Marriage, Mortgage, Kids…f~~~ that s~~~

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

Fenderson,
I agree it sounds like this guy is not as aggressive about his own interests as he should be.

Vector, how many MILLIONS of men do you think there are out there who are 5 or 10 years into a marriage, mortgage and kids with some fat, demanding, threatening, tyrannical, disrespectful RULER (her word, not mine) … who can only dream about being able to rewind their lives back to the point where you are now so that they could have one more chance to escape that noose before it had closed as tightly as it now is around their necks?

Once upon a time, 100% of guys bought into this scam. Right now, there is something like 70% of guys 20-30 years old who KNOW they are never falling for this trap. But before them, somewhere in between once upon a time and now, there were guys like you, who saw the red flags and had suspicions and the doubts, but didn’t act on them.

Given that chance to rewind, how many of those guys would be thinking about ANY of the stuff that you posted about being concerned about above?

A mouse in a trap doesn’t care about the cheese anymore, he just wants out of the damn trap.

Stop focusing on the bait and focus on escaping the noose rapidly closing around your neck!

Sidecar gave you the escape plan. If you had initiated that plan the day she left town, you’d already be out, and free and safe. The only missing ingredient in that plan is your decision to save yourself.

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[Anonymous 42]

BrainPilot wrote:

You have time to bail cleanly, and without resistance. You can be gone before she knows you’re gone.

RUN TO FREEDOM…..

Vector wrote:

She kept asking me why I haven’t contacted her or told her that I missed her.

That’s her making sure her remote control is not out of range, (YOU)

Vector wrote:

If I transfer my share of the money now, she will notice when she checks her bank!

Her Bank includes ALL YOUR EFFORTS, FRUITS, REWARDS, AND DIVIDENDS!

She’s infected with feminism entitlement virus, it’s deadly to the spirit of a man. She’ll have you suffering a miserable existance.

Had SHE said something like ” You’re my ruler, my master, and my commander, you’re in charge of everything,,,I trust you!) that would be another story, her heart would be in the right place, not lodged in the infectious disease of feminism. You’re just a tool to her selfish wants.

Another thing! Why do so many guys choose to sever a relationship using a broken bottle?

You’ve been handed a MGTOW samurai sword, and shown how to use it.. It your choice…

Can’t you find a friend to stay with?

The contract of Governmental Matrimony gives HER the POWER to RULE over you until such time as SHE deems it appropriate to dispose of you!

Thank the feminist entitled spirit of modern women. They’re  backed by legislation and laws passed giving them powers of destiny over the logical thinking common man….

Her feminist insanity WILL RULE OVER YOU! And so will the JUDGE!

[kbbroilerParticipant 886]

Hey Vector. I’m glad you had your revelation. Your GF is delusional that she has the power. We actually have the cards. We have the sperm that gets them pregnant. You ever wonder that not a lot of women go to sperm banks when they want to have a baby? They want a guy to pay for it. That’s one of the dark secrets inside a woman. Seriously, more and more men are waking up and are just not giving them what they want. Take for me for example on April 8 I’m having a vasectomy. I gave this a lot of thought and decided with the way the world is in western culture that was my best option as I move ahead to the future. I want to retire between the age of 55 and 60. I’m 43 now. If I had kids, I would be working until I’m 70. I’m interested to hear her response. Please let us know how she takes your new revelation.

[Lazarus LongParticipant 365]

Vector

Speaking from the experience of going through all this my self on top of having kids in the mix I can definitely tell you that Sidecar nailed the escape plan. It boils down really simply, get all of her s~~~ out of your house and into a storage place, pay the first month cash or whatever. Get all of your money out of the joint account and get yourself off any joint credit cards etc. Send a cab to pick her up and have the cab driver deliver the key to the storage place and a motel 6. Get your own place as soon as you can swing it. Get copies of any and all documentation, speak with a lawyer and never have contact with her again in any form.

God I wish I knew all this before I got married. Oh well at least I am here now.

God Speed

Willfully turning aside from the truth is treason to one's self. -Terry Goodkind

[harpo-my-“SON”Participant 2410]

That made my day…. another mans life is saved….Vector is going his own way.. rejoice halya lulya glory glory

Tell that feminist minded wench no one rules the vector!  all hail vector!

plan quickly and act quicker as these men are telling you ….she has no respect for you its obvious.. give her no opportunity to screw you over……. don’t make my celebration today meaningless… drop the hammer on her plans to rule your life….. no last f~~~ that is a bad idea….f~~~ some different girl that’s a better idea… one with a wet pussy….use any resources necessary to go your own way!!

 

I was bound to be misunderstood, and I laugh at those who misunderstand me. Kind mockery at the well intentioned, but unfettered cruelty towards those would be prison guards of my creative possibilities. This so as to learn as much from misunderstanding as from understanding. Taking pleasure in worthy opponents and making language fluid and flowing like a river yet pointed and precise as a dagger. Contradicts the socialistic purpose of language and makes for a wonderful linguistic dance, A verbal martial art with constant parries that hone the weapon that is the two edged sword of my mouth.

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

I am praying for you Vector, praying that you run now. Don’t wait another minute, pack her s~~~, put it in storage. Get your cash, and prepare for a restraining order (on her). I know what you’re thinking….. DON’T do it. She’s trying to destroy you. She’s already tipped her hand, it’s time to fold and walk away from the table. It’s over…

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[NeoParticipant 6]

The whole “I will rule you” comment should be enough to show you what she thinks of you. Where she goes or what she does is none of your concern.

 

If you wanna be a nice guy you can let her stay in your parents place whilst you crash at a motel. Either way – after you drop the bomb – she is NOT going to be happy. She has no future with you; you already know she wants kids and a house…so I don’t see why you’re expecting her to want to stick with you after you tell her that its not going to happen.

 

Get out while the gettings good man. She doesn’t sound like she has good intentions. Praying you end up alright. Let us know how it goes!

 

 

[TheFreeManMGTOWParticipant 119]

Be a man. Kick her out of your life and she will beg you to take her back but still be a man and say, “f~~~ off”.

[AntaresParticipant 208]

Guys smarter than me already gave you all the advice you need, but one thing I’ll say if it hasn’t already been said: do NOT have sex with her under any circumstances. This situation has “oops I’m pregnant” written all over it. She may play the ideal girlfriend role, or maybe she’ll argue and hope to move to “make up sex”, but if she gets knocked up you are SCREWED.

Price is what you pay, value is what you get. -- Ben Graham

[VectorParticipant 178]

You guys are awesome. Vinny you nailed it. I can’t wait to kick her out of my life…get the f~~~ out! She put me through so much bulls~~~. I am not going to f~~~ her one last time either.  She will arrange to get her stuff out my house, then I will start looking for a place.

I am now a confirmed bachelor again. MGTOW. I’m getting my own place, living alone, leasing a new car and focusing on MY life. 34 years old, full time job, and no kids. Nobody gets the keys to my place but me. The world is my oyster. Plenty of women to f~~~, no more relationships, if they don’t like it, they can get the f~~~ out. F~~~ bitches, they’re all the same. I am never putting myself into another situation like this for as long as I live!

Falling in love is a myth, it’s just being infatuated with that person until you get bored and move on to the next bitch.

[TheFreeManMGTOWParticipant 119]

I am 33 and earn $1xx,000 per year. I bought my car with cash a few months ago. Planning to buy more car accessories for my cute 4WD. A yellow MGTOW bumper sticker at the back will look great.

I have no girlfriend, no wife, no mortgage, no kids. My dog is my best friend. My cats are cool too.

I am planning on building my own house in the country. It is going to be my ultimate man cave.

Once in a while, I go get a massage with a happy ending. If I really want to, I can join some sites for casual hook ups.

Life is good.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

TheFreeManMGTOW wrote:

I am planning on building my own house in the country. It is going to be my ultimate man cave.

That’s not a man cave, that’s a man CASTLE!

No man should ever settle for anything less.

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

Jesus Christ Vector.  You sure pulled a boner.  I had to join up tonight just to post this.  Christ, I could be on this forum for the rest of my life trying to straiten s~~~ out, and I’m 69 years old (single with my own home).   Look your living situation is a tough one.  Here is an alternative approach.  Do this as soon as you get her home from  the airport.  Do what women do in these situations to get the man out of the house (its a trick).  They start out by saying “Sweetheart, sit down.  I want a talk.”  Then tell her “I’m no longer happy in our relationship.”  “I feel things aren’t going well.”  “I don’t feel that I am as important to you as I thought our relationship warrants..”  I feel I’m being taken advantage of.”  S~~~ like that.   “I think we need time apart, while i find out what my feelings really are.”  “Right now, I very concerned that blah blah blah….”  Then you ask is she can find someone to stay with or somewhere to stay for a few days; like her parents.  Tell her you need time to yourself.  If she can’t find somewhere, tell her that this is so important for your futures that you are willing to find somewhere yourself that you can go for as long as you need.  I suggest this because she can’t boot you out of your parents place even if you do find a place to go.  For gods sale don’t sleep with her.   Just take a few cloths and go.  Move any valuables to you parents portion of the house.  If she asks what’s the matter, tell her that it’s not one big thing, but many small things, life the fight you had before she left, the text message, the subtle little hints you get.  You don’t have to be specific.  Tell her you don’t want to talk about it now.  Maybe in a few days once you’ve had a chance to think things over.  Yes I know that this is going to be real awkward.  Tell her there is no other woman in the picture.  But if she wants to go out and see other people, that’s OK with you but tell her she’s not to bring anyone into your parents home.  That last statement will really send her reeling.      VECTOR I am now fully vested in this you have to keep me informed.

 

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

Hey Vector:  Me again.  Yeah I’m 69 and still getting tail.  I’ve lived alone since I was 33 when I got divorced.  I’ve never let a woman move in.  Kept all my relationships short (3 to 6 months).  Moved on to the next one and never forgot the experience.  I’ve had more pussy, both varied and better. than any married guy I know.  And no hassle like I had when I was married.  Don’t be afraid to move on.  Just don’t blow this chance.

[VectorParticipant 178]

Robert this is exactly my plan, to keep the relationships no more than 6 months before I move to the next one. The ultimate King lifestyle compared to married in a sexless emotionally draining unhappy marriage forever with regrets.

So she called me last night over and over again until I picked up the phone. There was tension and she was confused and my frustrations and unhappiness with the relationship came through and I totally gave it to her why I am unhappy.  I kept calling her out on 1 thing after another and she was crying hard.  I originally wanted to wait until her return before telling her but it happened this way.

Immediately after she says her parents will call me to arrange to pick up her stuff and she is not coming back to the house.  This is going to be extremely awkward for me. I can just imagine the s~~~ she told her parents who probably hate me right now but I really don’t give a f~~~. They don’t know the details of our relationship and it’s none of their business either. Her father better not come in my house with an attitude that’s all I’m saying.  Now I have to help pack her s~~~ and move it out my house. From her furniture and matress to her computer and panty drawer.  Uhh…soooo not looking forward to this!!

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

Well Vector:  This is an enormous triumph.  I can’t believe it isn’t front page on MGTOW.  Congratulations, I only wish I was a fly on the wall.

 

CONGRATULATIONS

[Anonymous 42]

@ Mr. Hallam, I know a guy that’s 68 and still banging 18yr olds. Your advise and demeanor are some of the best I ever read, your wisdom is commendable! You get my full undivided attention on your future posts. I’ve always consumed the advice of my (key word-“wise”) elders. When I was 11 yrs old I worked with a man that was your age (Mr Tobin), I learned things from him that have become a lost art.

[TheFreeManMGTOWParticipant 119]

The devil is leaving your house and your life. I would happily pack her s~~~ and celebrate.

[VectorParticipant 178]

Omg seeing what my 70 year old father has gone through over the years from my nagging bitch mother, I never want that life. He always told me growing up “Don’t get married!”

My mother chews him to pieces day in and day out, and they CONSTANTLY argue…

 

[mgtow_85Participant 752]

Good for you, Vector! You are finally a free man!

After reading one of your previous posts about how you said you were going to move into an apartment with her, split the rent, and how she can just move out if she pleases, I was about to ask you WHY even move into an apartment with her? You don’t owe her anything, or the pleasure of even being roommates.

You do NOT want to have a woman as a roommate.

I had a couple of women roommates before. They happened to be my SISTERS, which were the exception to the general rule. Plus, the $500.00 I paid for rent happened to be the sum my older sister needed to keep a roof over our head for the rent because it was a big house and we all paid $500.00 apiece for $1500.00 a month total. Hell, they’re FAMILY, but even family can drive you up the f~~~ing wall sometimes. I had to deal with my older sister’s mood swings. If I brought back home cheeseburgers on one day and offered her one, she’d get mad at me for offering because she’s “on a diet” and that I’m “trying to make her fat.” If I brought home burgers on another day and didn’t offer her one, she’d get mad at me for “being selfish”, so it was like I couldn’t win at all. I’d remind her that she was on a diet, which only made her more angry. She was pretty self-conscious about her weight.

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my sister and I always will! She was pretty f~~~ing awesome 85 percent of the time, but the other 15 percent was the main reason why I was glad to finally get my own apartment shortly before she got married, and how happy I am that my landlord contacted me to sign the lease for ANOTHER year after my first year of freedom. But sometimes, my sister would be in a financial rut and so I’d loan her $100 or even $200 sometimes. If she didn’t pay me back the entire sum of money I’d loan her, she’d be waiting for me after I come home from work and say, “I’m taking you to dinner. My treat.” And she’d pay for my favorite meal up to the sum of what she owed me, or she’d buy me groceries to make up for it. That’s why I love my sister. LOL. If I loaned her $200, she’d pay me back $150 and buy me $50 in groceries of all my favorite foods/drinks or take me to my favorite restaurants. It was just as good, and I’m glad she knows what I like.

But having my own apartment means dealing with no mood swings or drama, having privacy 100 percent of the time, not having to share any meals. I can walk around in my boxers if I want(and I do), and I can make a batch of Tuna Helper in the microwave without her getting p~~~ed at me because of the smell of cooked tuna remaining in the kitchen…a smell that she HATES.

Congratulations on your freedom!

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