Is Anyone Else Completely Oblivious When Women Hit On You?

[FearlessMGHOWParticipant 1928]

After becoming MGTOW I noticed that during my blue pill years and even now, I’m almost completely oblivious when women hit on me.

It doesn’t happen often, but when it does, I don’t know that they’re doing it.

One time when I was at a party with my sister’s friends, this one chick kept complimenting me all the time, touching me, or following me around. She was pretty drunk as well.

I didn’t even know she was hitting on me until my sister told me she was. I was completely surprised by it as well.

But ever since I was little, I could never tell when a woman hit on me. I was just too busy minding my own business.

Men age like fine wine. Women age like milk. "One hundred women are not worth a single testicle." -Confucius

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

My Asperger’s syndrome causes me to mis read most social clues.

Thankfully, it kept me away from females.

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[FearlessMGHOWParticipant 1928]

Jan Sobieski wrote:

My Asperger’s syndrome causes me to mis read most social clues.

I mis read most social clues as well. Unless someone makes their feelings/expressions completely obvious to me, I can’t tell by body language alone.

Men age like fine wine. Women age like milk. "One hundred women are not worth a single testicle." -Confucius

[Silpheed1975Participant 355]

No problems gents… I have an easy guide to let you know if a woman is hitting on you. Its verbal clues (Freudian slips) and physical ones.
-If you catch her looking at you a lot when you are not looking at her (peripheral vision helps. I have a gorgeous woman at work that can’t stop popping her head up from her cubicle to look at me)
-If she does lots of stretching with the boobs out, she’s subconciously letting the males know she’s fertile (Girls can’t help it, its programmed in from our caveman days)
-Even if she just jokingly suggests you and her being something… (“If i wasn’t dating my boyfriend….” She’s already thought about your wiener…lol)
-Freudian slips. I once said about a female co-worker *who liked me, it turned out* “Watch out Kristy is really Ornery” To which she replied “I am NOT horny!”

Freudian slips are the easiest… if she slips up around you, its the subconsious mind fighting and even over-riding the body to say what she feels…
Finally, trust your gut instinct… Your brain records everything you see, hear, taste touch and smell. You may not have the brain control to bring it to the front of your mind, but your mind remembers, and basically rings an alarm. Learn to listen for your gut….it knows something is up, even if it can’t make you remember exactly why.

Now that I’m fully MGTOW, i know each and EVERY woman at work who wants me. I’ve tested the theory, now i can revel in just knowing and not doing… I sometimes torture the poor girls, and give them nothing….lol. I am also still known as the office flirt…yet women still all sit around me at work… Too bad they can’t read my mind…lol

Silpheed's Mom Quote: "Having PMS is no excuse to be a bitch.."

[Silpheed1975Participant 355]

Oh, and related news, the more you ignore women, the more they need to be with you…lol. I will talk to one woman one day, then pick a new one the next day. By switching my focus, i have my own flock of varied attractive women who follow me like ducklings. They even get mad when I am talking to other women at work. If i go on break with one, the other 4 get mad, it’s kinda funny, they cant hide it, it shows in their faces…lol

Another way to know if a woman is hitting on you, is that she tries to monopolize your time… lets the other girls know she’s the alpha female…lol. It’s funny to watch… Like starving lionesses at the savannah watering hole…..a good laugh if you truly see, and are in control of yourself.

Silpheed's Mom Quote: "Having PMS is no excuse to be a bitch.."

[Silpheed1975Participant 355]

That and women always play with their hair when around a guy they like… the preening reflex is not restricted to just birds…lol.

Silpheed's Mom Quote: "Having PMS is no excuse to be a bitch.."

[Silpheed1975Participant 355]

I forgot to mention, if it makes any difference….

I’ve told all the hot women at work that I’m fully MGTOW, and that changed nothing, in fact, they pay more attention to me now… I even had a choice of women to drive me home from work at quitting time…lol

Silpheed's Mom Quote: "Having PMS is no excuse to be a bitch.."

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

There are physiological cues as well. hard to tell now with the s~~~ ton of makeup women wear but they blush, pupils dilate, lips flush as well. That’s the point of makeup; to make them always look interested. Behavioral cues include playing with their hair, this is an attempt to look young and playful, laughing/giggling at everything you say, and parading. They will walk by you, shoulders back and chest out to get your attention, not once but several times. Ever notice at a club, women like to walk around the floor with their friends? That’s parading on a grander scale. If a woman walks by you a few times, there’s a good chance she’s trying to get your attention or someone next to you. Slut parades make me laugh because deep down it’s an attempt to say “i’m available, see what I have to offer”. It’s rare for a woman to verbally hit on you and ask you out. They drop hints that they think are obvious but are not to men and who wants to risk a sexual harassment suit anyway. I’m not oblivious to women trying to flirt or hit on me, I just don’t care and usually that woman isn’t my type.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[Silpheed1975Participant 355]

Yep bro, you nailed it.

(I f~~~ing love that line on your posts: “I bathe in the tears of single moms” It kills me every time…lol)

Silpheed's Mom Quote: "Having PMS is no excuse to be a bitch.."

[RennieParticipant]

Yes. I don’t even look for it.

Although when I read about this, I think back to certain times in the not too distant past where I could definitely say I witnessed suspicious behavior like repeated instances of hair play by one girl, though I didn’t think it was anything unusual at the time.

Too bad like the rest of them she was very likely a ticking time bomb.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

uchibenkei wrote:

There are physiological cues as well. hard to tell now with the s~~~ ton of makeup women wear but they blush, pupils dilate, lips flush as well.

Being about to tell a change in the tremor in their voice and their body language helps a lot.

[SMADParticipant 651]

Great post – enjoyed reading the responses here!

I have a potentially strange outlook on this subject – borderline arrogant even. I simply assume that most women are, on some level, – either physically, financially, or intellectually / educationally attracted to me. It has been a long time since I have “chased” a woman – these days it’s ME who does the qualifying. Every time a girl “drops off the radar” for whatever reason (they feel I am too good for them, I am too intelligent and see through their s~~~, etc.) I see it as they have done ME a favour by removing themselves from the queue.

In groups of guys (going out, etc) I am quite happy to let the young, louder guys make noise and look try-hard. I will happily sit there, quiet and watchful like a sniper. The air of mystery usually draws the slightly “better quality” wimmenz. The usual dregs and cumsluts demonstrate their worth by diving headfirst into the louder peac~~~ing guys, automatically filtering themselves out.

MGTOW + a change of mindset of MEN qualifying WOMEN and not us trying to prove how “awesome” we are is absolutely indestructible. Women talking to me, even friends of many years flocking around in a club or even at the building I work at increases my apparent SMV to outsiders. I just stand there with the self confidence (arrogance? ha!) that they have absolute minimal chance of impressing me.

It’s fun watching them try of course 🙂

Marriage?  No thanks, i'm not ready to be THAT miserable.

[WallyParticipant]

I have difficulty reading knowing when a woman is hitting on me as well, always have. Appreciate the information that has been provided.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[Anonymous 42]

Silpheed1975 wrote:

-If she does lots of stretching with the boobs out

A couple of months ago I was ignoring a married woman flirting with me. In my prior life I would have bedded her as fast as she could spread her legs, she fit the bill too, flat tummy, rock hard body, beautiful long blond hair, and a very pretty face. Her flirtations included touchy feely closness, talking about sex, and climaxed when she lifted both her t~~~ and told me they’re real, this chick wanted her hair frizzed at MG-Tower’s sex salon. I was even getting a woody in front of her, and turned her on even more, after that event I RAN HOME and spanked it!

Silpheed1975 wrote:

yet women still all sit around me at work… Too bad they can’t read my mind

It’s not your mind they want to read, women don’t like reading, but they sure do like counting, like counting the ways you can service them!

SMAD wrote:

I will happily sit there, quiet and watchful like a sniper.

I’ve gone out more times than not to a dusty dry watering hole, this one time I left within 5 minutes of scoping the scene, buy 3 AM my friend and I were parked next to a hay barn plowing a couple college prepers we picked at Baypath (all girls) college.

I thank god that life is over!

[FrankyParticipant 2338]

I’m actually glad i don’t know if a woman is hitting on me.It’s a blessing, makes ignoring them easier.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

FearlessMGHOW wrote:

I’m almost completely oblivious when women hit on me.

You’re not alone in this. It’s practically a cliché.

Flirting is an art form. It’s a goddam art form and North American (NA) women are complete s~~~ at it.

If you’ve done much traveling, you’ll notice women in other countries (like South America / Rio / Buenos Aires ) will be very obvious and will practically eye-f~~~ the s~~~ out of you if they are interested…. but North American women are the opposite. They make every effort to conceal it.

She can look at you, talk to you with a straight face, or even behave like she doesn’t like you at all(!) and think you’re supposed to be able to pick up on it. Not even a coy smile.

There’s a classic moment in the Disney Film “The Lion King” where the two lions are playing and rolling in the grass to Elton John’s “can you feel the love tonight?”. Until that moment they are “friends”. The camera closes in on her eyes, she lowers her chin and looks at him through her eyebrows, making a VERY obvious statement – “It’s ON” – with out any words.

The camera cuts to his expression of surprise and I remember busting out laughing when I saw it.

Cliché hair flips, adjusting her appearance, laughing at your dumb jokes, or gestures like “dropping a hanky” used to be signs of interest (and still are) but AWs are hell bent on not showing softness or vulnerability.

I’ve actually seen it in movies or TV shows where a girl is checking a guy out, and she might approach him to ask “My friend and I are wondering, are you GAY?” or behaving like she DOESN’T like you at all.

That’s so far from what nature intended it’s crazy.

I knew this girl since she was 15, and whenever I would ask her to join me for coffee or a movie she always made a point of keeping me at arms length. In all the years I knew her she NEVER flirted – but made a point of saying things like “OK but it’s not a date” and “no funny business”.

MANY years later and after no contact for +5 years, I actually received (and posted here!) a “love letter” where she wrote “I miss you” and “I love you” in it – signed “XXX”. I’m like…. are you f~~~ing kidding me?

Classic.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Tiga KParticipant 1693]

I have a hard time noticing as well. Sometimes I mistake flirting for friendliness. But who can blame us? I don’t want to get accused of being “rapey” and make assumptions. They are supposed to be equals now, so if they want something, they can straight up ask it insteading of waiting for the guy to read their mind.

I don’t usually notice it was flirting until the woman stops being nice to me and acts like I no longer exist. When I see them doing the same thing to another guy at the school, that’s when I smile and think “ahhhh….. Now I get it. If you just asked me plainly to begin with, I could’ve told you no and saved you a few weeks of effort.”

[Anonymous 12]

It always dawns on me when I am walking away. Nothing to do with Blue or Red pill, I just don’t realize when it is happening. I have missed some huge hints.

What I don’t get is how easily they will just leave it their subtle hints, why not just say it more plainly.

The other thing I have noticed is their interest has an expiration date, if you were to approach the same woman the next day she won’t have that interest in you anymore, it’s like now she wants to get you back for not realizing she liked you the first time.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Tiga K wrote:

I have a hard time noticing as well. Sometimes I mistake flirting for friendliness.

… or the other way around: Mistaking friendliness with flirting.

But that’s a woman’s paranoia. “Afraid of being nice thinking I’m hitting on him”. It’s a pathetic excuse, and something women tell themselves to justify her bitchy resting face and stand-off-ish behavior.

We f~~~ing KNOW the difference. But women are SO upside-down about that, because they forget WHO CHOOSES.

Men do.

Women want and expect men to approach / ask / choose them.
And then they have some problem when men actually DO it.

Who gives a s~~~ if he mistakens her friendliness for flirting? Or vice versa? She can be generally polite and friendly to everyone, and if one guy gets the wrong idea and asks her out, it’s not a problem! Just say “no thank you”.

• Not “I have a boyfriend”.
(because she will dump him for what she thinks is a better deal anyway)

• Not “I have to feed my cat”.
• Not “____ insert lame excuse here_____”

The endless complaints women make “I hate it when guys always hit on me and mistake friendliness for flirting”. Well too f~~~ing bad! It’s not a problem.

I have been “hit on” by gay men too and they are 1000X more aggressive and persistent. But I never f~~~ing treated them like s~~~, or scowled at them, or called them “creepy” – even when it was some 60 year old Monty.

I don’t blame them for hitting on me – like a woman does.
It’s ALL for f~~~ing show. Pretending like being asked out is a “NIGHTMARE”.

Then they argue some guys don’t get the message. Which is as much bulls~~~ as when they complain he didn’t know she was interested. That problem is solvable too. I have told women “just tell him you’re HIV positive and have AIDS.”. Boom! Done.

But the same bitch who complains about being “hit on” all the time won’t have the b~~~~ to say it. She would rather broadcast how unfortunate it is that “men mistaken friendliness for flirting”.

SOLUTION: BECOME BETTER AT BOTH. WORK ON IT YOURSELF. STOP BLAMING MEN FOR NOT BEING A GODDAM MIND READER.

Tiga K wrote:

they can straight up ask it insteading of waiting for the guy to read their mind.

Precisely. I don’t fault women for being subtle or indirect. I get it. But they shouldn’t use it as an excuse because they don’t like “no thanks, sweetheart”. When someone doesn’t want to go out with you, it’s not the end of the f~~~ing world.

Jesus Christ, if men dug ourselves a grave every time a woman didn’t respond to interest we would be eating bullets for breakfast. It’s not a tragedy.

The “tragedy” is this entirely backwards idea that women should go through their lives with scowls on their faces and behaving like she hates him just to avoid being “hit on”. Don’t flatter yourself sister. No matter how “hott” you think you are, you’re not all that.

You know who mistakens friendliness for flirting most often? WOMEN.

Offer to help a woman with her groceries, and in her mind, you’re already dry-humping her leg. You can’t even say “hi” to a woman without her thinking she’s being “hit on”.

I have actually said “hi” and woman have said “I have a boyfriend”.

“I just met you, and you’re already telling me your problems?”

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[HitmanParticipant]

Great thread.
I’m done chasing tail now, but back in the day I ran into the same head games bitches still play today.
I usually figured it was THEIR fault, not mine.
It’s funny as you go through life and look back. .out of all the ASSHOLES I ever encountered, most of them were WOMEN.
The female mind over complicates what should be simple matters. .
As a good friend told me. ..ALL WOMEN MEET THE CLINICAL.DEFINITION OF PSYCHOSIS.

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