How do you deal with craving intimacy?

[AshcroftParticipant 59]

Fantastic post man. What has always helped me is to dive deep into my work. Before that I wanted to go to the base of the problem. I turned myself inside out and was feeling more disturbed. So try to get your mind of it by meditation (Calm app), better eating habits, sports and your work.

Sorry for speeling or gramatical mishaps. It is not my first language and it has been ages since I learned it in school.

[OneforfreedomParticipant 930]

I have to say- meditation seems like a pretty great idea. Getting Calm asap.

Also, FWIW, I found another way to treat the intimacy craves. I just youtube bitchy female behavior and see what I’d be in for if I did end up in a relationship. This is a potent red pill:

I mean can you imagine the sense of entitlement this girl has when so many people come to wish her?

[Anonymous 12]

Once you realize women can’t provide emotional intimacy and are just good for orgasms it won’t take you long to work out that you can give yourself orgasms anyway.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Oneforfreedom wrote:

I have to say- meditation seems like a pretty great idea. Getting Calm asap. Also, FWIW, I found another way to treat the intimacy craves. I just youtube bitchy female behavior and see what I’d be in for if I did end up in a relationship. This is a potent red pill: <iframe src=”https://www.youtube.com/embed/ixTaV7prKYI?feature=oembed” width=”500″ height=”281″ frameborder=”0″ allowfullscreen=””></iframe> I mean can you imagine the sense of entitlement this girl has when so many people come to wish her?

Mum has a great rack … and the girl in red top (sister?) needs a good seeing too ?

That bitch would have been wearing a cake face mask if I was there.

[olderwiserParticipant 65]

Like others said, get a male friend who has similar interests. Go out and meet a lot of people and stay connected to people who are similar and hang out with them. If you find a rational women that’s not bad either but for that to work your big head needs to take over the little head. Spending time with women releases chemicals which dumbs us down and makes you want to procreate (biological). So beware with a female even if it is platonic, I do it occasionally and it works, gotta have strong boundaries though.

I do activities which involve others, anything from bowling to Salsa dance where you actually get to be really close and I believe it fulfills your oxytocin needs, similar to a stripper sitting on your lap but much cheaper and probably more fun if you enjoy dancing / exercise.

Also the intimacy where you need approval of others (especially a women) is nothing but some childhood approval issue trying to rear it’s ugly head pretending to be intimacy. It’s not. How do I know, I worked through it and the only approval I need is mine under a rational microscope. That’s it. Nurture your inner child and give approval to yourself.

Hobbies, projects and passions will monitor your need for intimacy. All these things will make a percentage of what you want to have a fulfilling life.

Most of all, don’t give a s~~~ about what the world says, do your own thing, GYOW.

Life consists of two days, one for you one against you. So when it's for you don't be proud or reckless, and when it's against you be patient, for both days are test for you.

[Mango IngawayParticipant 2264]

I’ll break it down really quickly, here’s how that goes:

1)You feel lonely
2) You think you need companionship
3) You start dating (aka looking for a “diamond” in the s~~~ pile)
4)You find a woman that seems (big emphasis on the “seems”) decent enough/cool enough
5)You then have to invest (cause don’t fool yourself, that’s what it is) time, money and energy
6a)After a few dates (and usually big “investments”), it turns out she’s actually far from great then we have 2 possibilities:
->You decide to stop interacting with her, which leads to:
->Going back to step number 1)
->Or going mgtow and finding other forms of happiness
6b)You decide to still keep on dating her unlike even though you think you could be doing something better than being with her, so skip to step number 9
6c)She still looks like a nice person, unlike in cases 6a and 6b, you further it to step 7
7)You’re now together, everything seems great
8)You realize that you have to invest a lot more to “keep it going” between both of you ( be it money, time, whatever ressource).
9)You will eventually give up because it tires you and you don’t gain anything from it, unlike in the beginning
10)You split up, with you possibly getting totally f~~~ed over if you were silly enough to get married.
11)Get back to step one, or go mgtow

Pretty much it, imo

It is a common failing of childhood to think that if one makes a hero out of a demon the demon will be satisfied.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

You need to realize women are incapable of intimacy. The sooner you figure that out, the better off you’re going to be.

Again, choke the chicken before you leave the house and go about your day with clarity.

Fuck this planet.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

@bulletdodger thx for the vid

Cap285 wrote:

You need to realize women are incapable of intimacy. The sooner you figure that out, the better off you’re going to be.

Again, choke the chicken before you leave the house and go about your day with clarity.

Helps loads, as with so many other great words of wisdom in this thread by others.

Mango Ingaway wrote:

Pretty much it, imo

Your step by step is “the handwriting on the wall”

[Anonymous 29]

Oneforfreedom wrote:

So I’m 24 and I intend to never get married. I completely love MGTOW for everything it has taught me so far. But one thing I’m wondering is….how do you deal with intimacy urges which are quite common at my age. I don’t mean just sexual urges…I mean like the desire to travel with a girl, spend time together at the beach, etc. I’ve been trying to get a heavy dose of red pills in daily but I was wondering if you guys had any strategies to minimize this issue. The urges especially pop up when I see other couples at school etc.

No simple answers  to your question. It’s something that you will have to deal with one way or another irrespective of what advice you get.

As for traveling, why would I travel with her and worry about her when all she does is think about what she wants out of it. Just my thoughts.

[RedDawnParticipant 1391]

Relations~~~s are like Facebook, it’s all a facade of happiness.

The intimacy most people feel in relationships lasts at most 6 months generally and is called the ‘limerance period’. It’s all excitement and delusion, much like buying a new pet. Then you get bored of tired pet after a while and the glitter wears off. It’s all a delusion I’m afraid. Beyond that it’s emotional dependence. The loneliest I’ve ever felt in my life was when I was in relations~~~s being ignored for up to months on end. I also missed out on not seeing my son for 4 months when he was only 7 months old.

With that being said if you want a girl on an island you could just do some travelling, like a cruise or something and get poon that way.

 

Courage is the key to life itself - Morgan Freeman

[Jim01Participant 6678]

Qcummer wrote:

1.) when you have that ‘craving’, jerk off immediately and as soon as you climax, think of the intimacy you were just craving. Is it still there? 2.) Just like sex, intimacy gets old. We get numb as f~~~ to it. It’s not needed regularly. 3.) Train your brain to go without. Personally, I do the jerk off method and it always works. BUT, every couple weeks I like to have a stripper sit on my lap. I can feel the chemicals in my head start to pour out..and I’m literally HIGH off my own supply for a few hours. Total cost: $50. winning! This topic is crucial. Thank you for bringing it up and for each an every response so far. Good stuff here.

best post of the thread so far although all are great!

if I find myself craving the intimacy I have a wank and it genuinely makes it go away. I think everyone feels this way at some point but even if a wank doesn’t work then just think of what you REALLY want to be doing in your spare time – laying on a beach with someone is f~~~ing boring and wow you have company but how long before she moans about sand in her hair or how cold she is?

Reality and fantasy are completely different and just remind yourself of that if you have doubts

EDIT just to add I am not being flippant with these comments as sometimes “beat one out” is the standard response to this thing but it is because it usually works

[BDParticipant 1146]

Jim01 wrote:

if I find myself craving the intimacy I have a wank and it genuinely makes it go away.

Women and manginas take a negative view and use shaming language when referring to wanking it or getting a prostitute/stripper.

This is because it doesn’t play into the women’s resource extraction game.

If it doesn’t support their resource extraction game, they will say it must be bad in some way. F~~~ them.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

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