I need to escape!!!

[pZ1$Participant 110]

Men I need your help! I never thought I would seriously contemplate just getting up and running away from this BS called marriage. But enough is enough! Having a wife admitting to me the lack of feelings, respect and attraction she has for me is enough to say screw it all! And she was being nice about it! I am pathetic! My position in this world is unacceptable! Jobless, hopeless, this is not for me! People say dude you have to work on yourself before you can fix your marriage. Well I have been working on myself! And nothing is happening! No job, no change, nothing! Enough is enough! This is pathetic! Would it be so wrong if I just packed up and split? Is there a special place in hell for men who do such things? I think it would be better for me to get up and shake my world into reality rather than sit back and do nothing like a wuss! This ain’t cuttin it!!! Oh yea, having a teenage kid makes this situation all the more difficult. But I think she would be better off without someone like me in her life.
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[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

The short answer: you need a job wether you’re married or not. Focus on that, because it matters to your quality of life more than who, or wether, you are married at all…

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[RoyDalParticipant]

There is a whole body of literature devoted to how to escape and cover your tracks — sort of a DIY witness protection program. There is even a series of thriller novels based on an expert who helps people disappear. So, it’s a popular topic that people have put a lot of thought into.

That said, a divorce might be less messy than a life on the run.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

You have a responsibility to your daughter that trumps your responsibility to yourself. If you have open lines of communication to your daughter, sit down with her and tell her the situation and explain to her what you intend to do… get her onboard with the plan or at least let her know that you don’t intend to keep sitting around waiting for things to change.

Then go out and spend 8 hours a day searching for a job. Getting a job IS your job, now. Once you are gainfully employed and representing positive value to your kid, then you can start thinking about what is best for you with regard to remaining married.

[Anonymous 42]

@pz1$, Don’t run, walk! Form a strategic plan to benefit your self “first”. You tried, we’ve all tried! It sounds like she’s made up her mind “without you”, you’re already disposed weather you realize it or not!

Your head must be ready to implode from your efforts! Give up, at this point that’s all that remains! Give up on her, wall her off in “all” emotions, become an intellectual “Ghost” toward her! Ignore everything, as if she’s a stranger from another country/world. A job is necessary, yes! However your mindset must be addressed first. Jobs come and go, wives just go! Freedom is your reward for your efforts in repairing your mind. She’s done allot of damage in shunning you! Your self-esteem must be shattered at this point! It’s “NOT” you! It’s “HER”! I strongly recommend you read through MGTOW, and discover all the things “TRUE” about women that you never knew. The information contained herein is priceless to a man in your “TEMPORY” position in life

Don’t let it get you down, Suck up your b~~~~, they’re only ones you have! Guard them with your life! I have hope for you, it appears you have already taken the first step. I wish you well my brother, you will create a better life, I’m sure! Cheers

[pZ1$Participant 110]

You guys speak the truth! Thank you!
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[pZ1$Participant 110]

Anonymous wrote:

@pZ1$, Don’t run, walk! Form a strategic plan to benefit your self “first”. You tried, we’ve all tried! It sounds like she’s made up her mind “without you”, you’re already disposed weather you realize it or not! Your head must be ready to implode from your efforts! Give up, at this point that’s all that remains! Give up on her, wall her off in “all” emotions, become an intellectual “Ghost” toward her! Ignore everything, as if she’s a stranger from another country/world. A job is necessary, yes! However your mindset must be addressed first. Jobs come and go, wives just go! Freedom is your reward for your efforts in repairing your mind. She’s done allot of damage in shunning you! Your self-esteem must be shattered at this point! It’s “NOT” you! It’s “HER”! I strongly recommend you read through MGTOW, and discover all the things “TRUE” about women that you never knew. The information contained herein is priceless to a man in your “TEMPORY” position in life Don’t let it get you down, Suck up your b~~~~, they’re only ones you have! Guard them with your life! I have hope for you, it appears you have already taken the first step. I wish you well my brother, you will create a better life, I’m sure! Cheers

Man do you speak the truth!!! 20032, I really have to this! How do I do it without failing at it and giving  up to begging for se? You’re right, IT’S OVER! She has screwed me over or the last time. She’s not changing. HOW DO I DO THIS SO THAT “LIVING WELL IS THE BEST REVENGE?”
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[Anonymous 42]

“She’s not changing”, you said it, not me… You’re in a speeding car; she’s driving, but you’re the better driver, and she’s the better “spotter”, but she refuses to assume her responsibility as the spotter in this race car, The corner is coming weather she realizes it or not, conciser an exit strategy, like having a leather motorcycle racing suite with nylon skid pads sewn throughout. a suit and helmet designed for jumping and sliding, you’ll slide to a stop, far short of the corner, stand up, walk away, ignore the sound of squealing tires, a loud crash, as she hits the wall, a fireball flaming.

After all is said and done, it’s all over; be great-full you’re not in a race car where a woman is driving!

[…Spectator 1165]

Stop asking for permission and f~~~iing do it man.

[pZ1$Participant 110]

My wife is away for a few days. Last night I had a dream I was enraptured with a beautiful woman, and she was enraptured with me. We held each other and we kissed. This is something I have not experienced with my wife for ages. And I know full well, I will not get this once she gets back.

I need to get out of this, men! But first I need to get my life straightened out! How the hell could I come to this?
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[Anonymous 42]

pZ1$ wrote:

Last night I had a dream I was enraptured with a beautiful woman, and she was enraptured with me. We held each other and we kissed

That’s dreams bro,  there like life, a turn in the road. I’m just glad my dreams like “that” are with beautiful women, but I usually wake up, it’s somewhat now against my nature. Men need to modify their own thinking, “claim the top of your mountain” don’t worry about the struggle, your courage and instinct will get you there, never be pussy, that’s their job!… Good luck, and Cheers

[truthseekerParticipant 17]

Trust me man! Walk the f~~~ away. I’m stuck in a house in with a woman who went to sleep with a potato chip in her hand. We HAVE to re-discover our true selves. We need more testosterone, productivity, decisiveness. A typical woman will completely rob you of your sense of self without you even knowing. Even while it’s happening.

1) Get Job

2) Get Apartment

3) Get Divorce

4) Get custody rights

5) Get Happy

 

[…Spectator 1165]

@truthseeker: very good advice man!

before you walk away, make copies of every single document you can get your hands on that has anything to do with the relationship including all legal agreements, birth certificates, handwritten notes, jewelry, guns, all the cash and go straight to your bank and move all the money from any joint accounts to a new account at a different bank. once you leave, she may try to have you arrested for returning.

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

YOU!!           MONKEY BOY!!

Listen very carefully, you need to gain control of your own mind first and foremost. I want you to follow some simple steps I have designed that create emotional clarity. You are currently in an overly emotional state. When you are like this you are locked into the emotional side of your brain, and therefore you cannot come up with any answers to the exploding number of questions in your head. Before you make ANY decision you must first return to the logical side of your brain.

1. sit down and wrote about all the things that have caused your problems. Everything, from the wife, kid, job, own personal short comings, shattered dreams what have you.

2. do this writing for 20 minutes, non-stop. Spelling and punctuation don’t count, your goal is to pour out your emotions.

3. when you are done take a deep breath and read what you have written. Notice how this makes you feel. On the top of the paper make a note, on a scale of 1-10 rank the level of emotion you feel when reading.

4. Go take a shower, and change your clothes

5. take a walk, at least 1 hour. Shut your mind off, no music no talking to people, AND NO THINKING

6. When you come back re-read what you’ve written. Again make a note at the bottom of how you feel when reading this.

 

You should note a significant change in your emotional state. The logical side of your mind can be “jump started” by physical activity. Given your state it could take you days even weeks before you can achieve emotional clarity. Until you can get to 1 you do not have emotional clarity.Now logical, rational answer can’t come from emotion. You sir are far beyond emotionally compromised you are full on neurotic.

Now, once you have achieved emotional clarity I’ll give you the second tool you’ll need to fix yourself.

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2760]

Read those last four comments slowly and let them sink in. Then read them again, they are spot on.

You have no idea how lucky you are to have people giving you such good advice. If I would have had the same and listened, it would have saved me so much grief and money.

MG is handing you a red pill.

Truthseeker is giving you an overview of what you need to do.

Smitty has given you an excellent formula to clear your head right now.

And ListenUp!s advice is gold. Trust me, you need to do that to protect yourself.

– Obvious

 

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[pZ1$Participant 110]

GREAT REPLIES, MEN! THANK YOU!

I am going to read them over again and respond. But I need your opinion. How does a husband intelligently deal with his wife’s DISRESPECT TO HIM? I have been so disrespected in this marriage. I probably already asked this. I don’t know. I just woke up. lol Time to get my respect back.
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[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

Until you can get your s~~~ together keep a distance between the two of you. When speaking be polite, and brief, saying as little as possible. Until you gain clarity you can’t trust your own mind, and you will get dominated by her. Don’t sleep in the same bed has her, go sleep on the couch. When possible make your own meals clean up after immediately. Be outside and away from her as much as possible, when she asks why… and she will, just say, “It has to be this way”. Do not confront her about anything, no arguing, no fighting.

You need to get your head together first and foremost. Stay away from her as much as you can. Stay busy, you need to keep moving, and exert yourself to restart the logical side of your brain. Keep doing it over and over, until you get there.

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[truthseekerParticipant 17]

Smitty,

exactly what I do now. To the tee. Btw I don’t have a car at the moment. So I rented one for the week and park it at differents spots each time. She thinks I’m walking everywhere. It gives her a sense of control. And she’s drunk off of it. I’m working on an apartment and when I get it I’m serving her and her witch mother with an eviction notice.

Food for thought:

If you flow with the enemy you overcome the enemy.” – Anthony De Mello

[Anonymous 42]

@Pz I can tell you one better, to clear out your mind and JUMP-START your new “thinking”, Go running, biking, skiing(if applicable), anything that takes eye-hand coordination, the more dangerous, and “FASTER” the more it demands the emotional side to “SHUT DOWN”, Good luck, If I can’t thing of anything else, but I glad to help you, and thrilled you’re asking!

[pZ1$Participant 110]

Great suggestions! Thanks men! I stopped smoking and I am working on continuing to get back into shape.

So what is a deprived husband supposed to do with this libido? 🙁
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