How do you deal with craving intimacy?

[OneforfreedomParticipant 930]

So I’m 24 and I intend to never get married. I completely love MGTOW for everything it has taught me so far. But one thing I’m wondering is….how do you deal with intimacy urges which are quite common at my age. I don’t mean just sexual urges…I mean like the desire to travel with a girl, spend time together at the beach, etc. I’ve been trying to get a heavy dose of red pills in daily but I was wondering if you guys had any strategies to minimize this issue.

The urges especially pop up when I see other couples at school etc.

[DoinMyOwnThing40Participant 1000]

This is an outstanding question. I am struggling with this very thing, as I suspect many other MGTOW’s are too.

I have really come to terms with reality lately. In fact I come to terms with reality more and more with each passing day lately. I just wrote a post about it.

What you are seeking…….it’s fantasy land. Think about it. No woman is going to want to go to the beach with you, go to the movies, or travel WITHOUT some huge “contributions” on your part. Whether the contributions are you helping her with her rent or car payment this month, maybe next month buying her groceries. Taking her out to expensive dinners at least once a week. They have the pussy and they want to capitalize on that fact.

For the longest time I thought I wanted a girlfriend. I still do, but I know that it doesn’t really exist anymore. So I have given up on that. At this point in my life I am just seeking sex. The thing is, in order to get sex, you have to play the game. You have to give them what they want. You have to give them money/dinners/ gifts AND you have to give them the boyfriend experience. In other words, you can’t just give them money and have sex with them. They would consider themselves whores (which they are anyway) if they allowed you to just pay and play.

I know what you are seeking. I used to seek the same damn thing. A girl to not only have sex with, but to do things with like go on road trips, go to the beach, the movies, go camping with her, etc. The thing of it is…….nothing is “real” anymore. Like I said, you have to pay to play (but they don’t want to admit it).

The solution? I hate to say it but the only solution is to come to terms with reality. It ain’t easy. It ain’t pretty. But it is reality.

There are no free rides. No girl is going to give you a free ride. There has to be something in it for her. Something besides our love and affection. That ain’t enough anymore.

Women are parasites. Each and every last one of them.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Oneforfreedom wrote:

But one thing I’m wondering is….how do you deal with intimacy urges which are quite common at my age.

Once I realized that it didn’t exist. Longing for something one cannot obtain is unhealthy, at least for myself.

DoinMyOwnThing40 wrote:

The solution? I hate to say it but the only solution is to come to terms with reality. It ain’t easy. It ain’t pretty. But it is reality.

Agree, and my reality is…

Youjizz.com  and rub one out.

Like blowing your nose, just a bio need.

I spent most my life doing that hopeless romantic s~~~. I was such a sucker for it and wanted it sooo bad.

I also want to fly like an eagle, and at least with that, there is a sporting chance with our technology we have.

[UntamedParticipant]

Do your thing, One, do what you do best and go where you’d like most. You’ll meet lots of people, including some crazy bitches who’ll give it all to you just for the f~~~ of it. Take it when it’s there and forget it on your way out. Don’t get your mind all bound up on the idea that you gotta chase it, you don’t, not anymore.

Build it, they’ll come.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[RoyDalParticipant]

DoinMyOwnThing40 wrote:

The solution? I hate to say it but the only solution is to come to terms with reality. It ain’t easy. It ain’t pretty. But it is reality.

Reality or delusion? I’ll pick reality every time! God grant me the wits and wisdom to tell the difference.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[FermatParticipant 3478]

Im 22. I understand the burning desire to feel support from a woman. Especially a nice young successful independent chill girl around your age.

The first step is to realize that 99 percent of all women want to marry. The reasons vary but the outcome is the same. Women behave different with men who are marriageable material than just a guy who’s a fling.  I assume you want a woman who will pour her heart into having long term intimacy with you and give those warm fuzzies. This can happen but at a price.

Next step is understanding that women never ever give without expecting more, not equal, but MORE than what they invested so you my friend will have to put on a face to make her give you all of that.  You will have to play “the game” to get what you want.  Is putting on face to make some one happy and like you what you want for the rest of your life? Especially with multiple women you will be forced to jump around with since you don’t have plans to commit? Yes every now and then you will meet that girl that will like you for who you are but only for a season.  Eventually she will expect you to play the mating game. To put on the farce of alpha beta whatever you want to call it. A woman cannot have you being completely free because that will jeopardize her control of the game. Women only love the game because they make the rules.

Lastly once you understand that this is female nature and that it’s essential in their mating strategy it will slowly quell any desire for long term intimacy with a women. Short term maybe if you need to release pent up frustration. But long term is a contract for disaster.

All these thoughts as a whole has essentially killed all desire I have for intimacy.  Once you get past all the flowery fluff about love and romance and intimacy you’ll realize that it’s not really as real as people as say. Other people can’t make you happy. Only you can make you happy. It’s that simple.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

I dream of a film where I the main character. All my wealth, happiness, future and retirement …. are all slipped away from me by a team of shysters in Las Vegas.

Then I shyster the shysterers ? and end up will all my stuff and they go work flipping burgers.

Then I’m happy ?

[Anonymous 3]

Well, the first way is to just deal with women, that usually gets that idea out of your head after not too long. The other way is to read the results of dealing with modern women, in the form of rape charges, divorce rape, etc. These sites are good to collect that, which is why when you see posters claiming we shouldn’t talk about that type of thing it’s usually because they are women that don’t want their game exposed.

Society tries to make men feel lonely and worthless without being validated by a female. So unplugging is a great idea. I do not watch TV or movies or anything mainstream.

Instead it’s better to get other pursuits. Most of them will be solitary especially as you age, just the way it is.

[Anonymous 9]

I simply don’t have that desire.

I remember going on vacation with a chick, and she tried to ration out sex that week. Here I was, the guy who paid for the trip, food, and entertainment but you’re acting stingy with it?

What the f~~~?

There’s no need for intimacy anymore.

[MyselfParticipant 353]

Try and find hobbies that you enjoy, and become as good at them as you can.  Immerse yourself in the process, and be relentless in figuring out how to gain as much satisfaction from the activity as you can.

Imagine walking into the private garage of a guy who was into cars.  Every tool has its place, every part inventoried in a way that makes sense to him.  All decisions are his own to make and his environment is tailored specifically to his requirements and methods.  Even his choice in what kind of car to work on (muscle car, vintage, race car, etc) is very personal combining considerations of aesthetics and purpose.  That garage and the work that goes on there is something that is difficult to “share” with someone else.  You could be a master mechanic yourself but you might not change oil in the same way the owner does – “that funnel is for old oil – use the blue one, it’s for new stuff”.

If you can derive deep satisfaction from doing things on your own, the notion of “sharing” experiences starts to loose some of its appeal.  I have found that I look forward to doing things myself, as I have learned the satisfaction that comes with doing things “my way”.  It’s everything from going grocery shopping to planning and packing for a trip.  I LOVE doing things my way and I’d have a real hard time if I was always tripping over someone else.

 

[Anonymous 9]

Good post Myself, and I think finding contentment in solitude is something that you develop at a young age.

Maybe most introverts can find joy in doing things without the company of others, whereas the more gregarious types need people around for satisfaction.

I’ve always been a loner, and never really relied on others for enjoyment because I’m such an imaginative person where I tend to get lost in my own world.

[Anonymous 42]

Intimacy needs to be looked at like heroin. In the modern paradigm intimacy almost always leads to misery and death. Think it through to the final outcome, when you’re the one who no longer wants intimacy, you only desire to escape the narcissistic woman and abolish her as any kind of intimate being. Think about the c~~~ carousel, a woman is intimate with you today, then intimate with someone else tomorrow.

I don’t know how to tell you this but women have destroyed intimacy as a worthless tidbit of carousel foreplay….

Modern women have cheapened themselves far below worthlessness by using feminism as a personality template.

[Anonymous 11]

Anonymous wrote:

Modern women have cheapened themselves far below worthlessness by using feminism as a personality template.

This explains the Medusa levels of compassion many of them possess. Intimacy for me has always led to it being used against me one way or the other. I just don’t give away free samples any it more. It’s like slipping a hangman’s noose around your neck an stepping up on a ladder and giving her a pair of steel toe Red Wings boots to kick it out from under you.

Women need to learn to got their own way against the great destroyer feminism. At age 40 after taking a city block of different c~~~s and six kids by 4 different c~~~s, there are still idiots who’ll take one on for intimacy.

My apologies in advance to the .5 to 2% of women that may possibly qualify as unicorn.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Anonymous wrote:

I don’t know how to tell you this but women have destroyed intimacy as a worthless tidbit of carousel foreplay….

Modern women have cheapened themselves far below worthlessness by using feminism as a personality template.

No s~~~ on that.

You can’t even pretend like there is even a shred of it to fantasize over.

But that’s the real kicker, the more they inflate their damn vag, the less they are worth a f~~~

[Mana KnightParticipant 333]

Fantastic post. I struggle with this too from time to time. I am 27.
But visiting here always brings me to my senses. That is why I do it daily. I love my solitude. I have to remember the price of true intimacy is ultimately a high one. To get it on a regular consistant basis requires far more money, energy , time, and happiness than is worth it.

Like many I desired being loved so much, and when I finally found someone it was great – in limited doses. I enjoy my routines, my way of doing things, even shopping as others said. I am not heartless, there are nice moments, so I get that you still crave intimacy on a close level. But as others have pointed out; it will come at a big price. Just enjoying oneself and being is not enough for woman. They want marriage, they want babies, they want family, the bigger house.

A single man can be rich on 25K (Pounds we are talking). Plus, the amount of freedom? Priceless
A shackled man with 3 kids would be scraping it at 50k to keep up with her desires. Plus, the amount of freedom? Non exsistant to extremely limited.

I am saying this as much for you as for me! So please believe me we get exactly what you mean.

Find a hobby you really enjoy. It makes all the difference. Not just a casual-time. Something you really care about.
When I am feeling really involved in my hobbies, the thought that I would have to take a day off a week (or more) to feed a woman’s desire is crippling. I think how lucky I am to be a  MGTOW.

Give us each day our daily red. That is what I say. Come to the site when you feel low. It helps me alot.

 

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Mana Knight wrote:

. I have to remember the price of true intimacy is ultimately a high one.

(O.O) I can’t even find FAKE Intimacy….although I admit it…

I also am not even looking for it.

Mana Knight wrote:

Give us each day our daily red. That is what I say. Come to the site when you feel low. It helps me alot.

I am down for that, here’s my ante plus some….

But when you crave a freakin steak & settle for popcorn, it’s not the same…

Yet, I do it. I invest myself to the hilt on my interests & hobbies…and I DO enjoy them beyond words.

I think I am gonna have to go get that vasectomy and be PUA .

I can still go MY OWN WAY and f~~~ them to? Right? Right.

Damn straight, that’s the game they play, why the hell not.

They f~~~ for money and/or a baby…I f~~~ for the pleasure of f~~~ing them.

may not be a win, but it’s a break even.

[Mana KnightParticipant 333]

 

<span style=”font-family: ‘Open Sans’, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; background-color: #fbfbfb;”>I can still go MY OWN WAY and f~~~ them to? Right? Right.</span>

 

Your way. However you wish to play. Great thing about MGTOW, it is exactly that. Other than the basics golden advise of not living, marrying, or impregnating – nobody here is going to go say you shouldn’t do something if it works for YOU.

🙂

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Mana Knight wrote:

Your way. However you wish to play. Great thing about MGTOW, it is exactly that. Other than the basics golden advise of not living, marrying, or impregnating – nobody here is going to go say you shouldn’t do something if it works for YOU.

Copy that loud & clear.

No living together…bloody check
No marrying…super bloody check
No impregnating… super x1000000 bloody check

I can live with that

Awesome, men can have their cake and eat it too.

Right On

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

it’s natural to want companionship and intimacy.  that’s why women have been so successful at using those wants to manipulate men.  The problem is the love and intimacy you think you are getting is an illusion.  It comes with conditions and if those conditions aren’t met, the illusion disappears.  Buddha taught that the source of all misery is wanting something and not getting it.  That is why people commit crimes, use others, do evil, etc.  His solution was to stop wanting.  Stop the desire and you will avoid misery.  Easier said than done of course.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[KaMtnParticipant 73]

I’m not putting this in a homosexual manner, but get a guy. If you can find a guy you can relate with, hang out with him, talk to him, spend time and share the “bro love.” You can plays games, party, travel, and do all that s~~~ without worrying about stupid girl s~~~. Or get a bunch of good company cool best friends you can trust. If you ever have sexual desires, hook up with one night stands, or girls, strip clubs, or even escorts. Trust me, it’s extremely hard to find a decent girl in this generation and everyone knows it.

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