My Ex is Getting Married Tomorrow

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Your ex is getting married tomorrow? Poor bastard.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[bachelor4goodParticipant 170]

LonerBoner wrote:

I understand you are hurting a bit. You are focusing on the good memories of her, i do the same. Get a paper and write down all the s~~~ she did that made you angry.Read it over and over again.
It will help.

For Crist´s sake, Limpan, burn that f~~~ing paper and go on with your life! Jesus!

IDGAF

[ScandinavianParticipant 590]

My first serious gf I let over to my best friend over a six pack of beer and a pocket knife. They have at least two kids today and are married. Oh btw, she is the one on the left.
http://www.lastbryggan.se/dvd-filmbolag/mike-beck-film/milda-makter/

No one could be happier for them than me!

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

You ex is getting married tomorrow? Poor bastard (the groom that is).

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

DeepInThought,
Hang in there buddy. You will see better days.
It hurts to see our ex run off and get married.
(Happened to me also) But the good news is that she is somebody else’s problem now. You are a free man who has more time, energy, and resources to do whatever you want.
Also, you are bright enough to see the situation as it exists and you have some awesome Mgtowers to help out. Go throw a party and celebrate your freedom

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Thanks for all the posts guys, i perused through them this morning with a coffee and clearer mind.

You are all right, im not missing out and losing anything that will severely alter, ruin or sadden my life. Maybe it was my ego getting ahead of itself for a moment? But anyway that’s life and i hope for the Christ of me I never hear from her again.

Deep

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

DeepInThought wrote:

Thanks for all the posts guys, i perused through them this morning with a coffee and clearer mind.
You are all right, im not missing out and losing anything that will severely alter, ruin or sadden my life. Maybe it was my ego getting ahead of itself for a moment? But anyway that’s life and i hope for the Christ of me I never hear from her again.
Deep

That’s the way bro! I like the earlier suggestion of throwing a party. Invite tons of people and make it outrageous.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[stopmockingmanParticipant 441]

DeepInThought wrote:

Relieved or a little jealous..

A King deserves a Queen, not a slut/whore/wench.
You are a Man King, a Ruler, of your Kingdom, and your Precious Life.
Be thankful, for Providence that saved You.
It matters, because it proves your Absolute Worth.
Goodbye Rib, a gift of God, now give me real Wealth, in the days to come.
A King with a Kingdom, with real Honor.
Please, do not marry. Be a Sovereignty instead.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

BigD wrote:

Just remember, when you were with her and she would bitch about her exes, she is now saying all those same, nasty things about you to her now hubby. And when she dumps his ass, she will say the same things about him as well.

I just received a text from my mate who is the barman at the reception as he is setting up as I type this for the afternoon gig. This statement quoted is 100% true because pre wedding some of the family and naive friends are there doing things for the reception and guess who they were all gossiping about! Yep, me…

He just sent another text saying “mate, if could hear what they are saying about you, it’s the worst.”

I jokingly said “put some eye drops in the bride and grooms drinks it will give them explosive diahhrea on their special night.”

[BDParticipant 1146]

ILiveAgain wrote:

All you should see in this is the guy (groom) being sentenced to 3 years of s~~~ tests and a slow march the the financial gallows.

You will thank him eventually.

ILiveagain with another great post!

Marriage is a business contract, I view it as a funeral.

It is the grand event in the narcissistic life of a woman. How self centred can a person be to inconvenience their relatives, and make them spend their holidays travelling from all over the world to watch more than 50% (divorce rate) of people lie during their vows, it’s a total joke of society. All of this money spent to feed her selfish ego, f~~~ing disgusting.

Now this man lives with her proverbial gun to his head, walking on eggshells to see if she will pull the plug for his cash and prizes.

His cost per stroke probably just doubled or tripled, With what he is paying, he no doubt could have the finest of prostitutes without the nagging and bulls~~~…. poor bastard,, place your bets for when we see him join Mgtow.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[HitmanParticipant]

it is good she aint marrying enslaving YOU ! F~~~ THAT S~~~ !

[Anonymous 18]

It’s quite natural what you feel man.

I was quite close to this girl in college and after we graduated she often asked if I have a gf. We met up a few times.

After few years of casual birthday and holiday well-wishing I emailed her just wondering what she’s up to. She was doing masters and then MBA last I heard from her.

She replied that she’s done with school and married and now lives 3000 miles away.

I felt a slight shock. Don’t know how to explain it. But more like a good guy movie character you like and who ends up dying in the movie. And you kinda feel down for a little while feeling that the writers shouldn’t have killed the poor chap. Not depressing but sad.

Your gf is sorta dead in that aspect. She is no longer single. She has a home and man to wake up to happily for the next few years. Perhaps your mind wants to believe in experiencing of the highs of the fantasy. It’s easier since you shared good times with her.

Even writing this s~~~ makes me feel like not getting married to a sweetheart is a road paved in eternal loneliness.

Must snap out of it. Lol.

You are still free. Freedom’s price is that it has a mandate forbidding free men to believe in the false paradigm of eternal happiness only to wake up to reality of a married man one less BJ at a time.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

If you saw an ex pregnant or with a child with no wedding ring on her finger you’d probably just laugh and think thank god I didn’t get deceived and trapped like some poor joker did.

If she has a wedding ring and isn’t pregnant or with a kid yet it just makes it even more hilarious because some joker isn’t getting deceived and trapped…he’s voluntarily signing on the dotted line for it.

[rorickParticipant 682]

And that’s exactly the reason why you shouldn’t get involved with a woman emotionally .., You’ll always get hurt no-matter if she is with you or she left you.

Also i don’t get this how women just flip the guys so easily even if they say they are in love with the guy. If you are really in love with a person how could you just leave him or forget him and get married to a some other guy.,either she doesn’t loved you at all or she just pretended to be in love with you to make use of your resources (money, energy, sex etc).

Untamed wrote:

I love marriages! As long as it’s NOT me.

Me too i don’t hate marriages either, afterall that is where you could see the man being happy for the last time in his life.

[Anonymous 18]

rorick wrote:

Also i don’t get this how women just flip the guys so easily even if they say they are in love with the guy.

I am not saying females lie, but they have no internal gauge to determine if they just feel like loving the man for the time being or if they are truly in love with the man. I believe a woman doesn’t and can’t love like a man does. Perhaps same can be argued that a woman loves her child more than a man can ever love his own child. Exceptions as always.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

DeepInThought wrote:

I don’t know how to feel atm? Relieved or a little jealous..

First things first, go see an attorney to get any support payments you might have reduced or eliminated. By marrying her he has discharged any alimony obligations you might be under, and possibly a significant chunk of any child support. Then go buy the poor, stupid schlub a beer to thank him for taking that bullet for you.

Then start counting the days until she calls texts you on International MGTOW Day wanting to meet up for “coffee”. I give it about three years.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

sidecar wrote:

DeepInThought wrote:

I don’t know how to feel atm? Relieved or a little jealous..

First things first, go see an attorney to get any support payments you might have reduced or eliminated. By marrying her he has discharged any alimony obligations you might be under, and possibly a significant chunk of any child support. Then go buy the poor, stupid schlub a beer to thank him for taking that bullet for you.
Then start counting the days until she calls texts you on International MGTOW Day wanting to meet up for “coffee”. I give it about three years.

SideCar, she isn’t my ex wife, she’s an ex girlfriend and he son isn’t mine it is from her previous marriage. I helped raise her son from 2-6 y/o and I will tell you losing that little man hurt me alot, so i can empathize with ALL the guys here who’ve lost their kids.

rorick wrote:

Also i don’t get this how women just flip the guys so easily even if they say they are in love with the guy. If you are really in love with a person how could you just leave him or forget him and get married to a some other guy.,either she doesn’t loved you at all or she just pretended to be in love with you to make use of your resources (money, energy, sex etc).

I can totally relate to this. She told me right up to the point when i went to London and NYC from Australia for 3 weeks of business. Come home she doesn’t love me and is on with this guy. 5 months later she’s pregnant with this guy’s kid, he has others from his past, he moves into her house and now 18 years later they are getting married today! Misery victims loves company.

Oh and I forgot to mention in Australia we don’t have the alimony system. In divorce they can get up to 70% of your stuff but that’s about it. But yes you need to pay child support.

[rorickParticipant 682]

Anonymous wrote:

I believe a woman doesn’t and can’t love like a man does.

^^ This, .. All other things that women says like we love emotionally, truely, f~~~ably bla bla bla .. are all fake..,,

Anonymous wrote:

Perhaps same can be argued that a woman loves her child more than a man can ever love his own child.

^^ Only because its her blood, skin and she carried around for ten months —> Meaning Selfish ,. You cannot expect selfless love from women ever..!

[RedDawnParticipant 1391]

rorick wrote:

Oh and I forgot to mention in Australia we don’t have the alimony system. In divorce they can get up to 70% of your stuff but that’s about it. But yes you need to pay child support.

Child support is also a portion of what you earn, not some ridiculous amount that the ex thinks you owe them. I don’t earn very much and so don’t pay very much.

Perhaps same can be argued that a woman loves her child more than a man can ever love his own child.

Also if this were true, Mothers wouldn’t try isolate the children from their Fathers. Each parent makes up part of the child’s identity and rejecting the other parent especially overtly in front of the child is psychologically damaging. I learned this from a child course, which was evident from the expressions of the children themselves. But that’s just how it is.

Oh and finally if you wanted to appeal to your ego (which I wouldn’t recommend anyway) you could just find an escort to take a pic of yourself with (who’s hotter than your ex) and subtly circulate it; It would certainly upset her, but all’s fair in love and war.. HA!

Courage is the key to life itself - Morgan Freeman

[OgreParticipant 5863]

@Deep on Thought, if the wedding guests are talking about you she must have been hung up for a long time. It’s the only reason that almost 20 years later they’d bring you up. Keep in mind all of the things that you already mentioned in this thread. He is signing a contract on a FULLY depreciated asset at this point. One of them decided to push for marriage at this late point, probably her since she realized she’s out of options. Understand though that you aren’t totally out of the woods yet. When she gets BORED with being married to him she’ll start to hit you up. You obviously left an impression since her family still feels the need to bring you up. At that point it will be up to you, hit it and quit it or just forward the messages to her husband and really burn her.

You did well all of those years ago, and from what I’ve seen you’ve lived well since. Congratulations on being the one that got away.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

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