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Great thread.
It’s a great topic and haven’t seen it before.
I’m done chasing tail now, but back in the day I ran into the same head games bitches still play today.
A “true love” I dated for almost 2 years when I was 24 (we were very heavy) contacted again some 13 years later. She was already married and divorced by now and it was good to talk to her again…. and it was clearly understood (and unspoken) that lives have moved on and we were just friendly, and actually MET again for a few minutes at an event.
A few days later she asked me out in an email! ON A DATE. Very direct.
I was very fond of her and agreed to a dinner after work – to catch up because we had MUCH to talk about. I was also living in another city for work and didn’t have a big social circle there.
The next morning, she withdraws – as only a woman would – and she dumped 3 paragraphs on me “I was wrong to think you would recuse me…. it’s a bad idea….. ”
( rescue you? WTF? Its’ a MEAL. Calm down! )
… and she unloaded all this garbage and issues, issues, issues. I just about had it with female flakiness by this point and my patience for this s~~~ was GONE. So I wrote back:
“You’re 38. Aren’t you just about done playing these come-here-go-away games by now?”
Never heard from her again.
Good.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.You know who mistakes friendliness for flirting most often? WOMEN.
Offer to help a woman with her groceries, and in her mind, you’re already dry-humping her leg. You can’t even say “hi” to a woman without her thinking she’s being “hit on”.
I have actually said “hi” and woman have said “I have a boyfriend”.
“I just met you, and you’re already telling me your problems?”
Great answers, KM; this one in particular. Of all the “rejections” this one is most ridiculous because I wasn’t interested in asking them out. Try to make small talk with a girl about anything and in the first three sentences she inserts her husband/boyfriend in there somewhere. In my mind I do a big eye-roll, like bitch I ain’t even asked you out, I was just asking you how to cook these bratwurst.
One of my biggest mistakes years ago was getting back together with an ex..it went sour pretty quickly. .wish I knew then what I read here. .
One chance per woman per lifetime!My Asperger’s syndrome causes me to mis read most social clues.
Thankfully, it kept me away from females.
I’m in the exact same situation as you.
Unless someone makes their feelings/expressions completely obvious to me, I can’t tell by body language alone.
That’s the entire point – plausible deniability. It’s another female s~~~-test to see if you are froggy and will jump. When a woman comes up and compliments you, then asks for your number and/or a date, then she is hitting on you. F~~~ing Carly Rae Jepsen song Call Me Maybe with 821 million views and you think these trollops don’t know how to ask you out? Do not perpetuate this nonsense that women do (hair twirl, lip-lick, smile) as women hitting on you. You will be Charlie Brown trying to kick a football as Lucy snatches it away. Why? Because they are attention whores. As Zuberi Tau says, give them nothing.
Great answers, KM; this one in particular.
Over time I developed a set of stock responses to predictable female insanity, and “hi” met with “I have a boyfriend” is one of them. I just toy with that s~~~.
“A boyfriend? That’s adorable. Let me know when you’re ready for a MAN.”
( then walk)
“Hi.”
“I have a boyfriend!”
“Does he let you speak to other people without getting permission first?”
Of all the “rejections” this one is most ridiculous because I wasn’t interested in asking them out.
Damn right. Women mistaken friendliness for flirting more than any men do!
I didn’t ASK you if you have a boyfriend, dummy. I said “good afternoon”. And some kind of “hello” is really the polite and only civil response. Then I speak again .. and then you answer….. you know how a conversation works.
Women don’t.
“Hi.”
“I hate it when guys think they can hit on me like that”
Lady, you are f~~~ing WHACKED in the head.
In my mind I do a big eye-roll, like bitch I ain’t even asked you out, I was just asking you how to cook these bratwurst.
It’s SO obscure and weird, and thank f~~~ it’s not just in my imagination.
But then I realized ….. women think EVERYTHING is a come on, because every time they initiate a conversation, even about non-romantic dumb s~~~ they are interested.
EXAMPLE: If she asks you for a light, she’s not asking you for light, that’s her way of “hitting on you”. Women have told me this. Like two weeks after the bang, she says “you know I don’t really smoke but I thought you were cute” or whatever.
Then it made sense. They perceived “everything” as a come on with some sexual agenda and think all men who speak to them want to bang them, but that’s only because when SHE does it, it means exactly that.
Yesterday I was in a new part of town killing 3 hours at an outdoor shopping center looking for a place to eat. I asked a strange woman enthralled in her phone if there was a cafe or a lunch spot nearby.
When I said “excuse me” she actually behaved like I was “approaching” her.
Now that s~~~ is just funny.If I went solely by the way women react to thinking they constantly being “hit on”….. I swear, if there was no such thing as a mirror, I would think I looked like Shrek.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.I have been “hit on” by gay men too and they are 1000X more aggressive and persistent. But I never f~~~ing treated them like s~~~, or scowled at them, or called them “creepy” – even when it was some 60 year old Monty.
I know what you mean. I sang in a male chorus for a semester (a few gay guys). They never mixed up friendliness and flirting. Most of us were straight, but no one ever gave them a hard time for showing interest. You just politely decline and then resume being friendly acquaintances.
The women just take it personally. The few times I have been flirted with, the woman can never go back to being just a friendly acquaintance. All I do is treat our conversation like a normal conversation and then they act like I just slapped them across the face or something and then ignore my existence.
I’m almost completely oblivious when women hit on me.
Stop saying that. You are not OBLIVIOUS when women hit on you; you’re just NOT INTERESTED.
“Men are oblivious” is yet another attempt by women to shift relationship dynamics such that they’re the ones in the positions of power, and you’re the supplicant.
When you’re attracted to a woman, yet she’s not attracted to you, and you try to do something, it’s YOUR fault, because “you can’t take the hint.” When a woman is attracted to you, and you’re not attracted to her, it’s YOUR fault, because you’re oblivious.
Trust me, OP, you’ll feel better when you simply refuse to subscribe to that gynocentric s~~~. Read about “the feminine imperative” on the Rational Male blog.
". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée
I’m actually glad i don’t know if a woman is hitting on me.It’s a blessing, makes ignoring them easier.
Haha, I agree with you there. Being oblivious to women hitting on you is a blessing.
If you’ve done much traveling, you’ll notice women in other countries (like South America / Rio / Buenos Aires ) will be very obvious and will practically eye-f~~~ the s~~~ out of you if they are interested…. but North American women are the opposite. They make every effort to conceal it.
I’ve never traveled outside of the country, but the foreign women I’ve met in the U.S. are more direct with what they want to do.
Western women, especially American women, are complete s~~~ at flirting.
The endless complaints women make “I hate it when guys always hit on me and mistake friendliness for flirting”. Well too f~~~ing bad! It’s not a problem.
I have been “hit on” by gay men too and they are 1000X more aggressive and persistent. But I never f~~~ing treated them like s~~~, or scowled at them, or called them “creepy” – even when it was some 60 year old Monty.
Exactly. Men are just more direct with this kind of s~~~. And if we want someone to stop hitting on us, we’ll tell them outright.
One time when I was standing at a bus stop, one gay guy who was around 60 years old actually asked me directly “can I give you a blowjob.”
I turned him down. I didn’t treat him like s~~~, but I just said “no thanks.” And he went on his way.
You’ll almost never see Western/American women be that direct if they want to have sex. And even if they are that direct, they’ll still treat you like s~~~ in most cases if you hit on them first.
As a good friend told me. ..ALL WOMEN MEET THE CLINICAL.DEFINITION OF PSYCHOSIS.
Haha, your friend is exactly right about that.
Stop saying that. You are not OBLIVIOUS when women hit on you; you’re just NOT INTERESTED.
Well, I may or may not have autism. And growing up, I was homeschooled and the only interactions I had with the opposite sex were my family.
So I really am oblivious to most social cues whether it’s dealing with women or men. You could be dropping subtle hints on your mood around me and I won’t even know what you’re feeling unless you make it obvious to me.
Growing up, I had to learn to mimic most “normal” things people do around other people. I don’t understand “normal” social things as it is and I only learn to mimic them to blend in with society. Which is one reason I’m a hermit. I hate having to act the way people want me to act in “normal” situations.
But then I realized ….. women think EVERYTHING is a come on, because every time they initiate a conversation, even about non-romantic dumb s~~~ they are interested.
Yep. This one time I was walking on one of the Las Vegas’s pedestrian bridges on the strip. There were only 2 people on that bridge besides me and we were walking in different directions.
When I walked near this one woman, she outright said “sorry I’m taken” and grabbed the other man’s arm beside her and he was a total stranger to her.
In my head I was like “bitch, I wasn’t even looking at you.”
Men age like fine wine. Women age like milk. "One hundred women are not worth a single testicle." -Confucius
I think it’s like Keymaster said: Women, especially in certain western countries, refuse to be direct when they like someone. They expect guys to do all the flirting and want the men to ask them for their numbers, not the other way around.
My personal policy at this point is that I will not recognize when a girl is “hitting on me” until she actually tries to ask me out, ask me for my number, or something comparable. Until then, I will pretend to be oblivious even if I’m not. If she’s interested in me, let her “man up” and take a risk. I have yet to see that happen.
Just a misogynist virgin hiding away in his mother's basement. Nothing to see here...
I doubt if any women hit on me; I really don’t think so after a decade and wouldn’t know or care if they were. A funny thing did happen the other day but maybe I’m reading too much into it. I was checking out of a big box store and the regular cashier was abruptly replaced by a female assistant-manager about my age while I was in process of checking out. I guess the regular gal went on break. The female manager was very slow at working the checkout and even had trouble weighing some produce items. She was smiling and said to me “I’m sorry I’m so slow at this .. I don’t usually do checkout”. I just said that’s fine, I’m in no hurry. She said “So, have a big weekend planned .. doing anything special?” I told her the truth and said I have lots of mowing and clearing brush to do .. and over the weekend I’m also digging up repairing a faulty septic leech line. She asked and i gave her an honest answer. I hate smalltalk.
Anonymous24I notice it when women hit on me, yet I pretend to not notice because they are usually very overweight and or very unattractive. Most attractive women walking around have a man and or many prospects lined up so deep that I am of very little concern to them.
Most attractive women walking around have a man and or many prospects lined up so deep that I am of very little concern to them.
The beauty of this works in a few ways: If they are already taken, then some other poor bastard has to deal with their s~~~. If they are horror-pigs, then you can stay away from them.
My new / latest game is to see how much I can get away with for as little (financially) as possible. 12+ years I would have paid for dinner dates and other s~~~, but for years now I dropped down to things like coffee / tea dates to qualify them first. But now, the past year or so, I have gone even more “frugal” investing as little as possible and seeing what I can still get.
The last three women I f~~~ed – first one took a few months but basically cost me half hour footrub and then leg massage (she was sore from the gym, bless her.) The second was on New Years Eve – after I had a party at mine, everyone went home, but a friend of 10+ years was at her friends party near my place and wanted to crash at mine. We spent the next 2 days f~~~ing, eating and sleeping. All that cost me was half a bag of pasta for food the next day. The last girl was a friends cousin and there were 4 of us pre drinking at mine. When she saw women talking to me in the bar later, she told me “we are having sex at yours tonight.” Again, in the morning all that cost me was 2 eggs to make her an omelette.
I wonder if my next lady friend would jump me for a single Dorito? I will let you guys know!
Marriage? No thanks, i'm not ready to be THAT miserable.
Anonymous12I’m almost completely oblivious when women hit on me.
Stop saying that. You are not OBLIVIOUS when women hit on you; you’re just NOT INTERESTED.
“Men are oblivious” is yet another attempt by women to shift relationship dynamics such that they’re the ones in the positions of power, and you’re the supplicant.
When you’re attracted to a woman, yet she’s not attracted to you, and you try to do something, it’s YOUR fault, because “you can’t take the hint.” When a woman is attracted to you, and you’re not attracted to her, it’s YOUR fault, because you’re oblivious.
Trust me, OP, you’ll feel better when you simply refuse to subscribe to that gynocentric s~~~. Read about “the feminine imperative” on the Rational Male blog.
Speaking for myself I have been oblivious and when I walked away and realised they were flirting I have been a bit p~~~ed off that I missed it as they were very attractive women.
They just open enough about how they do it.
These days I wouldn’t care even if I did notice in time.
Today had some work at the bank, cashier was a woman in her 20s, i was making a deposit to friend’s account and as per new changes in banking rules i had to do some extra paperwork, which asks for reason for the deposit.
I casually asked her ”what reason can i write?” in the space asking for reason. She Laughed as if i told a big joke and said she will fill the question for me. I said thank you and left the bank, Is this friendly or hitting approach.
What comic/series is that comic scene from?
I had a c~~~ who hated my guts with a passion, for a while, I successfully reverse the feeling that couple weeks ago at work, I accidentally grab who boob, and she gave me smile and said that was o.k. she also approaches me, follows me around. Lol
That is actually the fun part, have a c~~~ who hates you one minute and wants to jump you the next.
Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.
I get the “!” over my head when a woman hits on me. So many perception a woman does have, so I just ignore the advances. They want me, they can tell it straight to my face. I am done playing games. Time to cut the s~~~.
What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.
Anonymous17Yesterday I went to Costco and a woman my age seemed to notice me. When I got to the cash register it seems she had been waiting (for me?) and cued right behind me. She was nice looking but looked as if she was in pain and miserable and lonely. I don’t want to be mean but I just ignored her and went on with my business. I think good women should beat up feminists to pulp for ruining it for everybody.
All my life I’ve been oblivious to women hitting on me. I usually find out a few years later in random relations~~~-related conversations with my friends. This has been the norm for me in the past. I’m 30 now and, after opening my eyes to the ways men usually get ensnared in the spider web, I can sometimes notice subtle hints here and there, but I’m actively/consciously preventing anything from happening on that front.
Now I know myself a lot better than I did a few years back, when I almost got married to a narcissistic monster. I’m not falling down that pit ever again. I’m out of Wonderland and happy to be alive. MGTOW for life! (both literally and figuratively speaking)
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