Marital Sex and Jerking Off

[CarvesParticipant 2]

girandhopper wrote:

I then met the most amazing womam fun, intelligent, well educated and a real lady and so passionate..it kind of made up for the terrible years of marriage…the perfect woman or so I thought ! Then by accident I found out about her previous life, shacked up in her late teens in London with a well know “randy playboy” who was almost 50 years her senior (he had plenty of cash need I say) but hey he LOVED her…..what the f~~~…this totally freaked me out..who was this prim and propper little lady who pretty much objected to anything masculine..needles to say my expression of horror and surprise was turned around and it became MY problem….and the sex stopped immediately as, and I quote I made her feel dirty…….well I still don’t know how I did that all by myself. And there was more of that s~~~…how comes when they act like tramps its seen by them as romantic, passionate and exciting but men are perverts ?  

 

Dude…you have a severe case of Madonna/whore complex. It would benefit you greatly to logically evaluate why you feel this way about women. The secret is all women have elements of both; they’re just afraid to express it due to reactions like yours. Most girls you think are prim and proper I’ve found, deep down, are the freakiest see machines out therr . Once a woman knows you understand female sexuality in a non-judgmental way, it’s like seeing the matrix and ridiculously empowering. Sounds like you blew it with that one. Google “Madonna whore deprograming” for a better idea of  what I’m talking about- I can’t paste to this forum from my phone

 

Waking up- sucks she viewed see functionally, but your response was extradorinally passive aggressive…almost female like. Hypocritical, considering where you’re posting. She obviously was horny that one time and just uncomfortable initiating, which is something you allowed and conditioned her for from the start. Next time, man up and just tell her what you expect…not in a demanding arms folded way, but in a hot, sexy conversation way, preferably without waiting 20 years. Curiously, this mentally conditions a woman to chase, pursue, value and desire YOU!  You picked a girl who only knows fight or flight, and are responding in a sudden passive aggressive way. She’s responding in the way she’s conditioned to- flight. I’m not saying shes right for you- just shining a light on things

 

[WakingupParticipant 30]

Update….

Divorce is final as of today.  I’m single again.   And very much not sulking or depressed…feel relief and hopeful for my future.  Things are moving ahead great with my plans on paying off debt and all the bills are now caught up.  I’ve established a savings and my plan is moving forward.

Not going to throw a party but not sitting at home either.

After reading Carves reply – it makes me glad I think long and hard before posting.  “passive aggressive” and “feminine”. lol  Hilarious.   Anyway.  I stand by my reaction to that situation.  I was very much in control.  The feminine thing to do would have been to cave into her manipulative controlling action.  I didn’t listen to my c~~~ and gave her no satisfaction of being able to somehow dictate the moment.

I have been going to a counselor and have gained some great insights.  He believes she has a personality disorder (big shock there) that involves being self – absorbed.  She can’t tolerate those closest to her NOT being equally as absorbed in her.  So she tries to control the person.  After my own research on disorders and looking at the past 20 years of my marriage.  It’s clear his assessment is dead on.

I’m single, i’m hopeful, i’m financially stable and horny.  Bring on the day.

[DakotaParticipant 341]

Escaped the plantation, huh?  Good for you.  Just don’t think that there aren’t others out there who won’t try to bring you back.

I must comment on your counselor’s “insights.”

“He believes she has a personality disorder (big shock there) that involves being self – absorbed.  She can’t tolerate those closest to her NOT being equally as absorbed in her.  So she tries to control the person.”

All women have this “personality disorder.”  It’s called being a woman.  You’re paying for this s~~~?  ALL women, no matter how old, remain the six year-old princess that proclaims…”Look At Me Look At Me!”…and if you don’t, they get p~~~ed, cry and attempt to manipulate you into treating them like the princess they are.  It’s all about them, all of the time.  That’s the only insight a man needs besides never marry.  Women are all the same which makes them very easy to understand.

 

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[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Did Mg-tower finally melt down or what?

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Don’t know. He sent me a message yesterday and I just sat down to reply in length. I also asked him about his change of handle which is odd since he is so wildly popular and has really carved himself an identity here. I hope he gets back, but his tone was UPbeat and he actually wrote to comment on the recent t~~~ we all got rid of. Seems fine. He was also inquiring about another site subject….

PS. Re-Vegas plans to vegas trip this weekend…. turns out my brother will be there for a conference and I came up with an excuse not to go. I just didn’t want to be obligated to see him while I am there. Although I could have gone anyway without telling him, we have mutual friends and I think someone would blab and say I was there but didn’t connect with him.

So it will be next weekend or the weekend after instead. Nobody else could commit but when I go I will give you at least a weeks notice if you’re up for a drink a round of black jack.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

pS. Forums may be a LITTLE slow to post for the next hour or two. We’re busy testing some major updates.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[experiencedParticipant]

@keymaster‘s, “PS. Forums may be a LITTLE slow to post for the next hour or two. We’re busy testing some major updates.” In fairness to the LAYDEEZ, perhaps more than kittens in the “women may exit here ‘slide,’ ”  e.g.  heels, handbags, credit cards, attorney cards, pretty woman DVD, diamonds, penicillin, fenvir.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

Dakota,

Nature designed a woman for one thing and that’s f~~~ing. The rest is just details

Good God Man – Please do NOT stop posting!

I found one of your posts tonight, and have since dug up all of your posts on this forum. F~~~ing fantastic. Virtually ZERO posts/comedians makes me laugh out loud, but so many of your posts do.

The one quoted above completely reminds me of Marvin Udall (I think thats right) the Jack Nicholson character in As Good As It Gets…F~~~ing love it!

And just so you know Im not some ass kisser: I disagree on your views on God and creationsim; although I was impressed with your theological knowledge. You know your s~~~ on many doctrines, but I disagree with your over all conclusions on God/free will/man.

Anyway, your insight is f~~~ing fantastic dude. PoOoOoOooOAst more!

Resident cynic.

[WakingupParticipant 30]

It’s been right a year since the divorce. Mostly the year has been great. I’ve paid of several larger debts and my financial plan is coming around. My desire to stay single is as strong as ever – though can be challenge when everything around is built to support “families” – not single men. Damn my eyes have been opened. I’ve had a few opportunities to go on dates but honestly – I have ZERO desire right now. I desire sex – not dating. The expectations and pressure leave me with no choice but to wear out my fleshlight. I just can’t trust them – even the ones that try to say it would “matter not” and could be a “one off”.

Anyway – I’ve found this site extremely helpful and I’m looking forward to my 1 year anniversary.

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8283]

She really wants to control every aspect of your life!

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[Rolling Tin FistParticipant 484]

Very early in our marraige, my wife “caught” me shocking the monkey. Truth was I wanted her to, so we could have the conversation based on reality rather than her pious fears.

I broke it down, that it wasn’t a matter of scarcity. Our sex life has always been top notch, still is. I’m just the type of guy that doesn’t begging like Oliver Twist, when I want it. I was such a pussy beggar in my youth, and worked hard to shed that habit.

Well, wifey took it poorly and made the mistake of giving me an ultimatum. To which I calmly responded, it’s either f~~~ing myself, or f~~~ing somebody else.

"Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another" - H. L. Mencken

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