Has anyone else felt socially slow?

[BlackValeParticipant 79]

The reason I ask is because the social realm has always been a huge insecurity for me. I don’t believe I am interesting to people in general. I have always found it very hard to hold conversations with others. When conversing with others or engaging with small talk I don’t have much to say in general. Sometimes it gets irritating because I have to put in so much effort to even have a response or i’m just tired of the conversation all together. I’ve never really had friends either so I don’t know what its like to have someone to hang out with.

My father never allowed me to have them anyways. A lot of times I see how others converse and I realize that conversations I hold with others are always short, simple, and to the point. Sometimes I regret that I haven’t experienced much in my 24 years. Being dunk? Its never happened. Wild raves/parties? Never been to one. This seems to be most of what people talk about and whats crazy is that I have never been interested in any of those. But these seem to be the things that people are only able to connect with.

This subject is really confusing to me. A lot of times I don’t want to deal with people, but sometimes I do wish there was someone I can hold a conversation with that isn’t brain dead. Once when I was a kid my mom made a remark saying that the reason I think that females aren’t interested in me is because I don’t show interest in them. So maybe i’m just a person who isn’t interested in others.

Has anyone else been through a stage like this?

[Anonymous 14]

I have never been like that, but remember this: Things never stay the same. One day you will likely find a group of people who are interested in the same things you are and it will change for you. If anything I have gone BACKWARDS on this front. As a kid, life of the party, tons of friends, tons of drugs, lots of crazy experiences… Now? Getting older, everyone I ran with when I was young is dead or married, about the same thing really… I have a few friends, but nowhere near as many as when I was young.

[rebelandboltmanParticipant 640]

I have once felt socially slow. I have felt the pressure to go out, get drunk, go to clubs, and/or wild parties. It just didn’t really appeal to me though because it’s just a waste of time and money. I thought there was something wrong with me.
Not following the herd However, as you get older, being sociable will become less important.

There is nothing wrong with the way you feel. The best recommendation that I have for you is to find a passion. Something that lifts you up and brings you joy. Once you discover that passion, that one thing, nothing else matters!

All the best, friend!

[ShineParticipant 1696]

Yeah I’m a little the same, although I did have a party strak in my younger years.

I avoid people who are boring in general as I do not find that kind of interaction to be worth leaving the house for. Normally I am social by engaging in an activity with others. Even if the people are dull I have a good time.

On some reflection, I think not having strong male friends I don’t really talk to many people, but when I do I am comfortable and can hold a decent conversation. On the flip side I see women who spend their whole lives with massive social interaction, to me they really are from Venus, and my home planet is Mars.

I don’t think women realise how much they rely on the hive and being part of a group, and alot of us men have been in the shadows for a long long time. Just another reason why MGTOW is like second nature.

"Society is to blame" Denton

[bladeParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

As a kid, life of the party, tons of friends, tons of drugs, lots of crazy experiences… Now? Getting older, everyone I ran with when I was young is dead or married, about the same thing really… I have a few friends, but nowhere near as many as when I was young.

I can relate . Bet this would go for alot of us . Just the other day an oldmate was telling me about some guys .

Sad as some are stuck up arseholes now . Funny but because there digging deeper into the into debt . The more they have the more they want . Credit is like a bullet .

I pretty much keep to myself these days but i like keeping in the loop . Jigsawing life . Funny some of the s~~~ i hear .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[MACHOParticipant]

BlackVale wrote:

This subject is really confusing to me. A lot of times I don’t want to deal with people, but sometimes I do wish there was someone I can hold a conversation with that isn’t brain dead.

I’m sure you’ve heard “You’re Hanging With the Wrong Crowd” Even if you have, you might believe it doesn’t apply to you!

BlackVale wrote:

Has anyone else felt socially slow?

Nope ⬇

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[bladeParticipant]

MACHO wrote:

I’m sure you’ve heard “You’re Hanging With the Wrong Crowd” Even if you have, you might believe it doesn’t apply to you!

Good point .

Then it brings up the point of what people think or say about us as a person . To be happy in ones self and giving no f~~~s .

As society sensitisers words more young people will fall . Over words that once ya would just laugh at and tell the c~~~ to get f~~~ed or some s~~~ .

When men sorted s~~~ out with there fists and not knives and s~~~ . The next day or two its all dusted .

Thanks macho still looking for that f~~~in mib story . I must of watched it on some s~~~ channel ages ago . F~~~in going to find it . Its pretty cool bro

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[MACHOParticipant]

blade wrote:

Thanks macho still looking for that f~~~in mib story . I must of watched it on some s~~~ channel ages ago . F~~~in going to find it . Its pretty cool bro

Cool 😎 When you find it.. here’s the link of my Men In Black Topic

Men in Black

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[The Black ScorpionParticipant 2147]

For me, I’ve always found socializing to be very energy draining.

Trying to entertain others and then having to listen to their petty stories, problems and general bitching doesn’t do anything for me.

I have zero social equity and like it that way.

The more I am around people the more I don’t want to be around people.

‘Wild parties?’ ‘Crazy raves?’ Never been to one either. Count me out.

I’d rather take a nice long walk in the woods on a beautiful day ALONE thank you very much.

The greatest tragedy in life is to spend your whole life fishing only to discover that it was not fish you were after. - Henry David Thoreau

[ShineParticipant 1696]

I guess in a way I feel alienated. But in other ways when surrounded by the s~~~ show I’m not phased.

Plus I do spend alot of time with friends, but they are rarely strong bonds of friendships, more just people I hang with for recreation.

I’ll prob be the old dude wearing the “I hate people” shirt in fancy lettering stamped over a picture of an idealistic backdrop with campsite set up in the wilderness. A bit like Stelathys get away in the woods. Drive away from the nameless and faceless people, find some meaning in the heartland of our nations.

"Society is to blame" Denton

[G.O.A.TParticipant 1459]

People are assholes, so I’m better alone. I don’t need friends, family, nor a girlfriend.

Bring sociable is the perfect way to invite drama into your life. I like the darkness, it brings peace, and tranquility.

Money is the only thing that can persuade me into becoming more sociable. To meet businessman, doctors, judges, millionaires…etc

Apart from that, people can f~~~ off.

Money is God.

[Anonymous 12]

As a kid I preferred hanging out in the school library than playing outside.

I liked being alone and saw people as game playing arseholes.

Am I socially slow? Maybe buy it could also be that I am introverted and don’t crawl up people’s arses or play games either.

[MonkParticipant 17051]

BlackVale wrote:

I have always found it very hard to hold conversations with others. When conversing with others or engaging with small talk I don’t have much to say in general. Sometimes it gets irritating because I have to put in so much effort to even have a response or i’m just tired of the conversation all together.

It’s not you, it’s them.

Joe Sixpack and Sally Soccermom don’t have anything to say worth listening to.

[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

BlackVale wrote:

A lot of times I don’t want to deal with people, but sometimes I do wish there was someone I can hold a conversation with that isn’t brain dead.

Totally agree with you Bro. I love people but most are not worth my time.

Small talk / pointless s~~~ doesn’t interest me and that’s what most people want to chit chat about.

Add to this the fact that I hate sharing my personal life with other people and my social life IS VERY slow – but I don’t care.

Sounds sad, but all the close friends in my life are there because they ‘hung around’ long enough. Those relationships exist because of them, not me. Even Cupcake, she ‘hung around’ for a year before I agreed to make the relationship ‘official’.

I don’t care much for social validation and love my own company so can honestly say I have VERY few people I actually consider friends. Probably 2. It takes so long for me to create meaningful relationships, now I just don’t bother.

Work colleagues, school ‘friends’, university ‘acquaintances’ all mean nothing to me.

Don’t feel ‘socially slow’ because that’s what society expects.

Live how ever you like 🙂

Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT

[Black MaskParticipant 1572]

I’m the same as you, but my mother was the one with the iron fist instead of dad. My house felt like a prison without bars and there were times that I asked myself if I was socially retarded. Mom said the same thing in the last line except that I looked mean and unapproachable. That’s just my resting murder face. I never rebelled because I’m an introvert and I was content with my video games and books. There were a few friends I used to work with that I went over and played Star Wars D&D with. I enjoyed being with them, but I got into a scary daydream while there. The guy who owned the house has memorabilia and a massive toy collection that lines all of the walls of his entire house. Seeing all that and doing what we were doing made me feel like I was living a dead end and I didn’t want to get stuck there. They actually seem rather happy and are extroverts. They’re always going to new films together and going to conventions and s~~~.

"Man honesty is misogyny." - Patrice O'Neal

[JVBParticipant]

You are young bro. Don’t worry about it. Join some sort of club. Sport, chess, c~~~ing.

Peace is > piece.

[BoarParticipant]

Deep thinkers are not socially slow: they are socially selective.

You show great reflection and observation. Both are great traits that will serve you well. Unfortunately, they are rarer than you would expect.

As a social workaround, I would advise the practice of listening skills. If you can stand to hear others talk, and can encourage them to do so, your social capital will rise as people enjoy being heard. It is also educational and grimly entertaining, but do not get deeply involved.

When you get to the point that you do not care about your social standing–and you will–just realize that you can drift away and no one will be too upset.

If you really want to find someone to have a conversation with, look for some old men. They are grumpy for good reason: they have a lifetime of experiences and observations that contradict the social conditioning they based their lives upon. They will not be happy, but they will be honest.

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

Boar wrote:

If you really want to find someone to have a conversation with, look for some old men. They are grumpy for good reason: they have a lifetime of experiences and observations that contradict the social conditioning they based their lives upon. They will not be happy, but they will be honest.

I had a workout on the weekend and went to relax in the sauna after.

2 Old men sat in there preaching the MGTOW gospel.

“Don’t chase women”
“Don’t EVER get married”
“Don’t watch the news”
“Live within your means”
“Don’t try to keep up with the Jones'”
“The best investment you can make is yourself”
“Don’t do things for other people”

At the end they said “Young man, don’t you speak?”

I said “No, but I learnt a lot listening, thank you”

Hopefully I’ll see them next week xD

Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

Most people are boring and have nothing to contribute to the conversation anyway, but least how to do active listening because people love to talk, especially about themselves.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[BlackValeParticipant 79]

MACHO wrote:

BlackVale wrote:

This subject is really confusing to me. A lot of times I don’t want to deal with people, but sometimes I do wish there was someone I can hold a conversation with that isn’t brain dead.

I’m sure you’ve heard “You’re Hanging With the Wrong Crowd” Even if you have, you might believe it doesn’t apply to you!

BlackVale wrote:

Has anyone else felt socially slow?

Nope

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I agree, but the only people I interact with are the people in my agile team so I don’t have much of a choice. I hate the agile environment and hope to get another job after I get a years worth of experience. Hopefully in another state. The pay is a bit crap too.

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