How long did it take?

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

I will never get over my 17 year marriage. But instead of crying about it I am now learning from it. The red pill, MGTOW, hypergamy, will stick with me forever. This is how I am moving on, by never forgetting the dangers.

Get a vasectomy.

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

11-year marriage, 14-years together… probably completely over ex about the time I had myself trained to stop feeling most emotions.

Probably about a year or little less. Sometime last year.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Longer than it should have.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Anonymous 6]

Oldschool wrote:

I will never get over my 17 year marriage. But instead of crying about it I am now learning from it. The red pill, MGTOW, hypergamy, will stick with me forever. This is how I am moving on, by never forgetting the dangers.

This should be a quote on the quotes page. This is the most honest and real comment about how men are affected by the divorce culture that women have instituted and perpetuate with their complicit blue pilled fellow travelers.

[HermitParticipant]

I’m surprised to read that so many will never get over it. Maybe you really put your entire selves into the relationship. You must not be the selfish assholes that I am. I cheated on her early on in the marriage and then lost count how many times after that. Maybe that’s another reason I could easily get over it………that and looking back, we were so not meant for each other, it was sickening. Can’t believe I stayed in that s~~~ for 21 years.

Sure am glad I cheated on her. Makes it a little easier to take. Wish I had done it more.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Anonymous 0]

Arcturis wrote:

Those of you that know my story – I was OFFERED A NEW JOB this morning! Almost a year of searching and I’ve finally got a GREAT BREAK. (After the s~~~storm last week, this is FANTASTIC NEWS)

I’m sorry for off topic, but I want to cheer up – Arcturis, that’s f~~~ing awesome! = )

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

Oldschool wrote:

I will never get over my 17 year marriage. But instead of crying about it I am now learning from it. The red pill, MGTOW, hypergamy, will stick with me forever. This is how I am moving on, by never forgetting the dangers.

+1000

[Billy&The CloneasaurusParticipant]

@hermit

That’s probably exactly how my ex feels too.

I’m not going to pin a medal on you for cheating…you said it yourself, you are a selfish prick. I’d be a hypocrite to lament c~~~ cheating, if I didn’t apply the same standard to men.

Why get into a relations~~~ if you’re just going to cheat? I have no problem with a girl I’m banging, f~~~ing other guys. Just f~~~ing tell me up front that you’re s slut. A person that allows their partner to give ALL of themselves and then jumps into the sack with someone else for immediate gratification is a piece of s~~~, man or woman.

Tell the person up front.

The answer, is no.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Arcturis wrote:

How long did it take you to fully recover from the effects of a committed relationship / marriage?

I think a “full” recovery would be very rare. It’s been nearly thirty years and I still get bad dreams from time to time. I’d say that it took 15 years before the bad memories no longer had any effect on my day to day thinking…

[HermitParticipant]

Billy&The Cloneasaurus wrote:

@hermit

That’s probably exactly how my ex feels too.

I’m not going to pin a medal on you for cheating…you said it yourself, you are a selfish prick. I’d be a hypocrite to lament c~~~ cheating, if I didn’t apply the same standard to men.

Why get into a relations~~~ if you’re just going to cheat? I have no problem with a girl I’m banging, f~~~ing other guys. Just f~~~ing tell me up front that you’re s slut. A person that allows their partner to give ALL of themselves and then jumps into the sack with someone else for immediate gratification is a piece of s~~~, man or woman.

Tell the person up front.

Yep, not saying it was right. Just telling it like it is. Funny thing is, in all the relationships I’ve ever had, I never cheated on any of them. This was the very first and only time I had ever cheated. I guess it’s just because that’s how horribly wrong we were for each other. The first time I felt extremely guilty, but as the marriage when on, I had no guilt with the way the bitch was treating me. It was what it was.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Hermit wrote:

I’m surprised to read that so many will never get over it.

It’s different for everybody. Knowing that I might never get over it totally and absolutely is just another reason not to ever get involved again. It’s not necessarily a bad thing though. The bad memories serve as constant reminders to never make the same mistake again…

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

Jake wrote:

mine went to live with chad, poor chad having his life f~~~ed up like that.

My ex married her Chad. She’s his problem now. Good riddance.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

Hermit wrote:

I’m surprised to read that so many will never get over it. Maybe you really put your entire selves into the relationship. You must not be the selfish assholes that I am. I cheated on her early on in the marriage and then lost count how many times after that. Maybe that’s another reason I could easily get over it………that and looking back, we were so not meant for each other, it was sickening. Can’t believe I stayed in that s~~~ for 21 years.

Sure am glad I cheated on her. Makes it a little easier to take. Wish I had done it more.

I’m not surprised. Men are the actual giving and compassionate gender. It’s a little sad actually. Most men just want something to love and end up with a woman who doesn’t deserve them.

The hardest thing to accept is that you never really knew the woman. You fell in love with your own hormones and an illusion you projected and she allowed you to believe.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[MoreSkyParticipant 4865]

12 years married. Divorced last year, about a year after separation.

Relationship was finished the moment I found out about her banging Chad.

It wasn’t the relationship or lack thereof that bothered me after separation, it was regret for wasted time, anger at myself, confusion as to how it could have happened, and lack of purpose that caused the issues.

I think I’m over that now (roughly two years later) and will remain monk and will further develop my NFG skills until the day they put me in the ground.

"...reinvent your life because you must; it is your life and its history and the present belong only to you.” It is Your Life, Charles Bukowski.

[Billy&The CloneasaurusParticipant]

Hermit wrote:

Billy&The Cloneasaurus wrote:

@hermit

That’s probably exactly how my ex feels too.

I’m not going to pin a medal on you for cheating…you said it yourself, you are a selfish prick. I’d be a hypocrite to lament c~~~ cheating, if I didn’t apply the same standard to men.

Why get into a relations~~~ if you’re just going to cheat? I have no problem with a girl I’m banging, f~~~ing other guys. Just f~~~ing tell me up front that you’re s slut. A person that allows their partner to give ALL of themselves and then jumps into the sack with someone else for immediate gratification is a piece of s~~~, man or woman.

Tell the person up front.

Yep, not saying it was right. Just telling it like it is. Funny thing is, in all the relationships I’ve ever had, I never cheated on any of them. This was the very first and only time I had ever cheated. I guess it’s just because that’s how horribly wrong we were for each other. The first time I felt extremely guilty, but as the marriage when on, I had no guilt with the way the bitch was treating me. It was what it was.

Fair play. I’ve been in relationships that were just wrong from the outset. We both knew it but no one said it. If she knew that it was f~~~ed, then you didn’t hurt her.

I was probably projecting my s~~~ on you…I meant relationships where one partner was totally invested, like I was.

It hurts to your very core man.

The answer, is no.

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

She was never really yours it was only your turn. Once you realize that everything else makes sense and it will make it easier to get over her.

Most of us are good men and take responsibility for our actions and sometimes when you think you failed (this is an illusion) it can be painful but when you fail you are actually becoming successful.

When a woman decides to leave you the chains come off and you finally can become free and successful. I am sure you guys heard this before but the road to success is paved with failure. The reason we all feel like we failed is because we compromised our principles to elevate and put women on a pedestal at the expense of our well being. That is something very hard to overcome because we feel stupid and cheated for betraying our morals to maintain the illusion of success with a female who put us on a plantation to work us like a slave, and all for the reward of having a sexual relationship.

This is what we are taught to do at a very young age the indoctrination of the blue pill is strong but once we can break this programming we become better men for it. It takes time but for those who say it will never go away only you can control that. Eventually with enough practice you will be able to forgive yourself and move on to that road of success because only you can do this for yourself. Let go of the anger and guilt that you feel for what she did to you and what you did to yourself and you will start to heal and feel better and be able to view it as a lesson in life instead of a failure.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Anonymous wrote:

Love them or understand them not both. Now I understand and now I am repulsed.

It took Chad maybe 7 years to figure it out. Pity. A combined $700,000 p~~~ed away. So she could get pounded by someone from her past…sounds like a soap opera plot.

Ty so much for setting me free you two stupid f~~~s!

#me too

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[AutoliteParticipant]

JustAnotherGuy wrote:

I’m not surprised. Men are the actual giving and compassionate gender. It’s a little sad actually. Most men just want something to love and end up with a woman who doesn’t deserve them.

The hardest thing to accept is that you never really knew the woman. You fell in love with your own hormones and an illusion you projected and she allowed you to believe.

This indeed true but it’s also a huge part of the problem. It’s that difference in the psychological make-up between men and women that contributes to relations~~~ failure.

Men are wired to sacrifice everything to make it work with the person that they have devoted themselves to. Women are wired to just take and take and then to simply bail when there’s nothing left for the man to give…

[743 roadmasterParticipant]

Rhino wrote:

She was never really yours it was only your turn. Once you realize that everything else makes sense and it will make it easier to get over her.

While cheating was not part of either divorce, seeing how quick I was replaced after the 2nt divorce fueled an anger that took me years to work out. Yes I was just my turn, in turn I did the same. Glad my anger did not get me an std that can not be cured.

mgtow is its own worst enemy- https://www.campusreform.org/

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

There are good days, there are bad days…On average, its getting better the more blue pills I flush out my system…Without this site, I would still be a wreck a year on…

Life is picking up and I seldom think about my ex…

When I am completely over the ex, I will give a shoutout hopefully to this thread if it doesnt get buried over…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

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