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Hey gentlemen.
My name is Joe. Newly seperated (again) and I think I’m dropping the divorce papers Monday.
Here’s my issues. I can’t get laid, while my ex has a new dude who she’s sleeping with. Kills me.
I saw a few girls in the last few months, never managed to get laid. I’m young, 34, been married 15 years, two kids, 12 and 14. I have no friends, no one to talk to, nothing much to do when my kids aren’t around.
Yesterday was a bad day for me, I felt really low and I found out from my ex that she has a boyfriend now.
I could go on about all the other stresses I’ve had just from talking and seeing other girls since we split, but I think you guys probably already know all about it.
My logical brain knows that women are the cause of my stress, yet I can’t shake the feelings about wanting to get laid. My kids will be gone all next week, so I’ll be alone again and I just don’t know what to do with myself.
I think I might go skydiving, but I fear it might just be empty without someone else. I’ve always been a loner, never really had a friend except my wife, and without her, I’m just lost. I went to every public school in my area growing up, dropped out of HS and later joined the military. Being back for the last ten years, I moved to an empty town where I was with my family in a brand new house, in the middle of the woods. So, I’ve yet to, in 34 years of being alive, made anything that I would even call a friend.
It’s the strangest thing, I don’t need a woman for anything except getting laid. But, I suppose I can handle that myself, but it’s like the one real drive I have and I’m struggling hard with it.
Does anyone have any advice? I’ve read so much on here, I knew I had to get some of my story on here, because I know other guys found themselves in the same boat before or right now, and me and them could use help.
I have hobbies, but stuff feels so empty. It’s like a woman is a the batteries to all my hobbies and positive stuff, and without a chick, things are just too boring….
Any tips?
Shit tested, Brother approved.
I don’t need a woman for anything except getting laid.
In that case, visit someplace where renting one is legal. The expense involved is bound to be less than getting married. It’s probably on a par with dating, and comes without the waste of time but with the certainty of desired outcome.
Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?
Been there, done that. It’s a struggle fighting between the logical male brain, and our estrogen-washed desires/feelings. If “getting laid” is your sole objective, it can be done for the cost of 3 – 4 glasses of wine at some s~~~ty bar. But it comes with a lot of cargo [STD’s, waking up next to some 40 lb overweight bush-pig that looked a lot better when you were drunk, children you will have to fund for the rest of your life, etc].
I would suggest you set your sights a lot higher and learn to live without a woman. Men don’t need a woman around. In fact, we get a lot more done without them. We don’t need sex. We like or even love it, but we don’t need it for functioning. Women require it, and your ex-GF is a classic example of it. Learn from her behavior. Learn about “Hypergamy”.
Direct your sexual energies in to your work. Find a hobby. Take music lessons. Learn a new language. Build something. EXERCISE your body, mind, and spirit. Become a better MAN. It’s the best thing you can do. In the process you will realize that you no longer “need to get laid”, but you will find a new, better Joe in the mirror.
When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.
Solomon’s Wisdom is wise, just like his namesake!
Just because we want something, it does not mean we need it. Pursuing desires is a sure recipe for unhappiness.
Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?
never really had a friend except my wife, and without her, I’m just lost.
This is normal. And by “normal”, I mean “common”. It’s important to be aware of it so you don’t think it’s YOU. She WANTS you to think “without her I’m lost”. Hear this out for a minute…
Wives do this – consciously or not – and alienate their husbands from his friends, old buddies, single/unmarried acquaintances…. and WHY? To false inflate her “value” in his life – to the point where she is “the most important” person, and to have you think “without her I’m lost”.
FALSE.
I have seen so many examples of this – including my own cousin – who just announced his divorce after 28 years.
They were together since college and anyone would bet they would NEVER split. Now she’s menopausal, and just like a PERFECT statistic, she initiated divorce IN JANUARY (aka the highest month for divorces – just after Christmas ) and he felt like a lost man.
But he just moved into his own condo and is starting to wonder “What the hell was I thinking??”. He’s not “lost” he’s just starting to feel better than ever. No bulls~~~. He too realized she was conditioning him to think that way.
But he did EVERYTHING. All the work. All the cooking. All the stuff with the kids. It’s SHE who’s going to be lost without HIM. She can’t even make a decent omelette — and he knows it.
You’re gonna be FINE. BETTER than fine.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.You guys are great.
I think I’ll spend some cash this week.
I’ll go sky diving on Thursday, and drop the $250 for divorce papers Monday, and maybe pick up some oil paints. I like painting, but my ex hated that I had so many fun things that I did by myself.
How do I reconcile the part of my brain that makes me want women?? Even if I know they are 99% trouble, how do I keep myself in check? This almost seems harder than being married!
Shit tested, Brother approved.
GO SKYDIVING.
Go to skydive DeLand in Florida and ask for Bob Hallet or Pine.
They will help you view this world as a fking warrior …. WITHOUT A WOMAN.
Nothing more primal than fight or flight to blow the marriage cobwebs away.
Also … take time out for YOU. Creat a god within.
Work out, read and educate.
READ THE FORUMS.
and most importantly
DO YOU FOR A WHILE.
Become a fking amazing sky god and watch the pussy line up.
However, paying by the hour is now the only safe way to go.
Fk marriage, relations~~~s …. there’s a whole new world waiting for you ….
Get going buddy.
I think I’ll spend some cash this week.
Do it! And at the same time, start practicing some perfect indifference towards her.
my ex hated that I had so many fun things that I did by myself.
.. and there you go. Prime example of what I was talking about ^^. Managing just fine on your own – amusing and entertaining yourself & being productive without her doesn’t make it devastating enough for you when she decides to bang someone else and leave.
It’s not enough that she’s screwing around, she wants it to HURT at the same time. Women don’t just leave peacefully and/or sleep with someone else. They want your house, and your money too. And expect to GET PAID for that. They want to get paid to F~~~ OFF AND GET LOST.
The man who lets the other guy keep her (best revenge really) strips her of that power. Because if she knew you wouldn’t be crushed by it, she would be less likely to stray in the first place!
ow do I reconcile the part of my brain that makes me want women??
You can’t reform biology, and why would you WANT to, anyway?
You can still enjoy women for what they are:TEMPORARY PLEASURES.
skydiving
Mind if I make a joke here?
“If at first you don’t succeed…. skydiving is not for you”.
I forgot who said that, but the first time I heard it, I laughed my head off.Smiles and welcome to MGTOW.
HAVE SOME FUN. Or what’s the point.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.We’ve been apart for 4+ months now. This is the second go at seperation. The first time, I slept with her one time, then we were back together. Not happening this time.
Not surprisingly, it happened at about 4 months, right when I was feeling bad. I was ok when I was talking with other girls, but it’s just too much drama, and I guess I’m not much of a dating guy.
Being married since I was 19 is pretty hard, I only dated the one girl and married her. Seems like there is all this stuff out there that I’d like to do WITH a girl, but that’s like a separate part of my brain wanting that. My male logical brain knows it’s just more trouble.
I live in Massachusetts, so I’ll go skydive in Orange, place called Jumptown.
Not that this would surprise any of you, but I’m over paying on my child support at the moment.
We are doing 50-50, so support payments will be much lower than I’m paying right now. Of course, she’s reluctant to go forward with divorce because of the monetary issues for her, but I can’t keep it up much longer.
As it is, I’m not sure I got a spare $250 for the papers. But, she says it won’t be contested, because we got it hashed out.
In my book of life, I always thought I knew what the next chapter was going to be, like a s~~~ty movie where you already know the plot. Now….. Everyday is unknown. I spend some days waking up into fear, other days I feel more hopeful.
Being here, talking to you guys is good. It’s good to know other guys can relate to this without just saying “ah that sucks” or “you do you”.
Maybe I’ll post an oil painting when I get one done.
Shit tested, Brother approved.
Anonymous42RegularJough, “Joe”, You need to through the wash and rinse cycles, most of us are already dry, and with fabric softener too!
You’re deep in the mental programming nature gave you but women have abandoned, you’re being psychologically exploited and don’t even know it. She has you separated from friends and things you want to do. Even your natural masculine drive has been tamped down by these modern women and their manipulative ways of making all corrals necessary to rope you in as her entitled servant.
In essence they want the old fashioned financial support with nothing in exchange that makes it financially, morally, spiritually, or physically, worth it. They are totally void of the desire, knowledge, or practice it takes to have working and productive relationship. They have nothing to offer you but the addiction to pussy then use it as a control valve to manipulate you and get whatever she wants, there’s vast amounts of information and websites that teach every known form of manipulation to be performed on unwary and groggy men that have inhaled the noxious fumes of feminism and all the mental sabotage now spanning generations.
I strongly urge you to explore any information on how modern women with their incurable narcissistic personality disorders and all the training feminism has done to destroy them as any sort of viable woman in a normal man/woman relationship.
You’re spirit looks crispy and crunchy from the endless fanned flames of feminism…
Being married since I was 19 is pretty hard
Well then nobody can blame you for thinking it might be hard without her.
Those are formative years.Breaking with the first one is gutting, but since you married her too, it’s not hard to imagine being in your shoes. “Gosh that sucks get better soon” is when you phone in sick with a sore throat. But “getting laid” is available to any man for much less trouble, effort, investment, money and time than most people would have you believe.
Since it’s no great consolation prize, it’s also not a big tragedy when it’s not happening tonight.
The most success I ever had getting laid, was the day I stopped caring if I got laid. Never even talking about it revealed that women never shut up about it. They are ALWAYS the first to bring it up. You don’t even need to work very hard at it.
Oh, MG, you are correct.
I found out about MGTOW through reading all about the topics you brought up, during my first round of seperation.
Using much of what I read here, I became immune to her ways during the final two years of marriage. It drove her crazy. Really, I wish you could have seen how well I handled it all. From reading here, I KNEW she would find a way to blame me for HER throwing me out, and she did. Said that if I didn’t come back, I was destroying the marriage. Thanks MGTOW, had I not anticipated that, I would have been pretty upset.
MGTOW got me to where I am right now. I had my potential escape plan in place, I had no worries and nothing caught me off guard. The morning I got tossed, I was right in the middle of coffee and Call of Duty. She wanted me gone, so I grabbed my pre packed bag, my fishing poles and metal detector and kissed the kids and left.
But now…. I’m approaching a time line where I’m getting uncomfortable again. I never liked being alone and I suck bad at keeping myself occupied. I mean, damn, I hand washed my kitchen floor the other day. Yeah, it’s clean now, but chores can’t keep me going.
Sky diving and oil painting and lifting weights feels like a stop-gap to something else.
I know, I haven’t walked this path before, I know most of you are much further into this than me, but I have to ask, how do you feel about this choice? Is MGTOW a serious solution, or just a compromise?
Shit tested, Brother approved.
Welcome brother.
I am in a wash cycle at the moment after 21 years and two kids.she is an Alcoholic and now shacked up with her f~~~boy after I threw her out and all her s~~~.I too feel lost at times.I felt as though i had lost my best friend and it was all my fault.
Getting to the realization that its not my fault and i can go on to do what i want to do.Enjoy what you are doing and what you want to do,you can keep moving forward even if you having got everything figured out just yet.The fog will start to lift.
I needed a root a little while back….ended up just paying for it.wasnt a great experience i will admit…but like the guys have said…i realized i dont need it to function. You will go on to great things.Fed, Fucked, Appreciated. The three simple things men want, but women will never grasp.
I’ll give an example.
Today, I’m working 5 hours. It’s Sunday so I get double time, so over $45/hr.
I’ll go home to my apartment, cut my hair, grab my two girls and we are going to go bowling and then have dinner and then I’ll bring them back to their moms house. They will stay there until next Sunday after dinner time, when they’ll come back to my house.
I work, I fish and play video games. I metal detect, I watch movies. I wax my car, I’m a war vet…..
I got a good life. But it feels so empty without a girl. How does this spell get broken?
Shit tested, Brother approved.
Time heals all things,
I went from relationships to paying by the hour till that lost it’s appeal,now I just think to myself what else can I do with that money?
Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!
I know, I haven’t walked this path before, I know most of you are much further into this than me, but I have to ask, how do you feel about this choice? Is MGTOW a serious solution, or just a compromise?
It’s not involuntary. I would say if GYHOW doesn’t feel right, you’re doing it wrong.
The whole point of GYOW because all that OTHER bulls~~~ feels so wrong.
Those “feelings”.
Those “needs”.
That “desire”.You need to realize you’re conditioned to think this way, by TV, media, music videos, women, magazines, your wife, your mom, even PUAs hammer this into your head like “you need to get laid”. They fabricated an entire industry out of it!
Listen to this one. It’s huge red pill, so have a glass of water handy because you won’t like it, but it’s the first time I heard another man say what I already knew deep down. That your SUPPOSED to feel incomplete and insecure. That’s exactly where they WANT you. They THRIVE on this.
When you realize that…. holy s~~~. It’s awesome.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.
Anonymous42MGTOW a serious solution
The “only” solution in a day and age where men are no more than a disposable utility to both law and women, a one two punch that knocks the MGTOW ball out of the park!
I got a good life. But it feels so empty without a girl. How does this spell get broken?
I felt the same way for years thereafter but it diminished with each tragic exploding relationship popping all around me, the world of s~~~ I lived in became more and more apparent with each grenade or landmine I watched women maliciously set in every marriage and relationship around me. I knew something was wrong and best I stay out of feminism’s burning building.
Eventually you’ll be able set your watch to the s~~~ that these women will pull.
Modern women are now like a mouse trap, you get in and get out, treating them like whores, or you sustain all together if you don’t like treating people like whores.
P.S. Joe, thanks for your service, putting your ass on the line for principles that almost no longer exist, but thanks anyway, for putting your b~~~~ on the line.
MG, I know what you mean.
That’s how I got talking to the last girl I was talking to, right up until her ex came out of the woods one night and wanted to fight.
I could see it in her face, she was single and looking for a dude. After talking to her, getting to know her, while she had a lot of positive traits, she was no different than any other girl I had ever met. All the same stuff, her issues, her dudes issues… It was like reading the same book all over again.
Blah. Plus, I’d hate to have to shoot some dude over nothing.
Shit tested, Brother approved.
You are in the right place friend. Looking back, every single woman I ever had as gf or wife did the same thing. In fact the majority were already f~~~ing the next sap or, more likely, loser, well before pulling the plug on me. Just the way they operate. Sounds like you are in the process of doing right by yourself. Keep it up. As for me, I am done with the washer and wringer stages and enjoying my own life all dry and fluffy….. to keep with the analogy. Never doubt the power of the word “no”. The look on their face is precious.
Anonymous42I am done with the washer and wringer stages and enjoying my own life all dry and fluffy….. to keep with the analogy.
See that!^^^^ the universal truths found here stagger the imagination! The dry and fluffy part comes when you’re fully engaged in the things you want to do and have no time for anything else, personally, pushing a sled to it’s limits deep in the national forest doing a mountain climb to the peak where your knees start shaking in fear knowing its full throttle time on the brim of a cornice to make it to the top, or a long long long walk out of the forest all night long!
Skiing is radical too, I only got into snowmobiling for something to do during s~~~ty skiing conditions, I will ski in the rain but not on ice, one time I approached the lift attendant and got a WTF, 25 or 30 lbs of acumulated ice, I came down using my index finger like a windshield wiper, it has a squeegee built in, my helmet the ice was a half inch thick! skis and boots too!
Anyway, all my cherished memories wouldn’t have been allowed to exist had I not abandoned the plantation of government and women united in a world where family joy for a man simply doesn’t exist.
The wilder and crazier women become, the more the government places the ramifications of their destructive and abusive behavior on the honorable backs of men. The only way to avoid this harness of abuse at one time (not long ago) was to simply not sign the contract of governmental matrimony.
But now with the assorted amalgam of co-habitation laws the contract of slavery you didn’t sign is extended to you anyway.
In the subway they made laws that men must sit a certain way, while designated subway cars now exist only for women. No longer blacks to the back of the bus, now it’s men to the back of the train!
These empowered psychopaths want to make laws against men so much as looking at a woman, they even call video games staged criminal events, they’re f~~~ing delusional and have had their lasting effect on society, family, children, and men. Time to abandon that ship and get on with a livable decent life deserving of a “real man”.
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