Looking Back On Life…

[AutoliteParticipant]

Branched off wrote:

We all make mistakes and when its too late to fix them or have another go, then we had better just make the best of what is left.

I appreciate all the posts and replies from everyone. They are most interesting. But I think that this ^^^ might be the real gem in this thread. Making the “best of what is left” sums it up nicely. I guess that’s what it all really boils down to. Work with what’s left and do the best you can to carry on.

It’s just that I sometimes feel that life is like running a race with the finish line (the goal) in sight. But the harder you push yourself, the more that finish line seems to keep stretching off further away into the distance. It just makes it hard to keep the incentive or to stay motivated…

[AutoliteParticipant]

Awakened wrote:

Looking Back On Life is Always DEPRESSING for Me.
My Life is One BIG REGRET….It just IS what it IS.

If it’s any consolation at all, I suspect that most might feel the same although very few will admit it. Learning how others cope and carry on is why I started this thread…

[WallyParticipant]

How to cope? I always think back to my lowest point in life, when the doctor told me I had to agree to his protocols in order to get my genes tested for the disease that killed my grandfather and father. He had seen to many people leave the office and kill themselves after, I agreed to his protocols. Finding out I didn’t have it made me realize everyday from here on out is a gift.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[Gravel PitParticipant]

First, SkyO’s story was some serious Oorah Highspeed Motivator type sh!t. Hell yes. The dude is larger than life in his stories lol. Like some character in a western novel. I dont envy him, because I live totally sober but his stories are really something else.

Looking back, I wish my old man had been more redpill. There was much that he couldnt help me with because either he honestly didn’t know or he was consumed by his own numerous problems.

As stated though, I dispense with notions of shame or regret because my understanding is that things unfold the only way that they can. Only what can happen, will.

This isnt a license to say fvck it all, that is Fatalism… a misunderstanding of Determinism. You cant help but try to do well. You wouldnt be able to resign all effort, even if you wanted to. Each day, we are compelled to rise up and do the things we do in life, driven by thoughts we never chose, passengers and witnesses to ourselves, automated through tasks.

Its not insane to notice this. Its insane to know its true and continue denying it.

[Gravel PitParticipant]

I do envy Sky Os freedom and adventure. He is a reminder that Im landlocked and boring, while he jumps out of airplanes all over the globe and bangs random exotic rich cxnts. lol

[Sky-OParticipant 18949]

Gravel Pit wrote:

I do envy Sky Os freedom and adventure. He is a reminder that Im landlocked and boring, while he jumps out of airplanes all over the globe and bangs random exotic rich cxnts. lol

I’m limited on my skydiving trips to only the United States due to using my Jeep as transport and living HQ for that stuff.

And my banging spoiled pumpkins on a regular basis was limited to my blue pill era. Regarding rich women: I learned a few things during that period of time and one of them was, no matter how much money they come from – they always eventually marry when they secure a beta that has more money. That never changes. It’s almost like pumpkin’s existing wealth is an admission pass to secure a guy that has way more.

[The Black ScorpionParticipant 2146]

I have to agree.

Every single time in the past that I have put the opinions of other people above my gut feelings it has turned out badly for me.

Hard, hard lessons learned.

Now I listen to my gut instead of other people and things are working out much better for me.

Even if I don’t get what I want at least I prevent myself from being drawn into the toxic bull$hit that is the only thing that most people bring to the table.

The greatest tragedy in life is to spend your whole life fishing only to discover that it was not fish you were after. - Henry David Thoreau

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2760]

Autolite wrote:

Making the “best of what is left” sums it up nicely. I guess that’s what it all really boils down to. Work with what’s left and do the best you can to carry on.

I understand what you are talking about. In a few months I turn 50. My entire decade of 40s felt like a losing battle. Two divorces, deployment to Afghanistan, loss of my long-time corporate job, recent split with 6 year girlfriend. All of it taking a huge toll on my finances and mental/physical health.

Life kept beating me down, and I kept getting up only to be gut punched again. You start to contemplate staying down on the mat… Maybe checking out altogether.

What helped me is living life in the here and now — avoid looking back and too far forward. Instead of mourning for what was lost, fight for what is left. Focus on the good instead of dwelling on the bad. At night don’t replay all the bad sh!t, force yourself to name three good things that happened that day. Reset your expectations; we are often disappointed with life because we set high expectations for the future (usually from comparing ourselves to others or by what we see in the media) and then are disappointed when expectations are not met. Set the bar low and you will be pleasantly surprised instead.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[AutoliteParticipant]

CPT Obvious wrote:

Reset your expectations; we are often disappointed with life because we set high expectations for the future

Completely agree. I really do try to do this. I sometimes think that it might even be expecting way too much to hope for things to ever get any better. Perhaps, realistically, the best that we can hope for in life is to slow down the rate at which things keep getting worse. That goal at least sounds like it might be achievable…

[Gravel PitParticipant]

Stardusk spoke at length about Post Red Pill malaise. I used to think it was a folly because my first 4 years “post-Stardusk-Compilation” were characterized by enlightenment and great strides in creative progress. I was riding a pink cloud.

But the last two years, the tanks running empty. Stardusk likened this disambition to the subconscious cecessation of accomplishing goals for the allure of women. His view was that, we basically stifled the natural fuel cells that keep us prodding on, the desire to impress and secure females by way of status.

The challenge these last two years is to reach self actualization WHILE not totally reneging on the truths we discovered about sexual dimorphism. To actualize, human BEING rather than human DOING. For most men, the plantation IS their ‘self apex’ but we have chosen a higher road. Progress on this high rocky path is slower and resources are scarce, gone are the milk and honey from lower roads.

[WPLParticipant 2390]

I make a deliberate effort at not regretting the past; learn from mistakes, and move on.

[Gravel PitParticipant]

Most men thru millennia easily reached an altitude of successful self confidence by way of the energy attained through female validation. But that fuel source, women, also limits the height men can reach. Its a catch 22.

Now, we are breaking through that glass ceiling! and, we are doing it without koolaid from women!

We are reaching a higher high. A self actualization that is uncorrupted and unpolluted by women. Its a cleaner burning octane, the fuel we create ourselves, compared to the ethanol petrol on offer from women!

[EGParticipant 1885]

Autolite wrote:

Sky-O wrote:

Alright Autolite.
You apparently need an injection of Sky-0 perspective and insight.
First: ‘the things that my father should have taught me’
Way to act like a little b•tch this morning.

Okay Sky-O. I will concede that you might have won this thread. But are you sure that you will feel the same in 20 or perhaps 30 years from now? I mean a lifetime of continuously having to ‘get back up’ can wear down even the best of men. You might see things a little different as you get older. Consider that there may come a day in your life where the heart and mind might be willing but the old body just isn’t…

Bingo. Not to kick dirt at the Japanese proverb, but I’ve presented this question to people I know IRL and the only answer I’ve gotten so far is “Hmm…”: what good does it do to continue taking someone’s abuse for the simple sake of not letting the abuser “win”? Do you let your bully keep bashing your head into a brick wall just because someone else tells you, “Don’t run away because if you do, you let the bully win”? So the question becomes: how many times can your head get bashed into a brick wall? Indefinitely? Certainly not.

[EGParticipant 1885]

Gravel Pit wrote:

Progress on this high rocky path is slower and resources are scarce, gone are the milk and honey from lower roads.

Freedom is hard. Even inmates get handed 3 hots and a cot. Free men not so much, at least not without strings attached. And strings=no freedom anyway.

[TwistParticipant]

MATRIX wrote:

Having said all that, I’d still love to go back in time and tell the b*tch to go f*ck herself

I’d love to go back in time to when she fell off the boat while docking. Really didn’t need to go right to neutral.

[shovelheadriderParticipant 2400]

Autolite wrote:

the things that my father should’ve taught me but didn’t.

Your father is a broken man, everything he loved was taken away. You see glimpse of who he was when he is off with you and your friends. She” let him” take you hunting,fishing,races etc. You would not believe him anyway. You would not see the logic him giving up everything for that woman(your mom). Here is how it would go. He had fine car,fine women that was a sexual Disney Land.
If he married her he would have sex anytime he wanted. She loved everything he did and all his friends.All he wants is to shut her up. The last thing he wants to put out there was you sweet mom is AWALT and it get back to her
The thought of Mom giving Pop a Bj at drive in. Her telling him that IF THEY got Married and a house he could have sex anytime.
Give me feedback about Mom and Pop and doimg the nasty in Grandads Buick!Did you want to hear him tell you?

[Buller100Participant 2189]

Like the OP , looking back is funny I wonder why fathers never told their sons more , yet their daughters they dote on ?

Some great tales guys , but as has been written we were sold a fairy tale , it turns into a nightmare.

[AutoliteParticipant]

shovelheadrider wrote:

Your father is a broken man

Nah. Actually he just wasn’t really at all very bright. It was only after many years of living my own adult life that I came to grips with that simple reality. It’s hard admitting that about ones own father but truth is often an unpleasant realization for many of us… 🙁

[AutoliteParticipant]

shovelheadrider wrote:

Give me feedback about Mom and Pop and doimg the nasty in Grandads Buick!Did you want to hear him tell you?

What I would have wanted to hear from him was the truth about people, women and life in general. Things like financial planning, how to deal with people and relationshhits I had to figure out all on my own. Dad didn’t seem to have a real handle on any of it so I was never prepared for how the world really works. And being somewhat naive myself I would (far too often) heed his lame advice.

We often afford people respect just for who they are whether they actually deserve it or not…

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2760]

Buller100 wrote:

Some great tales guys , but as has been written we were sold a fairy tale , it turns into a nightmare.

She promised me the world . . . Turns out it was a world of hurt.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

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