Is being a hermit the end result for MGTOW?

[IRuleMeParticipant]

IceBankMiceElf wrote:

I think this is a great question and I’ve had a similar feeling more than once. I’ve actually wondered if being MGTOW was making my life more miserable and how I would get over the hump. I cut my cable Nov 16, I have less patience for people, I’m more of a smart-ass, I’ve lost the drive for some things I used to enjoy, and I’m looking and hearing everything different than what I used to.

I can’t see me giving totally up on women because I do like pussy, but keeping them at a distance is where I’m at. Trying to navigate the waters without being a complete asshole and not being a SIMP is where I’m at.

The advice given here on how to handle myself and not give up entirely on things sounds good. For those who go monk or hermit…great for them!

I’m glad I could spark up some conversation on the subject. Thanks to everyone for partaking.

[DanceMyOwnWayParticipant 2097]

Keymaster wrote:

The part about zero tolerance for bulls~~~ ( from women ) gets a huge nod, but draw the line somewhere with “negatives” you look out for. Let’s use one point as an example. . .

I don’t try to not go out with / socialize with women.

I leave it up to THEM to make me WANT to go out with them.

See the difference?

One attitude is “locking yourself in”.
The other attitude is leaving it free and wide open.

I leave it up to women to BE INTERESTING.
Instead of focussing on why I am not interest-ED.

Now it’s up to them – and the effort they make. If they don’t make any effort, that’s not MY problem, I have nothing to question about myself, and I am not placing some negative barrier or limit there. It’s like “going monk”. No MGTOW needs to make an effort to “go monk” because women don’t usually make aggressive moves or initiate. He just needs to “not pursue” and the result is the same.

IRuleMe wrote:

the end result for me is just to be a hermit.

Same with going out (or staying in) alone. I’ll drop what I am doing to go out and have a good time with someone else if they make an effort to be fun and pleasant to be around.

Rather than questioning and determining what you don’t what to do. Ask yourself what you DO want to do, and everything naturally falls into place. Perhaps that means you stay in 4 nights this week, and next week you go out 5 nights in a row.

Sometimes I will just decide to go for a drive, burn gas and listen to music. Even at 2AM. I quite enjoy that. Along the way, I once met Katie Perry’s body guard and a 5 minute conversation about his motorbike turned into a very interesting conversation lasting 4 hours. I couldn’t plan that if I tried!

Just concern yourself with what you DO wanna do.
And don’t concern yourself with what you DON’T want to do.

Of course, throw it away if you don’t see value in it.

Agree with this. Largely my approach too. You will find this way you have the quieter and busier moments in your life and people will come and go.

If you fall down 7 times, get up 8

[SamsquanchParticipant 4226]

Not in my experience.

I’ve actually had more time to get out and do things that I want. I bike, camp, hike, fish. I still go out to a bar near me and get a burger and fries. I just do it solo. And I’ve been enjoying the strange looks I’ve been receiving lately.

[Force of Nature 225Participant 93]

Awakened wrote:

I think you have to take life as it comes, there’s highs and lows. That’s just the way it IS.

In my opinion, It’s not in your best interest to live with too many blacks and whites, most of life comes in all different types of gray.

What you LOVE today you may only like tomorrow, and completely lose interest in within the next few days, weeks, months, or years, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t pursue Other Interests.

As far as social media goes, life is simpler without it, but that’s my opinion.

Women as “friends” doesn’t seem to be a worthwhile venture either, but there again that’s up to YOU as well.

You NEED to find what works for YOU TODAY, and be willing to ENJOY something else/different tomorrow.

If you allow opportunities to present themselves, and WANT to RISK pursuing them then that is also YOUR CALL !!

This is FREEDOM !!

I think you said what I was thinking very well.

I like to attribute MGTOW by it’s acronym…(Men Going Their Own Way).

Some MGTOW may decide being a hermit is the best thing to do and others may keep meaningful relationships.

It is all up to you because you are going your own way.

Me, personally, I am somewhere in the middle. If I’m invited out, I’ll go out and have a good time but I normally don’t initiate invites out. I am pretty introverted by nature and am just as happy being by myself.

[ironheartParticipant 949]

As someone who lived for years as a hermit……..

“Don’t become a prisoner of your own comfort.”

"Women have become so full of hatred that they are blind to reason and humanity. That which they practice will be the end of humanity, long before any war that men may fight.." "Women are predators by nature. Why else do you think they are so quick to gang up and go after a man they hate for showing any sign of weakness?"

[Anonymous 3]

Those are great words. I can understand. Sometimes I say, ” nothing to do & nowhere to go ” & I love it, but I do balance it out with ” stuff to do & places to go ” Balance is important. Thanks for post

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

ironheart wrote:

As someone who lived for years as a hermit……..

“Don’t become a prisoner of your own comfort.”

Hear that! This is great advice. Get out there and live. The only other place you have to go is death, so between now and then LIFE.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

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