote:

He would not even look our way as we passed.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

1. She’s already f~~~ed him or…

2. She’s planning to.

If a woman is on social media, she’s going to cheat eventually.

 

Start stashing money in a secret account she doesn’t have access to. This will pay for your lawyers retainer fee, a security deposit on an apartment and other things you’ll need when the s~~~ hits the fan. Sorry if this was harsh, but the sooner you find out the better. Cover your 6 and stealthily watch how she acts, Solid Snake style.

Fuck this planet.

[Jim01Participant 6678]

slowjo wrote:

He would not even look our way as we passed. Last week when my wife took the kids roller skating someone spilled a drink on the table which spilled onto her cell phone and it quite working. Of course she just had to go and get another one the next day. Well I already had plans with her dad that day and she wanted me to break them to go with her to get a new phone, the account is in my name. I told her no I am not going with her and I already had plans so she went without me. So I just found out that her phone is not register as of yet. All I have to do is add it to my account and I can check the usage.

 

sorry man but she is definitely at it with him. As everyone else on here has said it is pretty obvious and it is time for you to make preparations to leave without her knowing about it

it is stuff like this that makes me very happy to be a bachelor and not enter into the f~~~ed up world of a relationship with a walking wreckage that is otherwise know as a woman

[slowjoParticipant 15]

I made the decision to send HIS wife a friend request last night. So far she has not responded yet. At least she will know what’s going on when her notification states that her husband has a mutual friend, MY WIFE. I am on my way to pick up a few things from the big box hardware store and on the way I’m going to stop at my cell phone provider and get everything squared away. It should take me a few hours to accomplish this task and give me time to cool off and think.

[slowjoParticipant 15]

Mission accomplished. I was able to register my wifes cell phone to my email, I am the primary account holder. Before I could ATT had to send the link to her phone for me to update the info. So when I got back home I casually logged into my ATT and told my wife I received a email stating that I had to authorize her phone upgrade by logging in with the link that they sent to her phone. She says so that what that message they sent me was for. She gave me the code and now its under my control. Now I just have to navigate through ATT website to view the phone and email history.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

slowjo wrote:

What makes me mad is that I have to drive past his house every time I pull out of our street. This past Sunday as we were coming home from church he was working at the end of his driveway. He would not even look our way as we passed.

 

Yep, he’s a f~~~ing beta/weak ass prick. I know this tactic slowjo, it’s exactly the same scenario my ex had with the soccer coach that f~~~ed me over. Believe what the guys are saying here, seriously, because I will guarantee if she hasn’t banged him (I don’t think she has) but she will and I will bet that the flirting and groundwork is being done!

Men are such low life scum sometimes to do this to another bloke. I know it’s been posted here by some guys that it is her fault but if a guy (the neighbor in this case) actively knows there is a relationship and still does it he is scum. I have never done this to another guy but have had it done to me.

Personally id front him and his wife about it and put him on notice. His wife will hit the roof at him! Unless you are married couples whole hang out at BBQ’s or dinners etc and there is an actual genuine friendship there is no reason for him FB’ing her. None!!!

Good luck.

[Anonymous 9]

Yeah man, I’m totally against pursuing another man’s wife.

But what kind of dirtbag even attempts to do that with his neighbor? That’s as low as it can get.

Now that you’ve sent his wife a friend request I see things getting pretty crazy soon. Something is going to break shortly.

 

 

[KeithParticipant 482]

Facebook is not the biggest threat to marriage, women are.

just sayin’

 

ONCE UPON A TIME there was a man who never found a wife and he lived happily ever after. The End.

[KeithParticipant 482]

Upon careful review, the best advice I can provide is to get divorced.  Since the relationship lacks trust the truth really doesn’t matter.

ONCE UPON A TIME there was a man who never found a wife and he lived happily ever after. The End.

[ExsliventxsParticipant 1067]

@slowjo   Now that you have access to her phone, she will bury herself if there’s an issue. Just bide your time. Bide it. It will surface.

[slowjoParticipant 15]

I checked the phone records, calls and texts, and nothing negative showed up. All calls or texts were to and from immediate family members. I am still waiting to see how this all plays out.

[RevMattParticipant 28]

I’ve been through some of this before and this is what I think is going on.

1) Your neighbor is probably a serial cheater and is testing the waters with your wife. I believe this to be true because a) he friended your wife on fb, not you and b) your gut instinct seems to be that there is something “off” about this guy. You mentioned some of this — looks away when your family drives past, etc…

2) The next thing to look for is him “liking” her posts and pics, making comments, etc… Online, social media affairs begin with this sort of thing where interested suitors test the waters to establish communication, etc… If she is interested she will begin to “like” his posts and pics, make comments, etc..

3) I don’t believe that an affair is inevitable. Just because somebody puts the moves on a woman does not mean that she is interested. This guy probably has half a dozen or more women he is testing the waters with simultaneously.

I don’t know what else you have posted about your marriage. My advice is not to let on that you suspect anything is going on. Play like you don’t suspect a thing and she will slip up IF anything is going between her and the neighbor.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

So, what’s the update SlowJo?

[slowjoParticipant 15]

RevMatt I think you are right. So far he has not commented or liked any thing she has posted. His wife has not responded to my friend request as of yet. As to her phone records all calls or texts have been by family or friends. I have not confronted her or accused her of anything but I am keeping a eye on HIM.

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