neighbor sent my wife a friend request?

[slowjoParticipant 15]

Here’s the story. A couple of weeks ago my wife says to me that the neighbor guy who moved in four years ago sent her a friend request of FB. He is married and they have three kids. I have never personally talked to him or his wife but I would wave to them if I they were outside. Sometimes it seamed like he would intentionally ignore me and other times he would wave like were old friends. I asked her if she ever talked to them before a she said only twice while walking around the block with the kids being neighborly while his wife was outside with him. Immediately I started seeing red thinking what the hell is he up to. Well I just noticed today that my wife accepted his request. Any advice on how I should handle this situation before it gets out of hand? What would you do? I have thought about sending his wife a friend request and set back and see what happens next.

[hankmoodyforuParticipant 16]

I can totally understand your concern since he didn’t send you a friend request but instead sent your wife one. I would suggest just keeping an extra eye on your wife facebook page an see what he post on her wall. Although one wouldn’t think he be stupid enough to post anything suspicious on her wall. You could send his wife a friend request but that could cause problems cause you didn’t send him one first. I know ironic isn’t it him getting mad cause you doing the samething he did with your wife. But some people are like that smh. Or you could get to know the neighbor yourself and get a feel on what his intentions are.

your tears of regret cannot turn back the hands of time!

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Do NOTHING. Wait and bide your time. It may be harmless or it may not. Either way …. make your plan/trap now and activate it at the right moment. More then anything, whatever happens, find a way where you come out on top.

[Anonymous 27]

Pull your head out of your ass, realize that if she hasn’t already, she will be banging him..a married woman accepted a request of a man she “supposedly never spoke too” of course..your in blue pill hell, and married, you cannot be MGTOW and married, which reflects in the kind of deceitful bulls~~~ your dealing with right now. Guaranteed that chicks been dishonorable too.

[Anonymous 1]

I was going to make my point but Dolla_D made it already.

Going to say this though, I feel sorry for you bro. That’s one of the many reasons I will never marry. EVER.

I wish you luck, and I recommend you watch Terrance Popp videos on youtube. There is one, where he starts with the ad of a website that offers lovers for MARRIED WOMEN, that he actually explains what to do on situations like yours. I would dig through his channel, a lot of useful information there.

Cheers.

[DoinMyOwnThing40Participant 1000]

Unfortunately, I have no advice for you. See, this is one of the main reasons I never got married. I can’t deal with that kind of s~~~. No way.

Women are parasites. Each and every last one of them.

[a bananaParticipant 288]

i mean you’re kinda f~~~ed now.

but if you want to try and keep her(seems like alot of work)

first step is to start f~~~ing the absolute s~~~ outta her- shes cheating for the sex nothing else(it seems)

make her cum so she no longer has urges for other men..but as dolla said- you done f~~~ed up

[experiencedParticipant]

Tell her to politely unfriend him. Say “I’m not asking you honey, I’m telling you.

“You” have to be willing to walk.

This asshole is setting himself up as the spare penis without a break the glass cover over it(see chris rock). Then, go to his front door, ring the bell and tell him to f~~~ off. He’s lucky you don’t beat the s~~~ out of him until he goes into shock. WTF sit by and monitor the situation etc etc no it’s over now and through and if she doesn’t like it divorce her. WTF

“my neighbor is asking me to be a ball-less cuckhold.”  Your self respect is at stake here.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Anonymous 42]

experienced wrote:

Tell her to politely unfriend him. Say “I’m not asking you honey, I’m telling you. “You” have to be willing to walk.

@ Slowjo, experienced is right! You need to keep a leash on her, or she will wonder into someone else’s arms! That’s a temptation for her, and by the looks of things, F~~~ Book is only the start. It’s a relationship no matter how innocent it may appear, it’s still a relationship! Before it turns into a sexual relationship, you must set down the law NOW! Don’t let it go one minute longer, keep your bitch in line!

[slowjoParticipant 15]

I know her schedule and she is pretty busy. She is a preschool teacher so she takes her work home with her. Between driving the kids to dance, acrobats, girl scouts, piano lessons, sports, school/church functions, she is pretty busy. She also let’s the kids play games on her tablet which I can check her email and Facebook messages since she doesn’t log out of. So far I haven’t found anything that says she is cheating. And no I am not taking her side or sticking up for her I am just stating the facts so everyone knows my story and can help with how best to deal with it. Don’t get me wrong I have a very short fuse and could just as easily walk over there and pound his face in but I also control my anger by weighing the outcome. Such as a lawsuit/arrest or even losing my job. My thinking this morning was either confront my wife as of why she accepted his request or send his wife one.

[Anonymous 1]

@slowjo

Well, I am not the youngest guy here, but neither I am as experienced as some of the others mgtow, so I am not sure if it is my place to give advice, but I shall do it anyway.

DO NOT resort to violence. This will only bring you problems and no benefits. The video I told about with Terrence Popp, one of his first advices is “trust your instincts” and as far as I can tell, yours are telling that something is off. Otherwise, why would you post here for advice? So, chances are, there is already something going on, that you are not seeing YET doesn’t mean it is not already happening. Start taking precautions and preparing yourself. I will see if I can dig through Terrance Popp’s channel to find the one video I am talking about.

There is a saying that my father used to say, when I was living with him and he was in the military: “Hope for the best, get ready for the worst”.

As for confronting your wife, again, I don’t have any experience with marriage, and little with relationships, but if I would give a suggestion would be: don’t show all your cards. If you are confronting her, try not to sound suspicious of she cheating. That’s not to save her from distress, but to save YOUR ass in the long run. If you start accusing her form the get go, she will probably not only NOT stop cheating (if she is), but will be more careful about it. Bring it up as a curiosity, maybe (I am not sure of the approach here, it is your wife, you would know what better way to gather information without raising too much suspicious). And go from there.

Another good advice Terrance Popp gives is, if you are going to search for the truth, go to ALL the truth. Try to get ALL the details. It seems gut-wrenching now, but, according to Terrance, it is worse when you start finding out things DURING the divorce process. Again, not married, wouldn’t know, but I believe Popps on this one (he has been through this, would it seem).

And lastly, and this will make me sound like a PRICK, but is something its necessary to say. If she is cheating on you with your neighbor, before you think of beating the guy up, remember that SHE has AGENCY. SHE decided to do, whatever she did, on HER OWN WILL. Going after the GUY in this case would be absolving HER from GUILT. That’s a point Keymaster made in some other thread and it got me thinking. And in the end, I agree wholeheartedly with him. It is funny how, when these things happen we go for the other GUY, but we forget that the WOMEN are the one cheating. The guy has no obligations to you, he is not the one married with you, YOUR WIFE IS. Just wanted to point that out.

Anyway, I do wish you the best of luck, and don’t do anything stupid.

Cheers.

[Anonymous 42]

@slowjo don’t get violent, you’re right about that one, use your head, he could be a stupid mangina bowing down to serve her, their trained that way (kiss all female’s ass). If this guy displays any kind of stout in his personality, you’ve got a rooster being c~~~y. If he’s just a “nice guy” “blue pill” mangina, you have little to worry about, however you should keep her in line, it’ll let her know you’re the boss. Nip it in the bud, you’ll feel better, and that’s what it’s all about, your feelings over all else, she doesn’t have to understand. Your intuitive alarm bell is going off, that’s your instinct talking to your intellect, that’s where the MGTOW philosophy strikes me most profound, we’re mixing intellect with instinct, and gaining superior results, arguments that can’t be disputed, facts that can’t be denied.

[Anonymous 27]

@slwojo. I have several pieces of reality commentary I would like to say.

1. You really have not taken your red pill.

2. You have a major problem.

3. Having her been sent a friend request means he knows she has facebook, found her, and sent that to her..how does he know? is it her real name? is her profile searchable? did she tell him she has facebook?

4. Do you really think a piece of s~~~, disrespectful bitch that is willing to allow that while married, has not taken into consideration that you can check her facebook?

5. Do you think she doesn’t delete her browsing history? Do you think she isn’t on dating sites also, that you have no idea nor access to? Do you think she respects you enough not to do this given her behaviour?

6. I always laugh when I hear guys say they are going to fight a guy over a girl. This means you have a serious problem in yourself. You have not come to the red pill realization that SHE is the f~~~ing piece of s~~~ for accepting the request, do you think if it was not him it wouldn’t be another guy.

7. You need to wake up bro, and smell the f~~~ing rotten vagina

8. Strongly, strongly consider getting rid of your wife.

[Anonymous 27]

Ah I read that BadKan already eluded to your wife having her own agency. What does this tell you, that you have two experienced men telling you the same thing? Does this tell you you should confront your wife, who will lie about it anyway? Or does it tell you (regretfully for me to say) to wake the hell up and realize she has to go.

She will never tell you the truth..don’t ever believe a woman’s puppy dog eyes..EVER.

[Anonymous 1]

Here it is:

Just in case the link does not work, search for Halfway Hookers video from Terrance Popp.

Another one that you might wanna take a look is this:

It is more about what to do when you are divorced and the wife get the kids as “hostages” and uses the system against you.

Name of the second video The Full Monty.

I don’t know how usefull those will be, but I REALLY recommend the first one. I hope, against all hope, that we are all wrong here on the forum. But if we are right, than I hope you prepare yourself accordingly and get mentally ready. This, for what it looks, will not be easy.

 

There is nothing more I can say/do here.

Good luck my friend, you will need it.

[experiencedParticipant]

You are in a good way, serving as a shining example to young men and newcomers here.

For the record, I never advocated violence, I just stated that he’s lucky you don’t beat the s~~~ out of him until he goes into shock.

Hire a detective, it’s unbelievable the stuff they come up with, until you believe it.  Detectives are like other professionals, there are good and bad. See the local pit bull lawyer(s) now so that she can’t get them later due to conflict of interest. Put away many Benjs (cash)now.

This is what happens once you say, “I do” or “Here’s my(?) extra set of keys” or not say,”Yeah I threw  the your toothbrush in the trash,” Or not flush the condom yourself. You’re then no longer waiting for her to hit the ball back, or to serve,  you see, she now Owns the whole court, as in, “Would you please ahh, move, here comes ken and I want to play with him.   Nice guys get shredded.  I do admire you for being a nice guy, it’s just that “no fault divorce/rape/child support….           don’t allow us to be nice guys in these areas of life anymore.

 

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Anonymous 42]

DollaD, experienced, I digress

I was trying to be positive and optimistic, you guys a right, air on the side of self protection, those gyno/legal grenades will shred a man, you’re up against superior forces with gynocentric laws, I’m not married, therefore I’m not holding a grenade, I don’t know what that’s like, and never will!

[ExsliventxsParticipant 1067]

@slowjo

Steps to freedom.

Honestly, best advice is to just get a private detective.

Definitely tell your wife that you think it’s inappropriate for him to have sent you the friend request.

Do not insist she un-friend him, will make it easier to catch her.

Since you made it obvious that you thought it was inappropriate, she will grow worried that she may have over-stepped her cover.

This will cause any cheating that may be happening to be more sporadic and nervous.

This will cause her to slip up and the detective will catch her.

 

REMOTE POSSIBILITY — Your wife is being harmless, the other guy targeted her. You cannot assume this until ALL OTHER CHANNELS have been THOROUGHLY explored/exhausted.

Goodluck buddy.

[Anonymous 9]

ILiveAgain wrote:

Do NOTHING. Wait and bide your time. It may be harmless or it may not. Either way …. make your plan/trap now and activate it at the right moment. More then anything, whatever happens, find a way where you come out on top.

This.

The writing is on the wall OP, and to me it’s only a matter of time before you create a thread about how did it all go wrong?

She shouldn’t have accepted his friend request, and he definitely shouldn’t have sent one.

That’s the type of s~~~ that would have my thought process completely screwed up.

F~~~ marriage.

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

I can’t believe you actually have to ask this question. You will get a lot more respect from your wife (and she will enjoy the jealousy) if you tell her right up front (in friendly terms if you like) “I’m not asking you honey, I’m telling you to unfriend him now or this marriage is taking a hell of a blow and you risk it being over”. It she objects tell her to pack her bags. I just wouldn’t stand for it period. No excuses. And tell the dude next door aw well as the dude’s wife that it’s inappropriate for him to facebook invitations to your wife. Get it out in the open big time.

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