My wife has passed…

[mystoryParticipant 370]

Guilt is a normal feeling, typical of the beginning of the grieving process. It translates to a sort of trauma that results from feeling powerless in keeping a dear one safe.

I don't need a legacy.. I don't need a monument.

[Anonymous 12]

Gerald.

Same as May… no divorce. But at a Price?
But I understand that you would have preferred to say goodbye and let her know you feel for her,
that she is part of your Life story and always will be no matter what.

And that Part has suddenly disappeared.

Time to let go, let go the good times and let go the pain.
Let go the blows given and received.

This part of your life ends in 2017.
May she find peace.

And may YOU find peace and relief. because Your journey among the living has…
dare i say…
Just begun.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Gerald, I’m sorry for the loss you’re feeling but f~~~ her sideways two times straight to hell.

If she was religious; she broke a covenant between you, god, and her. If not, she was just a liar and a cheat. There are certified blue pills who upon finding out their spouse cheated that file the next day. They may fall for another Venus flytrap later, but from the second they know, the cheating spouse is invalid and cannot be removed from their life quickly enough.

Your loss, your pain is real and I wish you a quick recovery from it.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[Remove me!Participant]

Gerald, I’m praying for you. You obviously have a child with her and you have to deal with that. One day at a time, brother, and you’ll get through it. Stay strong!

Like a bird on the wire, like a drunk midnight choir, I have tried in my way to be free.

[ChristopherParticipant 2478]

Gerald I wish you a good recovery the members have given you good advice. Btw if you cant sleep you could take a half a valerian tablet from the chemist for a few nites – its natural sleep aid not pharmaceutical – no prescription needed.

Feminism was funded by bankers/politicians to create more taxpayers. MGTOW IS FREEDOM https://archive.org/details/mgtowisfreedomblurayready

[CrispParticipant 197]

Keep your head up mate. Do not let the inevitable mind f#ck that is going to overtake you for the next few months take you too far down the hole. Grab it by the b~~~~ and tell it to p~~~ off and leave it them behind.

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

We all remember when we lost someone close to us and how it felt. Gerald is in the same pain right now no matter what she did in the present it is hard to erase the past fond moments he may have had. It will take time for you to heal no amount of words are going to fix anything overnight but remember your daughter and look out for the two of you as she will need you.

Also as others have said and I know this will be hard but as you are making funeral arrangements now would be a good time to see your lawyer and have the ball rolling on what to do with the estate as you want to protect yourself and your daughter. Leeches will come out to try and suck every last penny they can from you because people make the worst mistakes when they are emotional. Try not to fall into that trap and grieve when time permits but at the same time look out for yourself.

[BoBParticipant 823]

Damn, man. “We know not the day nor hour.”

[Anonymous 14]

Keep yourself busy Gerald and your mind occupied but clear if you are at all able. Be active. You have my utmost sympathies Sir. You stay strong man.

[QuellParticipant 2538]

Carnage wrote:

Again again… stop beating yourself, SHE WAS NOT YOUR WIFE.

She is dead, overdose? Alcoholic complication?

Who knows…

Sorry but I’m not sorry, I’m p~~~ed off AT YOU.

Bury that WOMAN, WHO WAS ANOTHER MEN WOMAN, AND GET DONE WITH IT.

you don’t know how to cope? RAGE, RAGE ALL YOU CAN. But not to yourself.

“I can’t believe it ended like this”… what ended? You had nothing, she was the mother of your child NOTHING MORE.

There was no relationship, she wasn’t your partner, nor your friend.

Do you think she cares? SHE IS F~~~ING DEAD, DEAD, SHE DOESNT CARE ABOUT ANYTHING.

This is happening to you is just your brain, used to neurotransmitters, trying to draw it selft into the sweet drug of it all, becouse it feels bad, but your brain doesn’t know, all he knows is he is getting a high dose of his favorite drug, stop it, learn to control it.

YOUR FEELINGS ARE NOT REAL, JUST A BUNCH OF CHEMICALS REACTIONS, STOP IT.

This is all good and well on paper but this guy is human being with emotions that are beyond his control. It would be like if your dog died and you said… well that’s that and never thought of him again.

There is no easy way to process loss of something or someone whom you cared about. Only time can and the repetition of new events over a period of years can dull it.

It will never completely go away.

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

sorry for your loss, but there are actually two women lost here and it may be easier for you to understand it this way. The first woman is a good and honorable person that you loved, and married and who deserved to be loved. This first woman is a huge loss.

The second woman is a disloyal traitor who stood next to you in front of witnesses in a wedding and made a sacred promise that she later disregarded when she cheated. This is the woman who died recently that you will be burying soon. She is no loss at all. You are likely better off without her around to do any more damage than she has already done.

The important thing to remember is that the first woman existed only in your head. They look the same and to many, including you, they are indistinguishable. In fact, the second woman did a pretty good job of impersonating her, but they are not the same woman. At some point in the very distant past, the first woman may have actually existed in real life, albeit briefly. If she ever did exist in reality, she’s been gone now for a very long time. More likely, she was the artificial illusion created by the second woman.

Mourn the loss of the first woman. Even if she existed only in your head, it’s still a real loss and it is appropriate to be sad about it for a while.

But forget the second woman. Bury her and move on as fast as you can. You would have been far better off never to have met her at all.

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Not sure how to feel. As a fellow man, my condolences.

But damn, that was some instant Karma.

Fuck this planet.

[Struck OutParticipant 468]

BrainPilot wrote:

sorry for your loss, but there are actually two women lost here and it may be easier for you to understand it this way. The first woman is a good and honorable person that you loved, and married and who deserved to be loved. This first woman is a huge loss.

The second woman is a disloyal traitor who stood next to you in front of witnesses in a wedding and made a sacred promise that she later disregarded when she cheated. This is the woman who died recently that you will be burying soon. She is no loss at all. You are likely better off without her around to do any more damage than she has already done.

The important thing to remember is that the first woman existed only in your head. They look the same and to many, including you, they are indistinguishable. In fact, the second woman did a pretty good job of impersonating her, but they are not the same woman. At some point in the very distant past, the first woman may have actually existed in real life, albeit briefly. If she ever did exist in reality, she’s been gone now for a very long time. More likely, she was the artificial illusion created by the second woman.

Mourn the loss of the first woman. Even if she existed only in your head, it’s still a real loss and it is appropriate to be sad about it for a while.

But forget the second woman. Bury her and move on as fast as you can. You would have been far better off never to have met her at all.

Wow, that’s beautiful!

"Always learn from the mistakes of others. You can never live long enough to make them all yourself."--Groucho Marx.

[Prophet MicahParticipant 1972]

Cap285 wrote:

Not sure how to feel. As a fellow man, my condolences.
But damn, that was some instant Karma.

Those were the words I was looking for. Thanks for the help!

No Wife - No Strife

[NerevarParticipant 8040]

Cap285 wrote:

Not sure how to feel. As a fellow man, my condolences.

But damn, that was some instant Karma.

Instant karma indeed!

"One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

[GeraldParticipant 3620]

Thank you all for posting, even those I disagree with have a voice here. I posted this originally because I was hurting badly and had no idea where else to post.

I am still a wreck, three more days primarily to get through this. Viewing before cremation today, then memorial on Tuesday.

While I understand the rage, the thoughts about cutting it all off, many of you know that is easier said than done. I will White Knight my way through this week then proceed on going my own way, as I mourn and try to heal. Regardless of what she did, this was not the way for her to pass… And I have to be here to support my daughter and help her through this. No child deserves to lose a parent this young, even though she is an adult now herself.

I hope some others who are here, may find some guidance or ideas, in the things they read and learn here… So they don’t find themselves in my situation. May you all find your own way in the new year, and remember we are not all the same, so our ‘own way’ will differ…

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[Anonymous 1]

Pretty much all that I would say has already been said in this thread.

On one hand it’s a s~~~ situation. Love and emotions for men can be hard to deal with, even for an ex, because we actually feel them, not simply experience them.

On the other hand, the hand of fate has saved you from what was to be a very bad time for you personally.

I think your reasoning is correct, be there for your kid, I am sure she will also be there to support you now as well.

Personally though, I would be extra careful that you cannot be blamed in any way for what happened. People get weird ideas in times like these, and some of her family or friends might say you were directly or indirectly involved.

Peace be with you brother.

[Anonymous 1]

Gerald wrote:

I am still a wreck, three more days primarily to get through this. Viewing before cremation today, then memorial on Tuesday.

Don’t think about the three days. Just do ONE Day at a time. One Second at a time, one minute at a time…One Day at a time.

When tomorrow comes, then you worry about getting through that ONE day. That is the only way to deal with this s~~~, one little piece at a time.

Repeat it like a mantra ONE DAY AT A TIME

[Branched offParticipant 10920]

Well done Gerald. At the end of this is actually a place where you have total control of your life at a time when it looked like you would be screwed over. You didn’t want it this way and you will feel guilty to be glad not to have been screwed over but there is very much a silver lining to this darkness.

When you get to the end of the hard three days, don’t forget to care for yourself. Everyone has their own way -going straight back to work so as not to have time think about things or going into a retreat to get things straighter in the head are both options as are everything in between but I would recommend at least sitting down and thinking “How can I take care of myself?”

You system has had a big shock and even doing small things like trying to eat well, give your self small treats, rest enough and not over indulge in alcohol will all help you to bounce back. People are wonderful creatures with remarkably subtle and complex souls but at the same time they are biochemical machines that can get run down. A death always makes work for survivors and with your daughter to care for as well, do make time for yourself when the big few days are over put some time into your diary if you can.

A woman is like fire -fun to play with, can warm you through and cook your food, needs constant feeding, can burn you and consume all you own

[Eric LauderParticipant 12043]

It could have been much worse for you.

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