My own way

[YoungGladiator17Participant 18]

Hey,
I am new here and very young so I don’t have much of a story to tell. I’m INCEL and I’m glad to hear that there are others like me. I’m very unpopular in college and girls hardly ever pay attention to me. I never had a girlfriend but desperately want to. There is this one girl that is perfect for me, her name is Laura, she is tall and very attractive, she loves gaming and is very smart, we have spoken casually a few times and she was very nice and friendly. I am in love with her and I need her in my life, I can’t go my own way, I need a girlfriend. How can you guys go your own way? Women are essential in our lives.
This is my story. This is my life. I want to go my own way but I also want to have a wife and a family. Women are strong and independent, my mother raised four kids by herself, she is my hero. I’m morally conflicted.
Thanks dudes.

[Anonymous 43]

ummm whut?

[GeraldParticipant 3620]

Young Gladiator, if you truly want to go your own way, do so. By no means does a MGTOW have to remain unmarried or without children.

You are young, in college and have a whole life to experience things. As one who didn’t do this, I would suggest you finish school, travel and work a bit before you decide to settle down.

If you can find a woman worthy of your time and children, realize the risks you are taking and don’t go into it blind. Then jump if you want to and take the marriage vows. Or live together and raise children… without marrying. It is all your choice. Going your own way is just that, making your own decisions and going your own way.

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[Anonymous 43]

mgtow means going your own way. if you have a girlfriend or a wife, you will have to do what she wants or suffer the consequences denying a woman what she wants. girlfriends may just walk away, some may make the one phone call and cause you legal problems. marriage? leads to divorce and turning into a financial basket case at best, in jail or dead at worst. Children? first kid is 20% of your income. Whatever you make on Monday, flush that down the toilet. every week until that child is 18. I pay $470 a month. its like having a car payment for a Miata i’ll never drive. If I do not pay this, I go to jail. I will pay this until May 7, 2020.

girlfriend means you pay for every meal. What ever you ate for lunch, buy 2, and throw one meal away. she wants gifts? when you buy a new pair of shoes, buy another, and throw them away. what ever you spend, buy another and throw it away.

girlfriends have cars. buy gas for some random person today, and wave as they drive off. buy a car battery for some person. make someones car payment today. I had to do this for every girlfriend I ever had. gas, battery, payment, I usually washed and waxed the girl’s car because it looked like ass. oil changes, car repairs, tires, brakes, insurance. I swear women want men just to take care of their cars and all the car bills. I paid the bills because I was a nice guy, and I didn’t want to be in an unsafe car. thousands of dollars p~~~ed away. for the woman I married, it was cheaper to buy her a new car than fix her pos up every month. fix the pos $500 a month, buy new $350 a month.

girlfriends have debts. pay some persons credit card payment. see what that feels like. pay mine, please. I need to pay $300, but maybe $200 goes to principal. this debt was to pay a lawyer, I didn’t even buy anything I can take home and use…

except my freedom. yup, my freedom costs $800 a month. I can’t tell you what I would do to be free of just these two millstones around my neck. you don’t have these problems. thank your lucky stars.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

we’re going to need a bigger boat.

HA. And more harpoons.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[Anonymous 7]

Nope nothing fishy here at all.

[YoungGladiator17Participant 18]

Gerald wrote:

Young Gladiator, if you truly want to go your own way, do so. By no means does a MGTOW have to remain unmarried or without children.

You are young, in college and have a whole life to experience things. As one who didn’t do this, I would suggest you finish school, travel and work a bit before you decide to settle down.

If you can find a woman worthy of your time and children, realize the risks you are taking and don’t go into it blind. Then jump if you want to and take the marriage vows. Or live together and raise children… without marrying. It is all your choice. Going your own way is just that, making your own decisions and going your own way.

Thank you Gerald, I’m happy to hear that.

[CoolbreezeParticipant 442]

You’re conflicted because you bought in to the bulls~~~ your mom handed you as a child. I don’t care what they say a woman can under no circumstances raise a man alone.

I am going to venture a guess and say your father was not in the picture and all you know of life is from a woman’s perspective. Ask me how I know- time has a way of bringing truth to light however.

[YoungGladiator17Participant 18]

Anonymous wrote:

Nope nothing fishy here at all.

Why do you think so? I’m in a conflict where reality keeps telling me that I’ll be alone forever. It doesn’t however tell me how to deal with these urges that keep coming up. Can’t I talk here about these issues? Can’t I be myself?

[ghostParticipant]

You need to work on yourself. Build up your confidence. You won’t learn why women are not essential until you experience a few of them firsthand. Don’t just listen to experienced men here who tell you to avoid them. That’s lame.

Go out and test the market. Figure out what you’re lacking and fix it. Learn for yourself.

[GregB0Participant]

YoungGladiator17 wrote:

I want to go my own way but I also want to have a wife and a family.

You are not at a point in life where MGTOW can be helpful. As discussed, experience life, read posts from all the “this is how to live your life web sites” and develop a plan to proceed from there. There is nothing for you here at MGTOW at this moment as you want it all but don’t know what you can/should give up.

Slip back under the waves and enjoy life.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[GregB0Participant]

YoungGladiator17 wrote:

Why do you think so? I’m in a conflict where reality keeps telling me that I’ll be alone forever. It doesn’t however tell me how to deal with these urges that keep coming up. Can’t I talk here about these issues? Can’t I be myself?

This is not a dating site or self-help site or a fix problems that you can fix yourself with a little effort site.

Before asking another question, look at other introductions and see the types of Men that join MGTOW.com and determine if this is the right site for you. From your post, you are not ready for MGTOW.com at this time … maybe never.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[YoungGladiator17Participant 18]

GregB0 wrote:

YoungGladiator17 wrote:

Why do you think so? I’m in a conflict where reality keeps telling me that I’ll be alone forever. It doesn’t however tell me how to deal with these urges that keep coming up. Can’t I talk here about these issues? Can’t I be myself?

This is not a dating site or self-help site or a fix problems that you can fix yourself with a little effort site.

Before asking another question, look at other introductions and see the types of Men that join MGTOW.com and determine if this is the right site for you. From your post, you are not ready for MGTOW.com at this time … maybe never.

I thought going my own way meant I could choose how to live my life. I want to go my own way, but I want to have a family, and I want to have this support system here. Can’t I have both?

[ghostParticipant]

YoungGladiator17 wrote:

I want to have a family, and I want to have this support system here.

Yes. You can keep both but you have to be careful and filter through some of the stuff you read here. Not everyone is going to agree with you and be in your shoes.

There are some men here who are religious while others are not. There are some men here who make $50k/yr while others make $500k/yr. There is no one way to go about things.

[Anonymous 3]

Gambit & GregBo I believe responded in a useful way for this young msn.
My own take is this is not Dear Abby… What do I do?
I would say live life a little. Your turn will come as it does for every man, but I do not believe MGTOW is for you at this time
In fact, when I read your intro I thought ” What is this?”
Good luck & I wish you the best in all your future endeavors.
( Cool Breeze really like your icon )

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Hey Young Gladiator. Do us a favor, tell us about your father. Our concern for you is that his fate will become yours. You were raised by your hero single mother. Where was dad?

Order the good wine

[YoungGladiator17Participant 18]

But are all women like this? I don’t think so. Maybe the ones you met were, but I won’t do this sort of thing for my own girlfriend, she will pay her own bills and I will pay mine.

[Anonymous 42]

Lets kick his ass!

[GregB0Participant]

YoungGladiator17 wrote:

I thought going my own way meant I could choose how to live my life.

You and only you can determine how to live your life. You and only you can choose how to go your own way. MGTOW.com is not here to give you answers to life’s problems until after you have lived your life. Go live your life and leave MGTOW.com alone. Come back when your introduction is similar to others that have been posted there.

If you want those answer’s, there are five or more “Idiot’s Guides for Dating / Relationships” books available on Amazon.com, plus a host of websites offering dating/relationship advice.

MGTOW.COM
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M.G.T.O.W – Men Going Their Own Way is a statement of self-ownership, where the modern man preserves and protects his own sovereignty above all else. It is the manifestation of one word: “No”. Ejecting silly preconceptions and cultural definitions of what a “man” is. Looking to no one else for social cues. Refusing to bow, serve and kneel for the opportunity to be treated like a disposable utility. And, living according to his own best interests in a world which would rather he didn’t.

sov·er·eign·ty
ˈsäv(ə)rən(t)ē/
Noun. Meaning: Supreme power or authority. Autonomy, independence, self-government, self-rule, self-determination, freedom. Self-governing.

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If you keep posting these same type of threads you are going to be lit up like a $500.00 bottle rocket on the 4th of July. It will not be pretty.

Use your time more wisely and allow MGTOW.com members to do the same. Common courtesy.

Follow the advise offered from the membership and the very best of luck to you.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[YoungGladiator17Participant 18]

TaxGuy wrote:

Hey Young Gladiator. Do us a favor, tell us about your father. Our concern for you is that his fate will become yours. You were raised by your hero single mother. Where was dad?

My dad abandoned me as a child, I tried contacting him many times and he never answered. My mom never kept us apart, he was the one that didn’t want to talk to me. He never paid for anything, my mother struggled to pay bills every month.

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