Has anyone else felt socially slow?

[BlackValeParticipant 79]

MACHO wrote:

blade wrote:

Thanks macho still looking for that f~~~in mib story . I must of watched it on some s~~~ channel ages ago . F~~~in going to find it . Its pretty cool bro

Cool When you find it.. here’s the link of my Men In Black Topic

Men in Black

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My main focus is being happy with myself then figuring out exactly what I want my life to look like.

[BlackValeParticipant 79]

Arcturis wrote:

BlackVale wrote:

A lot of times I don’t want to deal with people, but sometimes I do wish there was someone I can hold a conversation with that isn’t brain dead.

Totally agree with you Bro. I love people but most are not worth my time.

Small talk / pointless s~~~ doesn’t interest me and that’s what most people want to chit chat about.

Add to this the fact that I hate sharing my personal life with other people and my social life IS VERY slow – but I don’t care.

Sounds sad, but all the close friends in my life are there because they ‘hung around’ long enough. Those relationships exist because of them, not me. Even Cupcake, she ‘hung around’ for a year before I agreed to make the relationship ‘official’.

I don’t care much for social validation and love my own company so can honestly say I have VERY few people I actually consider friends. Probably 2. It takes so long for me to create meaningful relationships, now I just don’t bother.

Work colleagues, school ‘friends’, university ‘acquaintances’ all mean nothing to me.

Don’t feel ‘socially slow’ because that’s what society expects.

Live how ever you like

I believe I am the same way. I wouldn’t consider anyone a friend unless they have been around a really long time and have brought something into my life. Thanks for the words too.

[BlackValeParticipant 79]

Black Mask wrote:

I’m the same as you, but my mother was the one with the iron fist instead of dad. My house felt like a prison without bars and there were times that I asked myself if I was socially retarded. Mom said the same thing in the last line except that I looked mean and unapproachable. That’s just my resting murder face. I never rebelled because I’m an introvert and I was content with my video games and books. There were a few friends I used to work with that I went over and played Star Wars D&D with. I enjoyed being with them, but I got into a scary daydream while there. The guy who owned the house has memorabilia and a massive toy collection that lines all of the walls of his entire house. Seeing all that and doing what we were doing made me feel like I was living a dead end and I didn’t want to get stuck there. They actually seem rather happy and are extroverts. They’re always going to new films together and going to conventions and s~~~.

I hear you man. I’m very careful about who I let into my life. I noticed that people like to imprison others out of their own insecurities or they just live a lifestyle that can get into your way.

[BlackValeParticipant 79]

JVB wrote:

You are young bro. Don’t worry about it. Join some sort of club. Sport, chess, c~~~ing.

I’m glad that you mentioned that. I joined an MMA gym and when I interact with someone we’re only discussing what we are learning. No bs small talk either.

[BlackValeParticipant 79]

Boar wrote:

Deep thinkers are not socially slow: they are socially selective.

You show great reflection and observation. Both are great traits that will serve you well. Unfortunately, they are rarer than you would expect.

As a social workaround, I would advise the practice of listening skills. If you can stand to hear others talk, and can encourage them to do so, your social capital will rise as people enjoy being heard. It is also educational and grimly entertaining, but do not get deeply involved.

When you get to the point that you do not care about your social standing–and you will–just realize that you can drift away and no one will be too upset.

If you really want to find someone to have a conversation with, look for some old men. They are grumpy for good reason: they have a lifetime of experiences and observations that contradict the social conditioning they based their lives upon. They will not be happy, but they will be honest.

I will try listening and asking questions. My attention span is a bit strange though. I can’t pay attention or very long in a social situation but when it comes to doing something it’s impeccably focused.

And I tend to get along really well with older men when they aren’t assholes who try to dominate you socially. Maybe that’s why.

Thanks

[BlackValeParticipant 79]

Arcturis wrote:

Boar wrote:

If you really want to find someone to have a conversation with, look for some old men. They are grumpy for good reason: they have a lifetime of experiences and observations that contradict the social conditioning they based their lives upon. They will not be happy, but they will be honest.

I had a workout on the weekend and went to relax in the sauna after.

2 Old men sat in there preaching the MGTOW gospel.

“Don’t chase women”
“Don’t EVER get married”
“Don’t watch the news”
“Live within your means”
“Don’t try to keep up with the Jones’”
“The best investment you can make is yourself”
“Don’t do things for other people”

At the end they said “Young man, don’t you speak?”

I said “No, but I learnt a lot listening, thank you”

Hopefully I’ll see them next week xD

Haha these guys sound awesome. I bet it’s fun just listening to them.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6418]

Yes, read about a hundred posts I’ve made in past about this very thing .. I don’t see it as socially slow .. I have come to see it as preferring (socially selective) one’s own company for work environment (not always possible .. but preferable) as well as enjoying solitary avocational pursuits. Not socially slow, socially selective .. this is a preference .. as I see it in my own world.

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