How long did it take?

[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

Evening Brothers;

A comment I read over the weekend has spurred this thread.

A comment about it taking Men a certain amount of time to heal after a long-term-relationship ends.

So I’m curious –

How long did it take you to fully recover from the effects of a committed relationship / marriage?

Or are you still battling it?

My relationship was 8 years and emotionally I struggled for a good 6 months. Good days and bad days. Nothing bad happened at the end of the relationship. I don’t hate her at all, but I’m still building my indifference. I blocked her off so I don’t have to deal with it.

8 Months down the line and these last 2 months have been much better. I’ve been filling my time with quality projects and I’m growing EVERY DAY.

Those of you that know my story – I was OFFERED A NEW JOB this morning! Almost a year of searching and I’ve finally got a GREAT BREAK. (After the s~~~storm last week, this is FANTASTIC NEWS)

This is a great step in the right direction, but I still have some way to go to recover all the money and time lost in that relationship. Once I truly sort my finances I’ll be a happy man.

Interested to hear how long it took you guys to get to a place you’re happy with.

Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT

[ZarathustraParticipant 2246]

I think its different for everyone. When my last relationship ended, which was only about 6 months, it took me about 3 months to get over it. Then began a process of getting over my entire history with women over a 20 year period. That took much longer, about 3-4 years.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

I think it took me three years after my divorce to feel normal again. We were married for 9 years and had been together for 15 years in total.

For the first six months I couldn’t eat or sleep and felt sick all the time, I was having dark thoughts on a regular basis. The next year was better, the sickness and lack of sleep stopped but I still felt stressed all the time.

For me things only really started to get better once I had got my share of the house and was as financially independent as I was ever going to be.

nearly 5 years on and I wonder what the hell was wrong with me, I was thinking dark thoughts over a piece of pussy! She is hitting the wall hard and I am doing better and better.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[HermitParticipant]

Never thought about it until now, but it gets easier every time.

The first time I ever had a relationship end, I wanted to kill myself and it took a long time to get over.

The next time it happened, I went on a trip and was over it by the time I got back.

Next couple times a few days.

The last time, my marriage, I was so damn miserable and hated the bitch so much, I was over it several years before the divorce.

Now, I’ll never have to worry about it again because I’ll never be in another relationship, unless you count a blow job as a relationship. Just had one of those recently and I felt pretty damn good when it was over.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Anonymous 43]

In 2 weeks it will be 9 years. This is a struggle every dann day.

Struggle got easier once I came here and read a couple hundred stories like mine from a dozen countries. We all came to grief the same way.

Once I forgave myself life became better but not necessarily easier. I don’t mind life being hard but not beating myself constantly was a big help.

Once I understood real female nature and accepted that they are all ticking time bombs moving forward I could better control my behavior and reaction to these c~~~s.

Repulsive miserable parasites. Fukn yuk.

[Nags4CashParticipant 1163]

Well I’ve said before, I never really invested as much as most of you guys. Without the financial investment and kids I detach within a few days.

What really surprises me is that I know some guys that, after being divorce raped, will still try to be friends with the ex. I mean holy s~~~. What does it take for them to learn to stay away.

Murph ~ There is nothing brave or manly about entering into a contract with somebody which allows them to take your money, assets, children, and decades of your future income on a mere whim.

[Anonymous 7]

After my last GF, the thought of replacing her with someone else was repugnant.

About 6 months go by and one night I decided I was gonna go out and chase tail. As I started to get dressed a question hit me; why?

Why go to some place with music you don’t like, that is filled with cigarette smoke and over priced drinks, all to chase something that is going to annoy you with childish behavior?

Been monk ever since.
It wasn’t until I landed here that I learned what a huge bullet I dodged.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

If you where married, it never ends.

After two years I had to contact the ex c~~~ becouse of an important document of mine wich she had.

And I don’t even have kids, it never ends, that monster will sleep under your bed till the day you die or she dies.

Family, “friends”, works related stuff, life will remind you of that thing.

It will be for ever.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[MurineesParticipant 704]

I read somewhere that said for every 3 years of relationship, it would take 1 year to heal.

It sounds about right for my own situation.

[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

Anonymous wrote:

In 2 weeks it will be 9 years. This is a struggle every dann day.

Carnage wrote:

If you where married, it never ends.

Hmm, this sounds horrible. Once the claws are in I guess it’s incredibly hard to really move on. There’s always something…

Anonymous wrote:

It wasn’t until I landed here that I learned what a huge bullet I dodged.

Same here @Grue – When I first came here someone said something along the lines of:

No house, no kids, no ring. You’ve just won your life back.

It’s hard but as long as you learn the lessons and NEVER DO IT AGAIN that’s a step in the right direction.

Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT

[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

Murinees wrote:

I read somewhere that said for every 3 years of relationship, it would take 1 year to heal.

It sounds about right for my own situation.

It’s tough mate, but I wouldn’t use this as a yardstick.

Focus on yourself and let the healing come as and when it does.

Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT

[WPLParticipant 2390]

Back when I was young and completely unaware of female nature — i.e., the tail end of high school and beginning of college — I’d had a girlfriend for close to two years. One day, she declared that she wanted to have the “college experience” and dumped me (she actually offered to set me up with her friend, but I was smart enough to decline — that shows how interchangeable and disposable we are to them). It took around 4 years to get over her. I dated some during that time, but not very seriously. I was mostly focused on getting through engineering school. I eventually met my now ex-wife. We were married for just over ten years. It’s been over two years since she ran off to live with “Chad”. Took me about 10 months before I was truly functional again. It’s still hard some days but it gets better with time. Freedom is a valuable thing, and I can understand that now.

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

I have never really gotten over mine. I was in a relationship for about 6 years, and it’s taken me about 5 to financially recoup and stabilize. My mistake set me back a solid ten years in Sunk time. I’ll never get that back.

However I am in a better mental and financial situation and I no longer have the dead weight.

“Recover” is a strong word. I would say that I’m stronger and smarter, I see the world and my place in it as it is, and I have recovered the freedom to walk my own path Unencumbered.

So let’s call it 2:1 on the “recovery time.”

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[Anonymous 6]

WPL wrote:

Back when I was young and completely unaware of female nature — i.e., the tail end of high school and beginning of college — I’d had a girlfriend for close to two years. One day, she declared that she wanted to have the “college experience” and dumped me (she actually offered to set me up with her friend, but I was smart enough to decline — that shows how interchangeable and disposable we are to them). It took around 4 years to get over her. I dated some during that time, but not very seriously. I was mostly focused on getting through engineering school. I eventually met my now ex-wife. We were married for just over ten years. It’s been over two years since she ran off to live with “Chad”. Took me about 10 months before I was truly functional again. It’s still hard some days but it gets better with time. Freedom is a valuable thing, and I can understand that now.

Your story is painful for me to read. I find the fact that men go through what you’ve described ad infinitum yet feminists talk about how women are victims. Men are the ones who are the true victims. Victims of women’s lies, women’s hypergamy, women’s vindictiveness, the list goes on and on.

[743 roadmasterParticipant]

My 1st divorce I went almost directly into my 2nt marriage. After my second divorce. It comes down to when did I stop doing things out of anger, 5 years.

To be outright honest, most days for a moment or two I still think about the woman. This though dose not effect mood or any plans for the day.

mgtow is its own worst enemy- https://www.campusreform.org/

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

WPL wrote:

Back when I was young and completely unaware of female nature — i.e., the tail end of high school and beginning of college — I’d had a girlfriend for close to two years. One day, she declared that she wanted to have the “college experience” and dumped me (she actually offered to set me up with her friend, but I was smart enough to decline — that shows how interchangeable and disposable we are to them). It took around 4 years to get over her. I dated some during that time, but not very seriously. I was mostly focused on getting through engineering school. I eventually met my now ex-wife. We were married for just over ten years. It’s been over two years since she ran off to live with “Chad”. Took me about 10 months before I was truly functional again. It’s still hard some days but it gets better with time. Freedom is a valuable thing, and I can understand that now.

Your story is painful for me to read. I find the fact that men go through what you’ve described ad infinitum yet feminists talk about how women are victims. Men are the ones who are the true victims. Victims of women’s lies, women’s hypergamy, women’s vindictiveness, the list goes on and on.

It’s a damn shame that being honest about female nature is a hate crime and you’re not allowed to talk about it in the real world.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[JakeParticipant 909]

its like stepping in dog s~~~ barefoot you start to watch where you are going it took a long time for me but that was because I didn’t understand wamen

[JakeParticipant 909]

mine went to live with chad, poor chad having his life f~~~ed up like that.

[Anonymous 43]

Love them or understand them not both. Now I understand and now I am repulsed.

It took Chad maybe 7 years to figure it out. Pity. A combined $700,000 p~~~ed away. So she could get pounded by someone from her past…sounds like a soap opera plot.

Ty so much for setting me free you two stupid f~~~s!

[Anonymous 11]

I’ve gotten way better at scrubbing bitches as I’ve become wiser and colder. I can erase one within 30 days now.

The one time I got all the way to looking at engagement rings took about 2 years. Of course, she had me replaced before she let go of the branch. The c~~~ tormented me for months waving it in my face.

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