Is Anyone Else Completely Oblivious When Women Hit On You?

[WOTGMSpectator 749]

Other men have told me I’m a good looking dude but I have absolutely no clue when a woman is hitting on me. A few times, I thought women were hitting on me but I was apparently wrong.

This one girl, she was about a 6 on a scale of 1-10. Nothing special, but kinda cute. I swear I thought she was into me. Every time she walked past me with her friends where I worked, she would giggle and give a little wave.

One day I asked her out and she acted “shocked” (not in a good way lol). She says “Ahh I think we should just be friends”. I’m thinking to myself “bitch, I’m a good looking dude trying to do YOU a favor because you’re not that hot!”.

Whatever. It was a weird experience because honestly, I was and am more attractive than she is, yet she acted like she was hot s~~~ or something. But that’s how most women are today. Any woman with a vagina thinks she’s Marilyn Monroe, and as a guy, even if you look like Brad Pitt, you have do a lot of work to “impress her”. F~~~ that s~~~.

Now if a woman smiles at me coyly, I think nothing of it. She “might” be hitting on me, but unless she comes up to me directly and says “I’d like to go out with you sometime” I am just not risking it. She might just want attention.

Often times when women “twirl their hair” or do other “flirty” things at you, they really are NOT attracted to you. They just want validation. They want YOU to be attracted to them. Don’t give them the satisfaction. Be “nice” to them, but that’s it.

[Anonymous 1]

When paying for a bretzel at my local supermarket, the checkout girl (a 5) gave me 8 little heart shaped chocolates (it’s 14.02) when she gave the old man in front of me only 1.. It’s only when a friend pointed out that it was a “Valentine” did I realise…

I didn’t go back… But I split the chocolates with my friend..

[AgitoMParticipant 99]

Was born in Europe, but many years ago I moved to a very well developed and modern Asian country with a large Chinese population. (not China).

Here are some stories about me being most of the time completely unaware women were hitting on me.

Will explain why it was due to cultural difference that I was unaware of women hitting on me, but first lets establish 2 things I saw as truths when I started out in Asia:
1. Chinese women prefer a partner of their own race.
2. Chinese women (like all women) like to marry up.

Th first statement is a complete lie. It’s mostly a social norm resulting in girls making such claims while in reality most of them don’t care.

The second statement is quite true, but being too convinced about this statement, is the mistake I made.

Case 1:
Was dating a Chinese girl in my own country. We studied in the same university. Very pretty (was a model). Same education level. We would hang out as friend. Always claimed she wanted a Chinese boyfriend. The week after she leaves the country she tells me she had a crush on me for years “But I never made a move”. In her opinion the fact she would hang out with me alone, was a clear signal she liked me (it’s something Chinese girls wouldn’t do unless they were interested).

You’d think I learned my lesson about that. Off course not.

Case 2:
So I moved to Asia. Started working for a university, sat in a research lab. A few cubicles away was a pretty girl from China. She was a PhD student, therefore future Doctor. Pretty much the grand price in terms of status. She would smile at me when I came in and walked past. On a few occasions when I was sitting alone over lunch, she would join me to chit chat. Didn’t think much of it. Even told myself, since her status is so much higher then mine, she wouldn’t be interested. Towards the end of my job there, I got hospitalised. She didn’t come to see me but hand wrote a very sweet letter that got delivered to me. Due to me leaving my job shortly after recovery, I never saw her again. Recently I browsed old pictures from company events. Noticed this girl was sitting next to me on every event, though it was completely free seating.

Case 3:
There was a girl working in my office who was of the System Administrator department. Every time there was an issue with my computer, I’d call her. She would drop everything and come down to fix my computer. She also organized events, and would usually drop by in person by my office to confirm if I would be joining. Went to see movies with her a few times “as friends” but never made a move. Only realised she liked me, when her face turned shocked when she saw me with a other girl.

Case 4:
Yet another girl. Wanted to hang out with me to practice her English. Same story as case 1 pretty much. Told me she wanted someone from her own country (China), even told me she wanted to marry up. Again, she was someone who already outranked me in terms of status. The night before she left the country, she told me that her mindset had changed and actually had a crush on me.

So basically I never got it that if Chinese girls want to spend 1 on 1 time with me, they are actually interested. Other then that, they will generally try and hide their feelings hoping you would make a move.

The “status” question is a interesting one. Why did these women who who had higher status, were expected to marry up, be interested in me?

Two things really:
Me being a Caucasian plays a small part. It gives me a little extra status boost. But this is not the biggest reason. You noticed I mentioned I do not live in China, but interacted with women from China. What basically happens when a lot of Chinese girls get an education outside China, they feel they can’t connect anymore with anyone in their own country. As a result of this I have seen tons of women with high market value in terms in education, finance and looks remain single. They were not even unpleasant or demanding women to be around.

So that’s Chinese women. They don’t show their feelings, but there are que’s to look out for. When it comes to other Asians. Well, I’ve been to the Philippines on plenty of occasions. To use keymasters words, I pretty much get “eye f~~~ed” there all the time. Women there are very aggressive in letting you know they like you. Also travelled around the country side of Malaysia a few times. Every young girl in small villages pretty much does the same. Not too sure if they actually want to get f~~~ed, in most cases I think it’s just a simple matter that Caucasian guys are a rare occurrence in such places. So if a “rare specimen” comes walking past, you probably want to take some time to look. 🙂

[globemasterParticipant 443]

women see west men as superior so just being a fair looking westerner is enough to attract these women.

[WeGoDarkParticipant 6]

Okay fella’s! I’ve been on this site for quite some time now. I have this female friend that I’ve known for over 10+ yrs. We go out and have a dinner date a few nights ago. She gives me all types of hints that she wants me to bang her later that evening and I almost fall for it…Here is the kicker and I know you guys are gonna love it…she digs deep into her memory or lack thereof and tells me how many men she has slept with since she was 18 yrs old…(300+) and counting…
HOLY S~~~!!! CUM BUCKET!!! WTF!!! After this confession I kindly play it off as WOW! That’s AMAZING! All the while, I’m NEVER EVER EVER gonna stick any part of me into this GLORYHOLE…
So the moral of this story is yes I am OBLIVIOUS to women hitting on me and I’m thankful for it EVERYDAY!!!

[,Participant 1301]

so, 300+ umm, she is 20 now>?

this is a good one to strike out purposely with; good job

with joy/without hate

[WeGoDarkParticipant 6]

LOL! She’s actually 38 now…So 20+ years of abuse…I’m 41 now! Friends is where we will stay…Trust me!

[,Participant 1301]

she was likely giving the number as an enticement for conquest.
OTOH, if it is so, that’s more than one new c~~~ every month… literally miles of pipe laid.
No matter what math you subscribe to, Zer0F~~~sOffered.

wouldn’t do that one even with a liner-

with joy/without hate

[LeitnainParticipant 32]

I was for many years, until I decided to hang out with women more often.
Getting into the psychology of a woman’s head is pretty much how to figure everything else about them out.
A lot of work, but totally worth it for the benefits.
EDIT: The only part of it that’s extremely annoying is that it f~~~s with your standards some. You get bored a lot easier.

"Life hath no spring, no axle, and no end." - Aleister Crowley, Hymn to Lucifer

[Gunstar1Participant 3]

I agree. Its like they give you a 30 second time frame to and if you don’t approach them in that time, you are out…f~~~ them lol

"To Be Yourself In A World Constantly Trying to Make You Something Different Shall Be Your Greatest Accomplishment"~Ralph Waldo Emerson

[MGTOW KnightParticipant 7477]

WOTGM wrote:

Whatever. It was a weird experience because honestly, I was and am more attractive than she is, yet she acted like she was hot s~~~ or something

Welcome to the reality matrix. Watch this video. It will explain it all.

Fuck bitches... literally and metaphorically

[Gunstar1Participant 3]

Gunstar1 wrote:

I agree. Its like they give you a 30 second time frame to and if you don’t approach them in that time, you are out…f~~~ them lol

"To Be Yourself In A World Constantly Trying to Make You Something Different Shall Be Your Greatest Accomplishment"~Ralph Waldo Emerson

[IRuleMeParticipant]

MGTOW Knight wrote:

WOTGM wrote:

Whatever. It was a weird experience because honestly, I was and am more attractive than she is, yet she acted like she was hot s~~~ or something

Welcome to the reality matrix. Watch this video. It will explain it all.

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That chick is so desperate for attention, she’s even including “MGTOW” in her video titles, to click bait. Hypergamy at it’s best. fk her! Fake tan, fake t~~~, fake personality.

[AutoliteParticipant]

FearlessMGHOW wrote:

After becoming MGTOW I noticed that during my blue pill years and even now, I’m almost completely oblivious when women hit on me.

It doesn’t happen often, but when it does, I don’t know that they’re doing it.

In my younger days, guys would ask me “Are you stupid or sumthin”? for not picking up on it. I can generally see it happening now, but as a MGTOW I will play dumb. I don’t know why but I get a kick out of watching women try so hard. However they must think that I’m a total retard… 😀

[Oskal45Participant 21]

In a word: yes. It’s a rare occasion.

However, I can always tell when women are hitting on my mates. It’s odd.

From the view of a third party, women are predictable and very easy to read. They all seem to give off the same signs. I just can’t tell when it is happening to me.

"If women didn’t exist, all the money in the world would have no meaning" Aristotle Onassis

[YoungshredderParticipant 33]

Silpheed1975 wrote:

No problems gents… I have an easy guide to let you know if a woman is hitting on you. Its verbal clues (Freudian slips) and physical ones.
-If you catch her looking at you a lot when you are not looking at her (peripheral vision helps. I have a gorgeous woman at work that can’t stop popping her head up from her cubicle to look at me)
-If she does lots of stretching with the boobs out, she’s subconciously letting the males know she’s fertile (Girls can’t help it, its programmed in from our caveman days)
-Even if she just jokingly suggests you and her being something… (“If i wasn’t dating my boyfriend….” She’s already thought about your wiener…lol)
-Freudian slips. I once said about a female co-worker *who liked me, it turned out* “Watch out Kristy is really Ornery” To which she replied “I am NOT horny!”

Freudian slips are the easiest… if she slips up around you, its the subconsious mind fighting and even over-riding the body to say what she feels…
Finally, trust your gut instinct… Your brain records everything you see, hear, taste touch and smell. You may not have the brain control to bring it to the front of your mind, but your mind remembers, and basically rings an alarm. Learn to listen for your gut….it knows something is up, even if it can’t make you remember exactly why.

Now that I’m fully MGTOW, i know each and EVERY woman at work who wants me. I’ve tested the theory, now i can revel in just knowing and not doing… I sometimes torture the poor girls, and give them nothing….lol. I am also still known as the office flirt…yet women still all sit around me at work… Too bad they can’t read my mind…lol

Lol wtf ? Not to be that dickhead but im about to put a hole in your theory.

None of that means s~~~ dude. Women will do all of that s~~~ just for attention an an ego boost.

Ive gotten to a point where i cant even tell when a girls flirting or intrest is genuine so i either

A). ignore it completely. I always do this when its a really attractive chick as well. Theyre notorious for leading you on. If its too good to be true it is.

B). Try to esculate as quick as i can without being labeled a creep or weirdo or needy. Normally if shes geniunely intrested shell recooperate and well eventually hang out and f~~~. If she rejects your advances well then you have your answer.

You take the blue pill—the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe.You take the red pill—you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes.

[Shadow4512Participant 227]

I’m very oblivious. There was this one time I was with my sister in a store, I get this nice looking girl who seems nice but I don’t pay any attention even when she told me she was a bad girl for dropping my change. Well halfway home my sister decided to tell me that this girl was hitting on me something fierce and was trying to catch my gaze the whole time I was paying. And I was just staring at my money. So needless to say I may have missed a chance with a very bad girl.

No one knows the true worth of a man.

[Anonymous 1]

Jan Sobieski wrote:

My Asperger’s syndrome causes me to mis read most social clues.

Thankfully, it kept me away from females.

One of the things that came out of me getting sent to a psych ward for 72 hrs was a diagnoses of High functioning autism sometimes called asperger syndrome. I was 51 at the time. I’ve never noticed chicks hitting on me ever. It was a female who diagnosed me as well.

[C LeafsParticipant 9]

Count me in as one, at least in the sense of a stranger hitting on me rather than a girl I know. I always figure it out after the fact however, figures.

In a (mostly) 23 and under bar scene I tend to play it calm and cool and let my buddies initiate and I wing them, or wait for the women to come to me. You’d figure a woman coming up to a man in a bar would be the #1 sign of flirtation, however just last night I was approached by a woman (relatively sober) who initiated the conversation, kept the conversation moving, flirted and then off the cuff mentioned her boyfriend who was in the same bar. Not 5 minutes later I’m being introduced to the boyfriend. The f~~~? Didn’t surprise me when he basically dragged her out of the bar right after that.

Just when I think I can identify a woman hitting on me something like that throws me through a loop.

[C LeafsParticipant 9]

Oskal45 wrote:

In a word: yes. It’s a rare occasion.

However, I can always tell when women are hitting on my mates. It’s odd.

From the view of a third party, women are predictable and very easy to read. They all seem to give off the same signs. I just can’t tell when it is happening to me.

Isn’t that the truth

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