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Anonymous125 years ago I went through a bad breakup. They say that time heals all wounds, but for me it has not. I wish I could stop thinking about her. I wish I could erase all memory of her.
During the last 25 years, I have been in dozens of relationships, traveled the world, built my own house with my own hands, and lived in 3 different countries.
For the last 7 years I’ve not dated or even screwed any woman. True, my life is now much less complicated, but damn it, I can’t seen to get any closure.
I wish I knew what to do, because I can’t get her out of my mind. When I think of her I feel so sad and I’m sick of feeling this way.
You are giving her power over you to affect you.
Take it the f~~~ back. Its done. Say you are f~~~ing done. If you havent forgiven her, do it – not for her, but for you, so you can move on and live life.
Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.
25 years bro .
wish I knew what to do, because I can’t get her out of my mind. When I think of her I feel so sad and I’m sick of feeling this way.
I say go find her and live happily ever after . Im sure she will be just the way you remember her from 25 years ago . All her teeth ,a nice bod and a pussy with p~~~ flaps like new tyres on a vintage car .
Bro people change as they go threw life . She could be a junkie even or a raging alcoholic. Lol
She could even be dead . You could still take her flowers though .
I say go for it . Sounds romantic .
Be careful what you wish for .
THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .
I think everyone thinks back to ex’s at some point or other. We have to keep looking back through our lens of red pill knowledge. You will look back regardless, either miss the good times and wonder why it ended or you could hate the whole thing and wish it never happened.
It all led you to this moment right now in your life. You have to look forward in life rather than back. Try and make it a habit to change the subject whenever you think back to s~~~ like that, it’s not productive.
All the best, keep your head up."Have you ever thought about any real freedoms? Freedom from the opinions of others...even from the opinions of yourself?"
LOL…You are pining for the old days…The present is much more different…You are looking at the past through rose tinted glasses…
Do you know the smell of an old woman? Yes, your unicorn smells like that now…Enjoy
I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...
Anonymous3I can’t seen to get any closure.
I wish I knew what to do, because I can’t get her out of my mind. When I think of her I feel so sad and I’m sick of feeling this way.
Like Tunneler said, you are looking at the past with selective memory. Distance makes things better, the faults more bearable and the good traits more valuable than they are.
They say familiarity breads contempt. The corollary should be that unfamiliarity breads admiration.
I therefore recommend that you track the creature on the social networks and learn about reality.
If you get a page saying: “I am waiting for my Pharaoh, no man will ever compare to him.” Then you would have found your unicorn. Worry not if that happens, but be sure that you have died because such things are not of this world.
Most likely you will see that life goes on. People are replaced. Kids grow. And the sands of time cover all human folly.
25 years ago I went through a bad breakup. They say that time heals all wounds, but for me it has not. I wish I could stop thinking about her. I wish I could erase all memory of her.
Same situation with me. 28 years later and I still have bad dreams.
It leaves a mark. No doubt about it. On the positive side though, the bad memories are a constant reminder to never make the same mistake again.
Everyone’s different. Some guys, guys like us, never absolutely let go 100%. Just know that you’re not alone here. The bad memories might never be completely erased but you must learn not to let them have any influence on your day-to-day life…
she will never be what she is not, its time you accept her for the c~~~ she is you cannot change people and its wrong to try that goes both ways
You ‘seem’ to be thinking shes the one that got away/you let slip through your fingers. NO – it was just another learning experience – and no she was not much different to other women. If you were meant to be together longer than you would have been.
7 years back I used to pine after a girl that I actually dumped 10 years previous to that. All the girlfriends I had after her were worse than her in character. I thought I had dumped my unicorn BUT when I truly analysed it there were aspects that made her no different to other women – it was simply covered with her charm.
Its rose tinted glasses/ nostalgia. You had some good (and bad?) times with this one – now move ON its in the PAST. I wouldnt normally say this as MGTOW but in your case it may help to actually speak with this woman – this would probably land you with a jolt into reality – or you might renew your relationship and probably learn the hard way – MGTOW is’nt for all men.
The natural order is for many men to be the respected head of a family unit with a woman by their side submitting to his authority and greater intelligence. This is much more difficult/in many cases no longer possible in todays society– some men naturally pine for this family scenario. Some men are not meant to be family men – they are meant to be single discipined warriors, spiritual teachers, wise men giving guidance to society, innovators, writers, monks, some simply like a peaceful life etc – for these men MGTOW is a more natural/easier choice – its not even a choice for them its just they way they ‘are’.
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Anonymous42I’m with you, Ramses2! S~~~ from the past haunts me as well! Hell, it haunts my entire illegal condemned neighborhood! Ghosts of a better more fruitful time are on every street corner pointing the way to oblivion!
That’s only the law and politics side of my haunting!
Women from my past are etched upon my mind with scars upon my heart!
I’m never going back to the illusion that this is somehow a wholesome and good society, it’s not!
There’s nothing sacred anymore! The devil has his dick stuck in EVERYTHING!
Anonymous1I am reasonably certain that I see both the good and the bad of that relationship. I honestly do not think I’m looking at it through rose-colored glasses.
Who was it that wrote, “It was the best of times. It was the worst of times” ? Who ever said that, it describes our relationship.
Whenever I start to get sad, I try to remember: all the lies she told me, all the times she made me wait for her (sometimes never showing up at all), all the times she become unreasonably jealous, and the time(s) she cheated on me to punish me, and all the other things she did that p~~~ed me off.
Sometimes, those negative memories help. Sometimes not.I wish that I could have the opportunity to express my anger, in a face to face confrontation. But that’s not possible.
Anonymous42Whenever I start to get sad, I try to remember: all the lies she told me, all the times she made me wait for her (sometimes never showing up at all), all the times she become unreasonably jealous, and the time(s) she cheated on me to punish me, and all the other things she did that p~~~ed me off.
Sometimes, those negative memories help. Sometimes not.Bro, That’s a HORRIBLE exorcise in mental FUTILITY!
Stop hitching those wagons to your horse in the middle of the desert without any water and three broken wheels!
You really need to stop propping up current day thought to memories that play a role in your head causing allot of short circuitry!
You need to start training your mind to be independent of the past and always moving forward! The better you tune your mind to this purpose is like freezing the mud and effortlessly driving over it!
Ramses, you’re up over your axles in MUD! Water is leaking into your transmission and differentials!
I’ve been where you are and it SUCKS!
25 years of free rent in your head without collecting any dividends is just too much!
Cash in on the wisdom that brought you here! There’s no better place on earth for a man to get his head STRAIGHT!
I hope you do as I’m telling you, I have found peace and happiness in freeing myself from the past yet not forgetting the impossible to forget!
I’m on the outside of the glass jar you put yourself in!
You really need to edit the way the past plays in your head! Cut and splice those negative emotions scared upon your mind and change the way they play in your head until you hear a symphony of HAPPINESS!
Nobody’s gonna wrench your head straight unless you pick up a wrench yourself and go to work on your own head!
The mud is bottomless until you learn to freeze it in place, like making time stand still and you simply walk away!
Nop, it never ends, ever.
That s~~~ will go with you forever. However, probably if you see her now 25 years later it might easy on you a bit.
Fat, old, a few kids, you will be F~~~ ME I DODGED A BULLET.
To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.
Dont worry bro, youll see her in heaven. And s~~~ will be all good. You gotta forgive her too bro. God has better plans for you. Pray.
Message from god, he says he doesn’t give a s~~~.
To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.
Anonymous42Message from god, he says he doesn’t give a s~~~.
Message to Carnage: You get what you give…
Walk away…There is no closure to be had…List the things that made her like every other selfish, entitled c~~~ and fap to that…Better yet, get a dog or go on a trip…
Perhaps you are looking for purpose in life…I too am searching for that right now but thinking about the toxic ex is not going to give you that purpose…
As Tower said…Its an exercise in Mental Futility…Good luck brother…
I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...
No, closure is not always possible. In fact, believing closure is always possible sets you up for future failures. Time does not always heal all wounds.
Here is a little exercise: ask yourself how many times things turned out exactly as you dreamed or expected. How many times? Yeah, me neither except when I was counting on the worst behavior from people.
What could have been in that point in your life, you are holding onto as a key to your happiness. If it had come true, would you be happy now?
Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.
Whenever I start to get sad, I try to remember: all the lies she told me, all the times she made me wait for her (sometimes never showing up at all), all the times she become unreasonably jealous, and the time(s) she cheated on me to punish me, and all the other things she did that p~~~ed me off.
This should be eneough for a rational self respecting man to say ‘F** her – she lied to me and cheated’ and move on with no regrets.
I wish that I could have the opportunity to express my anger, in a face to face confrontation. But that’s not possible.
Your sadness is likely caused by your anger – you have unexpressed anger – at yourself and her – beating yourself up (dont worry you are not the only one I made the same mistake in the past). Stop disrespecting yourself – f~~~ that its in the PAST – if you made mistake forget about it forgive yourself – we all make mistakes – they werent actually mistakes they were you in unawareness – it was not meant to be – move on.
Write down all the stuff you are angry about and want to forget and burn it or throw it in a lake – or talk to a male counsellor about it get it off your chest – forgive yourself and her. You were both in unawareness – its 25 years ago. Read DeMello – Awareness (first half of the book) its a good read for you – its free online. Good luck.
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Anonymous125 years ago
25 years? Seriously??
Last bitch took me about 25 minutes.
25 years is an inexplicable amount of time to still be hung up on a woman.
Sounds to me like there’s an underlying issue here.
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