I need to escape!!!

[Anonymous 5]

pZ1$ wrote:

How does a H deal with disrespect from a W?

He punt c~~~s it!!!
Not literally, we’d never suggest violence of any kind towards lying, sneaky, slippery, whiny slappers pretending to be something they aren’t.

Stop listening to the c~~~ or even looking at it.
Get away from the c~~~. Tell the c~~~ you won’t f~~~ it any more and stick to your word.

Tell the c~~~ it stinks and needs to be washed, that it’s repulsive and constantly discharging filth.
I hope I’ve helped you to deal with your c~~~.

[nerowolfeParticipant 13]

I Feel Your Pain!  23 years of marriage and my wife offers little to no emotional support. I too am unemployed and having a hell of a time finding work.  Dont despair, many are in the same boat as you, just make sure to be objective about your relationship. Projecting our own insecurities on our spouses does happen.

[pZ1$Participant 110]

Can someone remind me how to get the f~~~ out of this abusive relationship we pretend to be a marriage? This is bulls~~~! How dare she talk to me the way she does!!!! I will go over this thread to look back.  I can’t take he arrogant insulting way she talks to me. And this is even after I got a job!! Who the f~~~ does she think she is?!!!! I’m not making much money. But there must be a way for me to get out of this!!

[felixParticipant 406]

Follow this link Nolo: Find a Good Divorce Lawyer  If a woman doesn’t even respect you, YOU MUST WALK AWAY.  Do not believe she will change for the better.

 

more throttle ..... less brakes.....

[The_reality_factorParticipant 211]

@pz1$ Congratulations on finding employment…this is a huge step in taking control of your life and a step towards freedom.

pZ1$ wrote:

Can someone remind me how to get the f~~~ out of this abusive relationship we pretend to be a marriage?

We all make choices whether consciously or unconsciously. Unfortunately, you allowed this to happen on some level, and now it is time for you to take your own power back. The best response to this type of abuse is non-response. Completely ignore absolutely everything coming from your wife’s mouth – you need to move on and above this crap.

I consider you’ve received outstanding advice from members on this thread, to say I’m impressed is an understatement. You need to lift your standards and find a higher paying job in the future. All your resources should be focused towards this goal. You need to kick it into another gear now….woman and sex are on hold until you better your standard of living.

Once again, well done!

[Bright guyParticipant 156]

Hey Pz1,

The easiest way out is a good divorce lawyer. It’s that simple. I just finished up with mine. My whole outlook on like has changed since I don’t see her on a regular basis anymore. There is no crazy person calling me all these wonderful names like — loser, sperm donor, asshole and the list goes on. I was beside my self for the first week. Then it was if I went though like a form of detox ( almost like a drug addict or an alcoholic), afterwards I was like — wholly s~~~ this is what everyone was telling me– I would be like a normal human being. I sleep on a bed not occupy a couch like I did for the last 7 or 8 years.

Its a total new world for me– I can do what I want, where I want, how I want and who I want and not answer to some crazy bipolar bitch whose sole purpose was to slowly destroy me form the inside out. The worse part about was I let it happen to me– always saying it will get better but it never did.. It only got F~~~n worse!!!

Now that she is gone, she still tries to get into my world but I wont let her. She calls me- I don’t call back. She texts me over 10 times each day — I just ignore it. I have gone as far as to forward all of  her text message to a spam folder so I read it while I need reading material while taking a dump.

Do yourself a huge favor– make a plan, find a good divorce lawyer and GET THE F~~~ OUT !! just don’t walk out until all the paperwork is signed because if you leave , she will then say you abandon her and the kids. While you are going though the divorce and still in the same house, make plans to go out a few times a week ( going to see a movie , hitting the gym, etc) . When she ask where you are going, just say I am going out– no explanation, no apologies– JUST DO IT FOR YOU!!!

Remember there is a light at the end of your tunnel  you are currently in and its not a train. Its called freedom and it will be a wonderful life. All you have to do is walk though the tunnel to the other side. It will cost you money, but the price you pay for freedom is priceless!!!! Take you power back by ignoring what she is saying and plan your escape route!!!

 

[pZ1$Participant 110]

Bright guy my wife never asks me where I have been when I leave and come back. She really doesn’t care. Sad. I even got a new jb and that has not changed anything either.

[Bright guyParticipant 156]

pZ1$ wrote:

Bright guy my wife never asks me where I have been when I leave and come back. She really doesn’t care. Sad. I even got a new jb and that has not changed anything either.

That’s a very good thing!!!  Make your escape plan, keep working, exercise on a regular basis. She has already  checked herself out of the relationship. Don’t bother with trying to find out the reason why she is doing what she is doing or saying — just stay focused on yourself. Put all of your time and effort on getting yourself to that next better place in life!!

[pZ1$Participant 110]

pZ1$ wrote:

Men I need your help! I never thought I would seriously contemplate just getting up and running away from this BS called marriage. But enough is enough! Having a wife admitting to me the lack of feelings, respect and attraction she has for me is enough to say screw it all! And she was being nice about it! I am pathetic! My position in this world is unacceptable! Jobless, hopeless, this is not for me! People say dude you have to work on yourself before you can fix your marriage. Well I have been working on myself! And nothing is happening! No job, no change, nothing! Enough is enough! This is pathetic! Would it be so wrong if I just packed up and split? Is there a special place in hell for men who do such things? I think it would be better for me to get up and shake my world into reality rather than sit back and do nothing like a wuss! This ain’t cuttin it!!! Oh yea, having a teenage kid makes this situation all the more difficult. But I think she would be better off without someone like me in her life.

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I’m going over my old threads. All I can say is f~~~ing wow! I’m better than this! I’m too good for her! I’m looking over all of your replies on how to get out and doing it!

[pZ1$Participant 110]

Smitty the Great One wrote:

YOU!! MONKEY BOY!!

Listen very carefully, you need to gain control of your own mind first and foremost. I want you to follow some simple steps I have designed that create emotional clarity. You are currently in an overly emotional state. When you are like this you are locked into the emotional side of your brain, and therefore you cannot come up with any answers to the exploding number of questions in your head. Before you make ANY decision you must first return to the logical side of your brain.

1. sit down and wrote about all the things that have caused your problems. Everything, from the wife, kid, job, own personal short comings, shattered dreams what have you.

2. do this writing for 20 minutes, non-stop. Spelling and punctuation don’t count, your goal is to pour out your emotions.

3. when you are done take a deep breath and read what you have written. Notice how this makes you feel. On the top of the paper make a note, on a scale of 1-10 rank the level of emotion you feel when reading.

4. Go take a shower, and change your clothes

5. take a walk, at least 1 hour. Shut your mind off, no music no talking to people, AND NO THINKING

6. When you come back re-read what you’ve written. Again make a note at the bottom of how you feel when reading this.

You should note a significant change in your emotional state. The logical side of your mind can be “jump started” by physical activity. Given your state it could take you days even weeks before you can achieve emotional clarity. Until you can get to 1 you do not have emotional clarity.Now logical, rational answer can’t come from emotion. You sir are far beyond emotionally compromised you are full on neurotic.

Now, once you have achieved emotional clarity I’ll give you the second tool you’ll need to fix yourself.

I’m re-reading this almost a year later. What great advice!

[pZ1$Participant 110]

CELEBRATE MY SUCCESS AT HAVING A JOB GUYS!!!!
I just want you to know I am reading your responses again from last year. I see you all know I was unemployed. Well it’s going TO BE ONE YEAR on my new job soon and I want to celebrate!!!
I am slow and have not taken any steps to get out of the marriage. But I am reading and studying to prepare myself!

[mgtow_85Participant 752]

Like I said before in one of your whiny self-pity posts, you are never going to change, or take the advice of which has been given to you.

I am reading this thread of yours and I am laughing my ass off. Mainly because of the DATES that you made these posts, and how it sounded like you couldn’t take any more of this bulls~~~ from your wife, but the fact remains that you ended up being the world’s biggest pussy and taking that abuse for two more years.

I don’t think any of us give a f~~~ about the fact that you’ve kept a job down for a year. It’s the only new thing about you that you feel like you have to announce as if you won the f~~~ing lottery. Oh, wow, he kept a job for a year, but he still doesn’t have the b~~~~ to tell his so-called “abusive and cheating” wife that it’s OVER and pulling the plug.

I once lived with my mother, who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder and she was highly abusive and treated me like s~~~ and walked all over me as if I was her personal doormat. You know what I did? I DITCHED THE F~~~ING BITCH and put my life back together. Nine years later, I am happy and successful and have my own place and I have my s~~~ together. My mom is currently four-times divorced, homeless on the streets 50 miles away from me, spent 9 months in prison, and she tells all her little Facebook friends from her posts at the public library that she’s “going to college” when some close friends of mine had actually seen her and they told me that she’s holding a cardboard sign and trying to beg for pocket change in the bad part of town. Oh, and she’s f~~~ing p~~~ed at me and my sisters because NONE OF US will let her know where we live and we won’t let her back into our lives.
That’s right. I DID SOMETHING ABOUT IT and I succeeded! Apparently your wife isn’t as bad as you want us to think she is if you’re happily willing to tolerate her s~~~ for another two years. You whine and mope and bitch and moan, but nothing about you will ever change for the better.

LOL about your thread topic, by the way. “I need to escape!!!”

If you REALLY wanted to escape, you would have done it a long time ago. Shame on you for calling yourself a MAN.

[Anonymous 3]

mgtow_85 wrote:

Like I said before in one of your whiny self-pity posts, you are never going to change, or take the advice of which has been given to you.

I am reading this thread of yours and I am laughing my ass off. Mainly because of the DATES that you made these posts, and how it sounded like you couldn’t take any more of this bulls~~~ from your wife, but the fact remains that you ended up being the world’s biggest pussy and taking that abuse for two more years.

I don’t think any of us give a f~~~ about the fact that you’ve kept a job down for a year. It’s the only new thing about you that you feel like you have to announce as if you won the f~~~ing lottery. Oh, wow, he kept a job for a year, but he still doesn’t have the b~~~~ to tell his so-called “abusive and cheating” wife that it’s OVER and pulling the plug.

I once lived with my mother, who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder and she was highly abusive and treated me like s~~~ and walked all over me as if I was her personal doormat. You know what I did? I DITCHED THE F~~~ING BITCH and put my life back together. Nine years later, I am happy and successful and have my own place and I have my s~~~ together. My mom is currently four-times divorced, homeless on the streets 50 miles away from me, spent 9 months in prison, and she tells all her little Facebook friends from her posts at the public library that she’s “going to college” when some close friends of mine had actually seen her and they told me that she’s holding a cardboard sign and trying to beg for pocket change in the bad part of town. Oh, and she’s f~~~ing p~~~ed at me and my sisters because NONE OF US will let her know where we live and we won’t let her back into our lives.
That’s right. I DID SOMETHING ABOUT IT and I succeeded! Apparently your wife isn’t as bad as you want us to think she is if you’re happily willing to tolerate her s~~~ for another two years. You whine and mope and bitch and moan, but nothing about you will ever change for the better.

LOL about your thread topic, by the way. “I need to escape!!!”

If you REALLY wanted to escape, you would have done it a long time ago. Shame on you for calling yourself a MAN.

I say it has to do with Stockholm Syndrome.

[Anonymous 3]

I have read your whole thread. I didn’t notice the dates of the posts originally. Then a year later you say “I’ve held a job for a year!”. The above poster is correct. I don’t care that you held a job for a year.

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